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Posts by imano  

Joined: 19 Feb 2012 / Male ♂
Last Post: 27 Jul 2014
Threads: 10
Posts: 42
From: wroclaw, poland
Speaks Polish?: yes
Interests: polish language and culture

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imano   
27 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

ok so those 4 guys who attacked me and my friend have been arrested. and they are with the police. now i need help with this. i got this letter from the police and i'm not sure if i understand fully what the want. can someone please help me?
imano   
18 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

you will draw attention to that apartment, more than if you were white foreigner.

give me a break! it still is racism. why will i draw attention? cause i'm black. but i do love the attention though. everywhere i go people stare at me like they saw a demigod. feels good though cause i love attention ;). it's your problem. i'm happy to be black. if i had the option to choose a skin colour i would still choose to be black without even thinking. sometimes i feel poland is like that little village in europe but i still do love the bigos :D :D
imano   
18 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

Polish people are well within their rights to complain against discrimination.

you keep contradicting yourself. poles can complain right? and i can't?

there are plenty of racist Poles indeed but fighting back is not a wisest thing to do

so someone spits on me in the street. i'm assuming you're polish. what would be the wisest thing for me to do? look at him and walk away?

hell no. i'll punch the **** out of his face! plus my friend was even keeping his cool and TRYING to stop the fight! he was telling me to calm down

he didn't fight. but one guy just drew a knife and stabbed him. this doesn't make sense. why didn't they stab me instead. i was the one delivering punches

to 2 other guys. they just find a weaker person and then attack him. well fyi, i'm not weak. and anytime i meet them, if they do something stupid. i'll fight them.
imano   
17 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

I will tell you what I think imano, you are Igbo I base this on your username which would translate to " you know. "

hmmm. i'm black. fact. but what makes you think i'm even african? :/ "imano" is the wrong spelling of the first letters of my real name, which is not even african and you tell me about igbo people.
imano   
17 Jul 2014
Language / How many tenses can be used for "pojechac" [24]

Merged: Is the Polish tense right in this sentence?

udało mi się uniknąk mandatu.

or maybe there's a better way of saying "i succeeded in dodging being fined"
imano   
17 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

@Wulkan i meant people on the street can insult me. and yeah, i'm from and English-speaking country. makes some sense now? so if all is clear, now tell me this is nothing to do with skin colour nor is it racism. you tell me Wulkan. i want to hear your take on this.
imano   
17 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

@Wulkan: the tenant wrote the letter. not the landlady. i don't know if she mentioned anything to her concerning my skin colour. which obviously the girl would write to me about! common sense. all i want to say to you is. on the phone, i spoke polish with the landlady, she was very nice, gave me time and a date to go see the room. it's clear on the phone she didn't know i'm black. fine. now i went to the house, the tenant showed me the room and the LATER told me the landlady said she doesn't want to rent the room to foreigners. when earlier on the phone i had told her i'm not polish! come on guys!

I would like to see the letter. Can you post it in the "Speak Polish" > "Language" section?

on the phone she knew i'm a foreigner cause i told her where i'm from except she didn't expect me to be black. :). well i don't care. i told so many racial stories and this adds up to everything i wrote. most important to me is the stabbing on my friend. that woman can keep her room! i get to be with my gf regardless of what her parents say, people can insult me. i don't care! but don't stab my friend with a knife.
imano   
16 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

i'm glad there are really normal and wise people here on this forum like jon357.
what could i possibly do to another girl i share a house with if i know she has a boyfriend and she knows i have a gf? that's even if i was going to live with a girl in the first place. ok. i understand they don't want to rent a room to a foreigner. their problem. there are so many rooms in wroclaw.

