having an affair with a Polish man (but he has a wife and a child)

i know i am not stupid we are as bad as each other its not just sex on either part he is smitten bless him and we both hate the situation but its too soon to try and sort it

if he's been away from Poland for 2.5 years then what does that say for his marriage --> it says nothing since I know marriages which survived 7-9 years ...they had affairs of course...but most came back.

what about the Polish women in relationships with other men!
---> it does happen more often than other way around
just like yourself! <--to this I don't answer you would have to explain what you mean by "just like yourself"

Some Polish families are apart since 2003, when Poland joined EU. Almost 3 yrs.
It is called long-distance realtionship. Some guys are bringing their families over there as soon as they make enough money.

I don't know, why he's not going to bring his family over to the UK, if he makes good money there to support all of them. If his relationship in Poland is over, why he's not divorced yet? What lies he's telling his wife that she still believes him and is not there with him yet? And why he's so concerned about his teenage daughter, if he haven't seen her for 2,5 yrs? Do you think she doesn't see sth is wrong? It's obvious what he's doing...

now i dont want to sound big headed here but i am a very beautiful woman and his wife is not he says i am the best woman he has ever met in and out of bed.. now i know what u are gonna say that he is gonna say that to get sex


most thats right but why go back if u have better

No you don't sound at all conceited :)

i think he had good intentions and like he always says he didnt know he was gonna meet me and have feelings

And u believe everything he tells you.
Have you seen his wife's pic?

what can i say? lol

Pity this guy has a daughter.

Well this guy hasnt and he's taking home about 2k after tax & NI so that tells me he likes his life in England and doesnt want his family here

And maybe he just doesnt want to hurt his daughter, thats a good enough reason...he needs to get some backbone and be honest.

Okay and if all these Polish women are marrying other men, what about the Polish men that was my point or are there more Polish women than men! you do the maths!

yes i belive him because i am and yes i have seen his wife she is nothing special


he does like england and he says he doesnt want his daughter to blame herself for the relationship ending, he will sit and explain to her

I think he is not bringing them to UK because he plans to go back to Poland. He is not divorced because there is nothing wrong with his marriage. His wife may know that perhaps he has somebody for now but know him well enough to be sure that he will be back. He is concerned about his daughter because he loves her and most likely his wife too. Of course it is possible that he is sooooooo smitten by the English "lady'" since he didn't have a woman for a while...She cannot judge the situation for she doesn't know polish reality. Many families have to live like his... long years of separation, affairs etc...

and many dont

it was also never me who meantioned getting divorce it was him

affairs, now that doesnt say a lot about Polish men and their morals does it now..a little bit of reserve would be called for because I dont know any English women that would put up with that kind of thing, most men that go and work away for long periods take their wives with them - if they love them -

now you and i know that but nobody else seems to, i wouldnt put up with that english, polish whatever

Perhaps, that is why you cannot judge the situation properly ...your live over there is different, you dont have to cope with such problems ...simply you dont have a clue...and please do not mention morals here we are talking about a lady sleeping with a married man after all... English Lady! by the way...

english lady and polish man wow

He already did it. He didn't provide better future for her in the UK. He's a PE and a teacher, wow, I'm impressed, but didn't think about his own kid... Also, I wonder what stories he's telling his daughter all the time, if he has ever visited her in PL. He's a teenager, he hates him, I'm sure. 2,5 yrs there.

Anothre thing I am sure of, we have in Poland very strict child support law. I don't know, if you want to date him in the future, after he would be paying his wife and his daughter more than half of the "big money" he makes.

NO we talking about a married man sleeping with a single women.....who's in the wrong, not her!

and why not her but him? It is easier for him over there you think?

its not about the money i would encourage him to pay for his daughters upkeep for the rest of his life... why r u so bitter

Now thats a positive thing, but enforcing such a thing is difficult....since he is in England and she is in Poland, they cant put an attachment on his earnings

They both are in the wrong---like I said, it takes 2 to tango.

Mobile, some people are just blinkered, I dont condone what he has done, but these things happen.


One married one not, he's the one doing wrong IMHO

neither do i we both shouldnt have done it but as u say these things happen if he and his wife were so happy then it wouldnt of happened, now i have to go to meet him in the supermarket ha ha

And another thing, making out that English women are not good enough for Polish men, what rubbish

One knew the other one is married but one feels has a chance must be so sure of oneself...

No canoodling by the cold meats section!

i think im actually too good for him, he cant belive his look!!!

You best hurry it is an easy place to meet single British women...:)