Are all beautiful Polish girls as crazy as this?

Only if you drink in slavic countries you can truly appreciate the landscape.

haha too funny. Some are some aren't... right Seanus? hehe

I once knew a girl who was a psycho, she hit me in the head and then made up lots of **** about me.

In the end I found another Polish girl and she's not the same at all... apart from always thinking she's right when obviously I AM ALWAYS RIGHT haha

No seriously though, get the hell out of it, don't be a shmuck there are plenty of normal girls out there.

Just not mine.. ;P

Appreciate what? Brow beating and physical abuse? IMO lots of Polish women pull the crap OP is referring to.

For feck sake PP, I find myself agreeing with you, what is happening? :D

softhearted63

No, she's not crazy just very reactive and emotional. I'm the same way.

how is that not crazy then? effed up, for sure.......

;- / .. Now I must swallow the bullet.

plk123

Being more emotional than most does not make one crazy. Softhearted just thinks that because he has a very different personality than she and therefore can't understand why she reacts the way she does. My ex bf and I were the same way, I am very emotional/reactive and he is very stoic and calm. We tortured each other because of our different personalities.

Yes,slavic girls are usually very emotional and mental except czech girls.Generally western Slavs have more self control due to germanic influence.

Yeah and they only stay good looking until like what, 33 -35? Who needs their crazy bullsh.t? Not me.. I had my Goddess syndrome already. What a pain in the a$$!

Yes,but after 35 they become 24 hours horny.
Today I saw 100 young Polki in Athens.What a view.

True, Lefty, some are and some aren't.

Maybe she simply wants to hear something? Make sure you're listening to what she really wants, and listen between the lines if you can. No offense intended, but it could even be that she actually wants you to speak your mind and stand up to her, and behave like more of a man. Or maybe she feels like you're ignoring her feelings, which doesn't necessarily mean you're ignoring her physically, but since you've said something along the lines of;


I think she could be onto something if that's the case. She's more than just a good-looking girl. The fact that you seem to get the impression that she treats your friends better than she's treating you, in combination with the fact she has hit you, could mean she doesn't really respect you that much right now, which is why I suggested that maybe she actually wants you to take the lead more often.

Also, some girls might look for attention through conflict, and some girls need way more reassurance than others. It could also mean that she feels there's a lack of emotion or passion. She could even do this to make you say and do all kinds of sweet things for her as you're trying to make up. In any case, you can bet your bottom she needs something from you that you aren't giving her.

I don't get these guys who complain about their girlfriends and partners here. You should tell her, instead of keeping secrets. I mean, what is a relationship worth if you can't even speak your mind? She might leave you. She might not. She might come back after she realized you were right. But atleast you've been real with her, which is better than telling her that you never really liked her after all those years.

I know I wouldn't want any secrets between me and my girl, and I would want to get to know the real her from the very start. So if the real her has been edited, censored and surpressed because she thinks she has to appear decent and normal, then I don't think she'll ever be a match for me. I'm not a twelve year old anymore, and I can pretty much handle everything you could possibly throw at me, thank you very much. So if you can't find your balls, she will find them for you eventually, I can tell you that much. Hope this was helpful or useful to you and other readers.


I agree. I'm not sure if this will make sense to you or anyone else, but it's about an open, honest, emotional response for me. When I don't get any emotional response, I will simply push the limits verbally, until I'm satisfied. (So maybe some girls do the same?) I'm convinced it's pretty normal to show and express your feelings to your partner, no matter how weird, stupid, kinky, dirty, wrong, soft, crazy, naive, funny, hilarious, angry, selfish, evil, lovely, dumb or silly you think your thoughts are. It's pretty disappointing when none of that is there.

So yes, I do understand girls who look for conflicts when there's a lack of attention, interest, excitement, emotion or even passion.


I've noticed from your post that you seem to be very focused on beauty and appearance. It's up to you to find out what it is that she's really missing from you though, but I have a hunch she feels emotionally ignored. She obviously needs some kind of response from you that she isn't getting. The rest of your post describes pretty typical behaviour, so I won't bother you with any of that, because you should know that by now. If you really like her, you should grab your balls and give it all you got. Talk to her. She may get mad, but don't apologize for being honest. Ever. She will know that's a clear message, even when it's not what she wanted to hear. She might actually come back to her senses and respect you for it later.

;)

You dutch when talking to girls do not stop till a 10 minute assay?

