Women have friends who are guys and they are like brothers
we've been friends for a good few years now, no advances have been made from either side and when people casually ask (as they do lol) 'so have you never...??' we're like noooo we're basically family. when i used to work part time in a pub i'd hang out with a bunch of guys, we went to partys and each other's houses and none of them ever hit on me once. friendship between men and women is possible as long as either of the sides has no hidden intentions or expectations.
when i approach friendly i will be considered like a brother
if i order meals, give gifts, etc.., i fear i'll be considered as a father
if you haven't got a grasp on differentiating between flirting and being being friendly or treating and sponsoring then maybe that's why women run a mile from you or pretend they have vaginismus. think about it. and stop being so damn creepy, it's uncomfortable.