Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]

To me it all sounds straightforward if very painful to you.

You had a kid when she was very young and before you two had the chance to decide whether you actually want to go that way. As you did you went straight to family like.

Now the kid is getting bigger and she has time to think. She is still young. She is doing work and school, meeting new people, having a view of a different life and sees that she is not happy with what she has.

Of course there is the option that she is cheating or using you but it seems to me that your life together burned out. Considering her age when it started, her age now, kids age and how long the relationship lasted it is my bet that she just want to end it. I'm really sorry for you but I don'tthink there is anything you can do. Focus on yourself and the kid.


That he should try harder, or be more of a partner, or pay attention to her...There is plenty to choose from. Not saying that it's necessarily a case here.


After 10 years of relationshipshe may as well not want to go to dating.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


I know quite a few that did just that. My niece couldn't be happier after she finished her relationship.


And how is he going to do that?

While I agree new guy is a danger you can't reasonably stop her from forming new relationship.

If it's true that she just has enough of the relationship then neither fighting for it nor being 'tough' will not work.

If it's her way of trying to wake him up to something then that will kill it off.

OP- you sound decent so I'm sorry about your relationship. The only thing that will work is talking with her.

Off-Topic / Things We Love [330]

Talking to kids. Really like the way they see the world.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


Buy unsalted one :) I just don't see a point. If I want butter with salt I can sprinkle it on top. Thankfully all the supermarket sell unsalted versions now.


Suròwka from kapusta kiszona is to die for with fried fish!


Question I have here : does Atch mean fish on Christmas day or Christmas Eve?

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


Cam you explain a bit more?

I know- national speed limit when it's obvious driving more than 40 will end with head on collision

Off-Topic / Things We Love [330]


Of course but in autumn/winter it gets elevated to another level!


I think I hate folding the most and sorting. Ironing with a nice music or nice show and I can crack on. And it makes me feel like an adult :)

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


You....you...BLASPHEMER!!!!!!

Off-Topic / Things We Love [330]

Yupee! Another great thread. Thanks Atch.

Nice Earl Grey with lemon on a autumn/ winter afternoon

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


I know but I wanted to make sure to distinguish them from actual boxes.

I hate that they let cold air in. Especially if someone doesn't push things all the way through, that your mail lands on the floor of your main entrance and makes it hard to come in and I hate that strangers can throw stuff into your house just like that.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


And yet it is permitted. So obviously it was decided that the risk is worth it.

But hey ho, my little annoyance with it will stay just that. It's not like it's going to change just because I hate it.

I have new thing: letter slots in door. I don't want to think how annoyed post people are with those new door with letter slots at the bottom....

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


It's too dangerous, ok. Then why it's not that dangerous in the kitchen?

I know Standing Order but the amount has to be the same, obviously and still there is a date set and it just leaves your account.

Good side of DD is that you can recall it. Not the case with transfer.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


Life is about calculating risk.
I'm prepared to live with that risk. Especially since I already live with electrical sockets in kitchen where I have plenty of water or outside sockets.


Standing order is basically the same thing from my points of view. Where I can I pay by transfer e.g. water.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


I do and it's charching in the bedroom. Annoying.


First you have to set up the recipient, then you have o make the transfer and then remove it again so it doesn't clutter your bank account. Pain in the bottom.


The matter is l
That I'm not too fond of Dirwct debit? Wasn't clear enough?

SO is basicallythe same thing. And many places require DD or charge more if you don't set it up

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]

For the record- I didn't mean cashless transactions, just setting up direct debit for bills etc. I would much ratherpay them by transfer on my own.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]

Paying everything by direct debit. Makes me have less control over my money.

Connected to that but possibly just my account set up- having to set up a receipient before transferring money.

History / Communism fell 20 years ago, Poland led the fight since WW2 [341]


In my opinion it's very responsible to take care of basic democratic systems.


There is no divisionwhen it comes to support for Ukraine so why would you rejoice?

History / Communism fell 20 years ago, Poland led the fight since WW2 [341]

Yes, but random and pointless.

History / Communism fell 20 years ago, Poland led the fight since WW2 [341]

It's lucky the march wasn't about a war then wasn't it?

History / Communism fell 20 years ago, Poland led the fight since WW2 [341]

I must say I thing this antagonism : this march OR march for Ukraine baffling.

If the march was pro Russian or against a war in let's say Sudan that would make sense. But here?

Is Poland really supposedto act as there are no other issues?

History / Communism fell 20 years ago, Poland led the fight since WW2 [341]


Wtf? You know that being against PiS and being against war in Ukraine does not exclude each other?

Should Poland have no other political matters beside the war? That would be stupid, short-sighted and suicidal

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


I haven't seen such in decades but when they are there it's due to poor maintenance not a plan so it's no cultural difference.


Well, you don't need electric kettle. It is quicker but over the hob one works just fine.

One explanation for the low amount of electric kettles was that they simply don't drink that much tea and for coffee use coffee machines.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


I don't because then we have the question of the bed linen...Just learned to live with it.


Truly weird. Indoors in winter but not when it's warm.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


Never heard that. Do you have example of the anti-human interior design?


What does that mean? And I'm not a big fan of Airton myself.

6 (bedding) - I saw it on videos and such. Doesn't make much sense to me but apparently it's supposed to be easier to adjust how worm you get as you can kick off the blanket and cover just with the sheet.

Here I must say I'm not a fan of British size pillows.

7 (light) - really? I like bright spaces and mood lighting works for me in pubs and such but not at home.

8 (bidets) - I can't say they are that common in Poland. Are they in Russia?

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


Oh yes, would annoy the hell out of me. Here you can buy 2 boxes only at any one time. During little epidemic in my family I needed to buy kids paracetamol and ibuprofen and adult paracetamol and ibuprofen. Thankfully the shop assistant at the self service looked at me and said:

Just pay for your shipping with two and then a second 'shop' for the others. I will authorise.


We know. No-one spending 5 minutes on this forum could avoid this knowledge. I, however, meant more thing that are differentin your new country.

Travel / Weird and wonderful Polish train fares [79]

@amiga500
Well that happens. With every form of transport. It means though that rail is good enough for people to buy out.

Hard to believe though that all the connections, including local ones, are sold out.

Travel / Weird and wonderful Polish train fares [79]


What do you mean weren't available? Sold out or what?

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Off-Topic / Terms of Ukrainian Surrender [67]


So you think you can't win referendum without bribes? Interesting

Off-Topic / Terms of Ukrainian Surrender [67]

Keep gorilla troops and make sure the war 'odbije sie czkawka' to Russia

Off-Topic / Terms of Russian Surrender [116]

The first four are a no brainer in this scenario.