Well, some girls can't be described in a 10 second comment, that's for sure. (I get carried away sometimes, but you know that!)

xD

That was a long, considered and thoughtful answer - cheers.

In fact, the relationship is pretty emotional/passionate, and I do stand up to her (I've had to learn). I just find the whole thing tiring (and, frankly, conflict is getting boring). I think I keep the relationship going simply because I've never given up believing that there is a really nice peron in there somewhere, perhaps buried by issues from her past.

Anyway, appreciate your input.

have you considered that maybe she is not what you are after in relationship and her being beautiful only add to your confusion?
Maybe her emotional outburst are means to get from you honest response - maybe she is i sensing your reservations, you are not even aware of ?

Hey, a mature reply! You're welcome.


Okay. I'm not trying to be the expert here, just gathering the information at hand and trying to make some sense out of it.


I can understand that. I hope you'll look after yourself aswell and make sure it doesn't drain you or anything.


That's admirable really, I've known enough people who gave up at the first signs of problems. Perhaps? Do you know anything about her past? Maybe you should try to talk with her about that for a while, and not take silence or a no for an answer, because she's definitely giving you a strong signal with the things she does, wether she realizes this or not. But if nothing changes and nothing can be discussed with her, I would walk out on her for sure if I were you. (But I'm not so good luck with whatever you decide.) You seem like a good guy, so don't let her drag you down. You could try to lift her up instead, but you shouldn't let it continue like this. That's for sure.


I don't know too much about you, and even less about her, and I'm not exactly Dr. Phill, but I've tried to give you some possible explanations for her behaviour. Maybe some of the girls here can tell you more, because you seem to be serious.

:)

Good luck.

I'm sorry but her behavior is not just because she's more "emotional" or "reactive".

I would normally be prepared to give the girl the benefit of the doubt but I've just had too many 'snap' experiences with the OP to feel that he is exaggerating or twisting anything. I can really identify with what he is saying and I think he's spot on!

You've been hit by a woman?

Only your wife is the exception?

You have to look at reality. She is a young, good looking, woman. She knows she can attract many men of all ages, so she is letting all that go to her head because she feels entitled to treat people any old way she wants. You have played into this, since you are older and no doubt she has you wrapped completely around her finger. You can either put up with it or send her back to men her own age.

Personally I have found a reasonable Polka(till now) and I cannot believe my luck.Yes,they exist.

Shewolf, yes, I have been hit by a woman before. I didn't hit back as I would have knocked her out fast and who wants that?

She displays those characteristic too, KP. She's shown them all before.

softhearted63
In my opinion, I think the first thing you should do is acknowledge the problem, which I believe that it could be diffricult since she doesn't respect you, yet she's mentally blind if she can't see her behaviour as a problem. So as a couple you guys should seek professional counseling. I think she would probably respect the counselor's opinion once s/he acknowledges the problem. Once it's out in the clear eaxacly what the problem is, carefully observe her aproach thowards solving this problem, then decide if there is any hope in your relationship.


I think Arien makes a point which I think can fit quite well in solving a problem.

but it depands on what characteristics you and your girlfriend value in eachother. For instance if she likes acting silly and dumb, she could be desperate for reciving the same feedback from you. If you think that you can't fulfill such value of her's than that could be a problem for solving.

Seanus speaks pretty much the truth.

The amount of ladies who genuinely believe that the sun shines from their ******* is higher in Poland than it is in other places.

It generally comes down to how boys and girls are raised over there ( applies to many other Slavic countries as well ).

I came to that conclusion from just listening, really. The Japanese are bad for that too but they only tend to say that they have 'bijin', which means a beautiful woman (women in this case). They never said they were the best in the world to me. Polish? Many many times!

This claim is not unsubstantiated.You will hear the same in every slavic country that they have the best looking women in the world and is actually true if we are talking about Slavdom.

There is also a competition who has the best prostitutes in the world and in some people's minds the two are connected.I was surprised to find out how proud ukr girls are of their pros being the best in the world and I heard the same claim by czech girls.

"Many many times!" - exactly.

Don't even get me started on the whole "Polish princess" thing.

I tell a Jewish girl in U.S. that she's a princess - she immediately understands this was not a compliment.

I tell a Polish girl in Poland that - she's happy and thinks I was complimenting her, because that's what her parents raised her to be - a princess.

As a result there's a metric **** ton of women in their 30's in Poland who suddenly realise that, surprise, surprise, time doesn't stop even for a "Polish princess". Some guys actually make hunting them kind of a sport.