Lenka
9 Jul 2023
Life / Are Polish Women very promiscuous towards foreigners and refugees? [197]
Believe me that I talked with many more Slavs and I call BS.
Believe me that I talked with many more Slavs and I call BS.
Lenka
9 Jul 2023
Life / Are Polish Women very promiscuous towards foreigners and refugees? [197]
And what is your basis for that?
promiscuous sex, at the very least, forward flirtation, sold very well indeed,
And what is your basis for that?
Lenka
6 Jul 2023
Off-Topic / Poland - The U.S.A. of Europe [20]
I wouldn't say so. Poor is poor. 'White trash' 'patologia', 'chavs' and all the similar expressions around the world usually refer more to a certain part of the poor people.
Btw you are correct that white trash is not used in Poland.
"white trash" are simply called "poor people"
I wouldn't say so. Poor is poor. 'White trash' 'patologia', 'chavs' and all the similar expressions around the world usually refer more to a certain part of the poor people.
Btw you are correct that white trash is not used in Poland.
Lenka
5 Jul 2023
Off-Topic / Benefits to Poland of being annexed by Russia [17]
Tried it. Didn't work out.
Would have been funny if not for the Ukranian situation.
Tried it. Didn't work out.
Would have been funny if not for the Ukranian situation.
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Language / Will Germans be able to understand Polish enough? [77]
Well, I started to like German. More and more with age. And that is because the Germans I met were absolutely lovely and not is superficial/artificial way . May help that my beloved Uncle and Aunt live in Germany. That and the fact I come from Silesia.
Well, I started to like German. More and more with age. And that is because the Germans I met were absolutely lovely and not is superficial/artificial way . May help that my beloved Uncle and Aunt live in Germany. That and the fact I come from Silesia.
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]
Your problem is that you are trying to find a partner and that means you have to convince people you are a person that they would enjoy in their life. And they are not mind readers.
While obviously you have to stay yourself and find somebody who wants the real you you also have to accept that how you come across is very important for at least a year of knowing each other
True but I would say it allows waaaay more passion than British .
I don't care much about vibes, being tense or whatever.
Your problem is that you are trying to find a partner and that means you have to convince people you are a person that they would enjoy in their life. And they are not mind readers.
While obviously you have to stay yourself and find somebody who wants the real you you also have to accept that how you come across is very important for at least a year of knowing each other
when you don't know somebody well.
True but I would say it allows waaaay more passion than British .
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]
Not at all.
I just like to work ( not crazy career or anything just being productive) and like being independent even more.
And I also believe all members of family deserve the same respect unless they do something that is not respect worthy.
Arranged marriage?
You are sad and lonely
Not at all.
I just like to work ( not crazy career or anything just being productive) and like being independent even more.
And I also believe all members of family deserve the same respect unless they do something that is not respect worthy.
go for marriage, skip dating
Arranged marriage?
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]
So you use emotional blackmail (as that what it sounds like to me) and when they don't cave you try to get back to them as if nothing happened?
When somethingis a clear cut boundaryfor yoy
Because that's the model you want. Go ahead and be happy.
I earn my money and I have the same respect for man as for women.
I have to set certain boundaries somehow
So you use emotional blackmail (as that what it sounds like to me) and when they don't cave you try to get back to them as if nothing happened?
When somethingis a clear cut boundaryfor yoy
Health relationship need to be based on a man financial stability and woman's real respect of the man.
Because that's the model you want. Go ahead and be happy.
I earn my money and I have the same respect for man as for women.
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]
How about not breaking up and the trying to come back? Is that expectation enough?
you get emotionally distraught or angry over them, want to break up, then reconsider
How about not breaking up and the trying to come back? Is that expectation enough?
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]
Possible but unlike you we are not talking about not fitting in, having problems finding a partner, troubled relationship with mother etc. Your posts suggestyou have some hard time socially.
Also interestingthat you skipped about the part when I pointed out you have quite specific expectations of women yet don't give them the right to have expectationsof you.
