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sa11y   
15 Oct 2012
Travel / Polish or British passport (child traveling to Poland) [51]

while my info may well be out of date, not too long ago a Polish passport had to be applied for by the father, and only him

Either mother or father can apply. I applied for my son's passport recently (father is British) so it's not only father that can apply. The father had to sign papers that he agrees to the child having Polish passport, it worked the same as with British passport, where I had to sign the form of consent.
sa11y   
15 Oct 2012
Travel / Polish or British passport (child traveling to Poland) [51]

Can my partner get a Polish passport with out my permission

No, both parents have to sign the application. Edit - unless one of the parents loses their rights.

visas are cheaper for Belarus and Russia with a Polish one than a British one

Not much of an advantage, considering that Brits can travel to many countries without visas altogether...
sa11y   
14 Oct 2012
Love / Are Polish men old fashioned? [16]

AK, now you are talking ;) I absolutely agree. Men generally don't realise how difficult it is to care for the baby. They also don't realise how important it is for woman's confidence to get back in shape after pregnancy. Hopefully talking will help.
sa11y   
14 Oct 2012
Love / Are Polish men old fashioned? [16]

Foreigner, we will never know the truth. There would be no point commenting anything if it was only to be based on facts. Note the little word "if"in the last sentence of my previous post. Of course he might be a good guy and she might be a sloppy lazy princess, in which case him being old fashioned or in fact modern would be completely irrelevant in determination of the issue.
sa11y   
14 Oct 2012
Love / Are Polish men old fashioned? [16]

AK, maternity leave is to look after a child, not to do cooking and cleaning. You surely don't realise how difficult it is to try to do something with a tiny baby strapped to you. Babies DO NOT sleep all day. Mine would dose of for few minutes, then wake up, then dose of again. And so on. And taking care of herself is absolutely normal for a woman, the guy is an idiot if he thinks that having a baby turns a women into lactating cooking and cleaning machine.
sa11y   
10 Oct 2012
Travel / Is Poland worth visiting on family holiday? [3]

If it's soon, then Bieszczady will be nice. Otherwise - Poland is not that good in late autumn. In winter you can go to the Tatra mountains.

In terms of cities - Warsaw, Krakow, maybe Tr-city. There are plenty of small towns with atmosphere (Lancut, Kazimierz Wielki, Zamosc, Malbork) with historical sites, but roads in Poland are not very good and it can take time to get there.

All depends what you want to do on your trip and how much time you have.
sa11y   
9 Oct 2012
Love / Dating a Polish guy for three years. Will he ever marry me? [44]

do you think we will ever get married

No. If Polish guy does not make up his mind in a year or two it is unlikely that he is interested in marrying you. He might be "mommy type", or just not interested in marriage at all or not interested in marrying you.

Is marriage important to you? If you are happy, do you need that piece of paper?
sa11y   
9 Oct 2012
Love / My Girlfriends Decisions! Am I overreacting? British guy with Polish girlfriend. [11]

I don't know what your cultural background is, but certainly in the above scenario a fellow Pole would have probably congratulated his efforts to resist arrest

What??? Maybe his "buddies" from the block would do that, but certainly not majority of Poles (and especially not women).
Although I don't think he would be dangerous to her daughter (or to her), the fact that she gives shelter to a dodgy character is certainly worrying and displays poor judgement. She is definitely not a typical Polish woman, more likely one of pathological background where excessive drinking, resisting arrest and convictions for assault are a norm.