There's a very short time period to get a doctor's report (obdukcja) on injuries if it's a police matter.

well 3 of the guys were arrested. 1 took to his heels and vanished. my friend was in the hospital, got treated and is now home. the police said they'll call one of us. if they don't i'm going to be really pushy about this and report this everywhere possible.
imano   
16 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

@Brzenczyszczyki: eerrrrm...so you're trying to tell me if someone spits on me. i should just keep quite? and sit there? and watch him? yeah?
imano   
16 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

@Brzenczyszczyki:

the iq part wasn't even about you haha. but ok.
and i keep saying SOME. i know some great poles and i really like them.
they spat on us (for no reason, well obviously cause we're black). then i did the same thing!! then there was a fight. they got a knife. stabbed my friend.

of course when i'm walking in town people insult me. say nasty things to me. that's ok. i don't care. and i don't react. but dare you not touch me. they spat on me.

they got their fair share of punches from me. but too bad my friend is not as hard as me. but i did teach 2 of them a lesson so i'm happy...just not happy about my friend.

:)
imano   
16 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

@Brzenczyszczyki: i didn't say ALL people in poland are like that if you read the subject of this thread i wrote "SOME poles..." :). and be polite to who? the forum members or to my gf's parents (who have no intention of seeing me at all, i can't even meet them. they don't know me). ok. so the accommodation problem is not about my colour. fine. my gf's parents is not about my colour. good. now what about the stabbing of my friend with a knife and they spitting on us?

@Wulkan: there is a female tenant who is going to MOVE OUT on 1.08.2014!! so i'll occupy her room. in fact the are two girls in 2 rooms who are both moving out. and 2 boys moving in. me, and some Damian guy (polish). the landlady agreed to sign a contract with Damian. but not with me :D. i have a gf why should i stay with another girl??? :/

"One day if you get hit by a lightening it will be because you are black isn't it? I see you mastered playing racial card to the perfection, keep up the good work." = ?????

you're polish, naturally you'll defend them so i'm not surprised. and you tell me i mastered playing the racial card? you should see a doctor.

well i'm happy. if my gf parents don't want me. i don't care! if the landlady doesn't want to give me her room, i don't give a flying ****! BUT the only case i care is when these bastards spat on us and stabbed my friend. that's when i start to worry. and you couldn't even tell that smile was sarcastic. your iq is quite low.
imano   
16 Jul 2014
Life / some poles play the Race games best! [38]

i wanted to rent a room. i called the landlady and on the phone she was so nice and cool. so i went to check the room today. but one of the tenants was there. i checked the room and it was ok. she told the landlady about my visit and upon the landlady knowing i'm black, this is the email i got from the tenant:

***
Please provide English translation
***

is this an advanced form of racism? the poland is very good at it. seriously. recently i posted a thread about my gf's parents not wanting to accepting me cause i'm black.

like that wasn't enough. just this past saturday i went out with my friend and 4 guys stabbed him! :o there was a fight cause they spat on us. check the pictures below.

WARNING (very graphical content).
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*applause* poland, well done :)
imano   
10 Jul 2014
Love / My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [83]

is it his fault he was born half German half Nigerian? did i choose to be black? no. am i human? yes. isn't humankind older than culture? so what are you trying to tell me?

for me, i'm going to be with my gf. so far as she wants to be with me (and she wants to) irrespective of whatever her parents say. i'll respect them (they prolly don't need my respect, their problem). it's not them i'm going to be with, neither is my gf. i respect my polish gf and i'd do anything for her. any 3rd's person thought is their own burden.
imano   
26 Jun 2014
Love / My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [83]

Imano, chin up the way to move a mountain is one stone at a time. You may have lost the battle, but not the war.

i know how the parents feel, and the fact that their daughter is young and this being to sudden for the, that's why i broke up with their daughter but will remain very good friends. i myself think the girls is too young, maybe to make decisions for herself but as far has i know, from their family, if their daughter has a boyfriend, they envisage them marrying. the girl has 2 older sisters, first one married his bf, second one is very close to marrying his bf too. her parents are the type who want the PERFECT guy for their daughters. her older sister's husband smokes, and once her parents ask her to let go this boyfriend. can you believe it? just cause he smokes.

when i heard her dad didn't sleep 2 days, i got very sad. just over this. i was really very sad. i don't want this for them. i don't want them to get sick or anything of that sort. so i've left their daughter but will still be by here side, not as a couple, but as a good, honest friend, if they'll not sleep over that too then i'll just let it go.

