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Posts by ilmc  

Joined: 20 Sep 2012 / Female ♀ 		Last Post: 12 Nov 2012
Threads: Total: 4 / Live: 2 / Archived: 2
Posts: Total: 136 / Live: 42 / Archived: 94 		From: canada
Speaks Polish?: not yet
Interests: polish language, culture, travel, reading, writing, poetry

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ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

any advice on how to impress my polish boyfriends mother would be great. My boyfriend of 2 years moved to Canada when he was 14, We get along great he is the most amazing man i have ever been with old fashioned and charming and he really knows how to treat a woman properly unlike most of the men born in this country and raised to be spoiled brats with no respect for woman and nothing on their minds but getting laid. His mother on the other hand seems to object to me, she is a remarkable woman and i have nothing but respect for her because she clearly along with his father raised a fantastic son however, she thinks i am not good enough for him because i cant cook proper polish food and i have been with him for 2 years and i don't even speak polish yet. i am trying to learn polish but it is not an easy language to learn for someone who knows english and french but no slavic language nor has ever been around anyone who speaks polish previous to my 2 years with Maciek (mike). It is a beautiful language and i love listening to it but i do feel a bit left out when i am there and she refuses to speak any english even though she does know some so i do see a benefit to learning it. Cooking polish food would be great but i cant cook really much at all whether it be polish food german food french food i am terrible at it, i did try to make cabbage rolls once and mike said they were ok but his mom scoffed at them. Honestly, his mom while lovely makes me feel guilty for not being polish ugh help lol how do i make a polish mom like me :S
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

maybe i should rephrase, she is lovely to everyone who is not me :( ... it would have to be store bought or ordered pizza cause i can't make that either lol. she really is a nice woman, she isnt too hard on me she just refuses to speak english when i am there Mike says it is because she is shy with her english but i feel its personal. Is there anything imparticular that would let her know that i really do care for her son and i am trying... anything polish that i can cook easily that might be no fail even for a complete kitchen reject like me :(
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

pennboy:
i do compliment here i am nice and polite i smile... i don't say much but that is because i cant understand her lol and it gets tiresom having mike translate he is 24 but he was raised so traditionally that he is a lot different from most Canadian boys his age. His father adores me i just don't understand how she can think that i should have learned to speak polish by now if i really loved him, or how to make her see that i am trying. Like i said she has this misguided opinion that he should be settling down with a nice polish girl, but i mean you moved to northern Canada unless you want him to settle down with his sister i don't see where he will find a nice polish girl and she seems to be missing the fact that i am a nice half irish half french canadian girl :)

kaz200... i do see that some polish women are hostile to non polish women dating polish men but like i said, she moved here with her family to a small northern ontario canada town polish population her and her family lol
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

whether we are at my place, her place or a restaurant she will not speak in anything but polish... her husband orders for her but she can read the menu just fine i am normally very confidant but like i said she has a way about her that makes me feel guilty about not being polish i know rediculous. I learned how to say thank you for a great meal in polish before going to her house for dinner one time and she rolled her eyes at me and complained about my pronunciation. Mike sometimes refuses to translate what she says i would love to be able to not worry about it but he is close with his mother and it is causing them to fight something they have never done so i feel guilty for that to.

kaz200972
ok, they are coming for dinner this saturday maybe i will try that it sounds pretty simple how do i tenderize them though? Mike said he would cook something and say i did lol but i almost feel like i have to prove something to her ... i know rediculous
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

ok... thank you:) i am going to give it my best shot even though i know she will find some excuse to hate it in the back of her mind somewhere she might have a minute where she thinks, atleast she's trying ... i plan to have frozen pizza in the freezer incase it is an epic fail though because when i get near a stove it usually is. Mike and i could cook together but she doesn't believe he should have to cook, or clean, or do anything other than work drink beer watch t.v and scratch his balls lol. She also takes issue with the fact that i work in a jail and am not always home when he gets home from work becasue i should be there to take care of him.... is this the way it is in poland man works woman stays home and cooks cleans and rubs his feet when he gets home or something? she says when we have kids i should be made to quit my job
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

