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IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him.


plk123 8 | 4,150  
26 Dec 2007 /  #61
Why did he make a real date?

is this a real date?

he said "jan 3rd between 8am -5pm.

btw. those are regular working hours.

You guys are being mean!! Her heart is absolutely shattered!!!

it was somewhat of an "inside" joke.. i think you were absent when this particular REAL "love" went down in flames. :D
Janey - | 30  
26 Dec 2007 /  #62
...and we're telling her that revenge is not the answer. The only thing that really works is to be honest.

You missed the point.She is looking for revenge.

Definately agree with you Southern, I have been devistated and still hurting and confussed by my lover for over 6months, living together for the past 4 months, who broke-up with me last sunday, saying he wanted his space, I agreed thinking he was just confused over his feelings for me. When I found out a couple of days later that I had been replaced by a younger modelwho had already moved in, I really wanted revenge.

We all work at the same place and see alot of each other, I hated her, but she was really really scared of me as she knew they had both done wrong.

24th we were all working together, she was constantly looking to her Polish friends for reassurance, I decided to rise above it and become the better person and to forgive, but not forget. Gave her a really big hug and kiss and wished her a Happy Christmas, the relief on her face was so evident.

I could and still can ruin their relationship if I wish. He broke his promise to her Not to cheat on her with me, well we made love that morning!!! So revenge is still possible. Sorry not normally a *****
PinkJewel  
26 Dec 2007 /  #63
is this a real date?

Is anything real?

This is starting to sound like a soap opera. "PF Street" or "Days of Our PF Lives".
polishgirltx  
26 Dec 2007 /  #64
my lover for over 6months, living together for the past 4 months,

:) it made me feel dizzy... way too fast for me.... :)

Gave her a really big hug and kiss and wished her a Happy Christmas, the relief on her face was so evident.

Well done girl!!! :)
Janey - | 30  
26 Dec 2007 /  #65
what plan is this? revenge? Don't waste your time and energy on that.. work on healing your feelings instead.

Don't waste time and energy on revenge.

Confront him and try and get some answers just to try and put your mind at rest, but please believe that YOU have done Nothing wrong. Be strong, I am with you all the way.

I didn't and still finding it hard to cope, stopped eating, worked extra hard at work, phycial job, and increased my weights at the gym and trained twice as hard, result was loosing over a stone in weight (11kg) and being really ****** up.

So please take me advise and dont do anything silly like I did, he's not worth it. I'm no spring chicken and Love still hurts. xx
marek s - | 269  
26 Dec 2007 /  #66
You guys are being mean!!

really read below, she will take him back. first off, he already gave her a reason to walk and the fact they are in different countries is also a clue to walk. ldr never works

i mean, i love him, and even if i take him back, theres going to be no more mrs nice/sweet/sensitive/doormat guy

he will have to do alot more things to get me to even wanna be with him.

I could and still can ruin their relationship if I wish

so you think. if he had you replaced so quickly, hes way over you.
polishgirltx  
26 Dec 2007 /  #67
she will take him back.

well, i agree with marek... but hey, we all make mistakes...
plk123 8 | 4,150  
26 Dec 2007 /  #68
if he had you replaced so quickly, hes way over you.

or never was...
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
26 Dec 2007 /  #69
we all make mistakes...

yes we do, taking him back does not mean im weak. before he was in control, but now i have become stronger, i thought id be weak. its someone wrote something good can come out of this, she was right. im strong for 2008
plk123 8 | 4,150  
26 Dec 2007 /  #70
its someone wrote something good can come out of this, she was right. im strong for 2008

that's the ticket! ;) :)

taking him back does not mean im weak.

maybe not but that sure doesn't sound "strong" and all that.
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
26 Dec 2007 /  #71
doesn't sound "strong"

he will not get away with what hes done, he deserves to be punished. im no judge, but he needs to be sentenced, im still seeking revenge. it aint over, im thinking straight and im strong.
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
26 Dec 2007 /  #72
hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

yikes

scarper lads
plk123 8 | 4,150  
26 Dec 2007 /  #73
he will not get away with what hes done, he deserves to be punished. im no judge, but he needs to be sentenced, im still seeking revenge. it aint over, im thinking straight and im strong.

ahhh! REAL LOVE it is.

:D

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wow wtf?
polishgirltx  
26 Dec 2007 /  #74
im still seeking revenge. it aint over, im thinking straight

it sounds crazy ...

and because women come back, those guys think that they can give us every crap and we'll be still there for them, loving and cute....naive....it p!sses me off....

i hope you'll be strong enough to face that guy....
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
26 Dec 2007 /  #75
hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

yikes

scarper lads

that right.

just because i chose to take him back, i am not the crying vunerable doormat girl i used to be. im now the strong confident independent woman, who still loves and wants to give it another go. he thinks its all roses, its thorns from now on, i have been pricked for a long time, now his turn to bleed (not physically)
plk123 8 | 4,150  
26 Dec 2007 /  #76
GAME ON!!!

:D
_Sofi_  
26 Dec 2007 /  #77
Blingin, I think I know a good way to get revenge...

For him, one day, to find out you are in an honest, loving respectful relationship with somebody who really wants to settle down with you and seeing what he missed out on when you left him and moved on. And I don't mean going with some guy to rub it into his face - I mean really allowing yourself to try for what you deserve. This man has caused a bad reaction in you - you want revenge and say you feel stronger now and won't be treated that way again. That part may be okay to be strong, but don't let him close your heart against other men who could be right for you. That would really let him win in the end. The thought of you getting revenge, or even acting it out might bring happiness and satisfaction. I doubt it will be true though - and if it is, only temporary. You will still hurt.

