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Joined: 20 Sep 2012 / Female ♀ 		Last Post: 12 Nov 2012
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Posts: 136 		From: canada
Speaks Polish?: not yet
Interests: polish language, culture, travel, reading, writing, poetry

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ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

i spoke to mike this morning before he left for work i told him that when they visit he needs to address any negative comments because it will mean nothing coming from me or his father and his silence gives consent for her to continue. He says he just hopes if we ignore it she will stop but i told him that isn't good enough and that maybe if he gets across how important and valuable i am to him she may see some of my value. I will fiind out saturday if he actually has the balls to do it ... in my experience he is rather scared of his mother which i don't understand from my own family where it was all about openess and honesty with each other if my mom spoke to him the way his mom speaks of me i would tell her she was being an ignorant b**** without hesitation
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Language / Which is harder: Pole learning Russian or Russian learning Polish language? [57]

ryoh
i would be interested in knowing what the other two languages are that you speak, polish may have been the most difficult however may have been easier for you to learn than greek may have been because you know some russian again depending what other two languages you speak. Polish is undoubtably one of the most difficult languages to learn but would be easier for you to learn knowing some russian than for me to learn only knowing french and english is what my point was and then ofcourse taking into account age and overall linguistic ability. I'm old and a linguistic moron so... i'm screwed lol but i will keep trying because im also stubborn
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Life / Stubborn Polaks, anyone knows? [77]

Merged: why are polish people so stubborn

why do polish people (atleast the few that i know) think that all things made polish are better... my boyfriends mom insists polish chocolate is the best i tried it and i agreed it is good but it is not the best i prefer swiss... i realize tastes are subjective however is it really realistic to think all things that come from your country are the best of that specific item i mean common everyone knows the swiss own the chocolate title. His entire family is like this about everything from chocolate to beer to meat to bread to clothes music etc
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

i actually use the dictionary sometimes haha i put on my biggest kindest smile and thanked her for the gift my strategy has kind of been killing her with kindness but its obviously failing. She has moments where she is kind to me i don't think she dislikes me as a person just doesnt think i am right for her son but i have never had the courage to ask her where she thinks he is supposed to find a " nice polish girl" in northern canada ... His dad tells her off a lot, i dont think he ever will i think hes a bit scared of his mom haha i know i am .

I guess i am a typical canadian people please we are known for being the doormats of the world and here i go perpetuating it haha i'd say sorry here but we are also known for over using the word sorry :S
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

I do want to learn polish for me, and because i would love my future children to speak all three languages their parents speak so i would love to be able to speak it with them but polish is not by any means an easy language to learn i feel like my tongue weighs 20 lbs when i try to pronounce anything lol i dont even need to learn to write it or read it i would just love to be able to speak it so that if we ever visit poland ( he has a lot of family there) i can hold a conversation without a translator. A big part of it is so i can have a conversation with her in polish just to kind of prove her wrong and see what else she can come up with to condem me lol
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

There are no polish classes here anywhere i have looked, for christmas she bought me a polish english dictionary not even kidding lol and i study online sometimes but i really don't know if i am cut out for learning another language it just doesn't stick. I speak english and french and the only reason i know two languages is because my father spoke french and my mother spoke english and i grew up around both languages children absorb language like a sponge... polish is not even a little bit related to either language i don't even know where to start mike tries but apparently my pronounciation is terrible lol. i ordered rosetta stone so maybe that will be better. She does speak english not very well but enough that she could hold a conversation she is able to order food etc... she just refuses to with me.
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Language / Which is harder: Pole learning Russian or Russian learning Polish language? [57]

I think since they are both slavic languages, although distant from each other both would be easier to learn for the other than say trying to learn chinese. Anyone trying to learn a second language or a third or fourth will have an easier time learning a "sister language". The age of the person would also play a huge role younger children learn languages much easier especially if it is in early development when all of one language isnt learned yet. I speak english and french both i learned from a baby so neither was more difficult than the other I have been trying to learn polish for 2 years now that i am in my twenties and i cant seem to string a sentence together any more than an hour studying it and my head hurts it is so confusing I can say i love you and good day and my name is but i can't spell any of it i guess that is what 2 years gets me lol
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

haha it would be alarm bells if he felt that way, but he doesn't agree that he can make me do anything he does feel more strongly than i do that a mother should be at home with her children and when i explained to him that most mothers wish they could be but in modern day canada it is not at all possible to sustain a family on a single income. He has traditional views but is a lot more understanding and practical than his mother.
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Polish women are the most beautiful in the world! [1718]

