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Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Love / How do Polish men feel about gender equality? [780]

@Lenka
I read the title and presumed too much then

About kids, I would very much prefer to raise them as much as possible in a family (me+a women)

I just don't see it realistic as women tend to issue divorce papers majorly and I am for monogamy, I just have rather grim view of my future partnership with a women. I don't seek a short relationship with several break ups and divorces. If marriage ain't sacred. I just lose interest, not cause I need some legal barrier cause I could think she wants get away as soon as possible, but rather I wouldn't want to bond with someone who see it as trivial or merely a social expectation
Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Love / How do Polish men feel about gender equality? [780]

@Lenka
Traditional gender roles in a household cut short:
Men: Fixing something broken (material), paying the bills, having professional contacts through their job or spare time activities.
Women: Keeping household clean (dust cleaning/washing), cooking food taking, care of children and having social circles locally with other women to update the entire family of the situation locally.

1. I am fully able to vacuum clean by myself (done so a lot as a kid, also throwing out trash... Not a big deal) washing I got still a lot to learn, there are YouTube videos on that so that so not much of a barrier.

2. I have the last few years focused on my eating habits and I prefer that I cook/make the meal myself as I will know what I eat. Not going to gamble away my health for the sake of somebody's taste sensitivities.

3. Even if I did have kids, there are kindergarten, school etc. most kids don't require that much maintenance like in the past when it came to watching them as parents. The effort required now is more to listen and being there for them, which I can easily do. Kids love me so it ain't a problem.

4. We got newspapers nowadays and female co-workers so we get the information we need anyways. So why even bother.
Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Love / How do Polish men feel about gender equality? [780]

By being more assertive and demanding more while self bringing less to the table during negotiations... I don't know what ones call it, I myself demand more of myself now and have a hard time finding any women offering enough for me compared to how much I am able to offer now and in the future to her.

I had a very open mind about dating and meeting women, now I prefer to focus on myself as I have become rather pessimistic about meeting somebody I will be able to bond with from the opposite sex.

So in my instance (and possibly other men aswell) you can talk all you want about men not doing their share. I'll do my own share (the 100% share) on my own terms if it's so difficult for women to negotiate.
Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Life / What do Polish people talk about? [56]

@pawian
That is when hosting a meal (The hosts rules apply) and hospitality seems to be far greater trait shared across local variations. So hospitality is a far more cultural/national trait then local culture (what food to eat/how to drive/Warsaw vs Kraków differences)
Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Love / How do Polish men feel about gender equality? [780]

@Novichok
I have it opposite in fact: I do not recognize power (as one can't be more powerful then the almighty, so in the grand scale of things we are quite the small rocks of a mountain, either on top or near the foundation of the mountain, still rocks)

While somebody having the knowledge and experience naturally has authority in their "specialty"
Wether somebody specializes one form or multiple ways of communication (oral, written or body-language) their knowledge doesn't become less or more important.

Are you afraid of local religious extremists or a large religious institution dictating your or someone close to you ways of living?

Just curious
Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Love / How do Polish men feel about gender equality? [780]

@Novichok
I do wonder about that stance and how it is defended when talked about sense of community and how it should be, a religious community should communicate. Should it not? Is one of one body or not?
Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Life / What do Polish people talk about? [56]

@Fredde
1. You are basically complaining that Poles "overcommunicate" compared to how much Swedes communicate (newsflash Scandinavians in general communicate very little)

2. Yeah Poles are also far more emotional and burst it out by screaming swear words (the lower the social position, the higher frequency of swearing)

3. Most Poles are not raised in the same sense of community like Scandinavians, it's a cultural gap. While Poles tend to have a tremendously high degree of self consciousness about their own needs, others needs need to be stated. Otherwise it will be ignored, Polish society has become well accustomed to a plural thought where there is no guarantee of an other persons habits are the same as ones own. While Scandinavian society's are more accustomed to a set of rules that everyone needs to follow in a much higher degree.

