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I fear to lose my polish boyfriend..

kitten 8 | 65  
16 Dec 2006 /  #1
...i am with a polish boy...i miss him so much:'( we ll meet only in the summer and i m so's terrible...i always fear to lose him...

oh please someone helps me :(
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
16 Dec 2006 /  #2
Tough situation for me too, but I'm in the US. You just see him during the summer? You're in Italy....can't you see him on weekends? I know I'd be over there almost every wknd.
bolo 2 | 304  
16 Dec 2006 /  #3
I once had to go through the same (but my girlfriend was American). We met on the "work and travel for international students" campus; she lived in the campus area (NY). Then I had to move to Chicago [it was easier for me to to arrange papers from there '] and since she was in a good college, she couldn't move with me (especially that I was a Polock without papers and decent job; I earned about $150 a week on the campus for 10-hr/a day/6 times a week job as maintenance / laundry / lifeguard / cleaning lad / dishwasher guy;). But we did meet a couple of times throughout the year; I was at her family on the turkey day, she was here for Christmas. But in the end, she's got a scholarship to study in Europe for two years and that's how our relationship ended. We still email each other once or twice a year to say "Merry Christmas" but that's about all. She's married now.

So, kitten, I don't know your age but if you're less than, let's say, 28, there's nothing to fear about. Even if you lose him, you'll find someone else quickly (3-5 years ;) -- just kidding; more like 3-5 months. If he truly loves you and you have "luck," everything will be fine and you'll be with him.
OP kitten 8 | 65  
16 Dec 2006 /  #4
eh... i d like to...but i m 16.parents don't let me ..jak to boli....:(

i m in italy and i d love to escape from here i just can't yet..
bolo 2 | 304  
16 Dec 2006 /  #5
Do you know how many people would love to escape to.. Italy..? :)
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
16 Dec 2006 /  #6
your time will come kotek :) as Bolo says. If it doesn't work out, you'll surely meet someone.
OP kitten 8 | 65  
16 Dec 2006 /  #7
but i don't want someone else:) my boy is the first one who i gave one of my drawings to:) it means much...i get linked to my works! ( might seem fool but i really love my drawings after working at them a looot of time..i feel they r the only thing only mine)

:) i m trying to learn polish ( hard) for him:) i m in love now and i m happy of that
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
16 Dec 2006 /  #8
Well, the best of luck to ya. I can feel your pain.
OP kitten 8 | 65  
16 Dec 2006 /  #9
thank you fisz:) nice to know someone can understand...around me nobody does.

:* i hope things will be all right ! what i feel is great!
dziwna_gruszka - | 197  
16 Dec 2006 /  #10
Awww kitten just look at the bright side you will see him in like a few months time maybe you can even surprise him over the christmas holidays and go to poland i mean don't you have family other there or something?
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #11
eh..i can't .. i d surprise him now even! but i can't:( i m 16 and i have to be 18 to go alone...:( eeeeeeh :( so bad! but sure is that when he ll be here even if parents won't let me go to Rome alone ( especially during the night!) i ll catch the first train avaliable and be there on my own for 7-10 days fu****g them pratically!

i won't care : life is mine ...they made too many choices for me
i don't want to loose bf cause of them
dziwna_gruszka - | 197  
17 Dec 2006 /  #12
what do you mean by fu****g them?, well uhh i'm pretty sure he understand that it is a long distance relationship... what exactly did he say to you ?
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #13
that he ll resist being loyal and when he ll come here all will be great..but smtimes he's sad cause he misses me...and i miss him too!!!how much!!!!!!

ah..bout *******.. i mean i won't care of my parents: they don't want me to stay with him? they don't believe in my feelings and in me? NO MATTER! they will just know i m not home and i ll be back someday. i ll pratically escape 4 a week almost leaving them a letter to say i m ok and i HAD to do that to live my life as i want ..and as they don't let me because they worry too much.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,379  
17 Dec 2006 /  #14

You are going about things in the wrong way. Please stop and think about your life and what you are saying and doing.

If you are going to join the adult world, start acting like an adult.
dziwna_gruszka - | 197  
17 Dec 2006 /  #15
Yes i agree with Wroclaw.... you need to like slow things down your 16 and life is right before you. i mean there will be other guys... he may be your first love and if he loves you back he will stay loyal... and your parent's will come around trust me i was 16 once to and now me and my parent's are good and stuff... parent's just say they don't believe and that is just because they want you to be the way they were or even better then the way they were, they want you to be perfect but no one is and everyone makes mistakes...! Honestly just trust your parent's they know what is best for you because they know better than you know yourself, and summer is just around the corner so.. by then you will be 17... and then hopefully a little more mature so that your parent's can trust you better ....
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #16
...wroclaw... what do u think i should do after 9 months waiting for my bf ?should I meet him here ( small town with very pityful people talking always about everything ,being jealous of everyone, saying i m a fool cause it's ''IMPOSSIBLE'' this story,saying i m a bit** cause i m with a boy i don't know? here if u make love at 16 they say u r a ********* youngs live secretly=_= small minds around me)...i don't want to explain anything to anyone. i have my chance to be happy? romans said '' carpe diem'' ( catch the day,the occasion) . i ll do that.. if being adult means renouncing to difficult things I WON'T EVER BE LIKE THAT .... i know what i want and i think i know how to get it ..or at least how not to loose it too soon...:( please...try to understand me

dzwina )yeah...on the 17th of june i ll be 17. . . but my parents don't leave my sister ( 22) free! they don't let me go 60 km far to the seaside with friends while all my classmates do that ! i can't stand that.. i was honest to them and i don't deserve that all! ... parents don't know anything about me really! the most important things ..they don't know.
i live very bad with them. i don't miss money but calm in my house cause dad is always nervous .everyday ! and my bf is the only one who helps me and cares bout me like nobody did before.

