Hispanic girl Polish guy

This is the first time I do this but here it goes please no judging. If your going to say something mean rather no response at all. Thanks!

So I've been dating this polish guy for a couple months now and honestly it's been great. He has always been extremely respectful with me loving and supportive. We rarely ever have any disputes and usually if there's a problem were able to fix it and get back to normal. The communication is rather great. Now he's the problem he's polish and I'm Spanish. To me that's not an issue at all and neither for my family. I don't think it's so much of his family not liking me but the fact I'm not polish. He would want someone that can have a relationship with his mother which I would love and to me it's extremely important. The thing is the family barely speaks English if any at all. I'm willing to learn polish if things work out down the road but it's not the easiest language. But I'd want to communicate with them & be able to feel apart of the family. We're both very big on family which is something I truly love about him. His fear is that his parents won't be happy if he gets in a relationship or in future marries someone who isn't polish. He would do anything for his parents and sister literally anything. Even if it means he won't be happy. He says he really wants to be together and loves the connection we have & to him that's more important than trying to find a polish girl. He says ya he could find a polish girl but it doesn't mean it'll work. He sees it as your heart chooses who u want to be with. I have not met his parents they don't know anything yet. I've only met his sister which she was very sweet spoke English and polish and made me feel comfortable.

So my thing is does anyone have experience of dating a polish guy or girl and you weren't polish and let's say met the family? How was it ?

Oh he's 27 and I'm 24

If he would do anything for his parents, than i can say that chances are that he is a good man.

A Man that valuate his parents above any other human being (including girlfriend or wife) is a real man. Same can be said for woman.

It is up to you to do your best efforts to have a good relation with his parents.

I am Latin, have a polish partner, and after few time, her parents have a really good relation with me. So it can be achieved.

@levi

Thanks! I truly appreciate your response. I'm willing to be as supportive as I can possibly be as well as be patient. I see how the situation bothers him so we're giving it time. But he wants to speak to them and see how they feel. Do your in laws speak English?

Her dad speaks a bit. But her mother no.

While Polish is a difficult language for us, hispanic/portuguese speakers, it can help a lot if you learn it.

Besides is also a very good exercise for the brain.

... or that he still didn't sever his umbilical cord, and still hides behind her dress (so to speak).


no, he is definitely not a "real man". You don't chose your parents, they may be nice or be arseholes... you do, however chose your partner (to some extent)- and he (she) is the one you should "stick to". Not to mention that valuing his parents over his children ("any other human being"- remember?) is just a plain stupidity

Plainly non sense.

There is much higher chance that in a difficult period your woman will abandon you than your own parents.

It is pathetic to compare the relation with a girlfriend or partner to the relationship with a father and a mother.

And even more ridiculous to suggest, like you do, that you should give priority to a girlfriend instead of your OWN FAMILY.

Just decadent and immoral societies have this kind of lame idea that family worth nothing.


Oh, i am so not surprised that a british come here trying to desqualify the traditional family and the love and respect for parents.

Specially coming from a country where kids are the bosses of their own parents and then kick the elders out of home directly to asylums.

elaborate


if she is your wife, she is your family. what if you have kids- do you still think that you own your parents more than you own to your children? or that you should stick to your older ones (in the unlikely chance you would have a choice children vs parents)?


love to your parents is a one thing, living in their shadow is another.
as much as I would love my parents to like my partner (happily, they do) I wouldn't chose them (i.e. partners) using the "will my mum like her?" criterion

@levi

Great thank you for your insight. And yes I'm already trying to learn a bit and he helps me out as well which is great. As far as the family thing I understood and agree with what u meant. He's not attached by the umbilical cord there's a diff between doin anything of them and not having a say either. But thanks best of wishes for you and your gal!

Was it written in the Book for nought? :

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.