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Foreign Older vs Younger Relationships In Poland

Videobroker 11 | 22
20 Oct 2018 #1
I don't think any of us plan on getting older. It just happens and one day, you are there, over 40 or 50 as life happens. Then you decide you want to go to Poland and perhaps find love again. Recently I fell in love with a 29 year old Polish girl, who after 2 months of daily interactions said she loved me more than I would ever know. Even her 4 year old was saying I love you in English. The girl spoke English, comes from a small town near Warsaw we got along great! She wasn't much into getting a Green Card or coming to America, especially because she can't get her daughter out of Poland without a court battle with her ex-boyfriend. She was never married. Long story short, after saying that age didn't matter and that we were meant for each other, she dumped. told me I was too old (45) and that I should go find some lady my own age, ended blocking me on Facebook and Messenger and that was that. I was left confused and broken hearted for about 3 weeks. My question to the members who really know Polish culture and women: Is it a waste of time to court and hope to have a relationship with younger Polish girls, and mean girls over 28-30? What if you are not Catholic? I seem to see a growing number of single mothers in Poland. How can they get their kids out to live in America, for example? I don't speak Polish but I could possibly learn since I speak fluent Portuguese. I have already been married and have 3 older kids, High School (1) College (2) and I am separated and finalizing a long-drawn out divorce. I am a U.S. Citizen and can spot a Green Card chaser a mile away. I am not rich. I am physically fit and look younger than my actual age, not but much though. 38 maybe. I am tired of American women in general and I am sure they are tired of me so I want to possibly live and work in Poland. Have friends there. Your opinions, please. Thank you.
Lyzko 45 | 9,286
21 Oct 2018 #2
Forty-five and twenty-nine's hardly a Lolita complex:-) Such relationships are much more common than most of us imagine.
terri 1 | 1,663
22 Oct 2018 #3
The lady you encountered was not after you personally, but the chance to come to the USA, even though she said to you that it didn't matter. If you had married her and she came to the States, she would have divorced you within months, just after she got her citizenship. It was probably when she found out that you were not rich that she didn't see a future with you. Forget her and move on. This had nothing to do with age, but with her own financial situation. It seems strange that 'you are meant for each other' and the next minute she dumps you.

Loving someone has absolutely nothing to do with age, but with seeing a future together.
PolAmKrakow 2 | 1,009
22 Oct 2018 #4
Older with younger is entirely possible. But looking for that is a mistake. I met my GF 8 months ago purely by accident, and she is much younger than me. She has zero interest in ever going to the US, and is full of Polish pride, a trait that I admire. Look for a person, not any person of a certain age if you are going to look. If you want a real Polish beauty, inside and out, you had better be prepared for a strong, educated and opinionated partner. If you cant take that, then you probably need to look elsewhere.
OP Videobroker 11 | 22
4 Mar 2019 #5
yeah, age doesn't really matter if BOTH parties are genuine and legitimately interested in each other, unless, of course, it's an obvious mismatch such as 18 and 50!? But a 20-25 year difference has the potential to work out depending on maturity levels.
delphiandomine 88 | 18,177
4 Mar 2019 #6
How can they get their kids out to live in America, for example?

They can't, nor will they want to. Family ties are important here, and no mother is going to take her child / children away from their grandparents.
Bardzo serdeczni
16 Jun 2019 #7
I would say that is a sad story but it is just silly. This isn't Western Europe man where at least theres a slim chance of a normal relationship or good time if she only has one kid. Single mothers generally are not interested in foreign men that much. Believe me, even living here as an older foreign man, even if you spoke Polish well and were above us middle class Younger Polish speaking foreign men $$ and social skills Wise(which you may well be afyer 2 years IF you did live Herę), single mothers probably prefer to be single mothers with an occasional Polish boyfriend than complicate things for an American.

Man you can have Polish friends for years and never be invited to hang with their real friends on the really big occasions. Just accept you are at the bottom of the pile and dont plan your life around Poland. Learning Polish is perfect for going to Ukrainę or The Czech Republic though, where not all single women have a stereotypical contempt for anglophone white males.