4. Fight your dragons and guard your treasures! :)
There is a Polish saying: "Don't sleep or they will rob you"
There is no excuse to not be responsible for yourself! :)
Mr Grunwald   
6 Jan 2021
Love / How do Polish men feel about gender equality? [780]

@Lenka
An argument is totally fine to have between men and women. Both just need to know how to do it in, and if it isn't handled well, then atleast inside the confinement of their own homes.

I used to hate conflict as I saw it as an disturbance to the status quo, which I appreciate most often as it is peace and quiet (I used to be pretty oblivious to passive-aggressive attitude from people and couldn't pick up any hints of problems/conflicts with other people)

Now I know from experience that conflicts need to be resolved as soon as possible before they grow too large to handle.

Difference is hiding something under the rug in a social setting as to handle it privately compared to hiding things/feelings/thoughts constantly

Shy vs Open in ones own company
Hiding inproperly vs hiding it properly
Mr Grunwald   
2 Dec 2020
Life / Territorials - Polish National Guard [57]

@Atch
You got some reading to do about Polish Boy Scouts then Atch :)
Lwów eaglets, Boy Scouts during Polish-Soviet war, 1939 versus the Germans

They certainly aren't your regular wanna be nice little boys only club
Mr Grunwald   
2 Dec 2020
Life / Territorials - Polish National Guard [57]

@Paulina
I have been considering the mechanized infantry, even more when I heard recently that the 12th mechanized infantry brigade has a lot of experience co-operating with U.S forces. My English skills would be well used in such a unit.

Ideally I would like to work for an military attaché at an embassy (one can dream right?)
More realistically I see myself in the mechanized infantry as tank support

I haven't considered being a Sniper, as I expect one needs Hawk like vision to do so. My eye sight is rather good now, but certainly not at the level required to be a sniper
Mr Grunwald   
24 Nov 2020
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

@Novichok
I would recommend you look up KETO

There are no essentials carbohydrates, just cause people are unable to or don't know how to open the flow use of their fat storage. Doesn't mean the fat itself is bad. Quite the opposite, body runs quite better on fat vs carbohydrates in my experience

It's not without reason why the body stores fat, and even turns carbohydrates in to fat for storage. It's just better fuel
Mr Grunwald   
23 Nov 2020
Life / To Poles: some food for thought [31]

@Novichok
Yes Monday is a lot better
I prefer to have my sundays for rest and not online battles

When you were quite condescending about patriots, I took that as willful baiting I couldn't ignore.

You may thought I was mentally in a bar... and suggest for me to enter a courtroom... I was mentally at a classroom where I eventually sighed over his possibility of learning something.

Winning arguments I find quite shortsighted and downright senseless, it's when we move forward (actual progress) with our knowledge and information that I aspire to.

If anyone accuses me of rascism I automatically know he/she doesn't know me, or isn't interested in knowing me as I take that as a grave error on their part. Me wanting to share information with such an individual gets drastically altered
Mr Grunwald   
23 Nov 2020
Life / To Poles: some food for thought [31]

The OP forgot the kitchen sink.
I know it's an old thread but, seriously, is this the best response you, Polish patriots, are capable.

Allright, you may feel sucessful as you have baited me. It made me rather unhappy you made that comment yesterday as it was sunday, but alas I did suceed in keeping my temper until this morning. Walked my dog, making some cofee... You should feel honored, I even decided to write on post on the computer which I rarely do nowadays as I most often just reply on my cellphone on the go wherever I am. Hope you are pleased...

This is both a complaint and a plea to my fellow Poles. I don't know why are we the way we are so please

1. The complaint is noted and I am reading your plea, you can thank dear pawian for that as he brought back the thread (I do like old threads being used again)

2. Get contact with more Poles, start going to church again. Talk it out with a priest is my best advice.
3. Oh yes you do actually as you wrote it in English, not in Polish as quite a bunch of the world is able to read this you are adding the words of bullets towards her heart... So save it as you are going to need it.

