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I am heart-broken by my polish guy

dee0825 1 | 4  
5 Aug 2008 /  #1
i have been waiting for his response every day, either email, call or text. and he has left me without saying goodbye. the last word he said was that he will still like to see me again. but i have been waiting for 2 months. he has been avoiding me, i am really confused and sad. he used to say how he like me, but he said he not sure whether he will stay or go. Should i stay or go.. but i am not willing to let him go. i really in love with him, but he doesn't trust me. that hurts me more. d0825
Doubtfullove 4 | 28  
5 Aug 2008 /  #3
Were you together long? Why doesn't he trust you?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,379  
5 Aug 2008 /  #4
is this a male - male relationship. Or do you need to change your profile.

just curious
5 Aug 2008 /  #5
good call wroclaw ...

what makes him not trust you dee is what you need to work out .. and if he is leaving maybe he wasnt ready for a full on relationship ...
loco polaco 3 | 352  
5 Aug 2008 /  #6
He's married and probably has kids back in the fieldland
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,506  
5 Aug 2008 /  #7
he wouldnt be the first
wildrover 98 | 4,441  
5 Aug 2008 /  #8
He's married

Yep...sounds like another one who forgot he was married....till he got back home....
OP dee0825 1 | 4  
5 Aug 2008 /  #9
yes, we are in gay relationship for a brief period though i totally trust him. i am not polish. and he is my 1st guy to kiss and to go to bed. he said he will bring me to Poland, go for tour together. he said what happened between us has gone too fast for him and he wants space. and i have been respecting that, but i don't know if he still wants me after a long torturing silence. i m very lonely and feeling so empty inside.
pawian 222 | 23,756  
5 Aug 2008 /  #11
Because he is a womani... oops, sorry, a manizer. Typical of Polish guys...
Wroclaw 44 | 5,379  
5 Aug 2008 /  #12
I would simply say that because of the length of time... he is not going to contact you again.
That's how some people do business. And I am sure that deep down you understand this.
Time to start afresh... get yourself out and mingle.
OP dee0825 1 | 4  
5 Aug 2008 /  #13
thanks guy.. i don't know how to do it, but i will try to be strong

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I am heart-broken by my polish guy (Last version)

follow up to the previous, i finally bumped into him in a gay club last Saturday. he was with his two friends. i gave him hug and asked why he hasn't contacted me for 2 months. he said he mobile dropped into water, and he still need space.. when i danced with him, he didn't even look at me. when i hugged him, he didn't touch me. his two polish friends teased me, showing cross-fingered on me like i m a bad spirit, and laughed at me, pushed me away and treated me like a dirt. worst case, he did see how his friends treated me, and did nothing. he then said he left earlier home and so i bid him goodbye. but i saw him again at 4 am with his friend, and this time he danced so intimately with him and i was hurted again. and i received mail from him today.. saying..

I'm happy you found a nice guy i club :)
I wish you good luck.
Have a nice day :)

i was why i would find a guy while i was crying all time in the club knowing how he was so cold with me? i texted him saying this is not fair accusation and he said he trusted his friend, but his friends were so nasty to me. i begged him to call me as he didn't pick up his phone, but he said we are not together. i am not with him and he is not with me. he said i don't understand him, saying my approaches and behavior was the causes of this, saying we have different culture. yes, he's a polish and i m a malaysian, but i love him as who he is, regardless culture.

i am all heart-broken now. i said to him, "wojciech, you don't appreciate my love. i m leaving you and free myself. i still like to see you smile and find your love".. and that love is not going to be me.. cause you have hurted me and there is nothing more hurt and pain i can take anymore..

why he's not listening to me? has he ever liked me before.. he said he wants space, i gave him space and i respect that.. my heart is so cold now.. and i am numb in love and relationship.. friends said he's bottom of the crap, liar, and worthless and furthermore ugly looking.. but i just like him who he's.

guess that make me more sense to leave now and free myself. i have no more tears to cry for him.. i think he has done enough damage on me, and i wish he is happy doing that to me.. i will leave him in peace to find his own world and i will deal with mine to retrieve my dignity & self worth again..

i did say "lubie cie tak bardzo" to him for the last time, take care Wojciech!
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
12 Aug 2008 /  #14
I hope you feel better soon.
OP dee0825 1 | 4  
8 Apr 2009 /  #15
it has been more than 7 months now since last i bumped into him and he dumped me. he's still in the same club looking for new guys to flirt and kiss, and he moved on straight eversince, or should i say he never really bother to care for me. he blames me for everythings. my friends start to get angry with me for being avoidance to go any more to the gay scenes, but i just could let myself down again when become soft everytimes seeing him. Yes, i still have feeling for him. He never tried to find out if i am alright after the incident, just to show how much he actually did genuinely feel for me. he said he into romance, guess he's not romantic at all. Everytimes when i overheard the phrases like wojciech, poland, pierogi, polski, name of the club or even the place he stays in London.. my heart pounds so heavily. I don't know what to do anymore to get myself back, but i am trying very hard every days..
mafketis 36 | 10,850  
8 Apr 2009 /  #16
You've been dumped. Deal with it.

You've had enough time being sad and brokenhearted and now you need to make yourself move on.

Go out, dance and flirt (or whatever) with other guys even if you don't enjoy it much at first. Sooner or later you'll meet a nice guy you want to be with and you'll wonder whatever you saw in that manwhore Wojtek.

As they say, living well is the best revenge.
ianaus 8 | 20  
20 Apr 2009 /  #17
I know that heartache Dee, and yes it is really terrible. I think I am a bit too sensitive and it could me almost 3 years to be able to move on. But I did eventually meet somebody else who gave me the confidence to try again, and you will too. So good luck!
Pani_Polska - | 89  
27 Apr 2009 /  #18
He's married and probably has kids back in the fieldland

Wouldnt surprise me, I see this all the time.
hfm - | 27  
27 Apr 2009 /  #19
you want you polish guy comeback to you, treat him like ****, its the way polish girl treat polish guys, and they response like lamb
Wulkan - | 3,212  
28 Apr 2009 /  #20
...and you really enjoy it? :O
Nathan 18 | 1,349  
28 Apr 2009 /  #21
You don't enjoy, but you bear it because you love that person no matter how unjust and hurtful that other person is.
Mr Grunwald 33 | 2,177  
28 Apr 2009 /  #22
you want you polish guy comeback to you, treat him like ****, its the way polish girl treat polish guys, and they response like lamb

...and you really enjoy it? :O

People with no challenge, won't fight.
Just take an example of Dunquerk in 1940 thoose Germans got so depressed.
PennBoy 76 | 2,432  
28 Apr 2009 /  #23
he has left me without saying goodbye. the last word he said was that he will still like to see me again

Girl sorry to say but he had a fling with you and he's gone
freebird 3 | 532  
28 Apr 2009 /  #24
i m very lonely and feeling so empty inside.

I guess you need a refill then.:-) Don't worry, you'll find some other nice Polish guy sooner or later, maybe even on this forum. Just keep asking around.
LAGirl 9 | 496  
15 May 2009 /  #25
Dude I feel sorry for you I dont understand most guys niether.

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