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IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him.


OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #91
If he is really sorry he will do what it takes all on his own.

so should i just say were fininshed and wait till he pusues me, or say change, then we can start again. i mean, what do i say?
PinkJewel  
27 Dec 2007 /  #92
think he'll say 'Fcuk you' and then just leave. He's got plenty of mates to console him and to get you out of his mind he'll probably go for a one night stand, or more.

He is not part of you. He has his own thoughts and he will act upon them.

Don't play the revenge game. It will eat you up and he won't give a toss. In fact he will probably laugh at you.

You are making all these decissions and you haven't even spoken to him face to face yet.

I have to agree with a lot of what Wroclaw says. If you tell him you're finished he's probably going to sigh with relief. In the long run it will be a relief for both of you...

I doubt he'll pursue you...
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
27 Dec 2007 /  #93
so should i just say were fininshed and wait till he pusues me, or say change, then we can start again. i mean, what do i say?

What do you feel like doing and saying? The problem is, if you don't say and do what you really feel, none of it will be based on truth. He won't know how you really feel, you won't know how he really feels and it won't end well.
Bubbles 1 | 120  
27 Dec 2007 /  #94
so should i just say were fininshed and wait till he pusues me,

That is very wishful thinking that he will pursue you.

You are asking for advice, but I think your mind is already made up that you are going to take him back. No one knows but you if he is worth putting your heart on the line for. My guess is you are going to take him back and you will be hurt again and it will be worse. But noone but yourself has to live with your decision.

If you are happy with him and can live with the "what if" then do what makes you happy.
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #95
What do you feel like doing and saying?

i feel like saying......

"if you really love me, you wouldnt of did what you did. but because i want to fight for this relationship, i will give it another go BUT, you have to prove your true love to me. i cannot tell you how, but i will know if you have changed, untill then, its best if we are friends and see how things progress."

how does that sound
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
27 Dec 2007 /  #96
how does that sound

It sounds perfect. That's what you should say if that's what you feel.
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #97
It sounds perfect

are you being sarcastic or honest
Bubbles 1 | 120  
27 Dec 2007 /  #98
how does that sound

If you are willing to live with whatever happens, what does it matter what anyone else thinks.

Best of luck to you Belngin. I know you will be happy one day.
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
27 Dec 2007 /  #99
are you being sarcastic or honest

I'm being very serious. I don't think you should just let go until you're ready. But it's very smart to ask for more from him, better behavior I mean.
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #100
i feel like crying. i mean, he did say she had beautiful eyes. gosh. i wish could just leave to the countryside or beach and just think.
AvJoeUK  
27 Dec 2007 /  #101
You've come back, you never took the advice given to you the first time from the 'my boyfriend beats me' thread...may I ask why?
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #102
you never took the advice given

because i was weak. whats ur opinion bout this situation. your always harsh and frank, but youre honest.
Bubbles 1 | 120  
27 Dec 2007 /  #103
'my boyfriend beats me' thread...may I ask why?

You deserve better Blingin.........walk away walk away walk away. RUNNNNN
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
27 Dec 2007 /  #104
Does this guy beat you?!
superjay - | 47  
27 Dec 2007 /  #105
'my boyfriend beats me'

missed that thread...if the guy is question is/was beating the OP then he need's a f*kin' good kickin' no doubt i would do it myself if i was near enough...he needs to be humiliated, stripped bare and left with as much confusion & lack of dignirty as blingin is feeling. I lost interest in this thread cos i thought it was a "how can i be even more of a doormat" thread... u know, a 19yo who needs to get hurt again & again to learn self respect..but if he beat her then i suddenly understand her insecurity, lack of clear thinking etc i advise blingin go confide your ordeal in some trusted male family/friends and let them deal with what should remain your EX-BOYFRIEND as they see fit
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #106
im beggining to have doubts about giving him a second chance. i want better, its just i dont see better, and i know this sounds really weak and pathetic, but im scared of being single again. i just like having him around. maybe we can be friends that hang out together. i dont know, i know im pathetic and weak. such a big mess.
Bubbles 1 | 120  
27 Dec 2007 /  #107
RUN!!! Don't even think about a second chance. Don't be friends don't be don't be anything.

Listen to SuperJay

No one deserves that. NOONE!!
southern 75 | 7,096  
27 Dec 2007 /  #108
Blingin,are you taking narcotics?
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #109
you know the answer.
PinkJewel  
27 Dec 2007 /  #110
.Yes?
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #111
no. i dont take anything. i feel so low. so so low. you guys think im crazy. im just going to go. i should pray to God. he'll give me the answer. thanx for your advice everyone.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,386  
27 Dec 2007 /  #112
Now that I have checked the other thread [thanks, AVJoeUK] I can see what is going on.

In simple terms: Get as far away from this relationship as possible. This guy is fcuking with your mind and will do worse to your body.

i want better, its just i dont see better, and i know this sounds really weak and pathetic, but im scared of being single again.

This is where he has control. You are losing all self respect.

Snap out of it NOW. Stop thinking about him and concentrate on yourself. Don't even bother talking about him to friends.

And make sure you get yourself into the right frame of mind for when you next see him, if only to tell him to get the fcuk out of your life, forever.
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
27 Dec 2007 /  #113
I FEEL SICK. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.
PinkJewel  
27 Dec 2007 /  #114
Be sick, sleep tonight and then tomorrow think or a whole new beginning...
Firestorm 6 | 400  
27 Dec 2007 /  #115
Pack an Overnight bag.

And leave ASAP

You can go back with the Police for the rest of your stuff.
NO Woman Deserves to be Hit.

Get out. And get back your self respect.

He Doesnt deserve you.
marek s - | 269  
27 Dec 2007 /  #116
im beggining to have doubts about giving him a second chance. i want better, its just i dont see better, and i know this sounds really weak and pathetic, but im scared of being single again.

your fuckin 19, get over it.
holding on because you dont want to be alone is sad, matter of fact, you deserve to get walked all over

maybe we can be friends that hang out together.

above never works because youll fall for his b.s soon enough and act like a lost puppy dog looking for its master
_Sofi_  
27 Dec 2007 /  #117
marek s...like to kick someone when they're down?

Blingin - please...confide in someone who knows you too..find out what they think about it, people who know you, what you can deal with and personally know what this guy is like. You are going to receive very conflicting views on here, which is fine because we are all different..but none of us actually know what is best for you, even with our good intentions. You should have the support of people who get to see you anyway.

You are not as weak as you think, you are just young and in love. Happens to the best of us and makes life difficult, as you're finding out too.
marek s - | 269  
27 Dec 2007 /  #118
marek s...like to kick someone when they're down?

not at all, im just blunt. maybe if more people didnt sugar coat, the world would be a better place.
what i said was the honest truth
plk123 8 | 4,150  
28 Dec 2007 /  #119
but none of us actually know what is best for you,

with a beater in the picture the best thing for her is to get the hell away from him... besides she might want to look inside herself and fix/tweak the things that need to be adjusted. she is the only one who can make herself happy. nothing, nobody can.
_Sofi_  
28 Dec 2007 /  #120
Yeah...you're right.

missed that thread...

I'd missed that too.

Still, I'd say you will need the support of those around you.

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