4. I am intelligent enough to understand that this is a general rant about people misbeheaving in general, especially if they aren't intelligent enough to understand that other people will view one quite negatively by bad behaviour and what the possible consequences might be. You are sadly part of that group in one way or another as I mentioned earlier in my post.

Why do we, as a nation, are like this? Why are we so racist?

Again when you think "nation" you are talking about all Poles, wether they allow it, ignore it or don't correct it or simply think it that way. The amount of generalisation you are making cause of Poles reputation abroad is quite anouying and creates a larger huge distaste of you. So to me, you are basically arguing like a lawyer.

Rascism... There are many ways as to look at rascism. The one I understand you are talking about is generally xenophobia, one only has to pick up a history book as to why Poles can be quite.... wary of ANY foreigners! This again shows the likeliness of you being a Pole diminishes further...

Rascism's origin stems from Darwin's thoughts about evolution and the concept change of "Man being made by God directly" to either "Man being made by God inderectly" or "Man coming from animals without God in the picture". Out of this thought came the worst possible versions of ideologies which based their societies on the thought of organising it without religion or directly abusing it for the purposes of political power (Soviet Union and Nazi Germany are the most known examples)

Which is again a tactic used by left side of the political spectrum, the further extreme one is the more often it's heard from a leftwinger about rascism. Which is a paradox when the leftwinger isn't a believer since the thought he/she is pushing is a result of rascism itself actually. Food for thought and possible comedy for others.

I am not going to divulge in to the topic too much as it is rather disturbing

Why are we so xenophobic?

Again... Pick up a history book. Doesn't have to be university level, teenager schools should be more then adequate enough. I suggest starting to learn Polish aswell, it would give you insight in to the mentality of the People living in those times. It's rather ambitious but, who knows? Maybe you will.

What is wrong with their skin colour that we feel the need to point them out and move away 5 seats?

That has a lot to do with several factors:
1. We as Poles in general (humans in generals too, it's just... a bit more overstimulated among Poles for some reason) are quite hypocondric, you only need to watch commercials on the TV and know a Polish family or look how kids are dressed for winter to know that. Getting cold or sick is something to take very serriously. Which also explains PiS's ability to come up with authoritiarian meassures in a rather Liberty driven society as health issues are a real concern in Poland to a much larger degree then other places. (How it's organised economically and politically we can rather please discuss in another thread)

2. Any factor of not knowing about a persons background is frightening for any human being, Poles know what to expect from a German, Russian, Ukrainian or other Poles! Tell him to talk to a person from another continent which Poland has never been in (as a state, not as in the form of diplomats) and most Poles wouldn't even have a clue as to which language to start talking in! In most cases Poles tend to be quite careful with the use of english and don't feel sure enough in using it. I was lucky growing up with several languages, so I don't have this problem. It's still real non-the less.

3. During the aftermatch of World war 2, cause of political situation and general civil war. The period after 1953 was heavily focused on having the Nazi-Germans (Germans also in general as the dictator of that regime was elected, so plenty of Poles lay the blame on the population aswell. Not only the Nazi-fringe) to stableize the internal factors which were quite volatile, even for Poland to be. The political regimes used the anti-Nazi Germans card as heavily as they could. It was seen as positive by Moscow and by larger part of the Polish public for obvious reason (one only has to know about the horrors of world war 2) not only that it also diverged away from problems with the political establishment itself but, also it's negative ties to Moscow and the enforced chains that Poles were placed under. In that way, Poles were brainfed socialism and communist theory in school on a daily basis. Then spoon fed Nazi-German behaviour from the entertainment industry and everything related to "German" behaviour as an enemy, one only had to hate the communist regime a bit too much to start copying this negatively presented image of an enemy to **** of the chainholders. Talking about, discussing Polish political opposition wether it was peaceful or militant were at first banned, then sensured and liberalised step by step as not to anger or worsen relations with Moscow. This push and tug "tactic" in the Polish society drove finally to the situation of 1989, where plenty of political parties either felt left out or cheated in the new dealing of cards. The whole mess we are in now in Poland is about that deal, some fight for it to be preserved out of fear of the possible consequences and instability while other aren't able to withhold themselves any further from ignoring the situation.

