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IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him.


LCzachor 6 | 68  
28 Dec 2007 /  #121
If i were you.. I'd show up on this meeting he arranged with that fake girl (you) just to have the pleasure to see his pathetic face.... then i'd throw the ring on his face and turn back... if you don't have a ring, just go and try to enjoy his helpless face and wait to see what he's going to say...

DON'T GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE... DON'T BE HIS FRIEND!!!!

My last advice: Turn yourself into lesbian... Major part of men are not worth your efforts and feelings...

DON'T GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE

as you said... you are beautiful and young... he's not the first nor the last one to cross your life...

DON'T GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
28 Dec 2007 /  #122
im beggining to have doubts about giving him a second chance. i want better, its just i dont see better, and i know this sounds really weak and pathetic, but im scared of being single again. i just like having him around. maybe we can be friends that hang out together. i dont know, i know im pathetic and weak. such a big mess.

Blingin,

Now that we know your boyfriend beats you, the advice we gave you before is no longer valid. You're really not pathetic and weak if you can put up with the pain of being mistreated like that. Most of us would not tolerate that. You're fully able to tolerate more than you realize. If you can handle being hurt that way, surely you can handle the pain of starting over without him. You need to take your strength and your ability to endure pain and use it to help yourself by leaving him.
Macduff 9 | 69  
28 Dec 2007 /  #123
Get your self a real man, real men dont hit women.
ernest sht - | 6  
28 Dec 2007 /  #124
please do not worry . You are just 19 years old and you have all the life before you. It is normal not to find the real person at that age it has hapen at all of us.

Second is that you are so inteligent ,and you must feel happy that you find out so quicly what kind of person that guy was.

Lastly, i thin that revenge is for the poor spirits , and you are a wonderfull human being so revenge is not your way.
Please try make some sport ,keep yourself bussy so you will forget him soon
Janey - | 30  
30 Dec 2007 /  #125
so you think. if he had you replaced so quickly, hes way over you.

That's the point he's not over me, he's stuck between hell and high water. He still wants me and we still spend time together, enjoying each other to the full still. His problem is he can't choose between us, he thought he could but its turning into a real mess. He's still in love with me but for appearance shake he's going out with her. (She's single with no attachments, complications, I'm married with kids!!)

So affaid to say It's not so cut and dry. He is basically cheating on her with me which is one thing she asked him not to do, so he can't think much of her if he's willing to carry on our relationship at the same time.
plk123 8 | 4,150  
30 Dec 2007 /  #126
I'm married with kids!!

strings free *****. :D
southern 75 | 7,096  
30 Dec 2007 /  #127
He's still in love with me but for appearance shake he's going out with her. (She's single with no attachments, complications, I'm married with kids!!)

He uses you to make her jealous and her to make you jealous.So he has two turbo relationships and plenty of pleasure.
Frank 23 | 1,183  
30 Dec 2007 /  #128
Lifes a b-i-t-c-h, then ya.....

You know the rest, why don't you all discuss your problems with real friends........?

Or?

Have a happy new year........better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
30 Dec 2007 /  #129
So affaid to say It's not so cut and dry. He is basically cheating on her with me which is one thing she asked him not to do, so he can't think much of her if he's willing to carry on our relationship at the same time.

Are you happy with this situation? I think you deserve better.
PinkJewel  
30 Dec 2007 /  #130
So affaid to say It's not so cut and dry. He is basically cheating on her with me which is one thing she asked him not to do, so he can't think much of her if he's willing to carry on our relationship at the same time.

Sorry to be blunt, but he can't think all that much of you either...you deserve better than to be "sharing" a guy.
southern 75 | 7,096  
30 Dec 2007 /  #131
This guy is building a harem.
marek s - | 269  
30 Dec 2007 /  #132
I'm married with kids!!

real smart, having an affair.
Janey - | 30  
31 Dec 2007 /  #133
He uses you to make her jealous and her to make you jealous.So he has two turbo relationships and plenty of pleasure.

No he only gets pleasure from me, she doesn't know that I'm still on the scene, hence I could really f... their relationship up, revenge if you like, only thing is I'm not like that, unfortunately.

Sorry to be blunt, but he can't think all that much of you either...you deserve better than to be "sharing" a guy

Thanks, you're probably right but at the moment I stupidly still want him. Lets hope New Year New Start for me not necessarily with him.

real smart, having an affair.

Wow thanks for your support, tell you're not in a long-term relationship. Married to 22 years, have very little in common with my husband now. Don't expect you to understand.

Believe it or not this is my FIRST affair in all that time and was not planned. Our friendship developed into a relationship, despite our age difference we have an awfel lot in common, more than I do with my husband. Tied to the kitchen sink for all that time don't I deserve some fun??!!

Only I've got hurt so far.
southern 75 | 7,096  
31 Dec 2007 /  #134
Married to 22 years

So you want to have two men while he should confine himself to only one woman?This is unfair.
marek s - | 269  
31 Dec 2007 /  #135
Wow thanks for your support, tell you're not in a long-term relationship. Married to 22 years, have very little in common with my husband now. Don't expect you to understand.

leave him them. my ex wife was a cheating slut also.
people who are in long term relationships generally unlike you are not liars.
i guess people should support liars and untrustworthy people in your eyes?

