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Do Polish men like to flirt?


Lucynda  
2 Sep 2007 /  #1
Hello everyone. I'm new to this forum.

I have a Polish male friend who has given me chocolates (blushing when he gave them to me), visits me at my place of work once a week, calls me occasionally. He is younger than me. He also teased me about being sexy once.

I think I figured out that he just wants me as a friend. That's okay, but it took a while. But do all Polish men treat women this way? I want to know more, in case I decided to date a Polish guy close to my age. Thanks.
plk123 8 | 4,150  
2 Sep 2007 /  #2
could be either way in this case but i'd say on average you'll get this kind of treatment more often then not.

there are a-holios everywhere as well as nice peeps.
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
5 Sep 2007 /  #3
if he gives you chocolates, calls you and tells you are sexy.. it doesnt sound like he just wants to be friends to me.
Ronek 1 | 261  
5 Sep 2007 /  #4
Damn you british are strange. A younger guy is giving you chocolates, visites you and tells you that you're sexy and You think it's only because he wants to be a good friend.

Well I would like to know what does one have to do to become something more if measures mentioned above are not enough;)
Because you're setting pretty high standards.

And what is this about "does polish men like to flirt?"
He is just a man of course he likes to flirt. I'm 100% sure he likes hot women and beer as well.

Hope I helped ;)
OP Lucynda  
7 Sep 2007 /  #5
How did you know I was British? :) LOL

Yes, your information did help, but this man is much younger than me. Much, much, much.

That's why I couldn't believe all the "signs". Right now, I am just enjoying the attention and the friendship. Unless he out and out declares his feelings, I will just wait. Thanks.
loco - | 9  
9 Sep 2007 /  #6
If you dont give him any signs of intrsting he might just give up and stop doing it... I would
OP Lucynda  
10 Sep 2007 /  #7
I do give him some signs, but don't want to overextend myself.
Bubbles 1 | 120  
10 Sep 2007 /  #8
What kind of signs?
Ronek 1 | 261  
10 Sep 2007 /  #9
I do give him some signs, but don't want to overextend myself.

yeah you give him signs and he beeing a typical man is not sure if he's getting the right signs ;)
buyyko 1 | 16  
10 Sep 2007 /  #10
if he gives you chocolates, calls you and tells you are sexy.. it doesnt sound like he just wants to be friends to me.

i agree, it doesn't sounds like some one who would like just to be a friend. But giving chocolates thas very nice way to start any flirt.
starchild 2 | 120  
10 Sep 2007 /  #11
but this man is much younger than me. Much, much, much.

How much younger are we talking?? And how young is he?

As long as he's old enough to buy you a drink it shouldn't be too much of a problem!
Bubbles 1 | 120  
10 Sep 2007 /  #12
As long as he's old enough to buy you a drink it shouldn't be too much of a problem!

Here here. I agree!!
Ronek 1 | 261  
10 Sep 2007 /  #13
ok ok, arent you western women suposed to be emancipated, what about laddies buy drinks to men?;)
AniolekSA 1 | 10  
10 Sep 2007 /  #14
hello you all wel ja i agree how mutch yunger is he and in my exsperians all men polish afrikaans english........ all love to flrt od germens 2

good point .........mmmm same rulse
Wyspianska  
10 Sep 2007 /  #15
The only true answer to this topic is:
All HEALTH men (not any shy jerks) LOVE to flirt. specially with girls like me oO :P

polish, not polish - doesnt matter
Bubbles 1 | 120  
10 Sep 2007 /  #16
definately not, we're in Poland and that barman knows me, I cant look like a douche,

LOL Well I did invite you out. I could buy no problem.
OP Lucynda  
10 Sep 2007 /  #17
He is 20 years younger. I can't really explain it. He keeps saying "You're so intelligent"....he himself is very bright, perhaps he likes bright women and doesn't meet ones who share his interests. We do have great conversations, laugh, and are good friends.

But the age difference holds me back. However, recently I've been thinking "Why not?"
starchild 2 | 120  
11 Sep 2007 /  #18
20 years is a big age gap but it would depend on what you both were looking for from this relationship. If its just a few months of good times then you've got nothing to lose. If you are looking for a long-term commitment then this may prove to be more of a problem.

Everyone is different and every relationship is different. I guess you will never know if you don't try!
Bubbles 1 | 120  
11 Sep 2007 /  #19
But the age difference holds me back. However, recently I've been thinking "Why not?"

go for it girl. Just take it one day at a time. And have fun while you are doing it. :-D
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
12 Sep 2007 /  #20
He is 20 years younger

wooh hoo.. you go girl.. it might not last but sounds like a lot of fun. I think you call the shots on this one, as the 'older' woman you are gonna have to initiate things, otherwise he might be too scared. I say go for it and see what happens.
Hueg - | 320  
12 Sep 2007 /  #21
He is 20 years younger.

