Law / Custody Issue and Travel Abroad of my Girlfriend from Poland [28]

Thank you for all the constructive answers. Yes, I am aware of the many difficulties and impossibilities in a case like this. As for finding a girlfriend in the U.S.A., I sure can, I just choose not to. Tired of the culture here. I was born in another country anyway and speak 3 languages, just not Polish. I am a U.S. citizen. Yes, I could find some American woman. (I am divorced, btw and have kids of my own) Yes, I see that this could be a very difficult situation. She is not trying to bail out of Poland to live the "great life" in America. Given the father of the child is a complete tool who visits 6 months out of the year, just enough to keep his parental authority and pays late child support, no xmas visits, no bdays visits and doens't care about the child's education or daily life, and yes, I maintain contact with both mother and child. The child loves me and so does the mother, as far as I can tell.

I have also been to Poland and yes, long distance relationships are difficult but daily video chats for months have been useful. I think that many of you may be right. This is a BIG problem. I cannot afford $75K for a lawyer and I would never pay that kind of money or any money to Polish lawyers. The child's father has moved on, has his own steady girlfriend but as soon as he finds out that the mother has a chance to take the child away to America, I am sure the ahole will show up.

She had a Polish boyfriend before and the ex boyfriend got in the middle of it and scared the guy away from the relationship.This girl is SO unfortunate to have mated this POS - she was young - and fortunate she had a beautiful child with him. Part of me tells me that she may be condemned to only finding and possibly marrying a Polish man that's willing to put up with the ex and the situation.

Even then, that could be difficult for the new guy to have to deal with her ex. I am white and as far as acceptance by her parents, it's not an issue. She lives them and they accept me. I can see that it would be much easier to find a woman that is no encumbered by a child custody battle that could take years. OR have to wait for the child to turn 18, which would be 14 years from now!

Basically a woman that has a child out of wedlock in Poland heavily limits her options to find a good man, especially someone living outside Poland because of this issue with ex's that create hell for the women they mated and had a child or children with.

I also assume that once the ex finds out that an American guy is involved he would want to raise hell for his child's new "Daddy"... Yeah, it can get ugly. Sad situation. In the end, the child is suffering. She dislikes her Dad. Runs away from him. The mother too but she is poor and needs the meager 600 sloty every month. I don't know, if it were my child, I would let her go to a better life, one that I could never give her, even if it were far away. That's what my parents did for me. I left another country for America when I was still in my early teens, by myself, parental permission and all. Long story. They weren't even married.

So, that's why, in a way, I got more connected to this single mother and child and am/was trying to pay it forward. No, she's not after a Green Card and yes, she could bail once she got established in America. But that's everyone, here, 50% divorce rate in this country. No surprise. So you need not be a foreign woman to ditch some guy after a few months or few years into the marriage. I love her but I can see that a future together is pretty slim. Unless God was merciful and knocked some sense into the pest that causes all these problems for the mother and her/his innocent child. Life isn't fair and after all the child IS his child, not mine. I understand that.

Also, many Polish women need to understand that having a child out of wedlock or getting separated/divorced can really mess up their futures if they want to leave Poland and try a better life/money/lifestyle anywhere if there are difficult custody issues. I have lost sleep over this due to love to both mother and child. But what can I do? I am not some rich American. This may be doomed to failure, occasional visits to Poland and nothing happening. Plus the risk of an eventual physical confrontation with that POS and not knowing Polish on top of that. Yes, the odds are heavily against me. She's a good person. She doesn't sleep around and she is a great, dedicated mother. She has not been chasing American/British men to get out of Poland. Any guy, once he realizes the situation, would give up on loving her. She is aware of that too. This world is full of POS that make the lives of their ex's miserable and the lives of their own children, preventing them from moving forward, even with a new local spouse. Sick and frustrating. This happens here in America too but the laws are more strict and more favorable towards the mothers and totally about what's good for the child.