The fact that she asked OP to stay with her on this night is encouraging though, to me this would mean that she is not playing mind games (possibly didn't feel comfortable with the guy alone) and perhaps sees that what she is doing is not quite a norm. I don't think that her being from low social background should should rule out potential relationship (if OP is prepared to accept differences), but certainly a lot of work ahead!
sa11y   
8 Oct 2012
Life / Bishops defend Polish family [105]

extramarital copulation is immoral no matter what fancy name it goes by

This is where you are wrong. In the world, various relationships are defined - also within law. As Christians, we would not agree with many of them. Yet, they exist. Do you think people in Polyneysia, or Himbas in Namibia give the slightest as to what we think is moral or not? And, just to preassumpt the argument that those mentioned are not developed societies - do you think non-Christians (or non-Jews and non-Muslims, as laws related to marriage are more or less similar in the main religions) in Holland, Norway, UK and any other country where civil partnerships are defined and legally catered for - care what you think as conservative Catholic?
sa11y   
3 Oct 2012
Love / Why don't Polish women treat education seriously for themselves? [130]

Because Polish women don't value education as much as other women

No - because they don't have money to pay for studies in USA (or in fact overseas, because costs of living are higher than in Poland in general). They have to EARN the money FIRST.
sa11y   
2 Oct 2012
Love / Why don't Polish women treat education seriously for themselves? [130]

I do not want to hear excuses

Lack of working visas and lack of money is an excuse? I don't think comparing to Israeli women is the right level of comparison, they come to USA to study, therefore is more natural that they enter qualified work force (easier to get work permit after completing uni in USA, also easier to find employer who will help to take care for paperwork). Those Polish women that come to USA to study (to few) follow similar route.

Most Polish people who come to stay in USA, still come for work, as USA universities are too expensive for Polish people. We can study in any EU country for fraction of the cost. But then you don't go to USA, you usually find job in Europe - closer to home.

If you are talking about Polish immigration in USA, they are either "Polonia" - which I found are a lot more traditional in their thinking as to what women's role in household is (yes, and there I certainly agree with your statement - in this case is upbringing), the casual workers without proper visas (they can't find legal work so they are obviously confined to waitressing and domestic jobs, and the small number of professionals (whom I assume you didn't meet too many of them).

Another thing is what you perceive as the "higher" level of education. If a degree - then you are wrong, as more women in Poland than men hold Bachelors/Masters degree. If you are talking about PhD and further, then you are right. This is because it is easier for men in Poland to find employment where high level of education is required than for women. Again - driven again by more conservative perception of women's role in society.

Overall, you do have a point in your statement, but argumentation you gave is not right. Many women are quite happy not having a proper career, but that's often because they have to more persistent and driven to be given same opportunities as men in Poland. So they don't even try too hard. But there are plenty of Polish women in international companies all over the world that worked hard to be where they are.
sa11y   
1 Oct 2012
UK, Ireland / Should UK Poles be forced to attend English language courses? [10]

I'm Polish, but on this one I do agree with you Hudson. I don't care if it's called forced or encouraged, but if you want any benefits you should somehow contribute, even if it's only by learning language to bridge communication gap.
sa11y   
1 Oct 2012
Law / Stay in Poland after Divorce- Yes or No? [5]

However, is there anyway to be divorced and still stay here?

I'm not expert on Polish law - but I think it depends on your visa. If your visa is work related, then you should not have issue if you divorce. However, if your visa was given based on marriage with Polish woman, then the fact that you are getting divorced will most likely invalidate visa. You should be given some sort of notice, and even before you could try to change your visa status. If your company is willing to support your application it should be easier.
sa11y   
1 Oct 2012
Law / Stay in Poland after Divorce- Yes or No? [5]

Local_Fella, do you and your wife have child together?
If yes, then this is your chance (legally) if you can prove in court that you are "significant element" in your child's life. If not - then you have same chance as anybody else going via career, study etc.
sa11y   
1 Oct 2012
Love / Why don't Polish women treat education seriously for themselves? [130]

meant in that study that western women are starting to become more likely to graduate than men

The same is true in Poland, women are more likely to graduate than men.
Your comment about Polish women working in USA as "unskilled labour" is completely irrelevant to the point that you are making.
Let's face it - how many of them have work permits to work in USA? I guarantee the women working in USA in coffee shops etc are mainly working without proper paperwork, or in process of getting proper visas.

