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Posts by Softsong  

Joined: 2 Sep 2007 / Female ♀
Last Post: 16 Sep 2014
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From: USA, Myrtle Beach
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Interests: History of Poland, psychology, music

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Softsong   
17 Jun 2011
News / Polish flag was changed by taking the coat of arms? [48]

That's basically what you said comparing Poland to other Eastern European nations.

Let's stop feeding the troll. He loves it when we attempt to convince him of something because he gets to say something outrageous back. Best to ignore him as the OP had their questions answered.

We are being baited. Why fall for it! :-)
Softsong   
17 Jun 2011
News / Polish flag was changed by taking the coat of arms? [48]

Look son, I'm a German graduate student currently attending a prestigious school in Danzig, Poland

You must be a time traveler, then as the city is nowadays, Gdańsk, Poland! Nice post hahahahaha.
Softsong   
13 Jun 2011
USA, Canada / Polish-Americans as seen in the false mirror. Type A and Type B. [141]

I don't like to categorize people for the reasons I described above.

Neither do I, nor have I, or will I say who I think is who. It to me is a purely hypothetical discussion and the designation A or B is just helpful to describe what it is we are discusiing. No more, no less.

I have been shocked at how many people who were born in Poland appear to have nothing good to say about Poland. And so, while not an expert in Poland, I have many times added what I view as positive about Poland. To me, each time I visit, I see life improving and it is certainly a place where one could live a good life. I remember from history and my friends when it was not always so.

People often wonder if those who put down Poland on this forum represent the typical Polish viewpoint. While no such thing exists, it is safe to say that there seem to be a lot of detractors on this forum. My personal theory is that the majority of people are not detractors, they are just less vocal. In real life there seems to be many more who would be classified as A, if such a classification really existed.
Softsong   
13 Jun 2011
USA, Canada / Polish-Americans as seen in the false mirror. Type A and Type B. [141]

it's impossible to determine why people do and say what they do unless you really know them

We are in agreement. I have merely stated a psychological principle that is true in general. People rarely like to admit something was a bad idea. It makes them look stupid. I am sure there are some who behave as a B type for that reason. I am not saying this about any one particular person.

What I have attempted to do is to understand why a B might act like a B type. And to understand why it seems that there are so many more B people than A people. For the most part, I believe B behavior results from those who left Poland unhappy with how it was when they left, and so they complain the most about Poland today. I believe that the majority of people who leave Poland like where they are now, but also are quite positive about their homeland. Thus they are the A type.

It is a well-known business principle that customers or anybody who is unhappy with a situation are the most vocal about it. Thus, the presence of more B like people on the forum.
Softsong   
13 Jun 2011
USA, Canada / Polish-Americans as seen in the false mirror. Type A and Type B. [141]

But that would be any one who emigrates from Poland and becomes an American citizen. A or B. Once again, perhaps we are confusing ethnicity with citizenship? Genes remain with the person as long as they live. A person's nationality can and does change and with it are obligations to fulfill. An American citizen born in Poland has every right to say they are ethnically Polish and to remain interested in and have a love for their country of origin. And if they maintain dual citizenship, they can also say they are Polish in the sense of nationality.

I cannot remember the last time any PolAm was ordered to attack Poland. You make a big issue of something that thus far remains very hypothetical. However, it has happened. German Americans had to fight Germans in their homeland and maybe even relatives. This is a sad situation, but no reason to smear the person on either side of the Atlantic.
Softsong   
13 Jun 2011
USA, Canada / Polish-Americans as seen in the false mirror. Type A and Type B. [141]

Why do you wish to eliminate free public debate about religion and politics on this forum Antek?

I doubt Antek wants to eliminate free public debate about religion and politics. They are some of the more informative and interesting topics. I feel he is more or less proposing a way to eliminate trolls who just wish to be nasty for nasty sake. And, since PF is always wanting Gold membership to help support it, why not have a special place for people with a real interest in Poland's religion and politics. It goes one step beyond a little extra PM space.

