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Atch   
26 Sep 2016
Love / Polish girlfriend may be pregnant - what girls from Poland think on having a child without marriage? [54]

I was referring to the idea that a husband would ask his wife to prove that he's the father of her baby. I stand by the remark that it's extremely depresssing. I also think it's depressing for a couple who've been in a long term relationship for a few years and who consider themselves to be happy together.

I've seen relationships where the couple obviously have issues and there have been infidelities in the past on one or both sides, so I could understand it in that case but I think that paternity tests becoming the social norm is not a desirable thing.

However, in a case where a woman is seeking child support, then yes, I think she should have to prove that the man is the father of her child. That should be a legal requirement.
Atch   
26 Sep 2016
Love / Polish girlfriend may be pregnant - what girls from Poland think on having a child without marriage? [54]

A blanket legal requirement for all births

I'm sure hospitals provide blankets for births :)

Anyway, that doesn't really answer the question but it sounds as though you'd like to ask your wife but might stop short of actually doing so - wise man. I must say it's rather depressing. Must be your German blood that makes you so suspicous and officious! 'Darlink, I em so srilled about zis baby but I must ensure zat it is of my blut stock. You vill of course understend zis requirement and zen after test results are confirmed, ve vill rejoice from sree sirty on Friday evening till seven ze following morning'.
Atch   
23 Sep 2016
Real Estate / Is our Landlord in Poland trying to scam us? [16]

we think she is just trying to scam us.

Certainly sounds like it.

I told the landlord that the screws and coating was to be found on top of the dresser right next to it.

In fairness, you should have put it back as it was before you distmantled it. You're responsible for leaving a place in the condition it was when you moved in. It's up to her if she wants to replace it. Get a price for a similar one.

The broken lamp is broken, yes that is our fault

You're only obliged to replace it with one of similar value. Check out the price of a similar one.

bed broke

during our first month of renting

Did you inform the landlord at the time? If not, then for future reference it's best to let the landlord know immediately in writing so that you can sort it out at the time and avoid this kind of confusion in the future. She can claim that as you continued to use it in a broken state, it's now damaged beyond repair.Maybe the bed is repairable and maybe not. She's saying 1,100. Ok, so with the other items I've already mentioned, that probably doesn't come to more than 1,500 to 2,000 in total leaving her 3,500 or 4,000 for repainting the two bedrooms..........

For the other matters, tell her in no uncertain terms to get stuffed. Put the things you agree to on paper, talk to her on the phone or in person about the other things and read her the riot act. You have to be very forceful, do a bit of shouting, waving arms etc. It's awful and not the way I'd choose to conduct myself, but I'm afraid that's only thing Polish people respond to in these situations. They will walk all over you otherwise. If you're a guy though, stand well back from her while you're shouting so that you don't appear as if you're physically threatening her! Shout in English if you want to and don't worry about whether she understands. As other posters mentioned, you probably will have to settle for not getting a penny of your deposit back but she won't take things any further. Chalk it up to experience and learn a costly lesson from it.

For future reference, always take photos when you move into a property showing condition of paintwork, furniture etc. Then take more photos when you move out to show the condition you left it in. Do without your posters as they're a b*stard to get off without at least leaving marks on the wall. If you feel you must have them, buy cheap frames in IKEA and lean them against the wall. It looks quite nice and arty :)

Clean the place thoroughly before you go.
Leave everything as you found it. If you've moved furniture around, taken down pictures or curtains, whatever, put it back as it was.
Atch   
22 Sep 2016
News / Abortion still under control in Poland [2971]

The lefites

Ireland has probably the most restrictive abortion law in Europe. Over 90% of the indigenous population of Ireland identifies itself as Catholic and yet 87% of those polled earlier this year, stated that they want to see our abortion laws reformed. That hardly sits very well with the image of the 'loonie lefties' and 'radical feminists'. It's ordinary, normal people who are pressing for these reforms, not nutters.

