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Is this Polish guy's 'Sister' his wife?


saffron 8 | 62  
21 Feb 2008 /  #1
Sorry i know the subject sounds totally bizarre but i am looking for a little advice about something.
I have become good friends with a Polish guy over the past couple of months.He is over here working and we have become close friends.I suppose we like eachother.

I am a bit cautious about becoming involved with him as his best mate dated a mate of mine and waited till after he slept with her to call her an 'easy rider' and that he actually had a long term girlfriend in Poland.

He claims he is not after 'fun' but a relationship etc and that he is not like his friend....anyways.....a while ago we were all out with a big group of friends and he pulled his mobile phone out and started showing me pictures of his family etc.He stopped on a picture of a girl who had black hair (he's blonde) and asked me what i thought of her..i said she was pretty and he said it was his sister and that she was 20 and pregnant.

I didnt think anymore of it until another night we were out and i picked up his phone to find his screensaver was his sister!!!

Obviously i was trying to be cool and nonchalant so i didnt say anything....its not like we were actually going out properly...then he claims he has to go back to Poland for a week as his sister is going to give birth and that his boss is giving him the money to go back ..... according to him he has a big family there so i thought why is it really necessary for him to go back??

Okay maybe he is from a close family etc but how would that explain the screensaver on his phone?? Should i just casually ask him if he is married and risk looking like a bunny boiler or just forget about it???
miranda  
21 Feb 2008 /  #2
just ask him. Explain that you are having doubts because of his devotion to his sister and since there are a lot of attached Polish men living and working in the UK, you would understand but not interested in dating. Clear and simple.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
21 Feb 2008 /  #3
There's a big chance that he is married, in my opinion.
starchild 2 | 120  
21 Feb 2008 /  #4
Oh dear...

Not sure exactly what to advise other than to say my Polish bf/ex-bf (not too sure about that!? haha) is blonde and his sister has dark hair.

But one time, when he was showing me pictures on his phone, before we were going out he showed me a pic of a pretty girl and said it was his sister, then another one of her and then another one of the same girl topless!!? It was funny at the time, but after that any girl he was dating was refered to as his 'sister'! Of course the girl was his gf at the time.

I don't know what to suggest tho, either ask him outright what his situation is or just forget him if you think he's being secretive/deceitful.
OP saffron 8 | 62  
21 Feb 2008 /  #5
Cheers for the advice...i think i am going to be direct with him and just ask him about it as my gut instinct is that he is married and just looking for a bit on the side!!
plk123 8 | 4,149  
21 Feb 2008 /  #6
sounds like a wife or girlfriend to me.
PolskaDoll 28 | 2,104  
21 Feb 2008 /  #7
Well, my friend has dark hair and his sister is blonde. He has lots of pictures of her on his phone and in his flat because he misses her. It's easy to tell she is his sister though because she just got married :)

She had a child about two years ago but I don't remember if he returned to Poland for the birth. He may have done.

So it's difficult to tell in your situation though and I think if you want to be sure then you do have to ask him. Be prepared for an answer you don't like.
El Gato 4 | 351  
21 Feb 2008 /  #8
Oh thank God...I thought you were a troll about to spread lies that Poles inbreed.

:]

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