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Joined: 18 Sep 2007 / Female ♀ 		Last Post: 8 Jan 2008
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Posts: Total: 70 / In This Archive: 63 		From: U.S.
Speaks Polish?: A bit.
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Lucynda   
18 Sep 2007
Love / Do Polish men like aggressive women? [26]

Thanks, Murynka. Very helpful

Nor Hell a furry, like a woman scorned.

A "furry"? The word is "fury", my darling Polski. Unless you are referring to your "furry" gerbil self, as portrayed in your profile.

Michal, they are just teasing you. But I think it's a bit much to say That women do all the pursuing. It has to be a mutual thing.
Lucynda   
18 Sep 2007
Love / Need help: Can't get my polish girl to say "I love you" [84]

She may be waiting for more time to pass. A woman is a bit more down to earth than a man, and realises that there's more to life than romance. She may feel more in love once you have the discussion about how many kids you want, where you're going to live, what religion you want your kids raised etc. etc. etc.

It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you....on the contrary, she wants to see if you're going to feel this way in 5 years, 10 years. Being young, she may not even know how to articulate this, but her instincts -- feminine and primordial -- hold her back.
Lucynda   
18 Sep 2007
Love / Is it really possible for a Polish man to be just friends with a woman? [32]

I have three Polish male friends, whom I am very fond of. They are all younger than me. They have all, at one time or another, flirted with me.

One friend, who sent me poems, has stopped emailing me all of a sudden. We emailed regularly once a month. I called him last month (he's in Poland) on the phone -- I'm wondering if this surprised him. But why can't I call? We're just friends -- I'm not pursuing him. But perhaps he feels threatened just because I am a woman. Why should this dynamic still be in play?

Another friend feels he can drop over to my house anytime he wants. But he never does anything I ask him to do. So I told him I was going to be a bit busy and I would let him know when my schedule freed up (I've learned enough never to be openly mean to a man!). He fell for it. What I'd really like to do is make him a bit less selfish so he and I can do some things together that I want to do, instead of him coming over, eating my food, and mouthing off like he usually does.

This is the point: even in friendship, men still act like men, and women like women. Women still have to be somewhat manipulative to get the relationship to be "fair".
Lucynda   
18 Sep 2007
Love / Illegal Polish girl wants me to marry her for citizenship [124]

It's hard enough when you marry for love -- that often falls apart, but to marry cold-bloodedly? Don't do it! You could end up losing all your money when the cold-hearted b**** drags you into divorce court and sues for alimony.

I know a woman who deliberately got knocked-up by a rich guy 'cause she didn't know what to do with her life. She isn't happy, despite her big house. And he, poor naive soul, could do so much better than her. They only have one child, despite their millions.

Do everything for love! Life is hard anyway.
Lucynda   
19 Sep 2007
Love / Need help: Can't get my polish girl to say "I love you" [84]

Not everyone wants there life planned out for them before they have even gotten engaged.

*Sigh* Firestorm, you complained about my lack of subtlety on another post, but it's people like you who make me need to spell it out.

What I mean is, once the relationship has naturally reached a certain intensity, a man naturally starts talking about marriage, kids, and then the woman often wants to say "I love you". I didn't mean that she wants her life planned out.
Lucynda   
20 Sep 2007
Love / Need help: Can't get my polish girl to say "I love you" [84]

First.. Dont patronize me.. I dont want. Nor need you to spell Anything out to me.. I can read fine..

I wasn't patronizing you, sweetheart. I just took umbrage at the fact that you "challenged" me twice when I only just joined this forum.

But seeing as you've shown you have feelings, I'll be nice now. :)
Lucynda   
20 Sep 2007
Love / Need help: Can't get my polish girl to say "I love you" [84]

I found out she hates kids - nay, detests is the word.

If you're still together when she's past 35, she may suddenly want them. Some women get much more maternal when they hear the biological clock a-tickin'.
Lucynda   
22 Sep 2007
Love / How to get to know a polish guy better? [102]

Zarnijar,

You are brilliant! You should write an advice column....

And your English isn't so bad -- in fact, it's rather cute. Many girls like an accent, dontcha know ;)
Lucynda   
22 Sep 2007
UK, Ireland / Polish Thoughts on Britain and the British [273]

I was just talking to my cousins back home. They said that the Poles were "the most admired group of immigrants" in the country, and that every second bus driver was Polish.

Just my .02. (I'm a Brit living in the states now.)
Lucynda   
23 Sep 2007
History / Jewish belongings [118]

What was stolen of value?

Not silver candlesticks, not diamonds, antiques, paintings, or furniture. But precious lives.

6 million Jews. 9 million Poles. Millions of Germans.

This is what we should be curious about. Not what happened to property.
Lucynda   
24 Sep 2007
History / Jewish belongings [118]

But when 95% of your family was murderd by the Nazis in Poland... you realy do want to know every thing you can about how they where before they where murderd, what books did they like to read?how they looked like?...

Well, actually some of my family was murdered by the Nazis in Poland! But my tribute to them is to live as full a life as I can. I know this is what they would want for me. As for the injustice and the theft -- that, to me, is something that God will take care of at the last judgment.

If you want to honor your relatives who died, I suggest this -- find a holocaust that is happening now (take the Sudan, for instance) and try and help a few people there. There isn't too much we can do about 1930s and 40s Poland!

But I support your quest, because everyone has to deal with family pain in their own way. Who am I to judge you?