I could also see this done without the monetary requirement. There are forums that I am on that have special places for sensitive subjects so that members can be safe there to discuss.
Softsong   
13 Jun 2011
USA, Canada / Polish-Americans as seen in the false mirror. Type A and Type B. [141]

However, there is that larger group of people who were not born here, that are second and third and many more generations.

I meant to say, "there is a that larger group of people who were not born THERE (in Poland), that are second and third and many more generations."

Thank you for your extensive, objective, deep and great insight very much, Softsong!

It was a bit long, so I thank you for reading and getting something out of it. I feel glad you started the thread because it addresses issues we have had here for a long time. The B types annoy me too. Imagine how weird it is to read all you can about where your ancestors came from, visit the country and then join a forum to learn more about Poland, but wind up defending Poland from Poles! I honestly have to believe in reality they are a true minority.
Softsong   
13 Jun 2011
USA, Canada / Polish-Americans as seen in the false mirror. Type A and Type B. [141]

I can see the existence of the two groups, A and B, but there is also as touched on in a previous post, the problem of defining who is in these two groups. To me, Antek is describing 1st generation PolAm who fall into A and B. And his designation would be correct about someone who came here from Poland, and then became a citizen of the USA. He/she is a PolAm.

However, there is that larger group of people who were not born here, that are second and third and many more generations. Those are the ones that I personally think of as PolAm, even though I know it includes the ones who were born in Poland, but became citizens.

I tend to think of those from Poland (both with green cards and those who are now a citizen of the USA as Polonia. Kind of like a country within a country. Of course, some who emigrate from Poland have not ever lived in the "little Polands" all across America and Canada, but moved instead to other communities.

Since I live far from any concentrated Polish communities, it is hard for me to see if they fall into A or B. There are a few born in Poland people that live near me and they seem to be in the A category. I have never really met a B kind in my whole life. Except on this forum.

We can see the same thing in regards to a business. The complainers are always louder than the satisfied people. This could be one explanation why B seems like a larger group on these forums. And, why I am very vocal third generation PolAm-GerAm who often defends Poland of today. I really have no business to do so. I have only visited Poland three times, and am far from an expert. But, I am absolutely shocked at how some of Poland's former residents speak about Poland. It defies what I see with my own eyes in Poland. So, I have to speak up.

Anyway, an example of my point. If someone stays at my hotel and is happy with their stay, it is the rare person who goes to the trouble to write online about what a great hotel we have. But the ones who were not happy, will take the time to write about their negative experiences.

So, I am guessing that the seemingly larger group of B people from Poland are just a lot more vocal and appear more numerous on this forum.

Another factor that comes into play is a psychological factor. It is known in psychology that even if a decision is a bad one, (i.e. you join a religion that thinks the end of the world is tomorrow and then the prophecy turns out to be false, you tend to defend that choice very rigorously). No one wants to say, "Yes, it was a terrible mistake, I was an idiot to do this."

Therefore, I guess some who are B might feel badly leaving their country deep down, and might not be that happy here. But, to save face, they will talk up the new country and put down the old country.

As for the vote....that appears to me to be a complication of the Polish rules that ignore citizenship of another country. Neither the USA or Poland acknowledges when someone is a citizen of another land. It is more or less not really allowed, but not bothered about.

I could see those people who were born in Poland as adults, being able to vote in Poland. People who live abroad in other countries for years, can cast their ballots in American elections, too. One would hope they stay abreast of all what is going on in their native lands, but it can be frustrating to those in a country living with the day to day realities.

Again, it is the law in Poland that brings in my opinion the trouble with PolAm from second or more generations who could vote because even not being born in Poland, they are citizens if they file for it and have the right to vote.

I actually think that if I made a case for it, I could obtain Polish citizenship. And heck, I would NEVER vote in a Polish election, but I can tell you I would not have voted for Kaczyński. My choice would have been Komorowski. I happened to be there during the elections. :-)

We who are still very proud of our ethnic connection to Poland (our genetic material does not change despite country of citizenship), should not vote. Many of us see Poland from the eyes of what our grand parents told us about Poland, and that is totally not relevant to Poland today. Most of us have not gone to Poland to visit. Yet, it makes me sad for us to be put down.