Quite few of them will actually have degrees, but because they never worked in "proper" job in USA, their opportunities are limited.
sa11y   
28 Sep 2012
Language / Burak or redneck? [36]

They are buraki. Lumpenproles will have element of patologia. I would say that the are kind of borderline, but this is a comedy show not really dealing with patologia.
sa11y   
27 Sep 2012
USA, Canada / If America is so bad, why move here? [254]

refused to eat paczki for breakfast

No one I know eats "paczki" for breakfeast... Where the hell did you live???
sa11y   
25 Sep 2012
UK, Ireland / My wife is Polish and our son was born. British passport? [9]

Harry, I think you might still be able to, but you have to be living in GB either at the time when the child is born and child needs also to be born there, or via patriality visa (which takes some time).
sa11y   
25 Sep 2012
UK, Ireland / My wife is Polish and our son was born. British passport? [9]

Yes, but I think this is if you were born in GB. My son was born in South Africa to a British dad. We applied for a British passport for him when he was one year old. You need application form (I think it's called C4 but could be wrong) your sons unabridged birth certificate stating your name as fathers name (regardless of if you are married or not) your birth certificate (I dont think passport is enough, as I dont think your son would be entitled to British citizenship if you weren'born in GB). Form needs to be signed by both parents. I'm not sure if this was all we had to provide, but it was very straighforward and took one month. I read somewhere that the pregnancy needs to be registered few months before birth, but we did not do it and we didn't have any issues. I'm not sure if it works the same if you were not born in GB and living outside GB now, better check with Consulate.
sa11y   
21 Sep 2012
Travel / Why does everyone seem to hate LOT Polish Airlines? [380]

PoleInVegas, I don't even know whre to start to respond that's how wrong you are. Poles don't speak English? Poles don't have acess to internet and don't know what the options are??? Get the hell out of you hole! Internet in Poland cost around 5-10 Usd/p month, and I assure you that 99 % of Poles have access to it and know how to use it. Most intercontinental flights are via European hub, so in fact even if you don't speak English (as some of the senior travelers) you actually don't need to, as there usually will be someone in the interchange airport that will accompany you to your gate to catch connecting flight. Most of flights now are code share, i'm surprised that pilot does not know that. Aircrafts HAVE TO meat ar least European standards to be able to fly, again - a pilot does know that? Poland is a border of Shengen zone, that explain presence of army I guess? Anyway, these are Shengen, not Polish security rules. Jeeeez, I'm a very moderatw person, but you got my adrenaline going!

By the way - I do not like LOT. Extremely patronising attitude and crap service, that I agree. But your reasoning is very very far from the truth. The thing is that is a national airline, and as such it will exist, because it's subsidised. Same as in other countries with crappy airlines...
sa11y   
19 Sep 2012
Travel / City apartments in Warsaw for tourists [7]

you can try warsaw apartments.
A bit more geared for business travelers than families, but clean and nice. Make sure you ask them for pots/ pans/ hair dryer/ iron (if you need those things). The apartment we stayed in was a bit scarcely equipped. They have apartments in Sadyba and Wilanow.

If you want something closer to the centre try warsaw4you.com , one of my friends stayed in one of their apartments and was happy.
sa11y   
14 Sep 2012
Life / Do Poles drink before noon? [95]

Many rural girls flee the drudgery of farm work and prefer to 'malować pazury', work at a nice, clłean desk job and sip capuccino in big-city cafés

...how surprising is that Polonius? Would you prefer "macac kury"?
sa11y   
14 Sep 2012
Life / Do Poles drink before noon? [95]

20-.25 years is usually reagrded as a generation, so this is the first generation faced with consumer abundance

Yes, I never questioned that, I know it's still a generation, but it's nothing new. And by now most people realized that there are dangers of living on credit.

Mere fact that they buy stuff with credit cards does not mean they are in red.