4. Also most people don't have time to think too much about all this or dig in to themselves cause of a busy life, expecting people to be perfect in every part of their life is quite... I don't know?

Why do we think we're better than our neighbours or anyone in general, when we go abroad and all we do is refuse to

Again, it's about the level of English and being put down by our neighbour states that were of the opinion that there is too much chaos so order had to be restored. It's a big middle finger to those past opressors, behaving chaotically even abroad. Also I would blame human psychology in this situation far more then anything about Polish nationality.

Why do we hate women so much? Why do we refuse to give them the right's men have?

What on earth are you writing about? You clearly haven't lived in Poland buddy

Why do we think we're so progressive and different from a Muslim country when we refuse to give them equal pay, a right to not

Oh I see, let's say what you call progress... I call regress
What you call progress: Liberty without consequences and a life full of rights and privliedges (Wake up buddy, you sound pampered and spoiled)
What I call progress: Being able to grow and improve while understanding the responsibilities and burden of the liberties that have been earned and fought for by our ancestors (biological or/and spiritual)

The Polish nobility lived a life of an utterly spoiled life and no concern for the future, you should trust people being people. Especially your enemies being the enemies they are. Grow up

As to your arguments:
1. Islam is heavily based on authority and subjecation, your willingness to debate about inviting people who were raised up by this way of life makes you comical at best.

2. again rights, I am against harassment. If the company you work for allow such practices, there isn't something wrong with the law. It's something wrong with the workplace...

3. Shaming tactics are frankly quite effective and a lot better then other possible options I can think of. How would you want people to behave towards unwanted behaviour? Beheadings? Stoning? Again, this makes it a bit of a parody comparing it to your argument nr. 1

4. Nobody is treating women as property, if women were treated as property... They would be slaves, with a number on them ordered to be sent to the man who wishes for her then thrown away and tortured publically with no fear of punishment. Read up on how ancient Rome worked and you might learn how it was when humans were ACTUALLY treated as commodities...

5. I don't know who you are, but I can hardly think of any Poles acting as if he is a "progressive" in the way you think it is. Sounds a lot more like something you yourself are

Honestly, I planned on responding to every bit of his post, but I just woke up spent two hours writing this thing. This is a waste of time for me right now. Hope to be able to write more and come back to this at a later date. Going to drink up my coffeee and be off with my day.

It sickens me to read this and I need a break to bring my health back up, toxicity is bad for your health I tell you

I had to shorten the quoting, hopefully people are able to understand which parts I quoted
Mr Grunwald   
20 Nov 2020
Polonia / Behaviour of Polish migrant workers in the Netherlands [43]

@Shaapje
Newly arrived Polish workers, or those that have been long in the Netherlands but, stick to their own most likely have no knowledge or understanding of Dutch social norms.

If you treat them badly and you are negative towards them, they will mirror your behavior and give it back to you. As pointed out by other posters, they are used to being treated badly in Poland by shopkeepers.

Also, Polish society is far more hierarchical then Dutch society. Don't expect similar or identical behavior from rural Poles vs urban Poles, uneducated Poles vs educated Poles

Rural Poles can be far more conflict driven then rural Dutch is my guess, ask yourself if conflict or stable calm communication is the norm where you grew up
Mr Grunwald   
19 Nov 2020
Food / What do non-Poles think about eating the following Polish foods? [1450]

I love cabbage!
Been using cabbage with meat to make some form of gołąbki in east-Asian style as I found the recipe from a YouTube video.

I prepare the cabbage by boiling it first in like 10-15 minutes to make it soft, while I do that I crush open an egg, mix the egg with meat, pepper (pieprz not chili or paprika) and pre-chopped tomatoes (instead of soy sauce) mix it together and form cabbage dumplings which I steam cook in 25 minutes.