parents don't know i made love ''already'' after 1 year and half being with my bf ..and after that i discovered he hadn't always been loyal ..once he slept with a girl... :(

they don't know how i am with friends
when they think i smoke joints i don't
when they don't think i smoke joints i do
( btw boyfriend kept me from doing that) different view now? ask me if u still need some demonstrations
dziwna_gruszka - | 197  
17 Dec 2006 /  #17
OKay i went through the same thing i made love to when i was 16 but he was 18 and like my parent's were like that to but now that im older they see i'm more mature and i can do pretty much anything... and the fact that i dont live at home no one can say anything and im responsible to.. so it's all good!!! i mean just wait... are you polish or italian just wondering... and your boyfriend doesn't deserve you if he cheated on you like that.. the only reason why parent's are like that is because they care... and want you safe even if you don't agree with them at all...
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #18
my ex boyfriend did that...unloyal boy..
the one i have now doesn't go out with friends if i don't go out : he never leaves me alone while the other left me alone many times...even when i got hit by father..on the contrary my polish boy says he ll defend me always and i trust him : i just don't want him to demonstrate it . i m in love and i don't want troubles for him. once a time i was crying at the phone with him cause i had a bad atmosphere in my house and he said '' r u sure you don't want me to go there this month? u know i can do that if it's necessary''

eh? isn't it enough? he never says things he doesn't think. he makes me notice my mistakes.he makes me feel good. i f i should loose him i d fall down...

i m italian and i live in a 60.000 people town... small and bad place. all superstitious ..all without dreams they look! this is not my place.

i don't mean warsaw is but surely not my town. my place is with my bf now. i hope we ll both resist to all and meet. after that i ll get my part of heaven. the last will be later . i have a big daydream and i believe in this sentence i found in a piece of chocolate i ate 1 month ago'' you r never given a wish without being given the power to make it true''
Wroclaw 44 | 5,379  
17 Dec 2006 /  #19

What do his parents think ?
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #20
they trust him and they say they never saw him like this with a girl
he started getting great marks at school cause i asked him to study to come here
he left his bad friends
he became a lot happier

they ll let him come here in the summer ,after school ends

17 Dec 2006 /  #21
Your parents sound very supportive. They like him? They will allow him to visit you for the summer? Why are you unhappy? My father never let me date when I was a teenager.
dziwna_gruszka - | 197  
17 Dec 2006 /  #22
Well that's good i thought this one did that i was like why are y ou still with him... well i'm glad but now your going to have to convince your parent's but you guys should really like think about your future...
Ranj 21 | 947  
17 Dec 2006 /  #23
The way I see it, we all have life lessons to learn (even 16 year olds) and the best way to learn is to experience it for yourself. Kitten has many lessons ahead of her, but it's her life, so let her learn the lessons she needs to learn.

A note to you, Kitten---your parents love you and are just concerned for your well-being and happiness---it may not seem like that now, but one day you will look back and appreciate the love they have for you!:)
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #24
mine are not supportive...his ones are:)
here i feel trapped... it's terrible... i mean nazism sometimes=_=!!
there i won't feel like that maybe
17 Dec 2006 /  #25
At what age do you acheive legal adulthood in Italy? Here in the US it's 18.
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #26
here too. and i can do a few things at 16...
drive scooter, moto 125,small car 125...and go flying in europe alone only if i have identity card signed by parents ( i have) in countries not requiring visa...

i use to do things i can't do for the law ..i have been driving car since 2 years lol...i don't follow italian laws a lot..but i think i have a good morality..and if i do things like telling that big lie to my parents for the first it means that it's needed really!
Wroclaw 44 | 5,379  
17 Dec 2006 /  #27

Maybe I'm too old. I don't know how to help you. But please listen to the younger members of this forum.

At the same time understand this. When my daughters reach sixteen there is no way that I will allow them to do what you are thinking of doing. I love them too much for them to ruin their lives at such a young age.
17 Dec 2006 /  #28
That's good that you'll legally be able to make your own decisions in less than 2 years. But I also understand having a strict father. Some fathers are strict with their daughters, even when they're adults. You might have to run off on your own when you turn 18 but if you try to run away before that, you'll probably just get brought back by authorities. That's what happens in the US.
OP kitten 8 | 65  
17 Dec 2006 /  #29
yes shewolf..i fear u r right.. but anyway about summer they can't do anything:) they won't know i ll be in rome and it ll be only a week ,no more i think.

after that they can do all to me:P i ll have my own happiness gotten and it ll be more strong than all the problems they can give me :)

i know what i ll have to face... ehh how i know , but i don't care.
17 Dec 2006 /  #30
I hope you'll leave a note for them. The worst thing you could do is run off without telling them that you're okay.

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