having an affair with a Polish man (but he has a wife and a child)

Love and Lust are different...so are Emotion and Attraction...or Devotion and Desire.

Love is beautiful and creative. It is pure and glorious. Love has the power to stand alone united in a divided world, due to the truth in posseses. Love is strong because of its power of cure. Love brings smiles, and it wipes off tears. Love brings end to sorrow. Even if all perils of the world fall on the lovers... they still win. Because they have Love. The strength of the soul. Love is not hidden... it is as Bright and as Immensly Present as the summer sun in a clear sky on Noon time.

Lust... has all the negative charecteristics. It can be temprorarily mistaken as love... but gradually.... it becomes clear of its reality.

This are what I have felt for human emotions in my 20 years in this blue planet... and a busy life... with the privilage of having friends from many places :)....LOVE IS THE SAME ALL OVER.

:)... hope love touches you all!... and hope people can recover from lusts.


he has wife and child. As you say...

If its still not wrong in your view... then do ahead for it.

But remember....we reap what we sow. God bless you.

Well...

well he obviusly is not in love with his wife anymore.... or maybe he is just passing his time with me....who knows apart from him

You are talking about the difference between a mature man and an immature guy. Maturity is when one makes a commitment (marriage or otherwise), they honor that commitment and if you meet someone else, than you get out of the commitment before proceeding into a new relationship. It's called being a decent human being. You know the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I agree with LS in the sense that maybe instead of the term greed, I would use the term selfish. It's been my experience (and believe me, I have plenty of it---lol) that relationships that start with a rocky foundation tend to crumble in the end. You sound somewhat young, so maybe this is just one of those "life lessons" you have to go through. Good luck.

mobile, have you ever been deeply in love with someone who cheated on you?

i am getting a lot of hassel of you guys arent i? no never been in love with someone who cheated on me and thats life... i am not that young 29 and he is 38. whatever difference that makes

I hope I don't sound like I'm hassling you like the others. I was just curious about the question I asked because I suspected it's never happened to you and I was right.

well maybe it has and i just never knew it.... i am really not a bad person

When you've been cheated on by a man who you truly love you don't have to wonder if what you're doing is hurting anyone.

how old is he and you if i can ask??

When you mess with a married man it's just so much deeper than you can imagine if you've never experienced the consequences yourself.

Have you ever studied philosophy by any chance Lone??? You're quite a deep thinker :)

i am 29 and he is 38.. i never mean to hurt anybody

i dont think anyone is hassling you mobile just trying to understand the situation and offer advice and that :)

I believe you. Nobody ever does. But it's unavoidable. You, too, are going to hurt when it ends because even though you don't want to get too deep, feelings grow between two people whether you want them to or not. It won't be a happy ending for anyone.

all negative advice as i can see.. nobody apart from myself thinks go for it

i dont think any of us intentionally mean to hurt anyone its just are nature to be curious in life and things happen along the way and sometimes people do get hurt :( which is a shame

shewolf, maybe just maybe it will work out for me and him..

Not with a married man.


This should not be a question in your mind until he's divorced.

telefonitika, i agree with you but i would sooner keep seeing him and see how it goes than stop i have nothing to lose

shewolf have you been hurt in the past?

Since day one. :)

sorry to hear that... but i cant stop now

I won't get into my past but just know that I understand your situation and that's why I'm saying what I'm saying.


Like someone said, it will be a learning experience for you.

why r u so sure it wont work out for us? he has been away from his wife for more than 2 years. he isnt here to send her money she has a good job herself

What do you mean by work out? Just have a relationship or get married?

him to leave his wife and be with me is what i mean its too early to think about getting married

Why hasn't he left his wife already if it's been 2 miserable years without her?

nope.... but my words are derived from my heart.... and the heart....if left free and powered by the soul....speaks alot of truth...very often

he didnt know he was gonna meet someone new and get feelings for her and he doesnt want to hurt his child. he hasnt said its been a misrible two years just that he likes me more than her, he misses me when were not together and not her and that he cant get me out of his mind

lonestranger your a wise man... or woman

You're telling this to the wrong person because I've watched too many men do whatever it takes in order to get free sex and women believe them. I hope your situation is different.