How about that?
Possible but unlike you we are not talking about not fitting in, having problems finding a partner, troubled relationship with mother etc. Your posts suggestyou have some hard time socially.
Also interestingthat you skipped about the part when I pointed out you have quite specific expectations of women yet don't give them the right to have expectationsof you.
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]
I'm not. I just said what I think about comments like that.
And what you call unbalanced I'm calling women finally not taking any crap.
As to the advice about money and going foreign- nothing speaks love and loyalty like 'hey, have a look at my bank account .
Braking up is not the same as cheating or not being loyal to your partner.
As we spoke about relationships before I am aware of your 'checklist' for a women- why is it so hard to understand that you may not meet the girls checklist?
But I second Paulina. I think you could use therapy.
Aren't you too old to take it personally?
I'm not. I just said what I think about comments like that.
And what you call unbalanced I'm calling women finally not taking any crap.
As to the advice about money and going foreign- nothing speaks love and loyalty like 'hey, have a look at my bank account .
after countless abandonments and no lasting romantic relationship
Braking up is not the same as cheating or not being loyal to your partner.
As we spoke about relationships before I am aware of your 'checklist' for a women- why is it so hard to understand that you may not meet the girls checklist?
But I second Paulina. I think you could use therapy.
Lenka
24 Jun 2023
Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]
Guys say things like that and then are surprised we don't fall straight into their arms...
So expect every women you meat to cheat on you basically, there are no women to marry nowadays
Guys say things like that and then are surprised we don't fall straight into their arms...
Lenka
22 Jun 2023
Off-Topic / Things We Love [332]
Better pathetic than obese :P Today I will have some extra as I'm planning on having a pint while watching volleyball.
There have been some nice discussionsabout books here.
Have you ever skipped through descriptions because you were so curious at what happens next?
Hahaha, pathetic
Better pathetic than obese :P Today I will have some extra as I'm planning on having a pint while watching volleyball.
You are on the wrong forum
There have been some nice discussionsabout books here.
Have you ever skipped through descriptions because you were so curious at what happens next?
Lenka
22 Jun 2023
Off-Topic / What's your connection with Poland? Penpals. [595]
Always was and probably always will be. It's also part of our obsession with 'West' I think.
Hard not to agree though that a truly educated person should know a foreign language and it's useful to be able to talk to people without interpreters. When Tusk got the Brussels position he noticed it would be useful and despite his age started learning. Put the effort in, ignored the ridiculing of his first attempts.
I personally admire that.
I am,pointing out that in Poland ability to speak foreign language is strengly obsessed over.
Always was and probably always will be. It's also part of our obsession with 'West' I think.
Hard not to agree though that a truly educated person should know a foreign language and it's useful to be able to talk to people without interpreters. When Tusk got the Brussels position he noticed it would be useful and despite his age started learning. Put the effort in, ignored the ridiculing of his first attempts.
I personally admire that.
Lenka
22 Jun 2023
Off-Topic / Things We Love [332]
In UK it's usually cheese and onion. That's my go to. I like salted ones as well. Thai sweet chili. I also like skips etc.
In Poland Lays 'Pikantna papryka' rules. If they have them at Polish shop when I visit (which is not too often) I buy them. Problem is I usually eat them as snack at work and that is calculated into my daily intake. They don't do small Lays so I eat them at the weekend and eat way to much. I try too share so it's better.
I love books. I love it when the story captures you and no matter what you do you try to read 'just few more words'. Even when walking :)
Which ones?
In UK it's usually cheese and onion. That's my go to. I like salted ones as well. Thai sweet chili. I also like skips etc.
In Poland Lays 'Pikantna papryka' rules. If they have them at Polish shop when I visit (which is not too often) I buy them. Problem is I usually eat them as snack at work and that is calculated into my daily intake. They don't do small Lays so I eat them at the weekend and eat way to much. I try too share so it's better.