Beauty is so subjective...I seem to be very attracted to Polish men, not all but most and generally the ones i am attracted to have a similar appearance square faces small foreheads very blue eyes dark blonde to light brown hair tanned skin and a very polish lookin in my opinion nose and mouth that is a longer nose witha slight bubble on it and an upper lip that is a bit bigger than their lower lip. I have had 4 serious relationships all of the men had polish ancestry go figure it certainly isn't planned. Polish women seem to be found in higher concentrations as models along with a lot of other eastern european women slavic features seem to be ideal for photo beauty in my opinion polish women who have a traditional polish look are absolutly stunning and quite often look better without make up on. My boyfriends sister can wear natural beauty like no one else i have ever seen she just shines.
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

ok... thank you:) i am going to give it my best shot even though i know she will find some excuse to hate it in the back of her mind somewhere she might have a minute where she thinks, atleast she's trying ... i plan to have frozen pizza in the freezer incase it is an epic fail though because when i get near a stove it usually is. Mike and i could cook together but she doesn't believe he should have to cook, or clean, or do anything other than work drink beer watch t.v and scratch his balls lol. She also takes issue with the fact that i work in a jail and am not always home when he gets home from work becasue i should be there to take care of him.... is this the way it is in poland man works woman stays home and cooks cleans and rubs his feet when he gets home or something? she says when we have kids i should be made to quit my job
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

whether we are at my place, her place or a restaurant she will not speak in anything but polish... her husband orders for her but she can read the menu just fine i am normally very confidant but like i said she has a way about her that makes me feel guilty about not being polish i know rediculous. I learned how to say thank you for a great meal in polish before going to her house for dinner one time and she rolled her eyes at me and complained about my pronunciation. Mike sometimes refuses to translate what she says i would love to be able to not worry about it but he is close with his mother and it is causing them to fight something they have never done so i feel guilty for that to.

kaz200972
ok, they are coming for dinner this saturday maybe i will try that it sounds pretty simple how do i tenderize them though? Mike said he would cook something and say i did lol but i almost feel like i have to prove something to her ... i know rediculous
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

pennboy:
i do compliment here i am nice and polite i smile... i don't say much but that is because i cant understand her lol and it gets tiresom having mike translate he is 24 but he was raised so traditionally that he is a lot different from most Canadian boys his age. His father adores me i just don't understand how she can think that i should have learned to speak polish by now if i really loved him, or how to make her see that i am trying. Like i said she has this misguided opinion that he should be settling down with a nice polish girl, but i mean you moved to northern Canada unless you want him to settle down with his sister i don't see where he will find a nice polish girl and she seems to be missing the fact that i am a nice half irish half french canadian girl :)

kaz200... i do see that some polish women are hostile to non polish women dating polish men but like i said, she moved here with her family to a small northern ontario canada town polish population her and her family lol
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

maybe i should rephrase, she is lovely to everyone who is not me :( ... it would have to be store bought or ordered pizza cause i can't make that either lol. she really is a nice woman, she isnt too hard on me she just refuses to speak english when i am there Mike says it is because she is shy with her english but i feel its personal. Is there anything imparticular that would let her know that i really do care for her son and i am trying... anything polish that i can cook easily that might be no fail even for a complete kitchen reject like me :(
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Love / Dating a Polish man - how to impress his mother? [51]

any advice on how to impress my polish boyfriends mother would be great. My boyfriend of 2 years moved to Canada when he was 14, We get along great he is the most amazing man i have ever been with old fashioned and charming and he really knows how to treat a woman properly unlike most of the men born in this country and raised to be spoiled brats with no respect for woman and nothing on their minds but getting laid. His mother on the other hand seems to object to me, she is a remarkable woman and i have nothing but respect for her because she clearly along with his father raised a fantastic son however, she thinks i am not good enough for him because i cant cook proper polish food and i have been with him for 2 years and i don't even speak polish yet. i am trying to learn polish but it is not an easy language to learn for someone who knows english and french but no slavic language nor has ever been around anyone who speaks polish previous to my 2 years with Maciek (mike). It is a beautiful language and i love listening to it but i do feel a bit left out when i am there and she refuses to speak any english even though she does know some so i do see a benefit to learning it. Cooking polish food would be great but i cant cook really much at all whether it be polish food german food french food i am terrible at it, i did try to make cabbage rolls once and mike said they were ok but his mom scoffed at them. Honestly, his mom while lovely makes me feel guilty for not being polish ugh help lol how do i make a polish mom like me :S
ilmc   
20 Sep 2012
Language / Learning Polish to communicate with my boyfriend's family - where to start? [16]

I'm new here so please be gentle:) I have been dating a polish guy for 2 years now his family came to canada 10 years ago when he was 14 so he has a fairly firm grasp on the english language however, whenever his parents come to visit or when his extended family comes from poland who do not speak any english i am pretty much lost in translation. I would love to learn enough polish to be able to communicate with his family particularly his mother who never really found much use for learning english as she always spoke polish at home and never worked she knows enough english to get by but i think she would be more comfortable and we could have a better relationship if i could speak to her in polish. Any advice on where to go to start learning polish and the best ways to learn the language would be greatly appreciated.

thanks Carrie