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Kotek - is it normal for my boyfriend to call other girls this name?


petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #1
Is it normal that my BF calls other girls kotek? I know that it means kitten.

Thanks in advance for answers.
Wyspianska  
14 Jun 2009 /  #2
It's normal and very sweet.
OP petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #3
so I have no reason to be jealous?
Wyspianska  
14 Jun 2009 /  #4
Not at all, she's not lesbian haha. I would be worried if she called "kotek" another man unless they were very close friends and you knew him.

edit:
oh Dear, sorry! I thought you're a man asking about a girlfriend! Silly, silly me. Well, in that case it might be a little suspicious to be honest. Are they close friends and do you know her?
Doubtfullove 4 | 28  
14 Jun 2009 /  #5
just asked my Polish boyfriend about this and he says you would only call your girlfriend this or a really good friend. Its kind of like honey/sweetheart in English.

So if its to good friends then I wouldn't worry. If its to all girls then it still might be innocent enough, he might just like funning around..or he might be flirting a bit. Depends on his character.
OP petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #6
this is a girl he met on the internet before my time. He never met her irl.
I don't like him to call someone else this name..

I don't know her at all.
Wyspianska  
14 Jun 2009 /  #7
I edited my previous post if you care to have a look. I don't blame you for not liking it. How do you know he calls her that? Tell him you don't like it and see what he says.
OP petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #8
I saw that u edited ur post:)

I saw a text message that he sent her by accident.
jojospacemunky 1 | 59  
14 Jun 2009 /  #9
I saw a text message that he sent her by accident.

Now forgive me but "how do you accidently see a text message" exactly ... now either you were looking over his shoulder when he was typing it, which i cant imagine or you went through his messages on his phone which seems likely ... not at all jealous and insecure there are we?
OP petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #10
he gave me his old phone and all messages which he sent was still there, so yes, I read them.
aphrodisiac 11 | 2,444  
14 Jun 2009 /  #11
and he still accidently has her phone number ? I would just ask him.
OP petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #12
I guess he has got her phone number, he's still got his old sim-card.
jojospacemunky 1 | 59  
14 Jun 2009 /  #13
he's still got his old sim-card

it wont be old sweetie many polish people keep their polish sim cards to use when they go home rather than the uk sim card he will be using in the uk
OP petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #14
he gave me his phone but kept the his own sim card, but all messages were in his old phone, so I read them. I know that it is wrong, but...
jojospacemunky 1 | 59  
14 Jun 2009 /  #15
but...

do continue .....

but .. no buts ... you should have deleted them hun ... or asked him to?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,387  
14 Jun 2009 /  #16
The posts in this thread bring to mind Dreams by Fleetwood Mac.

Players only love you when they're playing

youtube.com/watch?v=YEi7GPkxfsE
jojospacemunky 1 | 59  
14 Jun 2009 /  #17
Players only love you when they're playing

spot on Wroclaw ....
OP petrushka 3 | 20  
14 Jun 2009 /  #18
of course I should have, but I got tempted. I should wish I did not read them, because now I am having my doubts about him.
plk123 8 | 4,150  
15 Jun 2009 /  #19
you would only call your girlfriend

yeah..

I should wish I did not read them, because now I am having my doubts about him.

actually a good thing.. you'd rather be ignorant of the situation? now, be proactive don't get played no mo.. no mo..
southern 75 | 7,096  
15 Jun 2009 /  #20
Is it normal that my BF calls other girls kotek?

Kochanie is more normal.
teenie - | 1  
16 Jun 2009 /  #21
I find this really strange and I would not accept something like that.
I mean that it was wrong of you to read his messages, but it is done, so I really think you should confront the guy with this. don't let him play you!!
pgtx 29 | 3,159  
16 Jun 2009 /  #22
sweet names calling happens in my group of friends... but
we've known each other for a long time, we are close, it doesn't happen often, and it's very sarcastic...ouch...

so no, it's not nice if your bf calls some other chick 'kitten'...
kick his a55... ;)
ASIO 2 | 12  
19 Jun 2009 /  #23
Yeah you're being played, you only call someone you really fancy kotek
Cardno85 31 | 976  
24 Jun 2009 /  #24
you'd rather be ignorant of the situation

Ignorance is bliss mate!

On this subject. I would be very suspicious of this guy. However I would be raging if my girlfriend read any of my text messages (if any did they would get no shocks...my texts all pretty much consist of "fancy a pint?" haha). There is a certain privacy to a phone's memory that must be respected. I would never read anyone's text messages be it a girlfriend, mate or family.

Tut, tut, tut love!
Evi - | 3  
25 Jun 2009 /  #25
I would kill my man after 2nd time he calls someone else than me. the 1st time is to let him know i dont like it...

in my perception, we are not that "warm" culture as others (especially latinos who call all women with variety of cute names). Therefore, it is suspicious and a bit "abnormal"...
ZIMMY 6 | 1,601  
25 Jun 2009 /  #26
I saw a text message that he sent her by accident.

Yes, yes; women frequently seem to find things by "accident". I've had women 'accidentally' open up my lap top; 'accidentally' look into my wallet; 'accidentally' go thru my records; 'accidentally' steal a $50 bill; 'accidentally' read my notes. Women just seem to have lots of, um, "accidents".

He should dump you, 'accidentally' of course.
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
25 Jun 2009 /  #27
Did you know that Kotek is the name of a feminine sanitary product. When you consider that its not quite so endearing. I think anyone who says they would delete the text messages without reading them is a liar, we all have a natural curiosity and in that situation i would most definitely review them. I was recently in a similar position, only it wasnt my boyfriend but my boss that lent me an old phone.. there were some old text messages on it and yes I did look.. it was extremely interesting, if somewhat disturbing...
Scarlett - | 3  
25 Jun 2009 /  #28
I wouldnt like it, if my polish boyfriend called other girls 'kitten', a little suspect me thinks!
Natalilia - | 8  
26 Jun 2009 /  #29
in good, closel, honest relation its NORMAL to read messages of your partner the way its happen with Petrushka.
He gave his phone to her - means he was ready she will find something inside during using it.
And means you have ABSOLUTELLY right to ask him straight abt that if you got any doubts.
Maybe its her "nick name" ? Maybe its small funny girl and EVERYBODY calls her that way ?
I knew a man, who used to call ALL girls on his way "baby" and "princess" - his ex-wife, his girlfriend, saller in shop, girls at work - just ALL WOMEN !! with same name without any feelings. Just a word
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
26 Jun 2009 /  #30
Is it normal that my BF calls other girls kotek? I know that it means kitten.

To be honest Petrushka it isn't about what he calls the girls its about the trust between yourself and your boyfriend. If you trust each other and make sure you know the boundaries of your relationship then a few names or txt messages should mean nothing. If he tells you it is harmless and you trust him, then go with it. If you don't trust him then its time for action.

When i have been in relationships i have always said to my partner that i'm not really bothered what she says/txts etc to other male friends. As far as i'm concerned i will trust her and visa versa. For this trust to happen i also promised all my partners that if i found there to be something that crossed the line (they had been going behind my back) there would be no talks, not saying your sorry, that would be the end of it. As its Wimbledon at the moment i say to them 'the ball is in your court, if you are faithful, i'm cool, if your not, we are not cool'

I no this does not really give you an answer to your original question but i would concentrate more on the trust between the two of you than about a silly name that could be harmless sent over a txt msg.

I hope this helps, even in a small way

T

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