Thank you so much for your replies.

Law / Custody Issue and Travel Abroad of my Girlfriend from Poland [28]

I am not a troll and the questions area real concerns.

Love / Foreign Older vs Younger Relationships In Poland [20]

yeah, age doesn't really matter if BOTH parties are genuine and legitimately interested in each other, unless, of course, it's an obvious mismatch such as 18 and 50!? But a 20-25 year difference has the potential to work out depending on maturity levels.

Life / Single mothers in Poland [175]

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Never Married Single Mothers & Reputation in Poland

This is a cultural, not judgmental question. If a woman is 30, never married but is a single mother from a messed up relationship, and she does not have 100% custody of her only child and desires to get married, do Polish men and their families tend to judge negatively? Would the men's parents recommend that their Polish son go find a single woman with no children? Do most Polish men prefer to date a woman with no child and not assume problems with the girl's ex, etc? Are there prejudices against single mothers? Does she have a better chance with older polish men? or foreign men to marry?

USA, Canada / Can Americans Travel To Poland After JUN 16, 2020? [13]

I guess you are right. I was planning a trip there but it's insane. Dates can change, rules can change, we can get stuck there and not be able to catch a flight back and no one is confirming whether if such thing happens, if they will extend the free visa for another 90 days. Like the poster above said, I think 2020 is over for transatlantic travels and safety. Besides, what fun would it be if most stores are closed and the general fun is over too?

USA, Canada / Can Americans Travel To Poland After JUN 16, 2020? [13]

NEVER MIND... JUNE flights are all cancelled. Nothing cheap from Chicago to Warsaw one-way or round trip that I can see.

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USA, Canada / Can Americans Travel To Poland After JUN 16, 2020? [13]

International air traffic suspension
Due to the unstable situation on international aviation markets and numerous travelling restrictions related to the SARS-CoV-2 coronavirus during the pandemic, Management of LOT Polish Airlines decided to extend the suspension of air services. International LOT passenger flights scheduled until June 30th 2020 have been cancelled.

USA, Canada / Can Americans Travel To Poland After JUN 16, 2020? [13]

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Borders opening finally! 6 days!

Law / Is the 90-Day Visa Free Extended for 30 Days? [8]

Where do you go to extend a shengen travel-free visa? Send an email for an appointment? Are they even open? How are 90-day visa people supposed to renew their visas, when needed?

Law / Is the 90-Day Visa Free Extended for 30 Days? [8]

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Visa-Free in Poland. No need to return until pandemic is over?

Looks like if you are already in Poland on a visa free, and it expires, you have 30 days to leave after the pandemic and the state of emergency is officially declared to be over. No forced expulsions or penalties on visa overstays.

Source: Office For Foreigners website. Paragraph #12 and U.S. Embassy
No need to submit extension applications
Please verify

Love / Foreign Older vs Younger Relationships In Poland [20]

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American Man and Polish Women