If it's what you want then let the above sentiments echo but I can't help thinking what the same posters would post if this were a man saying the girl was 20 years younger. :)
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
12 Sep 2007 /  #22
I can't help thinking what the same posters would post if this were a man saying the girl was 20 years younger. :)

I'd say the same, so long as it was legal.
starchild 2 | 120  
12 Sep 2007 /  #23
If it's what you want then let the above sentiments echo but I can't help thinking what the same posters would post if this were a man saying the girl was 20 years younger. :)

Thats an interesting point!

I guess it would depend on the age of the younger lady. If she was 30 and he 50, who cares, but if she was late teens or early twenties it might seem a bit like she was out with her Dad!!
Ronek 1 | 261  
12 Sep 2007 /  #24
ok now you're beeing unfair;)
when someone asked if its ok for a woman to date a 20yr younger guy, everyone was saying "go for it girl"

as soon as an opposit situation was mentioned all I see is ppl saying "well I dont know"
Bubbles 1 | 120  
12 Sep 2007 /  #25
If its leagal why not???
OP Lucynda  
14 Sep 2007 /  #26
People (especially today's woman) perceive the age difference between men and women differently.

If it's an older man chasing a younger woman, they think "He is just into her looks." And no one wants to be loved just for their physical self.

If it's a younger man pursuing an older woman, they know that the younger guy sees something more than just her body. So this situation is more admirable.

Back to my situation. I think I want just a friendship with this younger man. The other day, I was out walking, and a very cute Polish man (still young, but maybe only 10 years younger than me) gave me the eye. We smiled for a long time, but I kept walking.

My conclusion: Polish men are very friendly, and not ashamed to show their feelings. Yes, they're not afraid to flirt. American men (I live in the States) are much more covert if they find you attractive, and are more afraid to approach.
BethH 1 | 8  
15 Sep 2007 /  #27
I am 23 and i liked a man who was 20 years older than me recently.It was complicated though
I am single though
ogorek - | 165  
15 Sep 2007 /  #28
I think I figured out that he just wants me as a friend. That's okay, but it took a while. But do all Polish men treat women this way? I want to know more, in case I decided to date a Polish guy close to my age. Thanks.

There is nothing wrong with your situation. I get the impression that you would like to seduce this young man. It's ok to get other peoples oppinions when doing something unusual - especialy if for the first time. It's ok - go for it.

Polish men are more mature and maybe old fashioned/romantic/passionate when it comes to ladies. They are more forward because they understand that there is nothing wrong with approaching a woman for intimate reasons or just to show respect or gain companionship. They see themselves as gentlemen - the older generation still kiss the back of the hand. Also, women in Poland are more receptive to the mans advance and make him feel better even if it's a rejection. In the west women seem jaded and just tell you to fak orf - usually becuase of the wanka she has just delt with.

If a man offers chocolates and complements you - it does not automatically mean he wants to have sex with you - becuase women should not have to automatically think that's what the man wants. A woman should be able to receive gifts and complements and see them for what they are. The sex will come or not come in time.

This western pc crap has not taken over yet in Poland so men and women behave differently. Men can be men and women can be women.

as soon as an opposit situation was mentioned all I see is ppl saying "well I dont know"

It's always the woman that brings up the age gap between men and women, whichever way round it is. Men don't really care because it's not important - to a mature person anyway.

It's ok for a woman to see a younger man becuase it's a great complement to the woman. It also gives her power over the male.

It's digraceful if a older man sees a younger girl becuase the older woman is jealous.

However - one thing will always be true.
The woman always chooses the man to choose her.

I am 23 and i liked a man who was 20 years older than me recently.It was complicated though
I am single though

You have one - short life - so if something inspires you and makes you feel good - do it - but not care free. Make sure your your eyes are wide open.
OP Lucynda  
15 Sep 2007 /  #29
Ogorek,

Thanks. Your comments explained alot. And, actually, confirmed my intuition that his compliments etc. was a way of "gaining my companionship" as you so perceptively put it.

Because, I was a bit heavier a year ago, and he did not come to see me as much. But six months ago, I started to look a lot more attractive, and this was when he started coming to see me every week.

Hence the confusion. But, being old-fashioned (born in Britain) I decided to wait until he made some very overt physical advance. As this has not happened (despite him sitting close to me at times) I believe that we are just in a friendship. Which is fine with me because I like him.
witek 1 | 587  
15 Sep 2007 /  #30
But six months ago, I started to look a lot more attractive

did you get a nose or boob job?

I decided to wait until he made some very overt physical advance. As this has not happened (despite him sitting close to me at times)

maybe he is shy and likes you? why don't you put the moves on him?

I believe that we are just in a friendship

a guy and girl can never be true friends because one of them always wants to sleep with the other.

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