So, I dislike Delphie and Harry putting us down. Most of us are A people at heart. They have often made me very angry at their treatment of some on this forum. With some time though, I came to see why they do it. There are those in the group of new residents of this country and those who are second or third generation who are B like in their attitude, and it is their way of showing them how B they are.

I used to think Delph hated all Poles, even those in Poland. I have come to see that especially Delphie calls it like he sees it about B like people in Poland and abroad. And I think he likes to show that if he hated Poland, he would not be there working to make it better. So, I have come to moderate how I feel about them. At times, I do believe they go way too far.

Therefore, with this long post, I believe most PolAm are A. not B. Polish Forums is not a real slice of life of Poland, nor of Polish Americans. But, it's all we have. And I am always happy to see more natives of Poland take an interest in this forum to gain some balance. I'd like to see people who come here to learn about Poland, actually learn about Poland!
Softsong   
12 Jun 2011
Food / Mayonnaise and ketchup in Poland [47]

This is very interesting, Softie!

Thanks....and I think that Vetschau, Germany is near the Dutch border, so maybe it has come full circle!

When I was in Poland, I loved to browse the isles of the grocery stores. It was interesting to see what brands were the same and what were different. I even took pictures. What a tourist!

I noticed dogfood had BoBo on it. So, I gather that is a popular pooch name.

As for Heinz 57, Americans often use that product to make joke when someone asks what breed is your dog. Well, he's a Heinz 57. For that matter, we often call ourselves a Heinz 57. But, I guess since this is about foods, I'd have to say I'd enjoy Heinz products if I lived in Poland.

By the way, nobody mentioned Heinz.

I wonder if Wildrover is particularly fond of those Heinz beans!
Softsong   
12 Jun 2011
Food / Mayonnaise and ketchup in Poland [47]

Hellman is owned by Unilever nowadays, hence the Dutch barcode

And here's how it started! It's been known as America's favorite mayonnaise, at least on the east coast, especially in the north.

"In 1905, Richard Hellmann from Vetschau, Germany, opened a delicatessen on Columbus Avenue in New York City, where he used his wife's recipe to sell the first ready-made mayonnaise. It became so popular that he began selling it in bulk to other stores. In 1912 he built a factory for producing Mrs. Hellmann's mayonnaise. It was mass marketed and called Hellmann's Blue Ribbon Mayonnaise. It was so successful, Hellmann closed his delicatessen by 1917 to devote full time to his mayonnaise business".

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hellmann's_and_Best_Foods
Softsong   
10 Jun 2011
News / Conservative-liberalism (Laissez-faire liberalism), another utopia for Poland? [99]

This should be a very spirited discussion. I am currently emailing a young man who is very enthusiastic about letting the Free Market work it's magic. He is for classical liberalism which is not the liberalism that most people know of today.

He makes a lot of sense, but over and over again the same thing keeps coming up that it sounds good on paper. I am attempting to figure out myself where I stand on these matters in regard to the USA. My knowledge of Polish politics and economics is very poor so I have nothing much to contribute for how this would effect Poland.
Softsong   
6 Jun 2011
Life / Who is poor in Poland? [720]

but try going to a country town and things change, not in the sense of seeing people starving, but job opportunities and ability to get enough money to buy a house/apartment.

That is true. My grandmother had a farm in a tiny village near a small town and a distant cousin and myself went there last summer. We met some people who were other distant cousins and they did indeed appear to have a much harder time than those in the bigger cities.

But, as we both agree, no one was starving. And things were much better than in the recent past. There is land there sold for vacation or retirement and I could see it as a nice place for that, but not for a career.
Softsong   
5 Jun 2011
Language / Polish sayings [236]

That is probably the idea behind it. She may have elaborated by imagining who it would be that was hungry.
Thanks!
Softsong   
5 Jun 2011
Language / Polish sayings [236]

Are there any Polish sayings when someone drops a spoon or a fork? My mother used to say it meant someone would soon be coming to the house and you could tell if it will be a man, a sport, or a lady by what was dropped?
Softsong   
5 Jun 2011
Life / Who is poor in Poland? [720]

LOL ! Do you know how much of a typical flat average monthly salary in Poland can buy ? Depends on the area It is 0.2-1 m^2.

