Maybe she simply wants to hear something? Make sure you're listening to what she really wants, and listen between the lines if you can. No offense intended, but it could even be that she actually wants you to speak your mind and stand up to her, and behave like more of a man. Or maybe she feels like you're ignoring her feelings, which doesn't necessarily mean you're ignoring her physically, but since you've said something along the lines of;
Is this the price one pays for having a good-looking Polish girl?
I think she could be onto something if that's the case. She's more than just a good-looking girl. The fact that you seem to get the impression that she treats your friends better than she's treating you, in combination with the fact she has hit you, could mean she doesn't really respect you that much right now, which is why I suggested that maybe she actually wants you to take the lead more often.
Also, some girls might look for attention through conflict, and some girls need way more reassurance than others. It could also mean that she feels there's a lack of emotion or passion. She could even do this to make you say and do all kinds of sweet things for her as you're trying to make up. In any case, you can bet your bottom she needs something from you that you aren't giving her.
I don't get these guys who complain about their girlfriends and partners here. You should tell her, instead of keeping secrets. I mean, what is a relationship worth if you can't even speak your mind? She might leave you. She might not. She might come back after she realized you were right. But atleast you've been real with her, which is better than telling her that you never really liked her after all those years.
I know I wouldn't want any secrets between me and my girl, and I would want to get to know the real her from the very start. So if the real her has been edited, censored and surpressed because she thinks she has to appear decent and normal, then I don't think she'll ever be a match for me. I'm not a twelve year old anymore, and I can pretty much handle everything you could possibly throw at me, thank you very much. So if you can't find your balls, she will find them for you eventually, I can tell you that much. Hope this was helpful or useful to you and other readers.
Being more emotional than most does not make one crazy. Softhearted just thinks that because he has a very different personality than she and therefore can't understand why she reacts the way she does. My ex bf and I were the same way, I am very emotional/reactive and he is very stoic and calm. We tortured each other because of our different personalities.
I agree. I'm not sure if this will make sense to you or anyone else, but it's about an open, honest, emotional response for me. When I don't get any emotional response, I will simply push the limits verbally, until I'm satisfied. (So maybe some girls do the same?) I'm convinced it's pretty normal to show and express your feelings to your partner, no matter how weird, stupid, kinky, dirty, wrong, soft, crazy, naive, funny, hilarious, angry, selfish, evil, lovely, dumb or silly you think your thoughts are. It's pretty disappointing when none of that is there.
So yes, I do understand girls who look for conflicts when there's a lack of attention, interest, excitement, emotion or even passion.
I really like her, and I think the most beautiful Polish girls are amazing to look at, but the whole thing is driving me crazy. Help!
I've noticed from your post that you seem to be very focused on beauty and appearance. It's up to you to find out what it is that she's really missing from you though, but I have a hunch she feels emotionally ignored. She obviously needs some kind of response from you that she isn't getting. The rest of your post describes pretty typical behaviour, so I won't bother you with any of that, because you should know that by now. If you really like her, you should grab your balls and give it all you got. Talk to her. She may get mad, but don't apologize for being honest. Ever. She will know that's a clear message, even when it's not what she wanted to hear. She might actually come back to her senses and respect you for it later.