I have been to Poland 4 times. I am in Krakow now, again. Initially I came to Poland because I fell in love with a single mother (some say big mistake). We could never solidify our relationship because she was so bipolar about us. One day, love, the next day distrust, one day happy, next day finding fault. I gave up on her. I am white, Italian heritage. I am middle aged, later 40s. she's early 30s. It just never dawned on me that perhaps there is a thing about a Polish woman committing to a foreigner, American or otherwise. Now, I realize that maybe I never got the memo: Polish girls may not be too interested in foreigners. I am an American citizen. To give you an idea, I am on Tinder, etc. and I cannot get any dates and I am not unattractive, weight in proportion to height, etc. Not a model, but a nice, decent guy by most people's opinions. of me. I am not rich, just average income. Higher here than in the USA. But here's my point, the whole time I am here, only date and get along with Ukrainian girls. Yes, I know some are gold diggers, but the ones I date or have dated have been amazing. So here I am in Poland and the only girls that like me are Ukrainian from 25-35! I also notice that most Polish girls I have talked to talk bad about Ukrainian girls. I look at people and their actions, not race. On the street, polish girls make eye contact. Most talk to me in Polish and none know I am an American until they figure out I can't speak Polish. My question to you guys is: am I doomed with Polish women? Do they even want an American guy? I read on this forum that Polish women want Polish men. But Ukrainian women want a good man. Even the younger ones talk about marriage and family. I am almost moving to Lviv, Ukraine because maybe there Ukrainian girls may be more romantic and more interested in foreigners. I hate to generalize. I am not talking about getting laid. I am talking about finding love in Poland. it's looking impossible. Tinder, FB groups, etc. I am getting discouraged about Polish women in general. But I love the country and the culture. I am also trying to keep a positive attitude, but maybe I am not facing reality here. Anyone feel the same way? I am not saying Polish women have been rude or prejudiced. I am saying that we are not able to connect and they flake out on dates, even the ones they set up themselves. Thanks.

Law / Health Insurance Requirements for Poland Residency [7]

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Best Medical Insurance and Temp Residency

Hello. I am from USA. My fiance is Polish.

Issue # 1 - True or False?

I have a temp residency card based on studies and it expires this month. I read and have been told by a broker that border guard no longer looks at the expiry date in your card until the pandemic is officially over so you can re-enter Poland with an expired card as long as you travel directly, transit flights okay. Can't go to other Schengen countries.

Issue #2

What health insurance can one get without a PESEL number? How much per month for no pré existing health conditions! What do you recommend? What company/agent? English speaking.

Thank you

Life / Will Poland ever be multicultural like Sweden, Germany or France? [201]

It looks like Poland intends to keep it Polish. Multiculturalism is a choice not an obligation. Usually one or two ethnic groups end up monopolizing anyway so it's not really diverse. Example ..in USA Mexicans are predominant over all other ethnic groups. Initially the USA favored European migration. Now it's one big mess totally out of control. I doubt Poland wants this happening. It makes the country unique in Europe

Love / Woman 28 single, too late for a relationship with a Polish man? [67]

I must say that most Polish ladies that I meet, who speak English, state to me that they have no interest in dating or marrying Polish men. I asked why. The common reason is that, while they are generally good-looking men by Western standards, and have good genetics, the men tend to be controlling, boring, think women are property, many are Mama's boys, bossy, and expect the woman to be like their mothers, cook, clean and wash for them. Many also said to me that Polish men are sexually boring. The only women I have met who had no issues with Polish men were ladies from Ukraine, many hitting the clubs and bars. One Ukraine lady flatly told me that she looks for Polish men who are successful, own a business, and who will pay for gifts and trips (she is 24-25) and that she saw nothing wrong with her statements. My impression is that Polish ladies are more traditional and want serious relationships and love, and are generally not too interested in multiple sex partners. Personally, I think age doesn't matter and I am engaged to a Polish girl half my age. As an American, I have not sensed any racism from men or women, or even older people. I also part Italian, and white. Polish men, it seems, are very focused on business, and cars, and seem a little too direct, impatient, dry in conversations, not much into laughing or jokes. I can see why women think they are boring to date, relate to, or marry. All Polish ladies I know are dating or engaged to Western men. A woman in her mid-20s or early 30s is in her prime to have kids and raise a family but ultimately it is her choice. I am 59, divorced and I can tell you, I am amazed at people that say they never want to marry or have kids. If you remained looking like you do in your 20s and 30's, fine, but time forgives no one, your body starts to go to crap, you begin to lose marketability and after 50-60 being alone isn't even healthy, your dog will die, your cats will die and you could end up an old man or old woman living alone in some dinky apt, barely having the strength to go grocery shopping and no one near you to talk to and spend quality time with. It's really not a good idea. If you can marry and have a family, please do so. Especially if you are young in your 20s and 30s. Don't pass up this chance. My personal opinion only. I am glad I had 3 kids and am raising a Polish daughter now who is only 8 and we are very happy.