Conversely if you epokę Spanish and could dance Salsa shed prob have married you ha
OP Videobroker 11 | 22
18 May 2021 #8

American Man and Polish Women

I have been to Poland 4 times. I am in Krakow now, again. Initially I came to Poland because I fell in love with a single mother (some say big mistake). We could never solidify our relationship because she was so bipolar about us. One day, love, the next day distrust, one day happy, next day finding fault. I gave up on her. I am white, Italian heritage. I am middle aged, later 40s. she's early 30s. It just never dawned on me that perhaps there is a thing about a Polish woman committing to a foreigner, American or otherwise. Now, I realize that maybe I never got the memo: Polish girls may not be too interested in foreigners. I am an American citizen. To give you an idea, I am on Tinder, etc. and I cannot get any dates and I am not unattractive, weight in proportion to height, etc. Not a model, but a nice, decent guy by most people's opinions. of me. I am not rich, just average income. Higher here than in the USA. But here's my point, the whole time I am here, only date and get along with Ukrainian girls. Yes, I know some are gold diggers, but the ones I date or have dated have been amazing. So here I am in Poland and the only girls that like me are Ukrainian from 25-35! I also notice that most Polish girls I have talked to talk bad about Ukrainian girls. I look at people and their actions, not race. On the street, polish girls make eye contact. Most talk to me in Polish and none know I am an American until they figure out I can't speak Polish. My question to you guys is: am I doomed with Polish women? Do they even want an American guy? I read on this forum that Polish women want Polish men. But Ukrainian women want a good man. Even the younger ones talk about marriage and family. I am almost moving to Lviv, Ukraine because maybe there Ukrainian girls may be more romantic and more interested in foreigners. I hate to generalize. I am not talking about getting laid. I am talking about finding love in Poland. it's looking impossible. Tinder, FB groups, etc. I am getting discouraged about Polish women in general. But I love the country and the culture. I am also trying to keep a positive attitude, but maybe I am not facing reality here. Anyone feel the same way? I am not saying Polish women have been rude or prejudiced. I am saying that we are not able to connect and they flake out on dates, even the ones they set up themselves. Thanks.
Lyzko 45 | 9,286
18 May 2021 #9
Your remarks sound to me as an American with many years of close contact with the Polish professional community more like typically US- ethnocentric value judgements. Not ALL Polish women fit neatly into such stereotypes. By the way, American men come across to Polish women I've known as testosterone-pumping, machismo manchildren!
19 May 2021 #10
Try your luck with Ukrainian girls. But remember they will be like Polish girls now in about 20years. It is like Evolution. More many more( or others) Expectations. Good luck.
Strzelec35 34 | 904
19 May 2021 #11
Mr Grunwald should. After all they are stealing the Polish men away and causing jelous to the Polish ones or envy for a reason hence theyre always talking abd about them behind their bak if you eavesdrop on conversations and know Polish.
19 May 2021 #12
It's not about you being a foreigner. It's about your age. You are around 50 and are looking for a woman around 30. Would that be easy in US? I doubt it. Why do you expect it to be easier in Poland? If anything, it should be even harder because of language barrier and cultural differences.
Novichok 5 | 7,781
19 May 2021 #13
A homeless, jobless bum will not be attractive to women no matter how old the bum is.
20 May 2021 #14
You are right, Novichok. However, homeless, jobless bums are rare in Poland. There is no shortage of "good" or "decent" men in Poland and no shortage of young foreign men. The OP is at disadvantage here and reminds me of those middle-aged Americans who are "looking for love" in Ukraine, basically for someone out of their league, a "trophy bride" from a much poorer country - no offence here, but let's not be naive. The behaviour of Ukrainian women towards foreigners has of course nothing to do with Ukraine being the poorest and least developed European country (with the exception of Moldavia perhaps). They are just more "romantic", because being more "romantic" means dating a man who age-wise could be your father. I suppose it is easy for such a man to fall in love with a young beautiful woman, but it doesn't work the same way for the said woman. Such relations are rare and usually transactional, with the man offering the woman material well-being and a valuable passport, while she gives him her youth and good looks. It's not love. In other cases, the age difference might be a small issue while on-line, but often becomes a deal-breaker after meeting in RL, because of lack of physical attraction to a much older man.
Novichok 5 | 7,781
20 May 2021 #15
Such relations are rare and usually transactional,

... prostitution in slow motion.

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