Love / Questions about Polish Men - flirting, cheating, liking? [44]

It could be that he's sensing his girlfriend is the one about to dump him, so he's making up a cover story ;) But to me it is an obvious form of self-advertisement. Why do people feel it is appropriate to make such confessions at a work place? There are very few worse places out there to be looking for romance, what if it doesn't work out and you still have to see each other on a daily basis?

As for this flirty attitude whilst being in a relationship, it is not exclusively a Polish trait. However it is worth mentioning that once abroad and away from everything that keeps a Polish man "grounded", such as his mother (oh yes), his wife, the church etc. they tend to go a little wild and do things they would not normally do. I've seen a few Polish colleagues over the years develop a serious drinking problem and lose their wife and children (and house) in the process... And I also heard stories of Polish men not disclosing their marital status whilst chatting up local ladies here in the UK. Don't get me wrong, this is not a description of every Polish man abroad, just the really weak ones who tend to justify this disgusting behaviour by the fact they are away from home and everything they know, therefore they deserve to have some fun. Be careful out there, if something appears to be out of order then it most likely is.


And why not, you would think if a woman was so happy with her husband she would want to share her joy with somebody online ;) unless of course she is chained to the kitchen making bigos, too busy and too happy to think about posting anything ;)

Love / Are Polish men handsome to you? [182]


Not so many, no. You only get the shaved head mean looking type, or thin, scared looking type... Now come on hit me, I haven't been on here for a while I missed the abuse haha.

UK, Ireland / Changing Polish Documents - Moving from Poland to UK [11]

Yeah I meant passports, sorry I didn't clarify. They wanted to bring out European ID cards in UK but that's been scrapped. However they are accepted here as valid proof of ID, at least they should be. I was asked for ID in a supermarket a couple of years ago and when I presented my Polish ID card the foreign Asian assistant refused to accept it. So I said that this is valid ID and I never had problems with it, but she was still not convinced and called her English supervisor. After scrutinising the card, the supervisor informed the cashier that it is alright, because "they don't have passports over there". True story.

Life / Fashion and Style in Poland [174]

I noticed that if you browse through small local clothes shops, you can find some knock-off branded items, but that mostly applies to men's clothing. I got this jacket a couple of years ago for maybe 20zl and apparently it has logos of at least 3 different brands on the pockets, the zip etc. I'm oblivious to that kind of stuff but my colleagues pointed it out.


It has been a pretty warm Christmas considering that bit of frost (shock horror haha) at the beginning of December. Still, I think it's inappropriate, desperate and just laughable that young females dress in hotpants all year round like it was normal. It's asking for a bladder infection and all other chill related female problems haha. And I'm not even gonna start on little primary school girls wearing full on make up and provocative clothing...

Food / What made in Poland produce would you recommend [110]


you beat me to it, best mayo on the planet :))

and a few of my favourites:

addictive chocolate rum truffles

Polish truffles available in Tescos

barszcz

it's pretty much a Christmas dish but I'm a big fan

draze

love these chocolate coconut drops

I get these in bulk, it's an acquired taste (and apparently smell too lol)

prazynki

my grandma used to make these but you can buy them in the shop

UK, Ireland / Changing Polish Documents - Moving from Poland to UK [11]

When I had to renew my passport I've done it in Poland but only because 1. It is cheaper than going through an Embassy in UK 2. I am still registered at a Polish address. She doesn't have to go back to Poland to get her name changed on her ID, an Embassy in England will do it, especially that she is marrying a British citizen. If she decides to go to Poland, then yes she has to come in to apply and then again to sign for the documents in person, and also provide finger prints for a new passport, relevant documents etc. I can't tell you for sure if a person who is no longer a Polish resident (as in have a Polish address) can actually get their documents in Poland anymore, your partner will have to check that.

Travelling to Poland is not exactly expensive, it's only 2.5 hours away on a plane and if you collect air miles (I do with BA) your return flight will cost between £30 - £80.

I also find it pretty shocking that in UK documents like passports and driving licences are sent by post. Even if it's special delivery, things still go "missing".