I doubt very much indeed whether you have the patience to read the following link, but one can live in hope I suppose. Here's the full report. The survey was conducted by one of Ireland's most highly respected pollsters.

redcresearch.ie/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/157316-%E2%80%93-Amnesty-International-Feb-2016-040316-Press-Release.pdf
Atch   
21 Sep 2016
Law / Getting Divorced with a Polish National [8]

Forget Poland. You most certainly will not get a fair deal from a Polish court. The spousal maintenance thing in Poland states that if you Dan admit fault, then you can in theory be obliged to support your ex-wife literally for the rest of her life, or until she remarries.

Can't see the point of getting a Thai divorce, complicating matters unnecessarily I would say. Your best option is the UK as you both live there and their laws are on the whole pretty fair. You could also consider Sweden. This site might be helpful to you. Just be sure that you don't sign anything admitting fault to a Polish court.

kingsleynapley.co.uk/news-and-events/blogs/family-law-blog/international-divorce-do-you-need-to-divorce-in-the-same-country-you-were-married
Atch   
20 Sep 2016
News / Abortion still under control in Poland [2971]

e was doing being pregnant while after miscarriage

Not sure what you're claiming here. According to her husband it was her first pregnancy. But even if she had miscarried a child previously that does not necessarily mean that she can't have another child. Many women do. Some are advised not to. Was that so in her case?

with her sickness

Are you suggesting that the mother had an underlying medical condition which made it inadvisable for her to become pregnant? Reference was made to her underlying medical condition in the Catholic media but in the context of the infection which killed her, in the sense that it was not the baby per se which killed her, but rather E-coli resulting in septicaemia. If you have additional reliable information about this case then provide a link, it would be interesting.

There are two pertinent issues in this case. One is 'medical misadventure', that is failures in her treatment. The other is the abortion law.
The abortion law in Ireland allows for termination when a mother's life is in danger.
The medical team did not detect the threat to the mother's life.
Therefore a termination was not performed.

However, and this is the crux of the matter, the medical team, did know that the child was not going to survive, that miscarriage was inevitable and yet when the mother and father, requested that birth be induced, doctorrs felt unable to proceed simply on that basis due to the foetal heartbeat being present, as it would have been 'abortion on demand' and against the law.

Inducing the birth would not in itself have saved her life, but once the child had been delivered, it might have been more obvious to the medical team that the mother's pain was the result of something other than the miscarriage. She arrived in hospital on the Saturday having already been ill for two days, but the child did not die until the Wednesday. So for all those days her infection was taking greater hold till it reached a point of no return. If the law were different and the hospital had been able to induce birth on the night she arrived in hospital,who knows? And that's the point.

The coroner in the subsequent inquiry recommended that the law be reformed to provide additional clarification. If the abortion law were not an issue in the case, the coroner would not have felt it necessary to make that recommendation.

Finally and take note, the results of the subsequent inquiry by the Health Service, concluded that

'The interpretation of the law related to lawful termination in Ireland is considered to have been a material contributory factor'

Are you describing me or yourself

And there's an example of the disrespect shown towards a woman who is herself a mother. Roz is a mother of two children whom she has carried through pregnancy, given birth to, loved, protected, nurtured and cared for to young adulthood and for most of that time, without the support of their father. She is far better placed than you to discuss this issue. She knows what it is to be a mother and to have the life of a child grow within her and love it even before it is born.

The huge stumbling block in this debate is that a man can never know what it feels like to be a woman and to be pregnant. There are not many women who trot off happily without a care in the world to casually abort their child. There are not many women who treat abortion as a form of contraception. There are a few nut jobs (Sinead O'Connor springs to mind with her three abortions is it?) but they are very much the exception. Abortion is an exceptional and last resort for most women. I, like the majority of normal women, would be horrifed and disgusted to see a world where abortion was treated as a casual thing that wasn't a big deal. It is. That's why most women carry on with their unplanned pregnancy and have the child anyway.