Put sea salt on them and Dijon mustard after it's prepared so that it won't be too dry cause of the sea salt.
Mr Grunwald   
19 Nov 2020
Travel / Krakow is better than Prague [11]

Must have been Prague side of Warsaw, the eastern side. Czech Prague isn't the only one in the world ;)
Mr Grunwald   
14 Nov 2020
Po polsku / "Razem" chce aby Jan Paweł II nie był już honorowym obywatelem Warszawy [14]

Tu jest żródło z którego to przeczytałem: " rp.pl/Kosciol/201119688-Razem-chce-pozbawic-Jana-Pawla-II-honorowego-obywatelstwa-Warszawy.html"

Szczerze to myślę że Jan Paweł II miał zbyt mało/władzy wpływ na grupę która takie rzeczy ukrywała za jego życia tutaj na ziemi, więc jestem zszokowany. Przecież to jeden z najwybitniejszych Polaków, po co? Jedna rzecz to brać się za akty kryminalnego zachowania a drugie to oczerniać/zwalczać pamięć o ludziach którzy dali wielki wkład dla dobra nie tylko Polski ale całej ludzkości! Zwłaszcza ludziom żyjących za żelazną kurtyną!

Dla mnie to jest dosyć niepojęte, chcą tworzyć większą niechęć? O co im chodzi? Przecież to nie jest dobry krok w ogóle, zwłaszcza teraz po PiS konfliktach. Przecież oni ich ratują i dają im amunicję...
Mr Grunwald   
14 Nov 2020
Love / How Do You Feel About a Black man marrying Polish Women? [157]

@jakub_a
Don't want to sound like a douche but, in my experience women in general tend to want to give birth in an safe environment (a place she knows very well). So women tend to want to "return" to their place of upbringing to give birth, you not understanding that might have caused a lot of trust issues in your relationship. Out of what you wrote so far.
Mr Grunwald   
14 Nov 2020
Life / Territorials - Polish National Guard [57]

@pawian
Then I apologize for any misbehavior on my part towards you, most likely it was my bad attempt at humor.

I can imagine the rebellious part, me however I am very calm and have no problems or qualms doing thing I even dislike doing as long as it's part of duty and I am not burned out mentally.

Illegitimate behavior however I can easily and very strongly reject/oppose.

I was a bit worried about the Territorials only being a form of reserve. Do you know if it's a standing army or reserve army?
Mr Grunwald   
13 Nov 2020
Life / Territorials - Polish National Guard [57]

@pawian
I thought we were joking around, humor has allways been my weakness as I am quite serious at times and in a very subtle way joke with people. Useally it flies right over their heads, on a serious note I do hope to find a spouse within the military as it attracts patriots (not only of course).

I remain rather pessimistic for the time being, but not without hope.

I hope for this thread to expand, as it can be useful for anyone who is curious about Poland's current armed forces.
Mr Grunwald   
13 Nov 2020
Life / Territorials - Polish National Guard [57]

@pawian
Funny
I am interested to know the difference cause I am joining the army, am planning to join the professional&regular army. There are women there too, don't worry pawian.

Women aren't meant for only one thing ;)
Mr Grunwald   
12 Nov 2020
News / 11th November Independence Day in Poland [73]

@pawian
I heard during a cabaret from KMN that it was five beers strange ;)

Make yourself happy first, then I'll be happy! :)

Manifesting against fascism with a rainbow flag at his side only aggrevates right-wingers further and only gains popularity or support from the left *facepalm*

Right-wingers won't listen to anyone they deem to be extreme-left or quite left leaning, same vice versa with left wingers about communication from right wingers
Mr Grunwald   
12 Nov 2020
Life / Territorials - Polish National Guard [57]

It's basically an government funded and well organized militia or a regular army focused on defense only?
Mr Grunwald   
12 Nov 2020
News / 11th November Independence Day in Poland [73]

@Joker
Are you naive, old or actively trying to push for an agenda? The man in the picture is clearly walking, so I am guessing he was waving to somebody (you can also see him looking in a specific location and not standing on display to salute), with Live Photo function. You are able to take multiple picture while somebody moves, obviously the one taken the picture. Chose to share the one resembling the most of an despicable salute known from ww2 with origins of Roman times.