Life / Fashion and Style in Poland [174]


That reminds me, years ago when my sisters were in that teenager/young adult age group, they would help themselves to any tops with visible logos I dared to bring with me when I visited them. I always preferred (and still do) clothes that are feminine/pretty than clothes which are branded and somewhat trendy because of that. I see that markowe ciuchy still rule ;-). And it is true that brands are more expensive in Poland so it is always a very good gift idea. In UK it's all about brands and the same style worn all year round, just yesterday I saw dozens of very young girls wearing fishnets or some other thin tights with denim hotpants, their bum cheeks hanging out and everything - in December!! They wore the same stuff all summer!! It also seems to be the norm wearing shorts and t-shirts no matter what time of year, and you don't get a lot of shorts & t-shirts weather in UK as it is. At least in Poland they dress appropriately for the season and weather.

Law / Maintenance & Rights: Polish mother & child in Poland, Irish father in the UK [57]

Shame there was no update on this thread from the OP since last year, I wonder what happened in the end...

Po polsku / Życie pod wspólnym dachem. Jak to jest? [23]

Jak chlopaki sie nie sprawiaja, to moze warto rozwazyc inne opcje ;)

Po polsku / Życie pod wspólnym dachem. Jak to jest? [23]

Ja sie nie wtracam, ale w pierwszym poscie byla mowa o chlopaku wiec zalozylam, ze chodzi o Mr. Ale oczywiscie moge sie mylic.

Po polsku / Życie pod wspólnym dachem. Jak to jest? [23]


To zalezy czym dokladnie on/ona dziala nam na nerwy, wiekszosc problemow mozna naprawic szczera rozmowa, ale tylko wtedy gdy obie strony chca kompromisu. A co do samego mieszkania razem, to naprawde nie jest tak zle! Ja z natury zawsze bylam samotnikiem, juz od dziecka wszystko chcialam miec oddzielnie. Z moim obecnym chlopakiem mieszkamy razem juz prawie 2 lata i to jest moj pierwszy zwiazek 'pod wspolnym dachem'. Tez sie na poczatku klocilismy o bzdury ale z czasem te bzdury maja mniej znaczenia i teraz jak juz to o nich zartujemy. Co do czasu dla siebie, nie powinno byc z tym najmniejszego problemu jesli ufacie sobie i czujecie sie ze soba bezpiecznie. Jestescie razem na codzien wiec wieczor albo weekend dla siebie potrafia byc prawdziwa ulga :). Uczycie sie od siebie nawzajem - co komu przeszkadza, czego brakuje, czego potrzeba i po pewnym czasie nabiera sie wyczucia.

Nie ma reguly na idealny zwiazek pod wspolnym dachem, tak samo jak i nie ma reguly na to czy i kiedy nalezy razem zamieszkac. Bledem jest pospieszyc sie z tym, tak samo jak czekac zbyt dlugo (na przyklad po slubie ;). Zamieszkanie razem to wielki krok w zwiazku, ale to takze obowiazek, ktory nie ogranicza sie tylko do szanowania i borykania sie z druga osoba ;) jest czynsz, rachunki, zakupy, posilki, goscie...

Zycze powodzenia w odnalezieniu Mr Right ;)

UK, Ireland / Poles 2nd to Indians in UK [23]


I moved to England on my own rather than with friends or family and to be honest I never felt the need to cling onto other Polish people just because we came from the same country. I was in my late teens back then and it was nice socialising and making English friends, using my English everyday rather than just at school etc. My then Polish flatmates frowned and disapproved that I was mixing with the locals, we were supposed to stick together because we were Polish and that was that. I mean I can understand why some people feel more comfortable spending time with their fellow countrymen but there's no need to be so close minded about it. I'm sure there are plenty of Polish people out there who enjoy and embrace being part of the English/British community, as well as loads who make a point of not being involved whatsoever. The language barrier is always a problem but in my honest opinion, the English language is so easy to pick up - especially if you live here - that after a couple of years there really should be no excuse.


I agree with that, while some stuff is reasonably priced, magazines and books still have their Polish price tag on and they charge the same but in GBP haha (1.5zl = £1.5 ;). Still, they offer more choice so I shall be making a list for Christmas :).


Exactly right!

Life / If you are Polish abroad or of Polish descent, do you celebrate St. Nicholas day? [33]

"Mikołajki" is just for kids really, Mikolaj stopped leaving presents under my and my sisters' pillows when we stopped being kids :). It's up to the parents I guess if they want to carry on with this tradition when they move abroad with their children. On one hand it's nice an a fun treat for the kids, on the other hand, how do they explain to their foreign friends why they got extra presents from Santa and other kids didn't? ;)

UK, Ireland / Do Polish Immigrants in Great Britain hate each other? [60]


Don't like it when people prove you wrong and you have nothing to say in your defence? Smooth ;)

UK, Ireland / British + Polish relationship experiences [16]

It's not the Polish men I have a problem with, it's the things they say :) but that's not the point I was making. Some Polish women want to go back, some don't, I'm still deciding but for now I have more reasons to stay in the UK. That might change in the future though, who knows. If you must know.

