Love / Kotek - is it normal for my boyfriend to call other girls this name? [30]

just asked my Polish boyfriend about this and he says you would only call your girlfriend this or a really good friend. Its kind of like honey/sweetheart in English.

So if its to good friends then I wouldn't worry. If its to all girls then it still might be innocent enough, he might just like funning around..or he might be flirting a bit. Depends on his character.

Love / did i push him away [36]

Hi,

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, however I think you are being too soft on him. Okay he didn't ask for a child and either did you but it takes too to produce a child so he is still ultimately responsible as you are too. He wanted you to terminate the pregnancy and you said no, still I think he is responsible too. After all it is your body and emotions that would have had to deal with the termination. If he really didn't want a child then he should have been more responsible with contraception. Even if he doesn't want to contribute emotionally in your childs life, he should still contribute financially your childs life.

Take him for child support would be my advise. Also does his family know he has a child? I would get in touch with his parents and let them know. They may want to play a part in their grandchilds life even if he doesn't.

Love / Dating a Polish guy for the first time ever in my life [22]

this relationship is not going to be easy, especially since you are used to being wined and dined. I had a similar experience with my boyfriend, i earn a lot more money than he does and when we first met i found it annoying, but we we really liked being together and worked it out. I still pay for a lot more things but don't worry about it so much anymore. As the saying goes, you can't get blood from a stone - if he doesn't have the money then he can't give it out. He makes up for it in lots of other ways. So maybe your guy will turn out to be good in other ways. You have been used to guys paying for things as a way of then showing that they like and respect you, with your polish guy you will both need to find other ways to show this.

If this guy wants to come to london and you want to give it a go then go for it. I would say to you not to live with him to start but say he must be independent. Then see how it goes.

Love / What is the sexiest part in a polish woman body? [78]

i would say that a lot of polish women have very nice bottoms. Small and sexy in jeans. Scottish females generally have slightly larger ones. I do! And would like it to be smaller hence the reason i have noticed this.

Love / My polish girlfriend will not leave [47]

If you feel bad about kicking her out in the street you could find a płace for her to live,move her stuff there and tell her she has now moved out! That way you will have a clear conscience that you never left her on the street.

Love / Need advice re: Polish man. What can I do to make him interested? [50]

my polish boyfriend says...ask his name, say that he seems like a nice guy, and would he like to go for a coffee with you. Say he looks interesting and it would be nice to talk to him more. Say you are interested in learning more about the Polish culture as there are a lot of Polish people here.....and remember to speak slowly so he understands you. Sounds simple...!! Good luck.

Travel / Clothes/shoe shopping in Szczecin [8]

thanks. Its that in the centre of town?

Travel / BIKING in POLAND [75]

The Great Glen in Scotland is fantastic to bike, from Inverness to Fort William. Lots of beautiful Lochs along the way...takes a few days though....but if you are still feeling Energetic you could then walk the West Highland way...Fort William to Glasgow...very popular routes.

Polonia / Polish working in Singapore [5]

HI Sorry can't help you Nikul Dave...I was looking for advice...!! I am not advertising a job.

Love / moving to poland to be together is this the right decision? [67]


yes not everyone does want to meet the inlaws, however she obviously feels excluded and feels something is not right. I think he owes it to her to make her feel more included.


This is true, however I do think that you get to know more about a person if you know their family. Good and bad.


Again I agree, but she is obviously confused and needs more from this guy. If not then she would just accept the situation.

Life / "I love you" in Polish culture... [36]

I believe these words should only be used when you really mean it, to people that are very important to you.

But aren't the Americans a bit gushy in general (well the ones I deal with at work from Houston are...) so doesn't surprise me.......but then I'm a dour Scot so what do I know! Hehehe

Love / moving to poland to be together is this the right decision? [67]

..something is not right...I don't think he is telling you the whole truth..

Okay so maybe his parents are old fashioned and might find it difficult to relate to a high flying woman, and if that is the case why doesn't he introduce you as a friend rather than a girlfriend. They have already spoken to you on the telephone so they know you exist. Surely his mother would want to meet you. I can't imagine any mother who wouldn't be interested in knowing who their son is friends with or dating.. (most mothers are very nosey) Also they can't be that naieve to think that he is not meeting different types of people given he is travelling around with his work...!

