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My Polish wife's family hate me. Maybe it is because I'm black. Advice needed. [87]
@warszawski: no she doesn't want out. i've known her for a year and i know how she thinks and feel about me. i feel it and i see it and i hear it. since she's leaving wroclaw today, i spent the WHOLE day with her yesterday and her mum called twice. it wasn't on a loude speaker but i was very close to her i could hear her mum. her mum sounded VERY CALM and i could hear she's a very good person and wants the best for her daughter. she said stuff like "Kasia(not real name), nie martw sie, bedzie dobrze, znajdziesz opowiedny...". her mum knows she's sad and could hear her crying. and i know her mum is a good person cause she asked of me!! she asked "i jak tam z kolega?" and my gf said, crying "jest smutny i zalamany" only for her mum to reply "bedzie dobrze".
her dad asked her if she loves me, where i work(and surprising her dad thought i made the story up about the fact that i'm a programmer and work from home through the internet. he thinks i'm deceiving her daugther about the fact that i work from home, he thinks i made this story up, he doesn't believe it. i don't know if he doesn't believe the fact that you can work on the internet or the fact that i work from home), study, what language i speak, religion, what language i speak with my gf, etc. i mean very detailed questions. and for some reason i feel it's not really for the fact that i'm black. maybe it's about some strict tradition they want to stick to. i don't know. i can't say i don't care, i respect their traditions and all but this doesn't change the fact that i LOVE this girl. she eats less and she's very weak physically and emotionally.
her parents think that we can't be together cause there might be problems like, people will tease us and make fun of her daughter and with my gf being that weak, she can't take it. but being with my gf i could tell she grew stronger towards such things. and i can observe people's reactions when we're out in public places. people don't insult us. MOST people watch and smile in a way that seem like their are saying in their heads "beautiful couple". and trust me, i can tell an evil smile from a good one. the worst reactions from people is for them to just stare with neutral facial expression. whatever they think in their heads, i don't care about. most important for me is my gf grew stronger and more confident. she would reach for my hand every second, hug and kiss irrespective of who's around and how many people are watching. i asked her once "does it bother you when people say bad things about me in public, and she confidently said she doesn't care.
when her mum told her dad about us, her dad called her on phone and asked her to get home IMMEDIATELY (knowing she had an exam the following 2 days). she thought when she gets home her dad will be mad and scream at her in anger, but instead her dad was sad, very sad, nothing like she had seen before. her dad was sleepless for 2 days :(. this is not something i want for her parents but again, i love her! and it's not with her parents i'm going to be with neither with random people in the streets who stare and think whatever they have in their heads.
worst thing is this happened at the worst time of the year. we both failed 2 exams and last night she printed some small sheet to copy from cause she can't concentrate. she never did this, as far as i know.
@frenny: the girl who went to her ex is my older gf that i had to leave cause i could easily tell she was with me cause i'm black. this story is about a new girl who actually doesn't care about the colour of my skin. what she feels for me is meaningful to me than what my ex felt for me.
@harry: quite place under a bridge is nothing close to what you're imagining or picturing from movies. it's a totally safe and calm place with no stupid people around. we promised each other we'd go there one day but had to go there before her parents took us apart. we started the whole season of Game of Thrones, watched every episode and had to watch the last one last night cause we promised to finish it.
