My Polish bf cheated on me with a black girl

I am asian. I had a polish bf but he cheated on me with a black girl. Please dont get me wrong. I'm not being racist here or something. But it kinda made me curious if polish guys are really attracted to black girls? I actually dont know his real reason why he did that because to be honest i dont look bad at all and I have been nice to him all throughout our relationship. And then one day, I just found out that he was talking to this black girl on line. They havent met yet and the worst part was that he admitted that he feels something for the girl and he planned to visit her in africa. Gross! Kinda weird. It did hurt me anyway especially my ego. But then I know I have to move on!

All these threads (dating, interracial) are missing an obvious point

Dating =/= Fking. There is a distinct difference

Whether a Polish guy/girl is willing to have sex with someone one night-few weeks is completely different than dating: introducing to parents/family & reproducing children

so????

lol what?

You're implying that Polish people are sluts. I'm pretty sure more Polish youth, especially the women date those they ****. Also dating does not, by any means, jump to reproducing children. lol

@OP, your boyfriend is a dirty cheater. Simple as that. His ethnicity or the race of the girl he cheated on are completely irrelevant. If he preferred white girls over black ones, he would have still cheated on you...with a white girl instead.

Some are some arent. If he was interested in an asian girl, chances are he is open minded enough to be interested in black girls.

Hell yeah! I think he is. Made me feel bad though since he was my first foreign bf. sigh

Definition of dating has changed

This has nothing to do with Polish. A condom means you can have sex with whoever you want & will never fear it being more than that (a one-night stand). If reproduction was a 50/50 chance during sex, then you would see WAY less inter-racial sex. This from someone that was in a inter racial relationship for many years & in diversity rich Southern California.

Every girl here is ''seeing someone''. The popular notion in America is unless you are married, there is no cheating.

think so because I told my other polish guy friend bout it and he was tounge tied when he saw the girl..

It used to be rich, once. Now bankrupt.

That is just a small price to pay for diversity, I suppose.

America & especially California is all about where you call home. There is wealth & poverty everywhere you just have to live in the right neighborhood

Well, most people don't regard themselves as being a racist; certainly not like the skinhead or KKK variety.

But how differently would you have worded this post if your boyfriend had an affair with a girl who wasn't black?

Bieganski

well it depends on how you understood what i have said..

tell him to have a look at this before he decides to meet some girl in Africa.

country-couples.co.uk/datingtips/5-tips-to-spot-a-nigerian-dating-scammer/

datingnmore.com/fraud/scam_database.htm

Maybe cuz he didnt like egg fetus or dog meat?ever thought of that?

what u think he likes? lol

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Dog meat curried:)

I think your original post is pretty clear. It's not simply that your Polish boyfriend cheated on you with another girl but that it was with a black girl in particular. I just don't believe you would have given any emphasis to the other girl's race if she hadn't been black.

You mention the word "black" four times including in the title of your post. That is the real issue for you. You know this. It is understandable that it would be uncomfortable for you to admit it since you added qualifying statements in your posting. Of course no one wants to be regarded as a racist. I'm sure you and many others genuinely believe that interracial couples can't have misgivings or indeed prejudices towards different racial groups outside of their relationship.

Although there is a lot of diversity in the Americas, Europe and Australia the same cannot be said of Africa, Asia and the Middle East where most countries are predominately homogenous. Although Western societies have a longer history of having larger diverse populations all of them still display reservations about how far they will interact or enter into a relationship with other people from a different race. Actions always speak louder than words.

The issue isn't about whether or not Polish guys in general have a thing for black girls. That fact that you have a Polish guy now that you say is your boyfriend proves they are more interested in other aspects of a relationship beyond the color of skin.

Your boyfriend just seems to have found something more interesting in another girl which he doesn't see in you. Rather than it being a matter of race it sounds like it has more to do with your individual personalities and commonalities which are lacking. There is a lot you haven't brought up. Maybe you are a homebody and he likes to be more social or there are other controlling aspects of the relationship beyond sex which is causing unspoken tensions and a need to find an outlet.

If you can't talk with him about it then you should just end the relationship in as friendly manner as possible.

Sounds like he has too much free time on his hands. Dump him and find a man who will appreciate you.

fo sho! =)

He hasn't met her yet, so how can he have cheated on you? He had planned on cheating, though. So you should dump him for being an idiot lol.

well said! there are many people like this in Africa! Try to open an email in your junk box and see!


I think you are being too possessive and you are restricting ur bf to too many things! Of course he will feel suffocated! Same as I! My relationship is boring now because of these things, and I would not mind if I get the chance to cheat on my girl. Come on just be open minded.

Which you aren't here!!! Your man just talked to someone online and you are making a big deal out of it! Out of anger he might have said something- I want to go to Africa.

I talk to girls I dont even know and they are 000's miles away from Poland, but still my girl has the guts to tell me that I am sleeping with her or something, so when i am pissed off, of course ill say yes, i am going to brazil to meet her or something like this!

So you got the point I hope! And yeah, FYI, I am not white nor black.

Asia's a big place with lots of sub cultures:, are you Indian, Chinese, Filipino, Japanese, Mongolian, Vietnamese, Pakistani? im sure there's more but i cant be bothered to sit here thinking of them all.

well, the fact that he was talking on line to this girl and did plan to meet her was an act of cheating already. And he even told me that the he feels something for the girl because she's being nice to her. I guess he's just looking for something else that he didnt find in me. It was unclear cuz we havent talked yet about that matter. he said he needs time. confusing though!


I wasnt possessive. And it was more than just the plan of going to africa. he feels something for this girl that he havent met in person yet. sigh!

First of all, he is not cheating yet! and secondly look at yourself when men look at other women are because something they're not getting at home...

You're just upset that he was talking to a black girl. You think because you're asian you're automatically better than she is because she's black. Maybe she's just more interesting than you are, or maybe she can actually give your bf a challenge. My best friend is black and she just married a Polish boy so I take serious offense to your post.

If he cheated on you with a Polish girl I'm sure you wouldn't have the guts to post that on here because you'd be ashamed. You just posted this on here because you wanted other people to say that black girls are gross and you're better than them because you're asian. Go look for sympathy elsewhere.

Insecurity and racism are not cute! Grow up!

LOL. Your post made me LOL. SHALLOW. Those words came from you and not from me honey. Dont put words in my mouth. I think you're the one who needs to grom GROW UP!

gość jest moim idole toć że wyruchał azjatke to jeszcze czarną zbałamucił

Hon, don't get mad, get even. Go for another Polish guy, maybe one whom your boyfriend knows.

You sound like a great woman - honest and sensitive, and you deserve a good guy who'll make you happy, not miserable.

All the best to ya; hope you hit upon Mr Right very soon.

I like your way of thinking!

hahaha. how i wish I could.


Thank you. Yah, I pray for the same thing xx