according to my ex gf, they think it's a "shame" that such a "decent" family allowed their daughter to be with me. in their town, they are the best Christians, well-respected. her mum sings in the churc choir and goes to church every single day, i don't know really what that means in Poland.

once she told me if her mum finds out we're together they'll send her to an exorcists, she said it jokingly though. but after knowing we were together her parents prayed for her a lot. not like i'm a devil or something, in my late teens i sang in the church choir and played an organ for the church(does that even matter?). i'm not evil, but it hurts when her parents don't want to know me at all and start getting sick over us.
imano   
26 Jun 2014
Love / My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [83]

the girl's parents haven't met me in person. when my gf (now my ex 20mins ago) asked if they wanted to meet me, her mum laughed. they just DON'T WANT to meet me in the first place. they don't know me, they don't even want to know me! it hurts. i don't care about the parents that much. i just care about the girl but she has "owners" (parents) who i have to respect and i do.

i stopped playing on race cards and been doing a lot of thinking. racists, if they exist at all don't bother me one bit. i just know there are 2 kinds of people, the STUPID ones and the conservatives. for example i was in a shop yesterday and some guy, tattered guy told his not-so-aware-of-modern-fashion gf "ja pierdole!" his gf asked "co?" and he said "obwrot sie", then she turned to look at me, i just smiled at her. it's clear, they are plain stupid and it's people and reactions like that that don't bother me AT ALL! and there are the conservatives (NOT RACISTS), proud poles who want to keep and maintain tradition (like my ex's parents)...but the fact that they don't even know me but yet think i'm NOT the right fit for their daughter is still beyond me. i wouldn't call them racists though...

it's easier when you understand people. i just broke up with her. it hurts, it pains...a lot! but life has to go on. she'll find the "right" guy, a pole, catholic and she and her parents will be happy, i would be happy too of course. now my prayer is just that she finds a guy that will really really respect her and treat her like she deserves cause i love her and want the best for her, but couldn't be with her. she's respectful and was brought up very well. girls like her are scarce these days. though she said she'll try to talk to her parents one more time and asked me to write to her Dad.

people say, if you love her, fight for her. i say if you love her, don't make her sad, instead of forcefully trying to make her happy. cause her parents were broken-hearted when they found out we're together. when her parents are down, she's down and i hate to see her that way. i didn't give up. i just tried not to give her reasons to be sad. i won't fight with her parents, never.

but i like to cheer myself up in this moment. when we were together we LOVED music and i got to somehow learn to dance discopolo and loved it. i learned the refrain of this song by heart within minutes and i love it. i play this song often, cause of the positive memories it brings. :)



stay and think positive always! peace :)
imano   
26 Jun 2014
Love / My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [83]

@warszawski: no she doesn't want out. i've known her for a year and i know how she thinks and feel about me. i feel it and i see it and i hear it. since she's leaving wroclaw today, i spent the WHOLE day with her yesterday and her mum called twice. it wasn't on a loude speaker but i was very close to her i could hear her mum. her mum sounded VERY CALM and i could hear she's a very good person and wants the best for her daughter. she said stuff like "Kasia(not real name), nie martw sie, bedzie dobrze, znajdziesz opowiedny...". her mum knows she's sad and could hear her crying. and i know her mum is a good person cause she asked of me!! she asked "i jak tam z kolega?" and my gf said, crying "jest smutny i zalamany" only for her mum to reply "bedzie dobrze".

her dad asked her if she loves me, where i work(and surprising her dad thought i made the story up about the fact that i'm a programmer and work from home through the internet. he thinks i'm deceiving her daugther about the fact that i work from home, he thinks i made this story up, he doesn't believe it. i don't know if he doesn't believe the fact that you can work on the internet or the fact that i work from home), study, what language i speak, religion, what language i speak with my gf, etc. i mean very detailed questions. and for some reason i feel it's not really for the fact that i'm black. maybe it's about some strict tradition they want to stick to. i don't know. i can't say i don't care, i respect their traditions and all but this doesn't change the fact that i LOVE this girl. she eats less and she's very weak physically and emotionally.

