News / Is this the first clear and open signal that Poland makes preparations for war with Russia? [163]

Legend, wasn't EU earlier called 'economic giant, political dwarf, military worm'? (now it's shrunken giant, dwarf embryo and military larva ??!!)

My comprehension of international affairs ends with the conclusion that main relevant factor is military power :)) US is on the throne (I read somewhere that its military is stronger than six following countries on the list together). Who ever wanted to abdicate? :) Simplified, but I am just a woman. Fragile, lol.

History / Poles and Russians -- love-hate relationship? [209]


Hello :)), I'm happy to see that you had the will (strength was never an issue) to survive here :) (although, I didn't have doubts about it)


Indeed, it does. I will find someone and invite him/her here :) ( I have a candidate informed well for the discussions)

now, something Slavic for DE and those who like Slavs here ;)))

'Fear passes from man to man
Unknowing,
As one leaf passes its shudder
To another.

All at once the whole tree is trembling,
And there is no sign of the wind.'

Charles Simic (American- serbian poet)

History / Poles and Russians -- love-hate relationship? [209]

I missed you all :) Ok, most of you. But, to be honest my soulmate here was southern. Lol :)
Zdravo, Vrano :)))
Bilo je tragièno prvih par meseci, diamika foruma se toliko izmenila tvojim banom, da je naš Grk èekao najpre, pa odustao posle x godina od foruma. Pojavljuje li se on nekada?

History / Poles and Russians -- love-hate relationship? [209]

WHERE IS SOUTHERN?:(
Hi Crow, Hi Sasha :))

Law / Divorce in Poland - fault - rights to property predating the marriage [34]

As far as I recall, continental, european law (all that is not anglo saxon, meaning UK and US) says that everything earned in marriage should be divided either in half, or modified to some extent, to match closer incomes during marriage. Wife can claim up to half of everything that man earned during that period (inheritance doesn't count)

I like anglosaxon law, it seems that they protect the female side better legally. Divorce should be expensive.

Everything that they entered marriage with stays their own property. what was his before marriage remains his. Or hers.

And for the person who committed this crime, and psychopathically hurt his family the only adequate punishment is castration.

Language / Slovio - the international simplified Slavic language [37]

Razumem sve skoro. Slovenksi jezici. Muzika za uši :) Najtopliji ruski, najtvrđi južnoslovenski. A svi sa dušom.

Genealogy / Polish person's average height? [210]

Nope. I am 183 cm, origins Croatia, Serbia and Montenegro.

I know this area well. Montenegrins are the tallest in average.

Genealogy / Polish person's average height? [210]

TinaOne

There is nothing to think about. It's a fact.

Life / The "I am never wrong" phenom - is it the Polish thing? [63]

Individual level
Personality disorders (narcissistic, histrionic, psychopaths, borderline...) like that maneuver. shifting the blame, having blind spot for the consequences of their actions.
Those who can feel deep guilt and try to avoid it all costs,
Those who are forbidden to feel guilty for some reasons (i.e. Don't feel X feeling it's for weaklings), and so on...

Culturally, I would guess that more laissez faire environments ( communist past), orthodox background rather than catholic (again, rather than protestant) more rarely trigger guilt.

Off-Topic / Languages you [dis]like [9]

Hungarian. Beautiful country, beautiful people, horrible sounds.

Love / Best way to find a Polish husband...ideas? [120]

Causes that play a role, literature says, when it comes to success in interpersonal sphere, affection are

1. physical characteristics
2. personality traits
3. availability

etc.

I would add ses, social/economical (including background and education) status which seems to be crucial. Probably ranked as first filter. (Leftists wrote that handbook:)))

Not being among the prettiest, I had to rely on rhetorics and full adaptation to the interests of the men I was interested in. Everybody loves his/hers reflection ;)

Husband or the boyfriend, same thing...

Love / Sexually liberal ----- Is this a fact or myth for Polish women living in Poland? [61]


I would choose Mode. The most robust measure as in this case(s) should be. Robust.

I have to admit, that this all sounds too messed up even for my ears.

One bacteria should travel as fast as light, that part I think I got correctly ;)

Life / Individualism in Polish culture...Is it almost Nonexistant? [170]


For some people like me essentials are- plenty of time and enough sleep- that means freedom. also, That I can distribute my own time the way I want to. To think about things I want to think, in a way I want to. To be able to turn off the phone when I feel like it and so on..

Meet has nothing to do with that kind of freedom.

Life / Individualism in Polish culture...Is it almost Nonexistant? [170]


Sadly, people do equate those two.

I just wanted to tell you that you are quotable ;)

Genealogy / Typical Polish Eye Color [77]

Why is Europe so diverse when it comes to eye or hair color?

