In every country one can fucntion within elitist circles and say how wodnerful things are
Not my case at all. I even spent several years working with a very disadvantaged social group. They had a very rough couple of years in the early 90s but they're doing a lot better now. I've only had very passing contact with anyone in any government.
is it permissible to have former communist oppressors and their famileis thrive
Again, prove crimes by people and I'm all for putting them in jail. But the only remedy that you'll except requires legal obscenities like retro-active legislation (probably where PiS is headed).
I think a good index is "Sprawa dla reportera". I remember when they had real stories about real hardships and victims of official (and private) misdeeds. On the last one I kind of accidentally saw it was reduced to trying to dramatize clearly very dysfunctional families (for example a village where two families were feuding over a fence).
Bring up real, concrete cases of heroes of Solidarity living on starvation pensions and we'll talk.