Life / Do colored immigrants in Poland function better than in Western countries? [291]


Most don't in Western Europe.

Migration to the global north from the global south will only increase. It suits some politicians to exploit the fear that weak minded individuals have of change.

It suits certain groups to convince people that migration is a bigger problem than American 'investors' making more money from their labour than they are.


Given that Britain is not in recession and the eurozone is, I'd say we're doing better than most people, including me, expected.


Nobody expected the Spanish Inquisition.

News / Poland is the new military power of Europe. [275]


I expect you're used to that.


In everyone else's, that is called the reality of ruzzia's fate.


In ruzzia perhaps. Poland is however a democratic culture.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


They are both responsible for the consequences, especially where their son is concerned.

Also, we shouldn't assume that we know the whole picture; there may be other factors which none of us have considered.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


And it doesn't mean they aren't.

It's worth mentioning that in countries with a tradition of extended families, people often have kids later for the same reasons that the extended family is so important. Lack of support from the wider community like 500+, free access to education and free medical care.

And you mentioned Pakistan, where fathers are expected to play a big role in raising their kids.

You're going off topic though, as is Maf, Ironside, etc. There isn't anything to suggest that the OP is bringing up his child in an extended family. The important thing is his question; he's obviously under a great deal of stress.

It does look like the relationship has drawn to a close.


If that is the case, the OP should certainly end the relationship. Unless he's prepared to have an open marriage which of course maybe something that would appeal. His partner can't take the child out of the U.K. without his consent if they arrange custody correctly so there's no danger of her returning to Poland with the kid.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Which ended up with her either committing suicide or being sectioned, depending on your interpretation.

I'm not sure that something that could end a marriage can be called "vague unease' unless someone is attempting to be rhetorical in a particularly callous way


Even in cultures where extended families are the norm, parents are still expected to play a big part.

History / Polish History Joseph Roblat. [7]


Sir Joseph Rotblat? I'm sure he did.

He was from Warsaw, educated at the Free University and at the University of Warsaw there, worked in Warsaw and was over 30 when he moved to the U.K. in 1938.

Given that he worked on Britain's very important Tube Alloys Project (without which the U.K. and the U.S. wouldn't have had access to atomic bombs) the world would be a very different place. Without him and his colleagues, Stalin would have got the bomb first and that is an alternative history timeline that I would not want to read.

I'd guess that his sisters Ewa and Halina and his brother Mieczysław also knew who they were.

The Polish Ambassador to the U.K. unveiled a memorial to him in London, outside the premises of the nuclear non- proliferation organisation he co-founded.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Perhaps, however the OP doesn't come across like that (they both seem decent) and a misalliance can be a miserable thing for those concerned, including any child.

Off-Topic / Terms of Russian Surrender [116]

The ideal outcome, is that a r*SSan leader (whoever that may be) has enough military power left to control r*SSia, but not enough power to ever try another illegal invasion within the next century.

Obviously there will be no oil or gas bought from r*SSia in my lifetime or that of anyone here and of course fossil fuels are slowly on the way out, however the reparations due to Ukraine for the damage done and the lives lost may of course be paid in oil/gas at a rate determined by the free world.

The future of r*SSia is grim.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Of course not.

Being, however, the only child of a marriage that has died may well be the worse of two options.


Why do you think either of them would do that?

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


Human nature and behaviour isn't nonsense, and of course if there's female nonsense, there's male nonsense too.


I doubt she plans to do that. If anything, both parents seem thoughtful and are putting their kid first.

Hard to know how your musings help the OP.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


In this case, that isn't perhaps the best term.

When a marriage dies, bury it. Otherwise everyone, including kids, ends up miserable.

Life / In need of good Polish jokes about Polish culture, people, etc [239]

A Frenchman, an Englishman and a Pole are sitting in a bar and have got very drunk together. The Frenchman says "my wife's xxxx is like Paris, fragrant, exotic and mysterious". The Englishman says "my wife's xxxx is like Manchester, past its best but very welcoming and always wet", and the Pole says "my wife's xxxx is like Bielsko-Biała, nice surroundings but a terrible hole"....

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]


A problem is that people don't always realise until it's too late.

Sometimes you do have to move on however painful it is,

About the romantic side, people say that if you put a penny in a jar every time you have it off in your first couple of years together and then after that take a penny out each time, you'll never empty the jar.

Relationships can be painful, and sometimes hard to let go.

Romance can be rekindled however that is really really hard and depends on the individuals involved.

Love / Relationship Issues with my polish girlfriend advice needed [76]



There's what you could call Lucy Jordan Syndrome.

If you aren't familiar with the song (at 39 you might not know it), Google it.

" The morning sun touched lightly on
The eyes of Lucy Jordan
In a white suburban bedroom
In a white suburban town..."

The grass is greener on the other side. 29 is young but becoming a real adult and 39 is an odd age with a lot of angst.

Maf gives good advice and Lenka does too.

