Myszolow
9 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / Differences in How Polish People Raise a Child and How Americans Raise a Child [149]
I thought the culture of sleeping with your kids developed out of necessity? i.e. there wasn't enough rooms or beds for everyone to have their own.
It's a very personal choice and really it depends on how well you sleep. My wife was a very light and nervous sleeper. Our son had his own room from day 1 and slept through the night from week 9.
I don't think there's anything particularly sick about sleeping with your children, but, except for unusual situations (bad dream etc.) for me it's preferable that they learn independence in this from as soon as possible.
Having a kid is a major shock to the family - particularly the first one. Both parents need to cut each other a lot of slack and try to understand each other's needs. No one person's needs should be totally met at the complete expense of another - that breeds selfishness. There is already too great a culture of selfishness in the world.
There's nothing wrong with letting a baby cry for a while. It's one of the main ways they can get exercise. They can't do a great deal else after all. Check the nappy, hunger, properly burped. If none of that helps, just leave them to it for 10 minutes and then go check on them.
Are you feeding on demand or do you have a routine? If you want your kid to go through the night, a routine works a treat. I recommend the book "On becoming babywise". It's simply brilliant. Everyone I know who has used their strategy has baby sleeping through the night inside the first 3 months.
I thought the culture of sleeping with your kids developed out of necessity? i.e. there wasn't enough rooms or beds for everyone to have their own.
It's a very personal choice and really it depends on how well you sleep. My wife was a very light and nervous sleeper. Our son had his own room from day 1 and slept through the night from week 9.
I don't think there's anything particularly sick about sleeping with your children, but, except for unusual situations (bad dream etc.) for me it's preferable that they learn independence in this from as soon as possible.
Having a kid is a major shock to the family - particularly the first one. Both parents need to cut each other a lot of slack and try to understand each other's needs. No one person's needs should be totally met at the complete expense of another - that breeds selfishness. There is already too great a culture of selfishness in the world.
There's nothing wrong with letting a baby cry for a while. It's one of the main ways they can get exercise. They can't do a great deal else after all. Check the nappy, hunger, properly burped. If none of that helps, just leave them to it for 10 minutes and then go check on them.
Are you feeding on demand or do you have a routine? If you want your kid to go through the night, a routine works a treat. I recommend the book "On becoming babywise". It's simply brilliant. Everyone I know who has used their strategy has baby sleeping through the night inside the first 3 months.