Well, that would be mighty inconvenient wouldn't be?

As for that crude, sarcastic comment about severely deformed or disabled children........

Have you ever spent time around the parents of a severely disabled child? And seen the love and devotion and suffering of those parents? Mothers do not abort disabled children because they are an incovenience. Have you reflected at all on the shock, the grief, the fear that a woman experiences when she's told that her child, the child that she has possibly longed for and planned for with her partner, will be born severely disabled. And whether she terminates the pregnancy or goes ahead, her life and the life of the father, will be permanently marked by that tragedy. I don't think any mother or father can ever get over it. You demonstrate such a total lack of empathy, compassion or understanding of human beings that you're simply unfit to be debating this topic. You're entitled to your views of course but you're not actually capable of engaging in any meaningful debate on the topic.
Atch   
19 Sep 2016
News / Abortion still under control in Poland [2971]

The mother died on Friday so she was clearly very close to death by the time the baby died. The pregnancy had already gone into crisis when the woman arrived at the hospital and the baby could not be saved so even on compassionate grounds alone you'd think they would have induced labour. That was what the woman herself requested, not an abortion as such. Instead they let the child die inside her during which time the mother was in severe pain. The whole thing was horrendous and the country was absolutely shocked by it.
Atch   
19 Sep 2016
News / Abortion still under control in Poland [2971]

A Medical Error

Not solely a medical error. Read the facts of the case. The mother was admitted to hospital suffering a miscarriage. The pregnancy was at seventeen weeks and the foetus would have been unlikely to survive. The team could have induced labour but didn't as a foetal heartbeat was present. Although the mother was becoming more and more ill, they did not recognize that her life was in danger, the only circumstance under which they could have performed an abortion. The woman was admitted to hospital on a Saturday night and the baby did not die until the Wednesday by which time the mother was so ill that it was too late. If they had been able to abort the foetus during the initial stages of miscarriage, the mother's life could have been saved.
Atch   
19 Sep 2016
News / Abortion still under control in Poland [2971]

That is an old lie

Not factual at all.

No it's the truth. It's what lead to the death of Savita Halappanavar in Ireland a few years ago. The foetal heartbeat was present so although she was extremely ill, the hospital refused to perform a termination despite her husband's repeated requests. He was informed 'this is a Catholic country'. The medical team did not detect that Ms Halappanavar was suffering from septacaemia which would under Irish law, have actually allowed the termination. Both mother and baby died. Very sad. So even though our law was more liberal than the presently proposed law for Poland, it's such a tight margin that tragedies like that can occur. If the purpose of abortion controls is to prevent loss of life, it's very ironic when it actually contributes to them.
Atch   
19 Sep 2016
News / A better Polish solution: aiding refugees in their home region [29]

Polly humanitarian aid to Syria is not an alternative that Poland has come up with as a solution. It is standard practice for all European Union members, all of whom have already contributed significant aid to both refugees and those still in Syria.
Atch   
16 Sep 2016
Law / Polish citizen moving back from USA to the EU (Ireland or Netherlands) with American partner [31]

Oh, she does sound as daft as a brush I agree (sorry Klaudia but you do, especially being so cocky about not needing to speak any Dutch). Yes, a capable, competent person would know how to find out about health insurance without visiting a forum such as this. Just google 'health system Netherlands' and the same for Ireland and there's everything at your fingertips.

iamexpat.nl/expat-page/healthcare/dutch-healthcare-system-netherlands

But there's no need for us to get ourselves into a lather over her hazy plans. Now if she'd asked for advice that would be a different matter. Then we could indeed fall upon her like ravenous wolves and tear her to shreds, poor innocent lamb that she is :))
Atch   
15 Sep 2016
Life / Who is poor in Poland? [720]

Type in "why are poor countries poor" into Google

Yes dear, but that would require a bit of effort, doing one's own research, not very popular with many and also wouldn't have any trolling possibilites :))
Atch   
15 Sep 2016
News / Petru wants Tadeusz Mazowiecki monument in Warsaw [25]

What's wrong with turmeric

Nothing in my opinion but Polly has the idea that Indian food is loaded with it and refers to curries as 'turmeric tainted'. Many Indian recipes don't use turmeric at all.

