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Posts by Lenka  

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Lenka   
28 Aug 2023
Life / Polish females who made it [29]

In the past it was common, especially among noble and aristocratic families, to marry off their kids to "the right" family.

We also have to rememberthat marrying a girl to a wealthy man was often the only way to secure her economically in the future. Today a woman can marry a poor man and still secure her living by her own work. Back then she could only rely on man.
Lenka   
21 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

Lenka didn`t forget Poland after 15 years of emigration.

It will be 10 years soon.

They aren`t wider, the same as before

I meant compared to UK:)

I slightly recovered and I'm back from my holiday.
The funny thing is when I like two sides for the same issue. E.g.:

I like that doctors, nurses etc are being polite, more partner-ish etc in UK but I hate that the hard truths are being glossed over,

Example that I came across was a pregnant women (just the beginning of pregnancy) with BMI 30 was told that it's fine. While I understand that she shouldn't go on a diet or anything in that time I would like a middle ground when she would be informed that it's too high and care has to be put into healthy food.

Or H&s:
I like the care put into h&S measures in UK but I also like the feeling of personal responsibility that comes with the more relaxed Polish approach.
Lenka   
21 Aug 2023
Life / Racism in Poland - the future [558]

When you ask a group to raise your hand if you feel you are not racist and nobody does,

It means they roll their eyes, say 'get lost' and go back to what they were doing.

It may come as a shock but people really can not give a damn about your 'demands'
Lenka   
9 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

gradual recovery from having been a communist country

I wouldn't to be honest. If anything I would say it helpdesk with this. In Poland lawyers and factory worker's kids were in the same school, lived in the same building etc and I think most people saw that there is nothing special in it and with hard work you can change your future.
Lenka   
9 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

it was a seemingly well calculated decision based on the fact that you could not envision Poland affording you the same life

No, it had more personal touch to it :) I was never bothered that much about money beside being able to have a roof over my head and enough to survive without a big struggle.

you don't notice anything for a long time and then it hits you... wow! things are so different! and for the better!

That is big part of my feelings atm. It seems Poland is constantlyimproving, I see so much work done, things progressing etc. Even the people I talk to seem more interested in improving themselves....

It's so motivating.
Lenka   
8 Aug 2023
USA, Canada / Netflix's The Witcher TV series [39]

True Yennefer is an attractive, intelligent mature woman.

Yes, but definitely not a sweetie...
Lenka   
8 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

Maybe it's because you're getting older.

I know I'm not getting younger but I'm not 40 yet. What will it be when I'm 50?

but you could retire back to Poland.

I think that is a lie emigrees often tell themselves :) By the time you get there you are either too old and weak, too connected to the new place ( especially grown up kids) or disconnected from your homeland.
Lenka   
8 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

The UK has one of the most diverse and stunning architectural heritages in the world.

Uk has one of the most amazing building in the world. True.
But the average streets in towns is a different matter. Not to mention cleaner and better kept ( of course I compare only from my limited experience)

I'm sure that it's just a phase, that is why I was talking about homesickness but I feel that if I won a lottery I would move back in a blank of an eye.
Lenka   
8 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

sense of aloneness is always getting to me after the first three days

I'm not alone neither in UK nor in Poland.

Why not?

Because it's not only about me. Plus as I'm not as wealthy as some of PFers so getting a place, work etc would be a big risk.

this time of year most men go the shops in shorts

I do not share your bare legs aversion so I don't mind. I do mind jogging bottoms for every occasion including job interview.

when I'm back in the UK

I can agree only about the street crossing and shop assistants.

And no, I'm not like that every time I visit. This is first time.

Please cut down on your quotes
Lenka   
8 Aug 2023
Life / In Poland on holiday - need help with bad case of homesickness [108]

I'm in Poland on holiday and I'm suffering the worst case of homesicness since I moved.

Everything seems better. It's cleaner, pavementa are wider, I can see new investments everywhere, kids still go on their own around streets without being in danger or being a threat themselves. Guys are capable of wearing jeans to the store instead of jogging bottoms etc.

I know not everything is so sweet but I'm having a bad case of 'what have I done, I should have never left.
If I don't fix it I will be one unhappy bunny in two weeks.
Lenka   
5 Aug 2023
Off-Topic / A Public Apology [18]

It will be the prostitution discussion I think?
Lenka   
29 Jul 2023
Travel / Changing trains in Poznan [29]

trains don't wait

They do. It's called skomunikowanie. But it does depend on the situation. Like the number of travelers, how big the delay is, what other options there are etc
Lenka   
28 Jul 2023
Travel / Changing trains in Poznan [29]

Less than 50/50. Due to the distance 5 minutes delay is nothing. Add not knowing the train station (my assumption here) and you have a very risky change over. Even for local trains I would like to have 10+ minutes for a change.

It is true though that you can inform the crew about the change and they will try to hold the second train.
Lenka   
27 Jul 2023
Life / Are Polish Women very promiscuous towards foreigners and refugees? [197]

I asked her for her "sources" and she refused and so I'm
supposed to reveal mine??

You present yourself as a man of science and you want us to prove negative?
Sorry but there is no paper/book/ article :
'The history of women that didn't prostitute themselves'
'The fascinating story of women NOT selling themselves to survive'
Lenka   
27 Jul 2023
Life / Are Polish Women very promiscuous towards foreigners and refugees? [197]

civic life was tied up in prl institutions and the when the prl stopped...

Not stopped as such but had to figure out new ways.

In my primary school we had acrobatic classes. Kids that got into the acrobatic club were receiving 10 extra hours of PE a week in school plus 5 x 1.5 hour long practices in a club for free.

Cultural clubs were accesses for peanuts etc.
Lenka   
27 Jul 2023
Life / Are Polish Women very promiscuous towards foreigners and refugees? [197]

there are Poles who feel nostalgic about PRL times, because, as they claim, "people were nicer back then

There were things that were better in PRL. Social life, kids clubs etc

Lots of examples of that kind of thing in the PRL people giving each other small tokens of appreciation

I would say since everybody was poor such token were appreciated. How many deal were done for a coffee or bottle of vodka.

My dad bought a dig for a pack of tea.
Lenka   
27 Jul 2023
Life / Are Polish Women very promiscuous towards foreigners and refugees? [197]

Germans who grew up right after the War and lived through Hitler. They denied that Nazi persecution of Jews was even at issue,

You hit yourself in the foot with this analogy- neither Paulina nor me are old enough to be from that time (which You even tried to use against us saying we wouldn't know) so we are closer to the Germans of the 60's.

Not to mention we do have extensive proof about the issue.
You do not.
Lenka   
24 Jul 2023
Life / Are Polish Women very promiscuous towards foreigners and refugees? [197]

Anecdotal claims, should not require "sources". In this sense Lyzko deserves as much latitude as others.

Even if Lyzko had such conversation it doesn't mean that the observation was correct. If my friend tells me that Germans host Martians in their bathrooms it doesn't make it true, does it?