Maybe his family would find it hard to accept you but how will you or your boyfriend really know this unless you meet them.

I would insist on meeting his family before you let this go on any further. He is not treating you with the respect you deserve. He is a grown man, not a boy! Tell him to stop acting like one. Don't waste your life waiting for someone who is not willing to go out of his way for you.

As for staying with you the whole month and telling his parents that he was staying with a friend...then whats to stop him from lying to his wife? and saying he was working away...or you, that he can't be with you for all the reasons he is stating.... He may well be telling the truth but how can you really know the true person if he is not including you in his whole life.

I would insist that he takes you to meet his family and his friends so you know exactly what kind of person you are putting your love/energy/dreams and future in to.

From what I have read you seems to have such low expectations from what you should be getting from this relationship. (i.e not living together, not meeting his family, keeping you and his other life seperate....) Just because you are an independent woman doesn't mean to say you shouldn't be allowed these things. I wonder if your previous relationships/marriage breakup has left you feeling like you don't deserve someones 100% commitment.?

Okay..thats my rant over..kinda touched a raw nerve with this topic. I had a boyfriend that kept me at arms length for many years....and after a while it began to make me feel worthless.... Don't let it happen to you. Hope it all works out for you. x

Life / People with Down Syndrome/Mental disability in Poland [26]

What about mental disabilities though? Those people that are still mobile, such as a person with down syndrome. Do you see many people like that out and about?

I wondered if there is less acceptance than in the UK? Are there facilities in place for families to take care of their children with mental disabilities or do they all go into institutions?

UK, Ireland / Polish Pubs in Scotland. [22]

There used to be one called Pivow in Edinburgh that was quite good. You go down Leith Street and its off to the little side street before the traffic lights, before you get to the Omni Centre. Its small and a bit studenty but nice beer and friendly atmosphere.

Australia / Tourist visa to Australia - Polish passport [16]


So its possible for Polish people to get a working holiday visa in Australia. Is it just the same requirements as a British person (i.e under 30 yrs of age, visa for a year etc).

UK, Ireland / Tell me whats the best way to integrate in england [26]

I'd try Scotland...its much nicer up here... ;-P

I'd go for all, i.e. jobcentre, agencies, and hand your cv out around shops, restaurants, bars etc. The more exposure you get the easier it will be.

Also easier if you know someone that you could stay with for a short while when you first arrive so they can help you find your way around.

Good luck.

Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

yes, a person with borderline personality disorder will be difficult to deal with. Maybe you could try and be friends with her for a while rather than boyfriend/girlfriend and see how that goes for a while. But not always easy.

I does sound like you spend a lot of energy trying to work her out and thinking about her all the time. Maybe its time for you to find out who you are again, and what you really want from life. A bit of space can sometimes help.

Thanks for the comment Polishgirltxt!!
Its not that I don't want to read all the thread. Its really interesting, but I am at work and will get my wrists slapped if I spend too much time chatting!!!

Love / HOPPING AND HOLDING FOOT....WHAT DOES IT MEAN..? [18]

is it not Kourva match.(not the correct spelling of course)..my boyfriend says this all the time...

It a swear word of a sort. Like bloody hell, shite or something...

really does sound like you or someone might have stood on her foot...!!

Love / HOPPING AND HOLDING FOOT....WHAT DOES IT MEAN..? [18]

Sounds like you stood on her foot while you were dancing!!! tee hee

Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

I'll try...but its a long one

Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

Sorry a haven't had time to read all your discussions, so you may have replied to this already..

What does she say when you ask her about why she does the things she does?

Love / I am heart-broken by my polish guy [25]

Were you together long? Why doesn't he trust you?

Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

Looking at it from the other side..I am Scottish and have a Polish Boyfriend...and sometimes I find it a bit had because of the language...its so easy to misinterpret things, and I find I question him more because I don't understand whats going on..especially with his female friends. Trust is everything of course but could be language contributing to why she is a bit more demanding....