My two pennorth? Your son comes first. Above anything else. Look after yourself too.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


Can't stand that stuff at all.

A thing that's hard to get used to?

Frozen chips. Why can't they just cut potatoes and deep fry them rather than buy frozen ones?

News / Poland is the new military power of Europe. [275]


In 1939 we declared war against an authoritarian state who invaded Poland at the same time ruzzia invaded.

The age of authoritarianism in Europe is however over.

And don't be sarcastic. It makes you look as stupid and mentally unhealthy as 'novichok'.


Are you suggesting Lithuania and Poland are American parasites?

Off-Topic / Terms of Russian Surrender [116]


This is how it will likely end.

Right now, they're still looking to save face however it is certainly too late for that.

Life / Where to buy cosmetic items such as razor and pumice in Poland? [39]


Indian people? Not especially. They certainly don't need anything you can't buy at Żabka.

Most Indians buy the cheapest of cheap disposable razors, ones that can cut you to ribbons.

Off-Topic / Let's talk about shoes [338]

Do you notice shoes much?

USA, Canada / Polish-American criminals [70]


It was ever thus.

UK, Ireland / Should I worry going to Ireland as a Pole? [37]


To paraphrase Churchill, "beef curtains are descending over Europe".

News / Poland is the new military power of Europe. [275]

Don't be silly.

Lithuania and Ukraine ar independent sovereign states. The first is a full member of NATO and the second will be.

You don't have to attempt to gain say every post. It just makes you look like a tit.

News / Poland is the new military power of Europe. [275]


Who suggested that? Not me. We're talking about parts of the (soon to be former) r*SSian 'federation'. Not independent sovereign countries like Lithuania and Ukraine.

Brush up on your comprehension skills, orc.


It's up to Poland not them. They tried to stop France and the U.K. too, who both told them to f*ck off.


In the eleventh century was the last time. And it took decades to do.

What is 'laughtered'? Is it a r*SSian word?

As you were told, Poland is set to be one of Europe's (and therefore the world's) main military powers.

Unlike r*SSia who people mistakenly thought had the second best army in the world. After last summer, they learned that it was the second best army in Ukraine. Now, the world knows that the r*SSian army is the second best army in r*SSia.

Law / Bus ticket fine in Poland (Warsaw) - what if I don't pay the fine? [36]


No. It's an 'administrative fine'. It is not relevant to anything except itself.

Next time, don't be antisocial. Buy a ticket.

Life / Where to buy cosmetic items such as razor and pumice in Poland? [39]


There are many, many brands available in Poland. Not much reason to import ones from so far, especially from a third world country with poor labour standards.

News / Poland is the new military power of Europe. [275]


If you'd bothered to read the post, you'd notice the phrase, right at the start: "when the war is over". Since r*SSia will have been denuclearised by then, their imperialist sabre rattling is irrelevant.


Perhaps becoming a nuclear power within NATO, one of the three that already exist, is the way forward for Poland.

Obviously, Moscow will be smouldering ruins by then, however there's good farm land round there and plenty of bonded Labour who can work hard in the fields as part of r*SSia's reparations.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]

This one was dry rather than a keema masala. I'm pretty sure she cooked the mince separately from the rice in cumin and chilli then added it to cooked rice and peas, a bit like the Jamaican peas and rice but way hotter.

Another thing about Indian (and Arab) restaurants in Poland. Chinese too where they exist. Everybody orders a different dish and eats it themselves as if it's a European restaurant. With knives and forks too!

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


Me too. The best Indian food I've had is in the Middle East. I used to go quite a lot to a place in Doha down a backstreet where Indian workers (white collar jobs, there without their families) used to go for meals. £2 for the curry of the day (never a choice) with unlimited chapattis and if you paid 50p more you got unlimited extra helpings.

The hottest I've had was a sort of rice mince and peas thing that my colleague's wife (they were from Bangladesh, quite old now) used to make. Hot as hell and delicious. I miss that.

In PL, I'll never get used to some of the portions in the restaurants. I once saw a guy order a schabowy with potatoes and aurówka then order the same thing again right after. I thought it was a bit gross at the time though it's easy to see why with small portions. Plus, if you order pasta anywhere it comes in small portions like an Italian starter even though it's a main course.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]


The egg and fish stuff I can take or leave, preferably leave. Most curry houses in the north and midlands are run by Banglas and the little one in Warsaw did a nice lamb masala.


Pretty well. I used to go out for a curry in the U.K. with a friend from India (Punjabi Sikh) and he used to search out South Indian places. If you look at the distance, it's like us going for a fondue or maybe even a paella. Pakistani cuisine has more in common with British Indian food tha fish and rice does. Lots of grilled lamb and things with almonds in.

Off-Topic / Things you can't get used to in your new country [95]

There was a very small and pretty decent Bengali one in a cellar by the Polytechnic however I'm not sure if a. it's still there and b. if it is, whether or not it's still good.