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Poland`s aid to Ukraine if Russia invades - part 10 [1987]
he _did_ succeed in convincing a non-trivial number of women to smoke and he did that by linking the ideas of 'smoking' and 'emancipation'...
You know, at school we were taugh about women's emancipation - they got voting rights, they can work, so I thought everything is fine, the fight is over and the future is nothing but bright for us. But despite this fact, when I was looking at my mother I thought that I don't want to live like her. Because her life looked like one big sacrifice for the family and I could see how much more she's doing than my father and how tired she is and has no time for herself. I didn't want to have kids at that time, because I didn't want to live like that. And I've decided that I'll never marry a man like my father.
Of course, with time I've come to a conclusion that I can simply pick a better husband than my mother did and with whom I would actually want to have kids. My initial resentment towards having kids didn't have anything to do with some kind of "neoliberal propaganda" or feministic agitation - it was just the observation of my mother's sh1tty life. Of course, it depends on perspective - my mother's life could be great for some woman living in a small village in Afghanistan, but I wasn't living in Afghanistan and I wanted something better than this. I wanted to have a life.
I don't know why men don't understand this - that women want to have a life too.
To the point where two single mother told me how their lives are actually easier after they finished their relationships.
Yes, this + 100000
I've seen such comments on both Polish and American social media. Women either complaining that everything is on their shoulders at home, despite the fact that they're working too, or already divorced women saying that they're less tired now, because having a husband was like having another kid to take care of. That they felt like they were single mothers even though they were married. It's disappointing that there's no difference between Poland and the US in this respect. I thought that the US as a Western country progressed more. Of course, I realise that probably not all marriages are like that in the US, that maybe it depends on the region or sth, but I've seen many comments like this...
For instance, I work, my wife does not.
Majority of women in Poland work though. From what I understand - the same can be said about women in the US.
Women, in the US primarily, think they need to have this incredible career. They think they need to or should compete with men.
Um, sorry, but can you imagine that there are women who want to have a career not in order to compete with men, but just... to have a career? o_O You know, because it's nice to have your own money and because women can be passionate about stuff too and be good at something? And that they find fulfilment in it? That they want to accomplish something? When I wanted to get a job, I wasn't thinking about competing with men lol, I simply wanted to be able to support myself, just like everyone else o_O 🤦
