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Ant63   
22 Dec 2012
Life / Why do people think that Poles are culturally isolated? [126]

Can I see it somewhere? Was it shown during Euro championships?

It was shown on TV here during and before the Euro. I have no idea where to find it.
I say these things a little tongue in cheek because I know how it looks to people like HH. I have a sense of humor that is possibly difficult to understand for foreigners. For example I call the estate where I live "The Safari Park" because we have an example of almost every nationality. If you use certain voice tones it cannot be construed as offensive and most foreigners I have said this to have smiled after I've explained. It's funny using a word like foreigners because thats really not how I think it s just a word to convey context.

But you can blame media which create such image.

I think you are wrong with this. Lets take the Daily Mail for example. They write sensational stories based on fact. If there was no fact they couldn't do it. If a Polish man robs and beats an old lady, it is worthy of reporting and if an englishman did the same it is equally worthy and I assure you it would be equally reported. There have been some terrible crimes committed by Poles in the UK which helps explain why there is so much negative press in the UK. I know I am missing your point here but I am going this way to emphasize the fact, what people see is what they believe. We just don't see any positive news from Poland or Polish people here. Sorry thats unfair there is a little if you look for it.

By the way, being married to a Pole and visiting Poland several times, how do you see it, are those media right in your eyes or not?

I'm not married shes going through a 3 year divorce. Unheard of in England. To the point, I don't think your interpretation of that article is good although I only listened to half of it. Interpretation is consistently an issue with Polish and English. When I have documents translated for court in Poland, I must first make sure the translator understands the document or we could be in deep do do. Now I will say how I see it and be attacked by the usual. I think Poland has a good way to go before it catches up with its Western counterparts. Dive into the trench :-). Its certainly not a backwater and the message I was getting from the obviously very wealthy woman was that it wasn't what she or her friends imagined. If it came to it, I would have no qualms about living in Poland. In 2011 I spent the best part of six months there.

But it's ok when some British guy writes abusive article about Poles? I'm sure that there was no hidden agenda behind the case you described above, it's paranoic to think it was an antisemitic motivation.

Please show me an abusive article. I would be interested to see this. I honestly don't believe that it was deliberately antisemitic. What it looks more like to me is that the judges do not like the loss of authority and were making a statement to Tusk. After all it was a pointless manouver on their part as it was going to be overridden anyway. It was a protest. Why waste their time. I'm sure you can see how it can look to Kosher meat eaters. Every nation within Europe needs to promote understanding and the judges made faux pas with this.

However I agree that this month is pretty calm.

Its like bear baiting. Some are easily provoked.

Why not?

Sometimes I agree with HH but he has the unfortunate ability to go too far. He is a vinyl record with a scratch that keeps repeating itself. I understand his annoyance and a lot of people in the UK feel the same, but its not going to change anything. He problably voted Tony Blair in and he will most likely vote Labour in again so we will get more of the same. Sometimes I feel embarrassed when I read his posts.
Ant63   
22 Dec 2012
Life / Why do people think that Poles are culturally isolated? [126]

another one who sees things that he wants to see

I only see what is presented to me. Some of its good. Some of its bad. I don't think think if you read the post thoroughly that I have condemned Poles or Poland in any way shape or form. All I have said is that a lot of Polish and Poland people could do better in promoting their country. Its all well and good saying "Come to Poland" in TV adverts but how many people would be remotely interested in going to Poland having the limited knowledge they have? Its an easy answer. The places they know of hold more interest.

You should not be asking questions you’re neither capable of understanding nor willing to accept it once given.

So I answered the question myself with an answer that you should be able to understand is not my opinion. I was just trying to explain why I believe people have the opinion they do.

getting a lesson or two in geography

My geography is fine. I spent 7 months in Romania

that horse and cart image you have

Funnily enough while in Anestesewo last year I saw one or two. The only ones I have seen in Poland.

people like you are incapable of absorbing the information that is presented to them.

Reading your post, I think that describes you. I presented my opinion on why I think people think the way they do and instead of rejecting it with a reasoned argument, you attack me. Would you prefer I lied and said everyone thinks Poland is the land of perfection. What do you think other people think when they happen across this forum and see Poland is Pure, Poland is perfect like some Nazi Aryan mantra? Truth is some of its good and some of its bad. Just like everywhere else except almost nobody knows anything about it other than what they saw on TV donkeys years ago. Whys that then? Few get it across that its a good place. Pawian currently has a Castle thing going on. Lets see more of stuff like that. I have learnt a few things from this forum, for example, Marie Curie is Polish not French as I was led to believe at school. Polonious posts some really interesting stuff occasionally.