Do something for yourself that will really make you happy instead!
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
26 Dec 2007 /  #78
don't let him close your heart

i wont, im just keeping it temporarly sealed until he proves he is trust worthy. im taking it slow this time. i just wanna concentrate on my career and stuff.
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
26 Dec 2007 /  #79
just because i chose to take him back, i am not the crying vunerable doormat girl i used to be. im now the strong confident independent woman, who still loves and wants to give it another go. he thinks its all roses, its thorns from now on, i have been pricked for a long time, now his turn to bleed (not physically)

I personally think taking him back is not a bad idea if you're not ready to let go. You do need to reach a point where you are absolutely sick of him and you want out and if you're not there right now you'll get there in time.
brookbabe 1 | 4  
26 Dec 2007 /  #80
For once we all do mistakes, jast diferent kind.In your case, there isn't trust at all between you two.Insecurity in relationships plays a huge roll in sustaning in a relationship.Don't get me wrong Blingin, if I'm in your shoes I'll confront and walk away.He shuld know that you are awere as well you shuld have clousre and explanation right or wrong. life for you will not finish with that, jast learn and grow stronger and better person then him.Wish you good luck. been there after 20 years of relationship.
marek s - | 269  
27 Dec 2007 /  #81
he will not get away with what hes done, he deserves to be punished. im no judge, but he needs to be sentenced, im still seeking revenge. it aint over, im thinking straight and im strong.

no your not thinking straight, your thinking like the teenager that you are.
act like an adult and walk away. no revenge, punishment or whatever you may want to plot.
truth be told, your in your strong mode now or whatever, but he will play you, youll fall for it and will be kissing his ass soon enough, we all have seen above happen many of times over.

just because i chose to take him back, i am not the crying vunerable doormat girl i used to be

untill you see him and he plays all nice nice with you.

For him, one day, to find out you are in an honest, loving respectful relationship with somebody who really wants to settle down with you and seeing what he missed out on when you left him and moved on.

the guy is 21, hes not going to care about loving this and that. he wants to get laid as much as possible at that age like all other guys want.
southern 75 | 7,096  
27 Dec 2007 /  #82
he will not get away with what hes done, he deserves to be punished.

I would advise spanking rather than whiping.However if he confesses,you can try both.
Debianco 19 | 111  
27 Dec 2007 /  #83
you are 19 he is 21-why dont you both go out with other people-these ages are so young for commitment.

have fun

in a few years time you may get back togehter.

y did you pretend to be someone else you must have had your doubts about his level of committment -so i think you already have had your revenge
Bubbles 1 | 120  
27 Dec 2007 /  #84
btw. those are regular working hours

Point made!!

really read below, she will take him back. first off, he already gave her a reason to walk and the fact they are in different countries is also a clue to walk. ldr never works

I stand corrected!! I thought she needed support I was wrong.

he will not get away with what hes done, he deserves to be punished. im no judge, but he needs to be sentenced, im still seeking revenge. it aint over, im thinking straight and im strong.

I feel sorry for you!! You have the opportunity to make a clean break and be the bigger person. I know it hurts, but why drag it out. Why would taking him back just to get revenge help anything or anyone. You are in for a LOT of pain, and if you think it hurts now if you pursue this you will regret it forever.

For him, one day, to find out you are in an honest, loving respectful relationship with somebody who really wants to settle down with you and seeing what he missed out on when you left him and moved on.

Sofi, you are wise beyond your years!!

your thinking like the teenager that you are.
act like an adult and walk away. no revenge, punishment or whatever you may want to plot.
truth be told, your in your strong mode now or whatever, but he will play you, youll fall for it and will be kissing his ass soon enough, we all have seen above happen many of times over.

He is absolutely right!! He knows what he is talking about.
southern 75 | 7,096  
27 Dec 2007 /  #85
Tell him you will tie and blindfold him for erotic adventures and when you are done,bring the bondage equipment for some serious punishment.
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #86
when he comes back, im going to break up with him, and if he can clean up his act, ditch his bad influences, move out and get his own place, work hard, then ill consider taking him back. i know if he really loves me and wants me, then he will do it. how long, say 3 months?
Bubbles 1 | 120  
27 Dec 2007 /  #87
i know if he really loves me and wants me, then he will do it. how long, say 3 months?

Ok so you give him 3 months to clean up his act. He has to be on good behavior for 90 days. So on day 93 he can go back to his old ways.

Don't give him a time limit. In fact don't give him anything no this is what I need you to do. If he is really sorry he will do what it takes all on his own.

Don't hold your breath.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,386  
27 Dec 2007 /  #88
when he comes back, im going to break up with him, and if he can clean up his act, ditch his bad influences, move out and get his own place, work hard, then ill consider taking him back. i know if he really loves me and wants me, then he will do it. how long, say 3 months?

I think he'll say 'Fcuk you' and then just leave. He's got plenty of mates to console him and to get you out of his mind he'll probably go for a one night stand, or more.

He is not part of you. He has his own thoughts and he will act upon them.

Don't play the revenge game. It will eat you up and he won't give a toss. In fact he will probably laugh at you.

You are making all these decissions and you haven't even spoken to him face to face yet.
Lady in red  
27 Dec 2007 /  #89
You are making all these decissions and you haven't even spoken to him face to face yet.

That's so true ! And he hasn't even shown up for this other 'date' yet.......hung, drawn and quartered without a fair trial,lol.......

Takes two to have a conversation about their relationship issues.........doesn't it ?
southern 75 | 7,096  
27 Dec 2007 /  #90
and if he can clean up his act, ditch his bad influences, move out and get his own place, work hard,

He needs the accomodation.

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