Beauty is so subjective...I seem to be very attracted to Polish men, not all but most and generally the ones i am attracted to have a similar appearance square faces small foreheads very blue eyes dark blonde to light brown hair tanned skin and a very polish lookin in my opinion nose and mouth that is a longer nose witha slight bubble on it and an upper lip that is a bit bigger than their lower lip. I have had 4 serious relationships all of the men had polish ancestry go figure it certainly isn't planned. Polish women seem to be found in higher concentrations as models along with a lot of other eastern european women slavic features seem to be ideal for photo beauty in my opinion polish women who have a traditional polish look are absolutly stunning and quite often look better without make up on. My boyfriends sister can wear natural beauty like no one else i have ever seen she just shines.
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

haha it would be alarm bells if he felt that way, but he doesn't agree that he can make me do anything he does feel more strongly than i do that a mother should be at home with her children and when i explained to him that most mothers wish they could be but in modern day canada it is not at all possible to sustain a family on a single income. He has traditional views but is a lot more understanding and practical than his mother.
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

There are no polish classes here anywhere i have looked, for christmas she bought me a polish english dictionary not even kidding lol and i study online sometimes but i really don't know if i am cut out for learning another language it just doesn't stick. I speak english and french and the only reason i know two languages is because my father spoke french and my mother spoke english and i grew up around both languages children absorb language like a sponge... polish is not even a little bit related to either language i don't even know where to start mike tries but apparently my pronounciation is terrible lol. i ordered rosetta stone so maybe that will be better. She does speak english not very well but enough that she could hold a conversation she is able to order food etc... she just refuses to with me.
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

I do want to learn polish for me, and because i would love my future children to speak all three languages their parents speak so i would love to be able to speak it with them but polish is not by any means an easy language to learn i feel like my tongue weighs 20 lbs when i try to pronounce anything lol i dont even need to learn to write it or read it i would just love to be able to speak it so that if we ever visit poland ( he has a lot of family there) i can hold a conversation without a translator. A big part of it is so i can have a conversation with her in polish just to kind of prove her wrong and see what else she can come up with to condem me lol
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

i actually use the dictionary sometimes haha i put on my biggest kindest smile and thanked her for the gift my strategy has kind of been killing her with kindness but its obviously failing. She has moments where she is kind to me i don't think she dislikes me as a person just doesnt think i am right for her son but i have never had the courage to ask her where she thinks he is supposed to find a " nice polish girl" in northern canada ... His dad tells her off a lot, i dont think he ever will i think hes a bit scared of his mom haha i know i am .

I guess i am a typical canadian people please we are known for being the doormats of the world and here i go perpetuating it haha i'd say sorry here but we are also known for over using the word sorry :S
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Life / Stubborn Polaks, anyone knows? [77]

Merged: why are polish people so stubborn

why do polish people (atleast the few that i know) think that all things made polish are better... my boyfriends mom insists polish chocolate is the best i tried it and i agreed it is good but it is not the best i prefer swiss... i realize tastes are subjective however is it really realistic to think all things that come from your country are the best of that specific item i mean common everyone knows the swiss own the chocolate title. His entire family is like this about everything from chocolate to beer to meat to bread to clothes music etc
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

i spoke to mike this morning before he left for work i told him that when they visit he needs to address any negative comments because it will mean nothing coming from me or his father and his silence gives consent for her to continue. He says he just hopes if we ignore it she will stop but i told him that isn't good enough and that maybe if he gets across how important and valuable i am to him she may see some of my value. I will fiind out saturday if he actually has the balls to do it ... in my experience he is rather scared of his mother which i don't understand from my own family where it was all about openess and honesty with each other if my mom spoke to him the way his mom speaks of me i would tell her she was being an ignorant b**** without hesitation
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
USA, Canada / What kind of American food do Poles like most? [80]