her parents think that we can't be together cause there might be problems like, people will tease us and make fun of her daughter and with my gf being that weak, she can't take it. but being with my gf i could tell she grew stronger towards such things. and i can observe people's reactions when we're out in public places. people don't insult us. MOST people watch and smile in a way that seem like their are saying in their heads "beautiful couple". and trust me, i can tell an evil smile from a good one. the worst reactions from people is for them to just stare with neutral facial expression. whatever they think in their heads, i don't care about. most important for me is my gf grew stronger and more confident. she would reach for my hand every second, hug and kiss irrespective of who's around and how many people are watching. i asked her once "does it bother you when people say bad things about me in public, and she confidently said she doesn't care.

when her mum told her dad about us, her dad called her on phone and asked her to get home IMMEDIATELY (knowing she had an exam the following 2 days). she thought when she gets home her dad will be mad and scream at her in anger, but instead her dad was sad, very sad, nothing like she had seen before. her dad was sleepless for 2 days :(. this is not something i want for her parents but again, i love her! and it's not with her parents i'm going to be with neither with random people in the streets who stare and think whatever they have in their heads.

worst thing is this happened at the worst time of the year. we both failed 2 exams and last night she printed some small sheet to copy from cause she can't concentrate. she never did this, as far as i know.

@frenny: the girl who went to her ex is my older gf that i had to leave cause i could easily tell she was with me cause i'm black. this story is about a new girl who actually doesn't care about the colour of my skin. what she feels for me is meaningful to me than what my ex felt for me.

@harry: quite place under a bridge is nothing close to what you're imagining or picturing from movies. it's a totally safe and calm place with no stupid people around. we promised each other we'd go there one day but had to go there before her parents took us apart. we started the whole season of Game of Thrones, watched every episode and had to watch the last one last night cause we promised to finish it.
imano   
25 Jun 2014
Love / My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [83]

@mrgay69, i didn't insult any religion, if you feel that way then i'm really sorry. and if it's about passports, i don't need a polish passport! i have a better one. about school, i completed uni elsewhere. not in europe, not in africa. oh God, why am i even spending time on you, clearly you have no idea what you're talking about. there are very few normal people here, too bad.
imano   
25 Jun 2014
Love / My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [83]

Merged: My Polish girlfriend's parents don't want us to be together because I'm black, advice please

i don't get this really. when i got to Poland i had this gf who just "loved" me and was even ready to marry me but then later i found out that she just has a thing for blacks. i hate for someone to love me just cause of my skin colour the same way i abhor it when someone doesn't like me cause i'm black (but i care less about the latter). i just had to break up with this girl, who has returned to her ex in Belgium (ex is black. no surprise).

for a year i was really fighting VERY HARD to be with one particular girl from my university. this girl is awesome, like "bardzo porzadna!". i realised my colour didn't mean anything to her and i got to really like her. we developed feelings for each other and started a relationship 3 months ago. i'm so much into this girl. i'm not the kind who finds girls "just for the moment", i dislike this. i really planned a long relationship with this girl if not stay with her forever cause she is everything i want in a girl, she's super smart, kind, pretty, works out, all the good things. we were VERY VERY happy with each other. she has been living with her parents all her life till she came to Wroclaw (from Kluczbork) for studies. i love this girl...really! and i was very serious about her. i told her to tell her parents about us that we're together. cause i don't want to just "use" her, i had plans for her.

it appeared her parents are seriously "devout" catholics. so she told her parents about us and her parents said we can't be together.