Not many take criticism well including me. I was attempting to be constructive and not destructive with that post. The problem is I guess, I'm not one of you because I'm an Angol. Thats fair enough. Unlike people like HH, I do have a good knowledge of Poland. My father was at Auschwitz shortly after the liberation. I grew up in a village with Polish families. From 2005 I employed quite a few Polish ladies in my factory, all of whom were great to work with. All of them carried baggage from Poland in one shape or form. Several have become long term friends. I doubt any will return to Poland. Contrary to whats posted here, although they were proud of Poland's heritage, none of them had a good word about life there.

When I first went to Poland with my current partner in 2010, I was quite taken aback. I had preconceived ideas about the splendor of her mothers apartment. Although it was temperate in the room we slept in, 4 to a bed (two kids), it was -12 in kitchen and I wasn't going to drink anything because the toilet held no appeal. A shower in the morning was an invigorating experience. I booked us into a hotel the next morning. Not because of the conditions, but because to me it was not acceptable to be in bed with children that were not mine. Following the hotel I rented a really nice apartment in a newly restored apartment block for a couple of weeks. Incredibly cheap to me but horrifically expensive to my partner. We had a good time, and I saw both sides of the coin when it comes to wealth in Poland. My partner had friends who lived in one room with communal toilet and no bathroom and couldn't afford medication, and friends who were bankers and solicitors. There seemed to be nothing in between. The have nots had nothing and the haves had a similar if not better lifestyle than their counterparts in the "West". I was also struck by the amount of homeless on the street in Poznan including one black guy in that incredible cold. I expected more from Poland. Instead I was left a bit disappointed. We were back several times before the weather warmed up, but when it did, its like Poland suddenly comes alive. Sitting in Stary Rynek with a meal and a beer, its vibrant with colour and people but you can't help thinking that the people here are the haves. Theres no way a lot of my partners friends could afford to eat here. In fact I doubt they eat properly at all.

I would hazard a guess that the majority of Poles that post here are in the haves bracket and know nothing of the have nots experience of life in Poland.
Ant63   
22 Dec 2012
Life / Why do people think that Poles are culturally isolated? [126]

I'm not surprised that you don't see it.

It's unsurprising you think like that.

Once you grow up, you might understand that your perception of mine=valid, yours=invalid is not always right.

Please read again. You may understand.

the way you are trying to rationalize Polonophobia.

Apart from HH I haven't seen anything Poloniaphobic yet but he doesn't count really. Obviously you gleaned nothing from my post and you continue on your paranoiac way understanding nothing. Do you consider me Polonophobic? If so why? I say what I see. Nothing more or less. If you consider me polonophobic because of something I have seen and commented on, then we have a problem because you are obviously not liking what you read, which is about Polish people or Poland, so could you be Polonophobic in you own twisted way.

You wish.

Not really but I made the offer so you could explain why you believe I am Polonophobic and I could explain why I believe I am not.
Ant63   
22 Dec 2012
Life / Why do people think that Poles are culturally isolated? [126]

unless they openly attack other forum members

Something you are guilty of regularly

Just like there are members, who openly post Polonophobic (which wouldn't be tolerated on any other Polish forum)

I don't often see Polonophobic posts on here except HH's. I see criticism which is sometimes invalid, sometimes valid, and I post valid criticisms occasionally. You may not agree with my criticisms but that is your choice and you are free to comment accordingly. Sometimes there are some antisemitic posts which I find distasteful. What I do see is several members on here that will turn any negative comment into Polonophobia including yourself. Why don't you ask the question as to why people think differently to you sometimes?

So why the hell foreigners look on Poles as if they were a back water who have no idea about the world?

I'll give you my opinion based on my experience. First off people in the UK know little if anything about Poland. Simply it was shut for years and for the majority here thought it was part of the Soviet Union. The enemy. There was little or no news out of Poland until Gdansk. I remember people here wearing Solidarinosc Tshirts. I remember seeing the queue's outside empty shops on the TV. Thats the sort of visual that stays with you. Years later there was big news here on the state of care of the physically and mentally disabled in Romania and Czechoslovakia. Not at all connected in reality with Poland but probably connected subconsciously as Eastern Block countries. Lots of TV coverage at the time with lots of horse and carts. So we have a connection with Poland and horse and carts. Incorrect but still a perception in peoples minds. Move on a few years and we have the Polish invasion. Again you have a perception that Poland is a very poor country because otherwise they wouldn't come in droves. Sadly the vast majority of invaders are not at all interested in integration and formed their own communities. There are a few but they are definitely in the minority. They tend to be those whom are better educated. Those I socialize with, when returning to Poland for a holiday, often say they are going back to the shyte that is Poland. These are the uneducated ones. When you hear this from Poles what are you supposed to think? It doesn't help does it! I could keep going but I won't its boring.