But I don't think there's a single group of people that hasn't been hurt. Right now, it's Africans. There are so many of them dying....And what about all the innocent Iraqis?
Lucynda   
24 Sep 2007
Love / How to get to know a polish guy better? [102]

I would like to hear more people who where in a similar situation, were you change from being friends to "something more", is it possible?? Is the first impression you get from someone not the most important than?

Well, I don't know if this counts....

I was in the park with my daughter and I saw this big, football-player, type of guy. Not really my type. And then he yelled at a mother who let her son get too close to the swing he was pushing. So I said gently "She couldn't help it. It happens."

And, later, he went up to the mother and apologized to her. And, all of a sudden, I was really impressed. I went up to him and said "You did a really nice thing." And we got to talking and I changed my perception. I saw him as a very attractive man, simply because he had shown something noble in his character.

So I say, yes, your first impressions can change when you see something beautiful in that person' s character, or when you know more about them.
Lucynda   
7 Oct 2007
USA, Canada / Trying to get my Polish nanny married off -- best clubs in Chicago? [69]

Okay, okay...so now you know where I live. Anyway, here's the prob -- my beautiful blonde blue-eyed nanny in her twenties (looks after my daughter) needs to meet a cute Polish guy in Chicago. She wants me to come with her, and I am in my late 30s so we need a -- ahem -- mixed-age club. I know some clubs exist like this because my young Polish friend said he went to one with his Aunt. But where in Chicago? Not Jedynka, I'm sure.

Thanks for any help you can offer.
Lucynda   
12 Oct 2007
USA, Canada / Trying to get my Polish nanny married off -- best clubs in Chicago? [69]

Guys, guys!

Pleez don't hijack the thread!

Why all the questions about my motivation? I am trying to be a nice person. Isn't that clear? She's my kid's nanny -- we are friends. She has dated, but hasn't found the right guy yet.

Jeez....
Lucynda   
14 Oct 2007
Love / Polish men are tops! Polish women, too! [4]

Well, I just went to my first Polish club....and danced for about 5 hours. I am totally impressed with how Polish people know how to party and have a good time. The men are very expressive in their dancing -- and they are very funny when they are drunk, and do some of the goofiest dancing. I also liked how all ages of people were out there in the club -- from their 20s to their 70s. All the men were extremely romantic -- I had two men fighting over me, and one bought me a rose. He wants to see me again, too. Sorry, English and American men don't compare. Just about every last person in the place was good-looking, too.

I really liked the Polish women, too. They were very happy --though it made me laugh how "sexy" some of them were dancing -- but that was just the young ones.

I really like how the Polish people express their romantic side. Some of the dancing was just good to watch. I'm glad I went with Polish friends, though, because they explained to me how to act, and what to expect.

Call me 'totally sold"

A happy Lucynda
Lucynda   
15 Oct 2007
USA, Canada / Trying to get my Polish nanny married off -- best clubs in Chicago? [69]

We did go to a club, but my nanny was very picky. Though several men asked her to dance, she refused most of them.

On the other hand, her older sister and I were more obliging, and we were fighting off the men. Polish men are so romantic -- love it!

Anyhow, my nanny is still single, but I am asked out to dinner next week :) Only thing is, my amor doesn't speak a word of English, so my nanny has to come along as translator, as well as my five-year-old daughter. LOL! How romantic is that going to be? :)

But he is taking me to a very good Polish restaurant. He kissed my hand lots of times and bought me a rose.
Lucynda   
16 Oct 2007
USA, Canada / Trying to get my Polish nanny married off -- best clubs in Chicago? [69]

ive noticed that alot of younger polish women off the boat that not even have a pot to **** on expect mr. big money to come from nowhere, marry them and make life easy for them.

LOL :)

My nanny is afraid that a Polish man will be a male chauvinist. Even someone in her generation.

Also, she wants to date a guy in his 20s. Though I told her an older man would be more likely to settle down.

Like so many of you, she wants to meet a soulmate!

We will try Jedynka soon. My other friend told me people of all ages go there.

My new "amor" told me I was "piekna".

It's just like Jesus Christ said: if you try to help another person, instead of worrying about your own life, something good will happen to you! So this is my advice for all you young people out there -- from a mother!

Dobry wieczor.
Lucynda   
17 Oct 2007
USA, Canada / Trying to get my Polish nanny married off -- best clubs in Chicago? [69]

This is my prayer for people here that I sense are unhappy in their quest for love.....

If you haven't found "the one" yet, there is something in you that needs to be changed.

Ask God to help you change. We can't change ourselves, but He can give us grace to do anything. (I'm Catholic, BTW)

Then keep going out to clubs, wherever you see people you like.

Men, be romantic -- This is what women like -- buy her a rose and kiss her hands even if she turns you down.

And remember -- it's not what you get, it's what you give. This is the attitude you need in any long-term relationship.
Lucynda   
21 Oct 2007
Love / Desperate future polish housewife (From Brasil) [7]

Get a phrase book -- Lonely Planet is good. It's better to learn from specific phrases that you use immediately -- you retain the information better if it's in context.

Good luck!

Lucynda
Lucynda   
23 Oct 2007
USA, Canada / Trying to get my Polish nanny married off -- best clubs in Chicago? [69]

Sapphire,

My date went better than expected. He knew quite a bit of English, so we didnt feel too uncomfortable. He is very outgoing and friendly -- what a difference from my ex husband who was morose and shy. We spent a long time together sitting on a park bench watching my daughter play. He's also a good kisser ;)

Lucynda