Women don't scare men. Women can put men off though. (I think it's better to use the word disappoint though!) Women can break or make a gentleman, just like men can make or break a lady. Men are men, and women are women, regardless of nationality. We all make mistakes. We all read things. We all think. We all form opinions based on the input we recieve. To a certain extent, we create our own reality, because once we are convinced something really is as it has been presented to us, there's a fat chance that we will change our opinions, behaviour or expectations, and unfortunately, not always for the best. (Meaning this will affect other people around you because of your behaviour.) Some people also behave like sheep, and follow all the latest trends because they don't want to be different, do they? Well, here's a newsflash for you: We're all different from eachother. We always will be.
You've got sensitive guys, insensitive guys, macho guys, soft guys, old guys, young guys, gentlemen, bad boys, open-minded guys, old-fashioned guys, religious guys, non-religious guys, handsome guys, less handsome guys, strong guys, weak guys, brave guys, insecure guys, sweet guys, hard guys, wise guys, immature guys, boring guys, exciting guys, materialistic guys, spiritual guys, simple guys, complicated guys, oversexed guys, cold guys, warm guys, funny guys, smart guys, dumb guys, serious guys, rich guys, poor guys, clumsy guys, handy guys, manly guys, girly guys, loyal guys, unloyal guys, hard-working guys, lazy guys, decent guys, classy guys, rough guys, cheap guys, experienced guys, inexperienced guys, cheating guys, lying guys, honest guys, family guys, adventurous guys, caring guys, careless guys, humble guys, arrogant guys, succesful guys, less succesful guys, you name it!
And guess what? The exact same goes for women. So don't tell anyone to man up, or whatever! Allow someone to be someone in his or her own unique way. The only real men are the men who know they should be themselves. We can't please everyone, and we shouldn't want to please everyone either. Same goes for all the women out there. There is no such thing as ''the'' real man, and there is no such thing as ''the'' real lady either. If you don't want guys to make generalizations about girls, then why make generalizations about guys in this thread?
Dare to be honest, and you'll see that most people will be honest with you aswell. Some people might disapprove of such honesty, but you'll find out that the few people who don't will be the people who will really understand you. So don't be ashamed of yourself, or constantly compare yourself to others. Ever. You'll find him eventually, and he'll find you. He won't find you if you pretend to be someone you're not, just like you won't find him if he pretends to be someone he's not.
I can assure you a lot of people pretend. Both men and women think they should be something society expects of them. Too much pressure if you ask me. I think it's a shame, because I can see how many people aren't genuinely smiling anymore, and I'm sure you can see it too. You don't have to be perfect, and you don't have to be a saint. Just be yourself girls. Okay? (It's okay, you can barf, puke and throw up now!)
I thought I'd say something on behalf of all the guys who deep down, still mean well with you!
What is all this bull**** about opening doors? Whoever gets there first should open the bloody thing. My misses and I are a team, we do things together rather than let social implications dictate who does what.
We know each others strengths and weakness's and deal with the situation accordingly. I wouldn't even consider opening a door just for the gesture, I would open it if it require my assistance, or I am already there by the door or with the door open.
If people said thanks more I believe people would hold or open doors more often, I would help anyone including man, woman, child or beast. Manners are important to me, but don't take the p*** with it.
It's not about equal rights for me, it is about being practical. As for Polish people being this that and the other, who really gives a toss? Manners are an individual asset that many don't have or use. I could not respect some one if they done everything for me, to me that's a kiss ass! It would only arouse my suspicion as to their alterer motives.
I do not feel the urge or inclination to be romantic, I have nothing to prove! A man or woman is only as good as his or her word, not his or her gestures.
I hope you all find what your looking for.