REASON: cause i'm black!
they said they don't want to meet me and and told her daughter to end our relationship immediately. i don't know if i made a mistake about telling her to tell her parents about us. her parents asked her to choose me or them. can you believe this. if she decides to choose me, they'll stop supporting her and get her out of their house :(. at this moment i'm the saddest person on the planet! she's leaving for Kluczbork this thursday for the vacation. sadly we can't meet ever again. she wants to and she keeps telling me she is very happy with me. she the kind who's very weak and afraid (she's 21). i'm not really sure what to do. i spoke with her sisters (older) and they said, at the beginning of our relationship the most important thing is for her to be happy. and she was, i was VERY happy with her.

i spoke to them that i can go to Kluczbork and talk gently with their father, face to face like real me do, and literally beg him. i know it's lame, but i would do anything for this girl! i told her if her parents sack her from home i'd move away from my apartment, find a cheaper room and support her with the money left each month. i was really ready to die for her.

an hour ago i met with her, we tried to cheer each other up thinking buying some beer and going to a quite place under some bridge would work. it didn't. we ended up crying :(. i could look her in the eye and tell she really wants to be with me but is afraid her family will abandon her and i understand her.

i'm not really sure what to do now. i'm the most confused person on the planet. should i try to write a letter to her dad and maybe explain how much her daughter means to me? tell them how much i love her. would this help. i don't know how to react with some polish people but no offence, and with lots of respect, i think this country is very backward. how can a father take away something that gives their daughter happiness? this is very harsh.

maybe some polish people would be able to give me some nice ideas .
imano   
14 Jan 2014
Law / My package (postal) is being held at Zabrze, how can I get it released? [4]

So I had my uncle send me a phone from USA through USPS which works with Poczta Polska I believe. I kept checking the tracking number and realised that the item goes through customs clearance twice each day. My uncle asked me to call Poczta Polska and they told me item is "zatrzymywany węzeł ekspedycyjno-rozdzielczy w zabrzu". The item is marked as a "gift" and they don't want to release the device. I keep calling them and no one picks up, at some point the phone is busy but no one ever picks my call. This is not normal but has anyone had problems like this and what can I do to get my item.

Woman at Poczta Polska told me maybe they need some "faktura" but how can a gift have that? Why don't they want to release my package?

Do they even know what's in the package? If yes, do they have the right to open it without my consent or presence?
imano   
31 Dec 2013
Law / Pepper Spray Legality in Poland [9]

I'm a young black male studying in Poland. I've been in Poland for approximately 2 years now and I live in Wroclaw.

When I go out at night I usually meet some racists and people who are unhappy that I'm black and living in this country.

I don't know why but that's their problem. My problem is I can't own a gun or any weapon when some of these guys get

really out of control.

Few days ago, I was attacked by one bouncer in Pasaz Niepolda. I was standing outside [Just STANDING!!] when one bouncer
walked towards me and started screaming shouting stuff like "wypierdalaj stąd..." I COMPLETELY ignored him so he felt he
was talking to a brick wall. I didn't react. I realised the other bouncers where standing just few meters away waiting for me to

react so we can start a fight. But that's not what I want. I don't want to fight anyone over stupid reasons like they're black, green or blue.

This bouncer pushed really hard expecting I'd fall trying to provoke me. Then he hit me REALLY hard in the face that
for a couple of hours I couldn't feel my face. That has be my first real physical attack in Poland. Usually they insult me...but I don't

care about that.

Is it legal for me to have a pepper spray with me here in Poland. Will I need any permission to use it. And if in self-defence, I spray

some ****, will I have problems with the law?

I don't want to hurt anyone, just in the same way I would hate someone to hit me for NO REASON.
imano   
20 Oct 2013
Language / niczemu or niczego [5]

So can you please use both words in a sentence? that way i get to understand them more. :)
imano   
20 Oct 2013
Language / Pomówić usage [5]

thanks a lot :). So if i replaced "pomowic" with "porozmawiac", would the sentence still have made the same sense?
imano   
20 Oct 2013
Language / niczemu or niczego [5]

what's the difference betweent "niczemu" and "niczego" can you please use them in a sentence?
imano   
20 Oct 2013
Language / Pomówić usage [5]

I'm reading this grammar book and came across this sentence:

"Jesteś moim studentem już od trzech lat. Możemy więc pomówić szczerze."

I checked the meaning of "pomówić" = slander, accuse.

The meaning doesn't fit. Could it be that the book is not using the word "pomówić" right or it has another meaning? If it does, I want to know.

Thanks.