Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]


Not at all.

I just like to work ( not crazy career or anything just being productive) and like being independent even more.

And I also believe all members of family deserve the same respect unless they do something that is not respect worthy.


Arranged marriage?

Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]


So you use emotional blackmail (as that what it sounds like to me) and when they don't cave you try to get back to them as if nothing happened?

When somethingis a clear cut boundaryfor yoy


Because that's the model you want. Go ahead and be happy.

I earn my money and I have the same respect for man as for women.

Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]


How about not breaking up and the trying to come back? Is that expectation enough?

Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]


Possible but unlike you we are not talking about not fitting in, having problems finding a partner, troubled relationship with mother etc. Your posts suggestyou have some hard time socially.

Also interestingthat you skipped about the part when I pointed out you have quite specific expectations of women yet don't give them the right to have expectationsof you.

Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]


I'm not. I just said what I think about comments like that.

And what you call unbalanced I'm calling women finally not taking any crap.

As to the advice about money and going foreign- nothing speaks love and loyalty like 'hey, have a look at my bank account .


Braking up is not the same as cheating or not being loyal to your partner.

As we spoke about relationships before I am aware of your 'checklist' for a women- why is it so hard to understand that you may not meet the girls checklist?

But I second Paulina. I think you could use therapy.

Love / Cheating from spouses. Is cheating very common in Poland ? [116]


Guys say things like that and then are surprised we don't fall straight into their arms...

Off-Topic / Things We Love [330]


Better pathetic than obese :P Today I will have some extra as I'm planning on having a pint while watching volleyball.


There have been some nice discussionsabout books here.

Have you ever skipped through descriptions because you were so curious at what happens next?

Off-Topic / What's your connection with Poland? Penpals. [595]


Always was and probably always will be. It's also part of our obsession with 'West' I think.

Hard not to agree though that a truly educated person should know a foreign language and it's useful to be able to talk to people without interpreters. When Tusk got the Brussels position he noticed it would be useful and despite his age started learning. Put the effort in, ignored the ridiculing of his first attempts.

I personally admire that.

Off-Topic / Things We Love [330]


In UK it's usually cheese and onion. That's my go to. I like salted ones as well. Thai sweet chili. I also like skips etc.

In Poland Lays 'Pikantna papryka' rules. If they have them at Polish shop when I visit (which is not too often) I buy them. Problem is I usually eat them as snack at work and that is calculated into my daily intake. They don't do small Lays so I eat them at the weekend and eat way to much. I try too share so it's better.

I love books. I love it when the story captures you and no matter what you do you try to read 'just few more words'. Even when walking :)

Off-Topic / Things We Love [330]


I like to eat on my own as a treat but eating with people I like talking and laughter.

I love sitting outside on a warm sunny day with people around. It may be a bench at a playground or beer garden with people having fun.

Crisps

Traveling

Off-Topic / What's your connection with Poland? Penpals. [595]

No, it is not. But if you add that he never lived abroad , doesn't seem to even go on holiday to different countries etc. It may give him very closed perspective.

And knowing foreign languageswas always a big part of being properly educated in Poland.

Off-Topic / What's your connection with Poland? Penpals. [595]

@Iron
Even if we accept your statement as correct it still makes them bilingual. Kaczyński is not.

History / Enemies, Strangers, Friends. Poles and Germans. [82]


Could you show some data?

Because that 92% was in a research from 2022...

Life / Why do Poles talk so badly about Poland? [25]


Same here.

Law / Can a tenant change locks to house without giving access to the landlord [37]


And instead want to pay ridiculous amount of money to rent the same thing from a private owner with no security?

Law / Can a tenant change locks to house without giving access to the landlord [37]


No, I would argue the same points in Poland. But you see the British perspective and that's why we are here.

Law / Can a tenant change locks to house without giving access to the landlord [37]

Oh my, what a nice picture of cultural misunderstanding.

So Jon, Paulina doesn't understand what you are saying because the market is so differentin Poland.

@Paulina- private renting market has quite significant drawbacks.

Pumping the prices, insecurity for families etc.

In UK unless at some point you get something from the council/housing association you have 2 choices: buy or have a private landlord.

Private landlords e.g. kick their tenants out if the rent in the area rises a lot ( like now) and look for new one so they can have the higher rent.

Family may be renting property for over 10 years and yet get 2 months to move out.
If you split with your partner many agencies ask you to reapply for the property and you may not get it if they think your financial status is at risk.

Life / Do colored immigrants in Poland function better than in Western countries? [291]


Same here.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


That is funny as I'm yet to meet a guy that would live his long term partner because the relationship doesn't and not because they have someone on the side.

And it's not the point in this case anyway.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


But that lack of love has a lot of influence on other things. Including the kids. Parents for example treat a kid inappropriately. Making them their 'buddy' against the other parent, or a semi-partner.

And then at what stage can parents brake up? What is the age?

I heard about quite a few instances when it was the growing up kids that told their parents to let it go finally e.g. know a guy who told his mother she should divorce when he was 14 (non abusive, not ill etc)

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


There is also emotionally, financially...


Want to is one thing. Getting destroyed by it is another. Especially since more and more parents see the importance of making the process as peaceful as possible. And since more fathers keep significant role in their kids life.


But mommy that is not feeling depressed, that has the energy and willingness to play and do staff will do.

When my nice split up with her ex if was actually her friends that saw her after a long time said:

- Wow, you look so happy and you are smiling so much.

And recently she noticed that since the break up she doesn't seem to get angry.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


The guy himself is saying she is planning to go full time work so she can support herself. Every women I know that split with their partner is supporting herself independently. The only one I know that tried to get the alimony is where the guy cheated and left her.

I'm not gaslighting, I'm disagreeing with you.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Or observations and comments coming from the kids themselves (when they grow up).


It seems she is already prepared to pay for herself- once they split she will pay her way. So what's next?

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Parents braking up is hard on kids but there is plenty that are not destroyed.
She will still look after her kid, the father seems a good guy that will be there for his son as well..


And what could he do to 'not to put up with that crap'?

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Maybe. But that is big assumption.
Even in that case things remain- she is unhappy know and doesn't love the guy.
Would you want to stay with a women that is unhappy with you and said she doesn't love you?

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]

That is not an excuse, that is explaining why she feels the way she is feeling.


For one she might not be looking.
Second, we don't know what catch she is capable of and what she might consider better.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


What excuses.


Being in an unhappy relationship is not a whim in my opinion.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


I'm not making excuses. I'm saying what I think about the situation and her motivation.


What do you mean by that?

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Considering they spend 10 years together it doesn'tseem to be the case.
While obviously it would have been better if they managed to love and support each other for the rest of their lives it doesn't always work that way.

If my partner stopped loving and caring for me I would rather move on then spend my years in a lie.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


What the hell?

People have the right to decide the relationship doesn't work. No matter if your partner is decent or not. Especially when you were 19 when it all started!