Missus Big Spender!

Tylko cztery złotych kochanie! Missus Clever Shopper! And I'll only need to use a tiny bit of it. Relative to the amount in weight though, it is ludicrously expensive.

Now I'd better say something about Poland or this will be whisked in to off-topic before you can say 'conspiracy theory'.

never letting anything go

Yes, that is a real problem. People still get quite worked up about events from centuries ago, let alone the war and Communism. There's no doubt that it's a terrible hindrance to the development of Poland, this pre-occupation with nursing past wrongs. I know it probably sounds trivial in comparison to the devastation of Warsaw, but look at Coventry in the UK. It was very badly hit in the blitz, most of their historic city centre destroyed, three quarters of their industrial plant, and their beautiful historic Cathedral razed to the ground. It might pale in comparison to Warsaw, but not to the people of Coventry at that time. The city basically had to be rebuilt and it's not a thing of beauty any longer but the locals have moved on from what happened.
Atch   
15 Sep 2016
News / Petru wants Tadeusz Mazowiecki monument in Warsaw [25]

Yes indeed. But the best way to right the wrongs of the past and do justice to the dead and the heroes of past struggles, is to spend one's time, energy and money not in arguments or monuments, but in putting aside differences to make present day Poland a better place for Poles to live. Ok, I'm in the middle of making a korma so I must go - oh and before you start on about turmeric, another of your obesssions, I'm not using any in the sauce - and I've taken your advice of putting saffron in the rice, so you see now, I do listen to you sometimes.
Atch   
15 Sep 2016
Law / Polish citizen moving back from USA to the EU (Ireland or Netherlands) with American partner [31]

I don't see why the OP would need the assistance of lawyers in this matter. It's not a complex legal dilemma, it's very straightforward and thousands of people travel for study purposes without the assistance of lawyers. She has duel EU and American citizenship and wants to study in either Ireland or the Netherlands. Why would she need a Polish lawyer? Sounds like somebody trying to drum up business. I'd be very interested to know in what way you specifically think they could 'help' her, help her to do what exactly??
Atch   
15 Sep 2016
News / Petru wants Tadeusz Mazowiecki monument in Warsaw [25]

CMS am I right in thinking you're Irish?? I seem to have a vague idea that you are. Anyway, whilst I agree with you, you have to remember that Poland has only been 'independent' for less than thirty years. Now imagine the Ireland of 1950 where people could still be divided into supporters of Dev or Michael Collins, and there you go, with the difference that Poles have much longer memories than the Irish. They hold grudges, they believe in punishment, they are more confrontational as people. It's not just Communism either. Almost every day, I see an image of Hitler either on a magazine cover or on a Polish website. They find it very hard not to dwell on the past. The war ended seventy years ago but it's still looms very large. Look at WWI and see how the nations involved moved on within the seventy years after it. By 1988, WWI was part of history, the fallen not forgotten but the events very distant. But here, I feel WWII is still very strong in the nation's consciousness.
Atch   
15 Sep 2016
Life / Polish rock bands from the 70's and 80's. [16]

My husband loves Dzem but I'm not into them at all. I find them very derivative, as if they were searching for some sound of their own but never quite found it and a lot of their playing is pretty leaden and uninspired. But the poor old vocalist, God rest his soul, had some charisma and I know his lyrics mean a lot to many people. What I admire most about Dzem or any of those bands of that time, is that they were trying to be creative in a very conservative, repressive society that didn't exactly encourage individualism or personal freedom. The combination of Church and Communism must have been very stifling so hats off to them for what they achieved.
Atch   
14 Sep 2016
Law / Polish citizen moving back from USA to the EU (Ireland or Netherlands) with American partner [31]

Do you by any chance know of laws in the Netherlands?

