Parental Child Abduction (Indian man married to Polish wife)

Hi all,

I am an Indian married to a Polish wife. We have a 4 years old daughter. She is habitually resident here in Ireland. And my name is written on her birth certificate. And she was born in Poland while I was pursuing my study in Poland. We came to Ireland to seek better future as I was granted a scholarship to pursue PhD.

My wife and my daughter left for Poland to attend Easter break holiday for a month ( 19th of March until 12 of April).

Last Thursday when I called my wife she told me that she is not returning back to Ireland. I was shocked. She revealed that she planned to leave me for more than 3 months. She terminated her job, canceled the child benefits and my daughter school. She is adamant that she wants new life in Poland and wishes to divorce me. She has her own story to accuse me as a prime reason of breaking our relationship. She never talks to me seriously about this and suddenly she made her decision to leave Ireland with my daughter without my consent.

I am familiar with EU law of parental child abduction. I want to know what are my chances of returning my daughter to her habitual resident i.e. Ireland.

Thanks.

I'm guessing you are aware of Reunite in the UK. If not contact them immediately. Listen to there advice and start proceedings under the Hague Convention for Abducted and Illegally Retained Children immediately. Follow Reunite's instructions precisely and with luck you will be returned to the position you were in before the parental abduction. Then as you probably know, you will then have to do the right thing in the Irish Courts which will make the decision regarding the childs future.

Good luck. The Polish courts in which these cases are tried, do not have the competence to do so, and can make very odd decisions. My wife and I won through, but paid a very heavy price in the divorce proceedings which legally could not be started until the Hague stuff was completed and the child was returned. The courts overlooked the matter of legality and made it political. If you intend divorcing, get everything in place prior to the end of your case and have someone ready to put papers in court immediately the child is on Irish soil. That way you may be able to prevent the Polish courts taking control of the divorce which will be bad for you if you win the abduction case.

Thanks, Ant63. I have spoken with the Reunite in the UK and suggested me to call tomorrow. In the meantime, how my wife can file a divorce in Poland if her accusing upon me were happen in Ireland. We were married in Poland. Does the Polish law allow to divorce in this case?

My wife hasn't returned back on the scheduled flight. I have submitted the Hague convention application. I am worried that if she is aware of this, she might have taken some action such as removal of my guardianship and so on.

I cannot trust her motive now. She may say that my child is at the physical and mental risk if she returned to Ireland. I want to know how does this rejection can be countered back to Polish court.

Any comments are warmly welcome.

My advice is very simple: you need a ruthless Polish lawyer to represent you.

thesolicitor.ie

This is a good idea - they've got a dual Irish-Polish registered lawyer on the books. You *need* such a person.

Thanks for the advice. I will follow the link.
If my child is returned, can I apply for single custody since my wife literally committed a crime?

Let's just say that you have an almost 0% chance of getting the child returned.

Are you saying that I have no chance to see my daughter?

I'm saying exactly that. You need a lawyer who will be fearless and who knows the Polish family court system inside out. Even then, the chances of a positive outcome are almost zero. Polish courts simply do not respect judgements made under Hague when a Polish child is involved.

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Delph thats a bit harsh and not true.


Do it right and you have a moderate chance.

Once your Hague case is filed with the supreme court there is nothing she can do until its over. Which city does this involve? If Poznan I can put you in touch with a lawyer who will treat you with respect and not empty your pockets for personal gain. Plenty of those scammers about.


Not strictly true. The problem is that there is nothing in Polish Law to enforce a decision made by the court for return. You have the order and you could ....

Thanks for the optimistic view.

No, my wife lives at the moment in near Wroclaw. But I would appreciate if you could share some other lawyers along with the one you know from Poznan.

I have submitted all the documents mentioned according to Article 3.
I have contacted these lawyers so far.
reunite.org/lawyers.asp?location=international§ion=Poland+&lawyers_international_submit=Find

Among them, this one (kg-legal.pl/en/) seems quite competent.

I have a question, are the free legal aid provided by Central Authority competent enough or should I represent my own competent lawyers?

Thanks.

Better to be harsh now than to leave him with false hope.


More to the point, no-one in Poland is going to risk doing such a thing, given the fact that the population believes that foreign courts are always against Poles.

They moan about a broken court system, yet cheer when someone openly defies foreign courts.

Where to get such fearless lawyer from Poland?

