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Is/was Polish society patriarchal or matriarchal? [37]
It was patriarchal and still is in some aspects but things are changing irrevocably and women are getting more rights.
Here is an account by a woman who lived in the patriarchal society exactly 50 years ago. Fortunately, a lot of sad things she talks about are gone today.
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I lost my mother when I was five, and my father two years later. There were two older brothers and me left. My aunt, who already had four sons of her own, took care of me. When I finished six grades of primary school, my aunt said: "Enough of this education, the boys have to complete seven grades, she doesn't need it" - although they stayed in one grade for two years, I didn't protest. There was a lot of work at home, so I never had a free moment to think about it, I had no childhood, no games, and I was very capable of dancing, singing and declamation. At school I took part in almost every celebration, although at home I was teased and sometimes beaten because of rehearsals, I had to come home from school a little later. But it all ended when I stopped going to school. All that was left was reading books furtively and working from dawn to dusk.
When I turned seventeen, my aunt was already thinking about marrying me off. Apparently I grew up to be a very pretty girl, I liked singing and dancing very much, but going to a party was very rare. [...] When I showed up somewhere, apparently I was successful with the most handsome boys, but my aunt didn't like them. It would be unthinkable to oppose my aunt, she was so strict and such a religious fanatic; she saw something bad in all contacts between a boy and a girl, which I didn't understand at all, I didn't even know what virginity was. Yes, I kissed a boy sometimes; dance, sing - I loved it. I remember when, at the suggestion of my friends, I went to a party, which my aunt did not allow me to go to, and then they took me home - I was called the worst names and beaten until I bled because I was ashamed to show it to people. I thought I had committed a big crime. This was the rigor, there had to be obedience in every matter, important or unimportant.tbc
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