So whats going wrong? Poland/Poles are not doing a very good job of getting across the positives of Poland. The narcissistic views often expressed on this and other forums don't help. Ridiculous judgments from the old guard, one recently saying the production of kosher meat is unconstitutional in knee jerk reaction to EU Laws coming into force doesn't help either. You cannot blame the people for thinking as they do when the majority of what they hear and see are negatives. They did a good job with the football though! The stupid tv advert saying "Come to Poland and meet the Poles" was a wasted opportunity when most people only had to step out of the front door in the UK to do the same thing.

Yawn, It must be shyt to be you.

There you go again. Perhaps you might want to expand and explain what your problem is. If your embarrassed to do it publicly, you can always PM me.
Ant63   
21 Dec 2012
Life / Why do people think that Poles are culturally isolated? [126]

it's really difficult to focus for so long

My partner had the same problem. After two years she can watch a full movie with very few questions. Her daughter was fluent and almost indistinguishable from an English child in six months. She is amazing! She is certainly more inquisitive than her older brother which I think helps. Mum sometimes has to ask the little one to translate sometimes.

I have employed quite a few Polish people over the years and I agree that women learn English far quicker. Polish women certainly don't display the same characteristics as their male counterparts which possibly lowers their potential for learning the language. Aloofness is probably a good description of the characteristic.
Ant63   
21 Dec 2012
Life / Why do people think that Poles are culturally isolated? [126]

I must admit that lots of Polish people act very superior to the "natives" once they go abroad.

All to familiar I'm afraid. The most recent example is my partners brother. A couple of years ago I bought him a freeview satellite decoder to help him and his partner with English as in 18 months they had zero. Last week he switched back to Polish satellite because UK TV was so crap. Debatable I think. Real reason is he cannot after 3 and a half years speak in English although his partner can.

One of the more recent arrivals in my town came round for a haircut a couple of weeks ago. He claimed to be a former border guard and spoke of his pleasure in returning women and children to certain deaths. How he held guns to children's heads to get answers from their parents. How he shot people first and asked questions later. This cretin went on and on while his dumb village girlfriend lapped it up like a ***** on heat. He went on to say he was going to teach English people, not for one moment thinking I might possibly understand Polish. Then came the war wounds. Knife cuts all over his body from contact with the enemy in the forests. If there was one or two, it would be believable but he was covered, which made me think these were self inflicted. I just thought of another funny bit :-) He reckoned when he arrived at the UK BORDER CONTROL, they all knew him. He was flagged up because he could carry a gun. They then stripped him naked to check for firearms, shook his hand and said "Welcome to England".

Just one cretin like this, damages every Pole around him here. It's a shame we can't send nutters like this back. It's only asking for trouble keeping them.

He is banned from my house which is shame as I rather liked his young lady until he arrived on the scene.
Ant63   
20 Dec 2012
Food / What do non-Poles think about eating the following Polish foods? [1303]

Oh well there's still a nice horse steak to be had at the local butchers.

Actually its very good meat. It's our preconceived ideas that are the problem. I grew up with horses so should think differently but I don't having eaten it.

I assume that the anti-French in GB and anti-British in France

We don't need to be anti french. We are much better.

You'd have to pay me to make me eat some;)

When I have a grievance with my Polki I eat Marmite on toast so she doesn't kiss me. I prefer Bovril as does my partners little girl.

Warszawette,I think frog legs are fantastic and I found snails to be as well.

I can confirm this is true. Sheeps eyes and testicles are a different matter but I've eaten them to be polite.

Food hell in Poznań? Is it the Poznań cuisine itself (yummy from what I've heard!) or the lack of cooking skills represented by one particular mother and daughter duo?

Restaurant food in Poznan is OK but I could not say it was anything special. Mother and daughter are talentless and unprepared to venture beyond what they know. When they are beating a chicken breast with a hammer, I feel, sometimes they are thinking about me. Maybe because I always tell them its dead already. I must hide the hammer after mentioning their culinary talents.

Foods a funny business. We are not born disliking anything and everything we like and don't like we learn from someone else or by being lazy and not trying we only believe we don't like something. Meal times were hell when I first moved in with my partner. One meal for one, one for another. 6 weeks later and everybody eats the same and NEVER a complaint. It wasn't easy but the fussiest one is even experimental with his food choice now. I don't believe there is such a thing as a fussy child, just easily manipulated parents.
Ant63   
20 Dec 2012
Food / What do non-Poles think about eating the following Polish foods? [1303]

The most entertaining food I've eaten in Poland was a chinese meal. I've eaten chinese all over the world but the Chinese in the big red brick shopping centre in Poznan was the winner for blandness. Chinese food is different in every country you go to, but hell, I could have been eating anything but chinese.