The latest case - a foreign father abducted his 10 yo son from Poland to Belgium. The Polish police was informed but refused to take immediate action. When they did, it was too late.

fakt.pl/wydarzenia/polska/trojmiasto/gdynia-uprowadzenie-10-latka-policja-uruchomila-child-alert/04y04tg

The case is ambiguous coz the Belgian police claim the father wasn`t deprived of his parental rights, and it was the Polish mother who first took their son to Poland in 2018 against Belgian law.

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The police said they took the action but the child alert is 12 hour thing that is supposed to quickly reach the biggest number of people- that's why they started it in the morning when people start the day.

Quite frankly I find it all a bit dodgy... I wouldn't be surprised if the mother really took the child first. I feel sorry for the kid, that is all. No matter what really happened he will be the victim.

Always surprises me how quickly people can forget it's not about them.

Pawian, where did you read that? I can't find anything stating so...

Try Onet for example. They run the story up to date

Yes, it is on various sites.
fakt.pl/wydarzenia/polska/trojmiasto/uprowadzenie-ibrahima-matka-nie-miala-prawa-zabrac-syna-z-belgii/tv0w0t1

WOW! Such xenophobia! The father is Belgian FFS! Only an illiberal anti-EU Polexiteer would call him 'foreign'!

Besides, a father cannot abduct his own child! Only a brainwashed female-thinking feminist viper would much spew such anti-male bias!


Yeah, but they are in Polish that's why delphy boy can't find anything.

No, he is not. And even if he was that makes him a foreigner in Poland


Hmmm, and here all the legal world heard about parental abduction...They must all be wrong...

Get lost troll

hahaha that`s our old friend, ShtonyBrits. It cannot live without me - I am its role model.


Why did it leave us so abruptly in another thread? I was hoping for a longer discussion...... :):)

A Belgian by definition is a native, citizen, or inhabitant of Belgium.


Yeah, we get it, you're just old guard feminist bitter at seeing a man exercise his right to be with his own son.


Get found cat lady!

So, was it semantically incorrect English to call him foreign? :):) The media dub the man a Moroccan currently residing in Belgium.

And where does it say the father was Belgian?

Either parent can abduct a child and I already said I wouldn't be surprised if the mother did it first.

Try to get your bearings together, for now you just show yourself for a fool

I've seen him referred to as Moroccan (many, many, many Moroccans live in Belgium) no word on if he has Belgian citizenship....

Exactly. I think our new guest that is not really so new got a bit confused by the 'Belgian police' and 'Belgian court'... Didn't cross his mind one doesn't have to be a citizen to live somewhere

Probably a permanent resident.

Thanks Lenka and Oawian, I was looking in the wrong places :/ TVN24 is running with the story as well, and the Polish police are coming under criticism for not checking as to who the legal guardian was.

My, my my. How nationalistic and ugly you leftists becomes when a feminist issue needs defending.

FFS! The father isn't a Moroccan tourist spending a couple days in Belgium. He has roots in Belgium and the dispute with his wife is subject to laws in Belgium and the EU. End of!

Calling him a foreigner is only done to dehumanize him. Lying that he abducted his own son is a feminist tactic to brand all men as "toxic".

There is no doubting that the ugly two-faced cat lady feminists would not be dismissing him as "foreign" when it comes to him coughing up cash to pay for his son and the Polish woman who chose to get pregnant by him.

Now that his son is safely back with his Belgian father the mother should now be tasked with paying child support! And staying far away too so this father and his son can live in peace.

Hmmm.... I thought that calling him a foreigner was only to make people aware he wasn`t Polish. And that a foreigner is perfectly neutral. I am so sorry, I am not an expert in this posh political correctness because I am a simple country boy from Poland. :) I still have to learn a lot.


Actually, the man attacked the mother in the street, punched her several times, grabbed the boy, threw him into the car and drove off quickly. Witnesses said so. In result, I thought it was an abduction. Now you say it wasn`t. I am prone to believe you. Probably my English failed me here. So, when can we talk about a real abduction?


Mr Bieganski is a very learned man. He runs his own blog and publishes books.

That's how I understood it. When you said he was a foreign father married to a Polish woman, I understood that as a foreigner in Poland, not of Polish nationality or citizenship, same as me. I'm a foreigner. However, when a weirdo is looking for an excuse to get hysterical.................


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