Love / Toxicity of SOME Polish Mothers Towards Their Daughters [36]

I laughed at some of your replies and comments and I am here thinking, OMG, so this is all true. I thought maybe it was me because I was never too emotionally dependent on my parents or family. By the way, I am not young, I am 20 years older than my fiance, she's in her early 30s! So I am a mature man. I thought perhaps it is my maturity that is making me paranoid, or wiser? I do expect daughters to have a level of attachment to their mothers and I do respect a different culture than my own. I also know it is futile to try to say, "In America, we do it this or that way" - Nonsense in Poland. In Poland, they say, "here we do it this or that way" to which I always reply, "That's fine. I respect that but it doesn't mean it matches my views, or that I have to embrace this as you do." (Silence). My girlfriend and her child (father lost all rights) now face the fact that they may need to move to the USA if they want to keep this good-looking fellow (I have a face for Radio) with them. Of course, her preference is that I stay here because "holidays are SOO IMPORTANT" to us Polish. You will be sacrificed to the Piwo Gods if you miss a holiday with the family! But missing a holiday with my own family in the USA seems to be okay. This is what I hear in response when I ask if she's ready to spend the 2022 Xmas with MY family:

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Love / Toxicity of SOME Polish Mothers Towards Their Daughters [36]

@Novichok
I don't believe in ageism, and neither does she. Age is not the core of this topic. Polish mothers-in-law is.

Life / Auto parts, fast oil change like QUIK Lub Mokotow [8]

@Alien
Yes but you still have to set up appointments days In Advance. I was hoping to find the equivalent of Jiffy Lube. Maybe Poland has a reason why it doesn't have such fast car service shops. Definitely no large retail auto parts. Maybe people here don't work so much on their own cars?

News / Poland to officially demand $1.32 trillion WW2 reparations from Germany [457]

I only have 2 questions: 1 - What is the total damage Germany caused? 2- Have they paid for following their lunatic Hitler?

If they haven't paid, then it seems fair for Poland to get compensated for life and property losses, even if it was in the past. All the people killed by Nazis did not have a chance to have or enjoy their posterity or to live their life spans. That alone has to be worth billions.

But, realistically, I highly doubt Germany is going to give Poland any money. It can, however, be a strong ally to help defend Poland if Russia were to attack. Where would Poles run to? Germany. They can only go south, north or west. Germany being the closest with the biggest military power, i.e., USA military. I doubt they would flee to a weak country.

Love / Do women like strong men in Poland ? [39]

No. Most Polish women that I know will say that they don't care about muscles or strong men. In fact, if the man is too "manly", many women fear that they will be abusive, jealous or angry. They don't want another guy, perhaps, similar to their father. Educated Polish ladies want a real man, healthy and in good shape, but most importantly, intellectually and emotionally stable. So don't worry too much about physical strength. Character, brains, personality, sense of humor, and intelligence are all more attractive to smart Polish women than some guy full of tattoos and looking like he's with the Polish Mafia. But, many of these guys are actually nice men who also happen to be physically fit and strong. If you feel inadequate, hit the gym as they do. Muscles can grow. If you are too short, you won't get taller but you can still get stronger.

Love / Toxicity of SOME Polish Mothers Towards Their Daughters [36]

@Novichok
That's a valid point. But If I married someone older, no fun sex and I can't choose who I am attracted to. She has zero issues with our age difference and she got sick and tired of me trying to remind her. I went as far as saying if you find someone your own age, you could be happier. She said with Polish men, no thanks. I would rather be single for the rest of my life. This was her reply. She's not the only Polish lady to share this type of antagonism against their own countrymen. Currently, she's driving me crazy with her behavior and blame-shifting. My leg is almost on the way up to kick her arse out of my life. But I keep giving her more chances to change.