In Britain, most people usually use the polite form 'you' even if they're speaking to only one person (Wy, vous, Sie etc) and never the familiar form 'thee' (ty, tu, du etc).
I gave that example for a different reason. It's silly to compare the language nuances and accuse others of lack of manners.
Nonetheless hudsonhick is wrong about "Pass me the salt". No one would say that to a stranger. One would say that to a friend, acquaintance, spouse, child, and only with a calm voice it's a request.
running to the door and hold it open for a porcelain girl would get me a chuckle at best in my city ;)
To be honest it rarely happens in Poland too. Maybe on a date.
The situation pam described is commonplace and my first thought was he's talking about that, however Poles never hold doors to men... at least I haven't seen that yet.