Turkey is also too dry for me

if you deep fry a turkey in an outdoor turkey frier it will not be dry :) Canadians prefer to cover it in a boat load of gravy that also helps
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

Thanks i think i am just getting used to it and expecting it... but like someone posted earlier what will it mean for my children will they not be good enough for her because they are only half polish... this is my main concern
ilmc   
27 Sep 2012
Genealogy / Polish looks? [1410]

here is 3 pictures of me the middle one is no makeup and natural hair color ... i am 5 foot 1 115 lbs ... would love someone to try and guess where my family comes from i will give you a hint i am half one and half the other second generation ( i think it's second generation my parents were both born in canada but my grandparents on both sides were born in two separate european countries ) guess which two.

hmmm guess all of the people who claimed they could just tell someones nationality by looking at them really cannot


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ilmc   
27 Sep 2012
Genealogy / Polish looks? [1410]

Wulkan
i am neither :) i am often told i look polish and people tell me i have a polish nose which i have no issue with but... there is no polish in me (unless im with my boyfriend ) haha i know not classy sorry...

also no german what so ever
ilmc   
27 Sep 2012
Genealogy / Polish looks? [1410]

you've read this in a former post of mine or you actually knew? yes half french half irish ... but i never get told i look like either so i think this points to it being very difficult to tell. Although i suppose the fact that i am always that pale regardless of the amount of sunshine i get would point to my irish heritage and the fact that i smoke like a chimney and enjoy everything made with cream and butter indicates the frenchness haha
ilmc   
27 Sep 2012
Genealogy / Polish looks? [1410]

well then i am officially impressed no one who has ever met me has been able to...what are my features that give me away? lol i am honestly impressed

but french people aren't concidered southern and they look nothing like germanic

funny you say this i am half french and you thought i looked german
ilmc   
27 Sep 2012
Genealogy / Polish looks? [1410]

see if i could have gotten the french skin tone i'd be a much happier person on the whole... :( damn inability to tan ever. i'm not sure what a french face shape is but mine is shaped exactly like my fathers so i guess that must be it haha. I suppose the combination of french and irish leads to something that appears to others as german russian or polish which i get most often...

My sister same two parents looks like a native person with blue eyes ... and you penn boy look eerily similar to my boyfriend just a different mouth otherwise you could be twins
ilmc   
27 Sep 2012
Genealogy / Polish looks? [1410]

Ha, well thank you. Do you know which part of Poland he's from?

something like nowy targ i think it is spelt he isnt home so i cant ask him
ilmc   
3 Oct 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

You are good enough as you are!

can you come over when my mother in law is here i have a feeling she won't scare you lol

i know i am good enough as i am... so does the boyfriend... just wish his mother didn't make it so hard on us .. that's all
ilmc   
11 Oct 2012
Life / Why is circumcision not practiced in Poland? [701]

i will admit the first time i saw an uncircumsized penis i was rather put off...since my boyfriend is polish he is not circumsized and .. since i plan to have children with him if it is a boy he is adamant he will not be circusized so i have done research. There is no medical proof that circucision is better or worse. As long as the child is shown proper hygiene it is fine. When it is erect it is no different than a non circumsized penis and if you are doing it right it should be erect so whats the problem. men who are not circumsized are also more sensitive because the head is always covered and isnt rubbing against their underwear or pants all day so it is more fun to. :)
ilmc   
11 Oct 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

They will be fine: it is you who will suffer

oh goodie... i love mike..but that sounds awful...
luckily we have moved 29 hours away and she can't visit weekly anymore
ilmc   
15 Oct 2012
Life / Why is circumcision not practiced in Poland? [701]

why

i live in canada ... it is common here for men to be circumsized and i havent been with many men so it was the first one i saw .. i honestly didnt know there was circumsision and no circumcision i thought all penises looked like a circumsized one...so it looked funny to me