And I also thought it had to do with the destruction of WWII and the need to build more apartments and houses.

When I went in 2000, my Polish bf and his family would have been multi-generational too. If we would have married, we would have lived there. I think his father made about $500 American dollars a month and his mother was a kindergarten teacher. They were not poor, but always looking for ways to earn more or do better. They had high hopes for their children.

Here in the States, I am multi-generational, too. My older son was doing well, but had an accident and lost his business and ability to walk for several years. He is able to walk now without crutches and a cane, but no longer can do what he once did to support himself. So, he and my two grandchildren live with me. In some ways, it is nice because we are all very close.
Softsong   
5 Jun 2011
Life / Who is poor in Poland? [720]

you now tell us you are some big shot in the university, well HULLO any one home. This will not work, just come down to ground level and be like the rest of us,

Antek said he is NOT an employee or professor within any university, but is a consultant and provided a link as to what type of consultant work he does. It is a specialized career that involved hard work and knowledge. No where was it implied that he is a big shot. Those are your words.

I like and agree with his assessment of there being poor people in Poland, but it is an o.k. place to live. I grew up in a middle class family in the USA and it looks to me as though I could live there comfortably. I could not say the same thing for Mexico. Where ever I went, there were poor children begging. If you gave something to one, the others would flock around much like when you feed one seagull and more and more arrive. I never saw anything like that in Poland.

I have no idea what it is like to have grown up there as I was a child in New York City. However, in my late teens an early twenties I had a best friend who was born and raised in Poland and came to the USA in her late teens.

Her grandmother still lived in Poland (Gdańsk), and she often went back to visit during communist times. I vividly remember her stories about her grandmother waiting on long lines to have some meat and other nice things to offer when her grand daughter visited. I remember how we sent care packages to her former school friends who needed vitamin drops for their children and many other things. I heard about multi-generations sharing homes, the uncertainty of getting new furniture. Empty shops, Coca Cola under the bar for the right price, and how the famous Polish ham was exported and Poles had none.

My first trip to Poland was in 2000 and it was nothing like that and each year that I go, I see more and more improvement. So when Antek says there are poor, but it is an o.k. place to live, I believe him. When I attempted to defend Polish drivers.....he candidly admitted that Polish drivers were not the best. So, I feel he calls it like he sees it and is being as objective as he can be.

It is his opinion and seems valid to me. Everyone else is entitled to their opinions. Life can be hard for any of us anywhere. I really like reading about everyone's experiences and opinions, but I feel bad when someone who brings a lot to the forum is picked apart personally. I respect all those who feel opposite and realize that not everyone has had a bed of roses in Poland. But, it is so much better than it was before and that makes me feel happy.
Softsong   
4 Jun 2011
History / What was it like in 1989+ in Poland when the Soviet house of cards fell? [237]

See Antek you were laughing at Russians because you had Camels and quality clothing and they didn't.

No where in the story is he laughing at the Russians. He was feeling grateful for how much things had changed in Poland due to the end of Communism. Big difference. And whatever he has posted has been to show that while poor and rich are relative, things are much, much better than before. He is an optimist and attempting to encourage his nation to look on the bright side, to use the new found tools which were not available in Commie times.

I also heard from another musician in Poland who is severely disabled and in a wheelchair. His basic needs were met in Commie times, but now due to more freedoms, he found he could learn the guitar, play and sing, write stories. Now he is self-supporting about about to marry. A dream he never thought would happen.
Softsong   
3 Jun 2011
Life / Who is poor in Poland? [720]

However, Harry, it is besides the fact as to the financial status of modern-day Poland.
Softsong   
3 Jun 2011
Life / Who is poor in Poland? [720]

Thanks Monia.... :-)

The Czech Republic did not collaborate with the Nazis in WWII, or before WWII, which is not a claim Poland can truthfully make.