UK, Ireland / Do Polish Immigrants in Great Britain hate each other? [60]


And it doesn't bother you that this SCUM will continue to breed and pass on their "culture" and foul language onto the next generation?? It really doesn't bother you? Are you insane? If it was my country I would be livid, I would worry that this is the kind of "British" that will live on and bring this country down, not a foreign minority who in majority pay taxes and make a living in this country whether they decide to stay here for life or not. You should get your priorities straight and have a good think about what is really damaging your country's economy and reputation.


I find it amazing, ignorant and arrogant that some people in Britain think this scum is still higher on the 'ladder' than foreigners. It offends me.


I see more chavvy single mummies with multi-coloured children than Polish single mummies. Most Polish women who have kids in the UK are married.


that's the chavvy British mummies, get knocked up at 16 - life's sorted


I would like to see those figures before I comment

UK, Ireland / British + Polish relationship experiences [16]


I think that these are very reasonable and sensible things to ask yourself and your partner (and both your families) before you take the next step. Just because this poster is not a Pole or in a relationship with one doesn't mean they can't make a valid point.

Isn't it just typical that Polish men on this forum are not happy and start making personal attacks because someone dares to even point out (in a very civilised, informative manner) that the idea of marrying a Polish man in the UK might not always be a good idea. This kind of reaction is so predictable and laughable. Just because he is living in the UK now and willing to marry an English woman doesn't mean that he wants to stay there forever. Chances are, he will expect her to move to Poland with him once he saves up enough money to buy a house there and/or is missing his family. That's why the questions above should be seriously considered before making any future plans together.

UK, Ireland / Do Polish Immigrants in Great Britain hate each other? [60]


If you hate the fact that Polish people are on benefits then why the hell do you help them with it?? Are you that sad that you only give advice to people to have something to whine about on a different forum? This really must mean you have no life. The benefits system is totally screwed up in the UK, if you give advice on it then you should know.

When I was job hunting the job centre told me they won't help me to find work unless I'm unemployed. When I was in-between jobs and just walked in and asked if they could help me, they said I have to make an appointment over the phone (!) to come in and fill out forms, so I did that and on my appointment I was given more forms to fill to record that I am looking for work and where I am looking for it, and call a number to apply for job seekers allowance. I said I don't need the allowance, I just want them to look in the system and send me to an interview because I wanna start working asap, and they said it doesn't work that way and if I don't call the number my registration will not be complete. So I did and there was a very condescending woman on the phone, I haven't heard anything about work from the job centre for a week and by then I already found a job on my own without their help. So this leads me to believe that people don't come there looking for work, they come there to get free money and if sponging off the state is encouraged this way then why are you shocked and disgusted that people do it??? Plenty of chavs are on the dole and have been for GENERATIONS now, but you throw in a few Poles into the mix and that's intolerable. I've said this before and I'll say it again, blame your government, not the people.

Life / The "I am never wrong" phenom - is it the Polish thing? [63]


he's only nice cos he wanted good feedback ;) some people rely on their allegro/ebay business as their main income and negative comments can potentially destroy that


you just described my sister! when cornered and no longer able to support her case, she also starts crying, slams doors, writes nasty letters/e-mails, blocks family on facebook... then when she needs something she rings or just shows up like nothing ever happened. we were hoping that this would change when she grows up but she's in her mid 20s now and worse than ever.

It is indeed very difficult to get an apology off a Polish person, especially the middle aged and older generation. For example my parents were NEVER wrong even if 90% of the time they were like parents from hell, yelling if you merely questioned their decisions. It's almost like you lose respect if you admit to a mistake, it's quite extreme sometimes. I should write a book about my family and the display of classic examples of sociopathic behaviour ;). Sometimes (perhaps more that just sometimes though) it's best to just shake your head and leave it, they will not let you have the last word. I do agree that a simple apology in PL is often perceived as a sign of weakness, admitting you are wrong even if you are is not something people like to admit to.

