In this study 41 % of allegations were fabricated.
Could you quote the part where it says so?
You mean Dunham sexually assaulting her sister?
No, I mean this:
"In the book, Dunham writes about being sexually assaulted by an Oberlin College classmate, which resulted in controversy over the accuracy of her account and a case of mistaken identity when a former Oberlin College student named Barry (...) sought legal advice to ensure people didn't associate him with the content."
(including consentual encounters before and after the 'rape'
Ah, but that's not so simple, you see... Joan Collins, for example, married the man who raped her when she was 17 (he took her virginity as far as I remember), for example. It's common practice in Africa...
There's also marital rape.
I remember reading a thread on some Polish site for women made by a woman who was raped by her husband anally and was asking whether this was rape because she didn't want anal sex, she thought it's going to be normal sex from behind but her husband lay down on her when she was on her belly and took her anally, pressed her down, held her hands and kept going despite the fact that she was saying "no" and cried and was asking him to stop (she was in great pain obviously)...
And what do you do in such a case?
There can be issues with... communication too, btw. I remember reading an article about a thread that was made by someone on reddit - the author of the thread asked rapists to tell their stories and why they raped. This thread was such a rare opportunity to get into rapists minds and hear their versions of what happened that it was even analysed by serious scientific researches. One of the things that the author of the article noticed in part of those accounts was that men were so much "into the action" that they wouldn't even bother to look in the women's faces to check whether everything's OK and whether the women like what they're doing or not or whether they even want sex or not. No eye contact or anything. There was this story of a guy, for example, who, as he thought, had sex with his girlfriend only to find her later on crying in another room.
Some women may have problems with saying "no" when they don't want to have sex, especially the young ones. I remember reading an article in "Gazeta Wyborcza" on some different topic - it was a long interview with a psychologist and sexuologist on sexual issues. A young couple came to him because they had a problem with their sex life. The girl didn't want to have sex with the boy despite early on they had sex and there were no problems. He asked the couple whether something unusual or bad happened. They said that no, nothing. So he asked when the girl started to dislike having sex with her boyfriend. They remembered that it was after a music festival they both attended. So he asked whether something happened at that festival. They said that no, not really. It turned out at last that when the boyfriend and the girlfriend went to the toilet there were some guys over there and they started touching the girl. She didn't like it but the boyfriend liked it and told her not to resist. All of the guys, including the boyfriend had sex with her. The sexuologist told the interviewer: "Do you understand? She was raped and she didn't even realise it..."
I think young people especially should be educated about such issues and not only that they should use condoms, etc. You know, the psychological aspect of sex, about consent, etc. Girls should be taught that they don't always have to agree to everything if they don't want it, don't like it, etc. And boys should be taught that they should accept it and respect their will and that real life is no internet porn.
then there's always this insanity, you're welcome (piv is a reference to traditional heterosexual intercourse)
Well, thank you, I guess you learn something all your life lol
I must admit I couldn't get through the whole thing... This really takes the biscuit though:
"The vagina's primary function isn't to be penetrated by a penis but to eject a baby for birth. (...) Penetration of the penis into the vagina is completely unnecessary for conception." :D
Btw, I once read a "feminist" interpretation of a fragment in "The Lord of the Rings" by Tolkien. Some feminist critic wrote that the tunel where the giant spider Shelob lived symbolises Tolkien's fear of vagina ;D When I read that I was like: O___O'
I guess there are loonies in every movement. At the other side of the scale are the masculinists, or red pillers or whatever they call themselves. I read their theories about women with wide open eyes too ;D I mean men like that Roosh V guy and his followers on his blog and forum - it's like reading comments of some Taliban men living in a God forsaken village in Afghanistan... You know - giving women voting rights was a mistake, giving them education was a mistake, women should live with their parents until they marry, etc. I hope such men won't come to power ever again in our part of the world - that would be scary... I'm not kidding...
There are also, as it turns out, such cases:
And there's this:
"Put simply: men cannot experience sexism and white people cannot experience racism. And as an ethnic minority woman she can be accused of neither."
Of course, I don't agree with this.
I have an impression that this is some kind of Western sickness - the conviction that only certain groups can experience prejudice and discrimination and the rest is off limits.
It's like some people in the West can't think in a logical way anymore and lost their empathy at some point, I don't know...
Unlike you I am gracious enough to put that behind me:
I know, Atch, I know, you're just better than everyone else ;D And the Irish/British people are better than Poles and Irish/British cakes are better than Polish ones, etc. etc. :))
Oh, and "Polish members here, be they men or women, they have that heavy footed, brusque way, like a bull in a china shop", except for Ziemowit, of course, who has that "rather charming side which clearly indicates that" he "must have Irish blood
You're such a lovely and gracious girl, Atch :)
As for putting whatever behind then I did my best not to comment on your posts on that "Polish guy and courting? Confusion." thread despite the fact that I didn't like that much the way you treated Myself.
Don't know if you read it:
No, I haven't yet. I decided after my last post to gather some information, articles that I found to be interesting and photos for that thread and make some translations but it turned out to be pretty time consuming and I had to put it away for some time. Hopefully I'll get back to that and to that discussion in September maybe (if I won't forget ;/).
So yes, you may have sung a few light hearted ditties around the campfire but that's not quite the same thing.
But nobody claims it's the same thing. I simply pointed out that yes, there are well known Polish folk/traditional songs, songs of past struggle and lost love or whatever. The fact that you
haven't heard anyone singing them doesn't mean that people don't sing them. Or that they don't know them as you claim
You wrote "The culture in Poland now is MacDonalds, KFC and TK Maxx" which is simply not true. No matter whether it's "heading this way" in your opinion or not.
Well at least it's the case at the campus I attend.
Have you ever talked with female students at your campus about such stuff?
Hillary Clinton would be better suited to bring up since she actually was involved with trying to cover up her husbands rapes and sexual assaults.
Now wait a minute... I know that he cheated on her but "rapes and sexual assaults"? That's the first I hear of this. Any links?
and College/University campuses are vastly filled with liberal students
Oh come on... :D And conservative youth doesn't go to universities? :) What difference does it make anyway...? o_O Rape is a rape, no matter whether it was done by someone with liberal or conservative views.
It seems more like trolling to be honest.
You know, such "trolling" sounds disgusting and scary for a woman. Especially that rapes do happen at colleges/campuses. So it's not a joking matter...
it just seems like "they" think I am an idiot, "they" being whoever is placing those things everywhere.
Well, what if some boys/men are idiots and they have to be clearly reminded of the fact that "no means no"?
Or do you think such posters simply don't work or are counterproductive somehow?