Although that was brought up as a positive point to show how well Poland has done and how far it has come, it is kind of a side issue and does not relate to the topic, directly. The next thing we know there will be all kinds of posts about whether or not Poland collaborated. :-/

Ah....we posted together....thanks Antek for clearing up that matter.
Softsong   
3 Jun 2011
Life / Who is poor in Poland? [720]

Excellent points, Antek. When I visited Poland, I never had the impression that I was in a country that was very poor. I could tell it was not as well off as Germany or the USA, but I could see that a good life was very possible. And I also noticed that even the poorer villagers seemed like they lived better than poor I've seen elsewhere. Of course this is just my impression.

The statistics below seem to support the conclusions that you have made above:

Rank Country Population below poverty line (%)
1 Zambia 86
2 Chad 80
3 Gaza Strip 80
4 Haiti 80
5 Liberia 80
6 Sierra Leone 70.2
7 Mozambique 70
8 Nigeria 70
9 Suriname 70
10 Swaziland 69
11 Burundi 68
12 Zimbabwe 68
13 Niger 63
14 Rwanda 60
15 Tajikistan 60
16 Comoros 60
17 Bolivia 60
18 Guatemala 56.2
19 Sao Tome and Principe 54
20 Senegal 54

Definition: National estimates of the percentage of the population falling below the poverty line are based on surveys of sub-groups, with the results weighted by the number of people in each group. Definitions of poverty vary considerably among nations. For example, rich nations generally employ more generous standards of poverty than poor nations.

Source: CIA World Factbook - Unless otherwise noted, information in this page is accurate as of January 1, 2009
Softsong   
24 May 2011
Life / Observation of Polish drivers, by and English anthropologist. [94]

t would be nice if it did go from Warsaw to Gdansk.

I was not sure how far it went because on that trip, I did not travel to Warsaw, I only knew that we headed in that direction and did not need to use the old road.

Is further construction planned?

I know for a fact that on the Warsaw to Gdansk road it is possible to get four cars going side by side in one direction and two more side by side in the other direction at the same time

Yes, that is what I was talking about. I covered my eyes a lot. lol
Softsong   
24 May 2011
Life / Observation of Polish drivers, by and English anthropologist. [94]

First of all, Polish drivers are in general bad drivers.

I guess it goes back to another comment made earlier about how few cars there were in the late 1980's and early 1990's. Driving is relatively a new thing for many.

I do remember driving to Warsaw in 2000 and thinking how light the traffic was going into the city. I could see a big difference this past summer.
Softsong   
24 May 2011
History / Poland's biggest historical blunder? [341]

Thanks Antek! And I note that you answered the original question with candor.

The point of the discussion at hand is to stomp over each other, not to reach some universal wisdom! :P

Got admit....I do get a few big laughs out of this place! :-D
Softsong   
24 May 2011
Life / Observation of Polish drivers, by and English anthropologist. [94]

You mean, by crossing the Atlantic Ocean and killing you in Texas?

LOL That's a good one! I'm definitely no authority, but I have been to Poland for three visits of three weeks each and drove all around the country. I had heard all this stuff about what terrible drivers there were in Poland, but I never saw one accident.

On my last trip, I drove about 600 km within two weeks.

I must admit on my first trip, the lack of a passing lane and narrow shoulders on the road from Gdańsk to Warsaw made another car overtaking us a bit exciting. However there is a brand new road now from Gdańsk towards Warsaw and I was on it the week it opened in 2008. Very nice and no problems with drivers.
Softsong   
24 May 2011
History / Poland's biggest historical blunder? [341]

I think this is a good place to insert some wisdom: "It is what it is." Squabbling about what happened and who has been tougher, smarter, more generous, more powerful or in better shape now versus then, etc. is so pointless. What will happen if everyone agrees it was this way or that way? Nothing.

From across the ocean, it looks like everybody needs each other to prosper. But yeah...it is understandable that the past still haunts. But it is the past. You know the saying, nothing can change the past, and all the worrying about the future cannot accomplish anything. Now is the only time we have where what we do makes a difference.

And now I will take my Plastic Polish/German American self and be quiet..... ;-)