Haven't a clue Klaudia sorry! I only know about Ireland because I'm Irish.

Also the rules change from time to time so the best thing is always to check with someone official in the country you're intending to live in. I would suggest that for Ireland you contact these people:

The Irish Council for International Students

icosirl.ie/index.html

It's really intended for non-Eu citizens but they can provide you with relevant information with your partner not being an EU citizen. That complicates your situation somewhat. Even if you get married, he doesn't have any automatic right to live in Ireland.

Also be advised Klaudia that Ireland is a very expensive country to live in and your partner may not have the right to work. If you're in Dublin the rents are very high. Bringing your kid with you will mean renting a two bed apartment. You won't get anything in central Dublin for under 1,400 euros per month and if you move further out to get lower rent, public transport is really expensive and very limited. You'd get a student discount but only about 30%. My monthly train ticket from Wicklow to Dublin was costing me 290 euros two years ago and it goes up in price every year.

I don't need any knowledge of Dutch

But what about your son? How will he manage in school?

By the way if you go to Ireland and he's aged under eleven, he'll have to learn Irish as a subject in school, it's compulsory. It's not a big deal really, just be aware of that.
Atch   
13 Sep 2016
Language / SEXUAL AND PASSIONATE WORDS IN POLISH [41]

we have banter about sexual things ready

Ready for what? An emergency? 'Quickly, nurse, we're losing him, fetch the sexual banter'........
Atch   
13 Sep 2016
Polonia / Let's talk about Sweden and other Scandinavian countries [236]

Did the OP say that he only plans to visit occasionally?? I don't see how he could set up a construction and development company on that basis.

Poland is basically a great place to live, but you don't necessarily want to visit there.

That's funny! I'd say the exact opposite. A wonderful place for a holiday but not that great a place to live for various reasons.

without a translator

And they're a mixed bag. Their spoken English is frequently anything but fluent, very halting and hesitant and their verbal translations are sometimes not completely accurate. I remember once using a translator for something (I was required to by law to use one for the business in hand) and he mistranslated something I'd said. It was something quite basic (which was how I could tell he'd cocked it up!) so God only knows what a mess he may have made of the more complicated stuff. To be fair I don't think he made a mistake so much as took liberties in unnecessarily paraphrasing what I'd said, but it resulted in an inaccurate statement. Anyway the business didn't need to proceed any further so there were no dire consequences. But all the same........
Atch   
13 Sep 2016
Law / Polish citizen moving back from USA to the EU (Ireland or Netherlands) with American partner [31]

Hi Klaudia. As an EU citizen living in Ireland you are not required by the government to have private health insurance. You have eligibility to public health services though there's often some cost involved and they're not entirely free, except to some people.

In Ireland access to free medical care is based on residency and your means rather than on your social insurance payments or nationality, so to give you an example, I'm Irish, but I have an average income and therefore I've never had access to free medical care for ordinary things like going to the doctor with a throat infection. The visit to the GP would cost around 50 to 60 euros and then the prescription could cost anything really depending on the medication, it could be as little as 10 or 15 euros or it could be a hundred. I never bothered with private health insurance and as a result when I had a suspected malignant growth in my throat, I had to pay 250 euros to see a specialist privately as quickly as possible. He operated within three weeks but he saw me 'publicly' so I only had to pay 75 euros for my overnight stay and nothing for the surgery or follow up care. I would probably still have had to pay that much in total and ironically maybe even more if I'd had health insurance as it generally doesn't cover all expenses but only a portion of them. It's very typical to hear people complaining about how much they had to pay despite their health insurance!