Tied to the kitchen sink for all that time don't I deserve some fun??!!

once again walk away.

So you want to have two men while he should confine himself to only one woman?This is unfair

guess thats her view upon long term relationships
plk123 8 | 4,150  
31 Dec 2007 /  #136
Tied to the kitchen sink for all that time don't I deserve some fun??!!

Only I've got hurt so far.

you kind of answered your own here.. how about becoming free and then having some fun.. that's how you're supposed to do it.. you're getting hurt because you're asking for it.
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
31 Dec 2007 /  #137
Wow thanks for your support, tell you're not in a long-term relationship. Married to 22 years, have very little in common with my husband now. Don't expect you to understand.

Are you getting a divorce from your husband? People (especially the men) aren't going to offer support if they think there's a man waiting at home for you that you vowed to stay with forever. Is your husband okay with you going out with the other man? Is it something that you both agreed to? If it is, that would be a different story.
marek s - | 269  
31 Dec 2007 /  #138
shes having an affair, she didnt tell hubby anything.
funny thing is when loverboy dumps her and with due time he will, she think life sucks now, lol
Janey - | 30  
3 Jan 2008 /  #139
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my ex wife was a cheating slut also. [/quote
[quote=marek s] people who are in long term relationships generally unlike you are not liars.
i guess people should support liars and untrustworthy people in your eyes?

Just as I guessed you'd been hurt previously, were not all cheating sluts, perhaps you men need to open your eyes and appreciate what you have and ask yourselves the question why we get bored and looking for appreciation and fun elsewhere!!!!!???????

getting a divorce from your husband?

Am in the process of getting a divorce.

Marek you are very bitter, did you ever wonder why your wife left you???? Perhaps you didnt pay her enough attention either???? We may be wives but believe it or not we are also women strangely enough.

Most men are too much of cowards, they never grow up, only want the fun not the full package.

How come its OK for men to have affairs though???? Rather sexist isn't it?????
marek s - | 269  
3 Jan 2008 /  #140
question why we get bored and looking for appreciation and fun elsewhere!!!!!???????

perhaps if you get bored, women should leave there husbands first instead of sneaking around.

did you ever wonder why your wife left you?

she didnt leave me, i threw her out of my place.

How come its OK for men to have affairs though???? Rather sexist isn't it?????

where the hell did i say its o.k for men to mess around. stop assuming things about me as if you know me.
Janey - | 30  
3 Jan 2008 /  #141
where the hell did i say its o.k for men to mess around. stop assuming things about me as if you know me.

Hold your horses it was a general question to all on thread not impling that about you.

So you looking after the kids then or not get around to having any?? There wasn't any sneaking around husband knows about lover, who he is where he lives etc so....... not all you acquastions hold water do they!!
Foreigner4 12 | 1,769  
3 Jan 2008 /  #142
this is still going on?
he's 21 you're 19. What's wrong with you, you think that's gonna somehow workout? Call it a day, end the thing yourself and leave with some control. ai yai yai.
Janey - | 30  
3 Jan 2008 /  #143
this is still going on?

Nop thread got side tracked with marek getting rather personal at me. My lovers 27 i'm 39!!

Never did find out what happened???
Foreigner4 12 | 1,769  
3 Jan 2008 /  #144
nice work lady! you must got one nice set of, meh, eh, uh what i mean to say is you must be one heck of a catch if you don't mind me saying so
marek s - | 269  
3 Jan 2008 /  #145
heck of a catch if you don't mind me saying so

or an easy lay
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
3 Jan 2008 /  #146
My lovers 27 i'm 39!!

in that case, go for it, girl. I'm just kidding. sort of.
Foreigner4 12 | 1,769  
4 Jan 2008 /  #147
or an easy lay

yeah because as a group us guys are known to be soooo descriminating right? i can't say i support infidelity (that's a recipe for disaster) but i don't know her life circumstances either so it'd be more than unfair to judge. I suppose you do have the moral highground here in a black and white scenario, and to be fair, maybe infidelity should be a black and white scenario, but as people we often smudge things into gray.
marek s - | 269  
4 Jan 2008 /  #148
I suppose you do have the moral highground here in a black and white scenario, and to be fair, maybe infidelity should be a black and white scenario, but as people we often smudge things into gray.

infidelity is a no no in my book. if a person is willing to sneak around behind your back, they are not worthy of trust. once i dont trust a person, thats it.

there isnt much grey in my life at all.
Wyspianska  
4 Jan 2008 /  #149
this is still going on?
he's 21 you're 19. What's wrong with you, you think that's gonna somehow workout?

umm and why not? Of course it won't work for you but it doesn't depend on age, rather on your lameness
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
4 Jan 2008 /  #150
living together for the past 4 months

it sounds like she and her husband were no longer together because she was living with her boyfriend.

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