In other animals, bright colors are usually due to sexual selection. Sometimes the result may be a "color polymorphism" (see box). This is because a potential mate is attracted not just by a bright color but also by a rare one that stands out from the crowd. By enhancing reproductive success, however, such a color will also become more common and less eye-catching. Sexual attraction will then shift to less common variants, the eventual result being an equilibrium that maximizes color diversity.

I as a southern Slav have one blue and one brown allele, dominant is mom's brown, so I have brown eyes. Having slightly below 50% of light eye colors (blue, green) and more than 50 % (lighter brown, darker brown, my sister's devil black without pupils ;)) of darker colored eyes, south Slavs seem not to have preferences when it comes to color of eyes. I heard pro brown (passionate) and pro blue (dangerous) voices, which supports above mentioned explanation of diversity. Nothing stands out from the crowd here. Only very light hair color. So it is unterstandable why most women here when they color their hair they tend to choose light blond nuances.

Life / Individualism in Polish culture...Is it almost Nonexistant? [170]

That topic is already elaborated and private opinions are just lay impressions.

Here the quote:
Individualism
The fundamental issue addressed by this dimension is the degree of interdependence a society maintains among its members. It has to do with whether people's self-image is defined in terms of "I" or "We".

In Individualist societies people are supposed to look after themselves and their direct family only. In Collectivist societies people belong to 'in groups' that take care of them in exchange for loyalty.

Poland, with a score of 60 is an Individualistic society. This means there is a high preference for a loosely-knit social framework in which individuals are expected to take care of themselves and their immediate families only. In individualistic societies offence causes guilt and a loss of self-esteem, the employer/employee relationship is a contract based on mutual advantage, hiring and promotion decisions are supposed to be based on merit only, management is the management of individuals.

The Polish culture houses a "contradiction": although highly individualistic, the Polish need a hierarchy. This combination (high score on power distance and high score on Individualism) creates a specific "tension" in this culture, which makes the relationship so delicate but intense and fruitful once you manage it.

Therefore, the manager is advised to establish a second "level" of communication, having a personal contact with everybody in the structure, allowing to give the impression that "everybody is important" in the organization, although unequal.

Geert Hofstede researched that area thoroughly, I opened a thread named cultural dimensions which allows comparisons between cultures on 4 dimension he isolated.

History / Khazar migrations to Eastern Poland, Belarus, and Ukraine [106]

One of our best novels is about Khazars, the title of the novel- lexicon is The Dictionary of Khazars written by Milorad Pavic.

I think it is worth reading. The plot is developing around efforts of officials of Judaism, Islam and Christianity to get Khazars on their side.

Published in english in 1988.

Language / Should I just learn German? [55]


Far better than - French consider him Polish, and Poles French ;)

Slavic sentiments I can hear, perhaps it is just me.

Life / A new Poland's war - the poor vs the rich [81]


I agree. Sadly, I don't think I will live long enough to witness the part II.

Life / A new Poland's war - the poor vs the rich [81]

I thought that Rich vs poor was evergreen?

Love / It is more fun to have sex in Polish than in English. Discuss. [27]

youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=d3DX9Ho83QI

You are not alone, I understand you ;)

Anyway, somebody said that sexual act is in some way communication with the whole (the rest of the) world (!)

Your line would be do you speak Polish? :D

Mine, well it is known. Since Bratwurst left there is nobody willing to be sexually harassed :((

News / Poland's Economy Is Booming! The EU's Success Story? [711]

How do you feel when west friesisch and north Friesisch selves start to struggle inside plus one Polish self joins the party? :)
is it slavic vs germanic type of division or is it just fun? :))

I hope you are not prone to dissociations! I assessed that you are not , you seem balanced, otherwise I am behaving unethically, ouch.

News / Poland's Economy Is Booming! The EU's Success Story? [711]

No disappointment at all, centuries pressing from the genome are all that matters ; )

News / Poland's Economy Is Booming! The EU's Success Story? [711]

TheOther you got the attitude ; )

German, without unreasonable doubts.....

History / The story about German- Polish reconciliation [194]


I had more direct and extended contact with the culture. I ran away in fear ;)))

News / Should Poles care who becomes French President or is it irrelevant? [45]


Indeed contemporary historians often lecture futurology :) My question is who benefits the most from that practice?


AdamKadmon's posts are interesting, but they suffer, as mine sometimes do as well, from 'unweeded' sections.

History / The story about German- Polish reconciliation [194]

Yes, I prefer human faces on those roads, among managers and over that kind of work, where the proverb Erst die Arbeit , dann das Vergnuegen says it all. Yikes.

Bumpy roads for me and one homeless life bitte ;))

News / Should Poles care who becomes French President or is it irrelevant? [45]

After all it comes to this dilemma according to French ppl ; )

instead of this or that , this or this.

History / The story about German- Polish reconciliation [194]


The costs are high, are you sure?

News / Should Poles care who becomes French President or is it irrelevant? [45]


I don't see where else could her votes go? Only to the dark side :)