Here's a link that may help you:

citizensinformation.ie/en/health/health_system/entitlement_to_public_health_services.html

As for private health insurance, you basically just buy it from a health insurer. The level of cover depends on which plan you purchase. It will cost you around a minimum of 500 euros per year for one adult. None of the plans give you free GP visits. You get a refund of about one third of the cost of each GP visit and a portion of your prescription charges but you have to wait till the end of the insurance year to claim for them. Really most people just have voluntary health insurance in case they need hospital treatment as it means you have a choice of consultant/surgeon and you don't have to wait for treatment. If you have arthirits for example and need a knee replacement you can get it done without waiting a couple of years. However, having said that, if you got a serious, life threatening illness you will be treated promptly, just as I was, when they thought it might be cancer. So to sum up, you won't be allowed to die because you can't pay for treatment.

The main provider of private health care in Ireland is the VHI:

vhi.ie

You just apply for one of their plans.

Regarding your partner if he's living in Ireland he'll be in the same situation as you. Entitlement to health care in Ireland is not based on nationality but on residency. However, do make sure that he has the right entry visa. As an American he doesn't need a visa for a holiday but as he's planning to stay in Ireland longer, he probably needs a short stay visa. He'll also have to register with the police and get his GNIB card.

And here's a link about health care for your child:

citizensinformation.ie/en/health/health_services/children_s_health/child_health_services.html
Atch   
12 Sep 2016
Life / Polish rock bands from the 70's and 80's. [16]

Do you mean that they did a cover version of 'I Shot the Sheriff' by Bob Marley? Or is it a completely different song? The lyric in the Bob Marley one goes: I shot the Sheriff but I didn't shoot no deputy.
Atch   
12 Sep 2016
News / Kukiz and Petru - newly emerging political stage in Poland [57]

Anglo-jabber

Polly it's simply ridiculous to hear you referring to English as Anglo-Jabber especially when it's your native language as much as Polish.

Now having said that, I agree that Polish deserves to keep its diacritics just as Irish does. We are beginning to see them disappearing as people drop the 'fadas' from tneir names in order to make them easier for foreigners to deal with. I don't agree with that at all. Here's an interesting and rather amusing discussion (in Irish with subtitles) which could apply equally to Polish. It's only four minutes long.

I even know a second generation Polish woman in Ireland (in her mid thirties) who can't pronounce her own surname properly, stumbles over it when she attempts to say it and wha's worse, doesn't care! Mr Atch was disgusted and despairing. He still talks about it!

youtube.com/watch?v=BRi31M-7Id8

The n-acute is not required in English.

But it's not an English surname and unless you anglicize it completely and translate it (something to with ducks isn't it??) then I feel the accent should be retained.
Atch   
9 Sep 2016
Life / A move to Poland - where to live? What city would you recommend? [32]

I do intend to eat out regularly.

Just be aware that Poles add a tremendous amount of salt when they cook so if you're health conscious.......

2 bedroom flat

Poles don't think in terms of bedrooms. A two bedroom flat is a three room flat in the Polish way of thinking ie three rooms, kitchen and bathroom. So go to any 'nieruchomosci' website and take a look at 'mieszkanie' for rent 'na wynajem' ' and under 'liczba pokoi', put 3. You'll get an idea of costs :) That's a family sized flat in Poland. Single people usually live in a studio (1 pokój) flat.
Atch   
8 Sep 2016
Law / LOOKING FOR HELP AND INFORMATION TO OPEN INDIAN RESTAURANT IN POLAND..... [80]

I have mailed my product list to various Distributors in Poland but yet no reply.

Poles will not generally respond to emails and many of them don't speak English well enough to communicate via the telephone.

Hardev, I suggest that you contact the Polish Indian Chamber of Commerce:

en.piig-poland.org

It's a fairly new organisation but they might be able to provide you with some useful information or start you off with some contacts/introductions. There is also the Embassy of India in Warsaw:

indembwarsaw.in/index.php/en/economic-commercial-services/general-information

Good luck!