I can agree up to a point that the British folk are more polite and apologetic, even if they don't always put their heart into it - they just don't like to cause a fuss. I appreciate that. I would say that it often doesn't apply to British women though - especially if they have kids or are behind the wheel ;-) they do something wrong (or their kids do) and they will just glare or get aggressive if you have the audacity to point it out. And teenagers, rude and disrespectful beyond belief. I noticed that in UK an apology is viewed as the polite thing to do, the right thing to do. Be the better man/woman and say sorry. People here are basically pressured to apologise just to put things right, and they expect that as long as there was an apology everything should be ok. Their apologies are often quite condescending too (because they don't mean them) but you got your apology so there, go away now. For example, an old boss of mine was constantly being rude to me and everytime I brought it up she would say she didn't mean it, she would even go as far as hug me and say sorry a million times, but she'd still be a b*tch after that. She apologised though so it's fine right! It's a strange logic but this is how things work over here, you learn their 'dance' and dance along ;-).

Life / The "I am never wrong" phenom - is it the Polish thing? [63]


no way! ;)

UK, Ireland / Domestic arguments caused by differences between Polish and English culture [109]

I always thought that salt goes into the pot with more holes and pepper into the pot with one hole - because we use more salt than pepper.

My family are obsessed with salt, they sprinkle it on before they even taste the food. I try to avoid salt because it's unhealthy and if used in excess, it totally kills the flavour. A little bit of salt on fries, mashed potato, slice of tomato on a sandwich, popcorn (never tried sweet popcorn before I moved to the UK, I still find it weird lol) etc. is perfect, but not spoonfuls of it. Polish food is so nice but to someone who is not used to salty it might not taste so nice...

Love / I live in Holland and i never meet a good polish guy. [33]

not interested in the local cuisine then classygirl? beware of the married men going abroad for work and pretending they are not married haha

UK, Ireland / 50 babies a day born to Polish mothers in UK [81]

Thought it was White British and White Other? Depends on the form but yeah, I saw that they list the British people according to their skin colour. What does it matter to a doctor what skin colour you have, will some of them refuse to see a black or white patient? Are there any British doctors in Britain left anyway, even my dentist is Italian ;).

Life / 3 reasons why you hate Poland. [1049]


i always ignore it but my boyfriend hates it. staring them up and down usually helps


ha ha yeah I didn't notice a queue at the post office once, thought it was just a bunch of oldies hanging around, I did get put back in my place pretty quick ;)


errr not really! there are GENERATIONS of chavs living in UK, the younger, the chavvier and more gormless (exposed to chav-ness for longer ;)

Life / 'Turkish' Conmen on the A4/E40 Krakow-Wrocław stretch.... [25]


don't imagine they make that much out of scamming people like this over there...

Love / I like a Polish guy - does he like me - what are Polish men like to women [18]

dignity should always come first! lol

Love / I like a Polish guy - does he like me - what are Polish men like to women [18]

it's better to be alone than with someone sh*t

Love / I like a Polish guy - does he like me - what are Polish men like to women [18]

This might be a lost case I'm afraid, you had a fun time and it's all it was, expecially to the guy. I don't think this story would turn out any different if he was not Polish. Of course he told you a lot of nice stuff when you were both drinking and having sex for 2 days, it doesn't get much better than that lol. Take the booze away and the reality kicks in. Not many guys will take you seriously after sleeping with them so early on, whether you were attached at the time or not (which as you yourself realise is not the right thing to do under any circuimstances). TRY your hardest to put this behind you, he's given you enough hints to let him be. Be polite to him and don't act hurt or offended around him, definitely DO NOT confide in anyone at your workplace (!!!). Put it down to experience and move on, try being single for a while, going from one bad relationship straight into another is never a good idea. Take care!!

Life / Have many Poles had enough of one another? [198]


exactly, people should be aware of the dangers and take a proactive approach against any potential danger instead of being blissfully unaware. there is so much evil in this world, just becaue it seems unthinkable to an average, decent person doesn't mean it can't happen. those creeps live and breathe around us.


not necessarily if there's a big crowd and nobody's paying attention, the parents will be minding their kids, not looking out for potential perverts. covering up your children is common decency, we live in a civilised society and there should be no genitals, adult or not, on display.


in a nutshell: lets give each other the benefit of the doubt. BE EXCELLENT TO EACH OTHER! E.L.E. ! :)

Life / Have many Poles had enough of one another? [198]


their parents should! if having kids run around naked is alright, then soon enough the peado's will think it's ok to stand there and look or take pictures