I love books. I love it when the story captures you and no matter what you do you try to read 'just few more words'. Even when walking :)
Lenka
22 Jun 2023
Off-Topic / Things We Love [332]
I like to eat on my own as a treat but eating with people I like talking and laughter.
I love sitting outside on a warm sunny day with people around. It may be a bench at a playground or beer garden with people having fun.
Crisps
Traveling
People that know how to enjoy a meal in silence
I like to eat on my own as a treat but eating with people I like talking and laughter.
I love sitting outside on a warm sunny day with people around. It may be a bench at a playground or beer garden with people having fun.
Crisps
Traveling
Lenka
20 Jun 2023
Off-Topic / What's your connection with Poland? Penpals. [595]
No, it is not. But if you add that he never lived abroad , doesn't seem to even go on holiday to different countries etc. It may give him very closed perspective.
And knowing foreign languageswas always a big part of being properly educated in Poland.
No, it is not. But if you add that he never lived abroad , doesn't seem to even go on holiday to different countries etc. It may give him very closed perspective.
And knowing foreign languageswas always a big part of being properly educated in Poland.
Lenka
20 Jun 2023
Off-Topic / What's your connection with Poland? Penpals. [595]
@Iron
Even if we accept your statement as correct it still makes them bilingual. Kaczyński is not.
@Iron
Even if we accept your statement as correct it still makes them bilingual. Kaczyński is not.
Lenka
20 Jun 2023
History / Enemies, Strangers, Friends. Poles and Germans. [82]
Could you show some data?
Because that 92% was in a research from 2022...
It's under 50 percent now,
Could you show some data?
Because that 92% was in a research from 2022...
Lenka
19 Jun 2023
Life / Why do Poles talk so badly about Poland? [25]
Same here.
That's defenitely not the case with people I know.
Same here.
Lenka
17 Jun 2023
Law / Can a tenant change locks to house without giving access to the landlord [37]
And instead want to pay ridiculous amount of money to rent the same thing from a private owner with no security?
people have more aspirations than a 2 up 2 down or a small 40sqm in some bloki.
And instead want to pay ridiculous amount of money to rent the same thing from a private owner with no security?
Lenka
17 Jun 2023
Law / Can a tenant change locks to house without giving access to the landlord [37]
No, I would argue the same points in Poland. But you see the British perspective and that's why we are here.
That's what it looks like, with a cheeky element of wanting to argue ;-)
No, I would argue the same points in Poland. But you see the British perspective and that's why we are here.
Lenka
17 Jun 2023
Law / Can a tenant change locks to house without giving access to the landlord [37]
Oh my, what a nice picture of cultural misunderstanding.
So Jon, Paulina doesn't understand what you are saying because the market is so differentin Poland.
@Paulina- private renting market has quite significant drawbacks.
Pumping the prices, insecurity for families etc.
In UK unless at some point you get something from the council/housing association you have 2 choices: buy or have a private landlord.
Private landlords e.g. kick their tenants out if the rent in the area rises a lot ( like now) and look for new one so they can have the higher rent.
Family may be renting property for over 10 years and yet get 2 months to move out.
If you split with your partner many agencies ask you to reapply for the property and you may not get it if they think your financial status is at risk.
Oh my, what a nice picture of cultural misunderstanding.
So Jon, Paulina doesn't understand what you are saying because the market is so differentin Poland.
@Paulina- private renting market has quite significant drawbacks.
Pumping the prices, insecurity for families etc.
In UK unless at some point you get something from the council/housing association you have 2 choices: buy or have a private landlord.
Private landlords e.g. kick their tenants out if the rent in the area rises a lot ( like now) and look for new one so they can have the higher rent.
Family may be renting property for over 10 years and yet get 2 months to move out.
If you split with your partner many agencies ask you to reapply for the property and you may not get it if they think your financial status is at risk.
Lenka
16 Jun 2023
Life / Do colored immigrants in Poland function better than in Western countries? [295]
Same here.