@Ironside
The police reactions seemed warranted as some of the young ones marching were throwing ignited materials at them, and that way had to show their readiness to retaliate with soft guns (or airguns? I am no expert on this)

@pawian
You should be ashamed of yourself, through the linked video I saw max 3 ONR symbols. Rest were white and red, even the ones holding a speech impressed me this year a it was a lot less about hate and foreign topics (powers/immigration)

But about getting your act together and not only be patriotic once a year but, also in your everyday life. How to be patriotic in everyday life will be perceived rather differently I bet.

The March wasn't as large as last years which is to be excpected looking at the circumstances.

I do wish for the celebration to turn more civil and actually national, and not be seen as political. Unfortunately a lot of the people going there have soccer teen-gangs connections and mentality.

While adults and responsible people simply criticize it and look down on them instead of creating something better.

I do hope to be a part of that change in the future
Mr Grunwald   
11 Nov 2020
News / 11th November Independence Day in Poland [73]

What are you willing share on this patriotic day with us?

I myself am currently working on helping the family out with the living room and have fixed the bookshelves and where their new location is going to be and had "fun" with cables&wires that had to be connected to the stereo/dvd/tv (old stuff and old cables -.-) and an old fashioned plate? I don't know how it is written in English.

Thinking about how to celebrate 11th of November and what to do
Mr Grunwald   
11 Nov 2020
Love / WHAT TRAITS DO POLISH MEN LOOK FOR IN A FEMALE? [34]

@Lenka
:)

It's simply my list of preferences, there isn't an absolute must that all of them have to be fulfilled.

1. I know that perfectly well
2. Depends on my income and line of work, I could basically have a soccer team.
3. Most likely not, increase in age tends to decrease fertility, which is why I would be open for adoption. I am not planning on remarrying after a divorce either so it's a non-issue for me.

4. I am very conscious about changes for a women's body after giving birth, again I am not expecting a women to look like in her 20's for the rest of her life. I simply want to share my best years, with her best years together when married (meaning having kids, can't see myself having kids without marriage).

6. Then I wouldn't be interested in any romantic relationship with 99.9% of whom you know. I am only planning on marrying one women.

7. Trying to be clever, while being distasteful with a nip of arrogance without actually knowing what the topic at hand is about. I try not to fall in to that trap quite a lot.

11. Desires to have sex without imagining/wanting the consequences of it (children), it's rather off putting for me that anyone has some sort of addiction (I had a lot of them in my youth and strive to reduce them as much as possible, so having somebody close in my life which rather add troubles in that department rather then help out would be very damaging for the relationship long term)
Mr Grunwald   
11 Nov 2020
Love / WHAT TRAITS DO POLISH MEN LOOK FOR IN A FEMALE? [34]

Apologies to @Polonius3 for not addressing the thread

What I am looking for in a female as a Polish man? All right, here comes the list:

1. Noble heritage or at least knowledgeable/understanding about what's it about and doesn't treat it solely as a status thing, which can be quite revolting for me when treated as if I think of it like that. *wife*

2. Open for the thought of having several children, if not her own then at least adoption after having a few of our own. (I always wished to have a brother as a kid and wish to have a large family) *wife*

3. Under age of 26 *wife*

4. Physical attractiveness: can have looks in body between 5 and 8. The more she doesn't seem like "wife material" the more important the looks become. *girlfriend*

5. Preferably Polish, but not a must. More importantly that she won't be an extremist (communist, Nazi, Fascist or left-wing radical)
*wife/girlfriend*

6. Preferably Catholic, somebody to improve my faith with or at least open about it and not atheist or dogmatic black/white perspective *wife*

7. Intelligent, but not an intellectual show off. *wife*

8. Economy is of no concern (poor/medium/rich) *girlfriend/wife*

9. Willingness to do something together compared to playing mind games *wife/girlfriend*

10. Have similar interests *girlfriend*

11. Isn't pushy about sex (especially if pro-abortion) girlfriend/wife