I just say Black, Asian
Same here.
Lenka
15 Jun 2023
Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]
That is funny as I'm yet to meet a guy that would live his long term partner because the relationship doesn't and not because they have someone on the side.
And it's not the point in this case anyway.
It's the classic female infidelity model...
That is funny as I'm yet to meet a guy that would live his long term partner because the relationship doesn't and not because they have someone on the side.
And it's not the point in this case anyway.
Lenka
14 Jun 2023
Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]
But that lack of love has a lot of influence on other things. Including the kids. Parents for example treat a kid inappropriately. Making them their 'buddy' against the other parent, or a semi-partner.
And then at what stage can parents brake up? What is the age?
I heard about quite a few instances when it was the growing up kids that told their parents to let it go finally e.g. know a guy who told his mother she should divorce when he was 14 (non abusive, not ill etc)
just not loving a non-abusive, non-mentally ill or non-addicted spouse is not a good enough reason
But that lack of love has a lot of influence on other things. Including the kids. Parents for example treat a kid inappropriately. Making them their 'buddy' against the other parent, or a semi-partner.
And then at what stage can parents brake up? What is the age?
I heard about quite a few instances when it was the growing up kids that told their parents to let it go finally e.g. know a guy who told his mother she should divorce when he was 14 (non abusive, not ill etc)
Lenka
14 Jun 2023
Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]
There is also emotionally, financially...
Want to is one thing. Getting destroyed by it is another. Especially since more and more parents see the importance of making the process as peaceful as possible. And since more fathers keep significant role in their kids life.
But mommy that is not feeling depressed, that has the energy and willingness to play and do staff will do.
When my nice split up with her ex if was actually her friends that saw her after a long time said:
- Wow, you look so happy and you are smiling so much.
And recently she noticed that since the break up she doesn't seem to get angry.
biologically from around 18-27 is ideal....
There is also emotionally, financially...
research shows kids really don't want their parents to split
Want to is one thing. Getting destroyed by it is another. Especially since more and more parents see the importance of making the process as peaceful as possible. And since more fathers keep significant role in their kids life.
mommy feeling she's missing out and going out with random men will not make the son feel good...
But mommy that is not feeling depressed, that has the energy and willingness to play and do staff will do.
When my nice split up with her ex if was actually her friends that saw her after a long time said:
- Wow, you look so happy and you are smiling so much.
And recently she noticed that since the break up she doesn't seem to get angry.
Lenka
14 Jun 2023
Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]
The guy himself is saying she is planning to go full time work so she can support herself. Every women I know that split with their partner is supporting herself independently. The only one I know that tried to get the alimony is where the guy cheated and left her.
I'm not gaslighting, I'm disagreeing with you.
No she doesn't. You know it too.
The guy himself is saying she is planning to go full time work so she can support herself. Every women I know that split with their partner is supporting herself independently. The only one I know that tried to get the alimony is where the guy cheated and left her.
I'm not gaslighting, I'm disagreeing with you.
Lenka
14 Jun 2023
Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]
Or observations and comments coming from the kids themselves (when they grow up).
It seems she is already prepared to pay for herself- once they split she will pay her way. So what's next?
women absolve themselves from taking responsibility
Or observations and comments coming from the kids themselves (when they grow up).
how about we switch, now you pay bills.
It seems she is already prepared to pay for herself- once they split she will pay her way. So what's next?
Lenka
14 Jun 2023
Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]
Parents braking up is hard on kids but there is plenty that are not destroyed.
She will still look after her kid, the father seems a good guy that will be there for his son as well..
And what could he do to 'not to put up with that crap'?
She has family to take care for. That her happiness, would she destroy her own son in the name of a fleeting feeling?
Parents braking up is hard on kids but there is plenty that are not destroyed.
She will still look after her kid, the father seems a good guy that will be there for his son as well..
men that put up with that crap are tools.
And what could he do to 'not to put up with that crap'?