The best food I have eaten was from an Italian restaurant off Stary Rynek in Poznan. 10/10 for this one. Expensive but they would get my custom regularly if I lived there.

The worst is most definitely my partners closely followed by her mother. It's obviously an inherited skill developed over the centuries. I hate landing at Poznan airport because I know within 30 minutes, food hell awaits me. Even the kids are near tears when they see whats before them and convincing them to eat it is a near impossible task. How can so many dishes taste identical? Fortunately my partner has other advantages. She's a whizz with a vacum cleaner.

We eat out as much as possible and while most things don't appeal directly to my tastes, I find most things enjoyable except pierogi. I do like Jurek (spelling).

Poles, from my experience, are none too adventurous where food is concerned. At least the ones I've met.
Ant63   
14 Dec 2012
UK, Ireland / Poles 2nd to Indians in UK [23]

You get funnier as the day goes on. Do you not see that everyone else sees your deliberate misinterpretations. Sort the nappy rash it may improve your debating skills. Your on a loser here.
Ant63   
14 Dec 2012
UK, Ireland / Poles 2nd to Indians in UK [23]

Good morning boys.

I'm sure my partner would be equally amused by your insinuations as I am :-) Every day, you two stoop a little lower.

Are you suggesting that the ****** in your area are all Polish or Russian? 'There is word' amounts to hearsay.

No. I think you will find that certain Poles/Russians have attempted to bring the "NightClub" to England. I'm quite sure there are natives at it locally, but they are not so obvious and don't cruise round in new black Mercedes and black BMW's. The "word" is from the punter delivery service so I would have to deduce from that its reliable.

The rest of your pathetic little post is not worthy of comment.
Ant63   
13 Dec 2012
UK, Ireland / Poles 2nd to Indians in UK [23]

'Londyńczycy'

Not seen that one. I'll get the other half to look it up for me.

There are plenty of Polish businesses being set. Some successful, some not. Restaurants, builders, shops and even accountants. I would advise anyone looking for an accountant to get the opinion of an English one as well as a Polish one. Two of my partners friends had to scoot back to Poland as the tax man was coming. Paying £100 a year tax on an average income just isn't going to wash with the tax man here for long especially if you buy flashy cars. You can get away with it for a while, but they usually win.

There is word where I live that the ***** houses are run by the Poles and Russians. I doubt they are working together but have no first hand experience (YUK!). It seems there is a lot of animosity between Russian and Polish males, but not with the females.
Ant63   
13 Dec 2012
Life / Is Poland a poor country? [578]

I do not. I am very familiar with Poznan and the surrounding area. Poznan to me is a very attractive city. One criticism I would make is that too much money is spent on new buildings when you have such a wealth of beautiful historic buildings crumbling away. There are lots of things you do around Poznan, that can't in the UK and vice versa. It balances out on the whole. Poland is different in so many ways to England and I know so little about the rest of Poland, I have no right to criticise anything I do not know about or have not seen with my own eyes.

I am fiercely critical of your legal system because my partner who is Polish, is suffering at the hands of its archaic thinking. It needs to change and be on a par with the rest of Europe but it will take time and it needs organisations in Poland to speak out which I know is just starting to happen and as younger judges are coming through with more moderate thinking, change will accelerate.
Ant63   
13 Dec 2012
Life / Is Poland a poor country? [578]

I don't know about England but I've just watched several documentaries about life in Wales and now I have a very different notion of it.

You are welcome to see for yourself but try and view it with someone who knows the UK well. It can look pretty grim in places and exceedingly good in others. People should see both sides of the coin before commenting on the UK. Wales, to me, is a fantastic country with extremes at both ends of the scale, and in its centre, you have the beauty of Mid Wales with miles and miles of hills, forests, lakes and moors. Especially nice this time of year with fewer tourists.

I do have one question though, what's the point of this thread?

There is none, like most threads on this forum. Being rich is not how much money you have in your pocket, it's feeling loved and valued by those around us.
Ant63   
13 Dec 2012
UK, Ireland / Poles 2nd to Indians in UK [23]

I grew up in a village which was close to a Polish WW2 Airbase. There were several Polish families in the village in the 1970's that I guess had settled post war. As it was not a large village everybody knew everybody and everyones business. I can remember nothing that made them any different to anybody else in the village. They attended social events within the community and went to the pub. I can't ever remember anyone pointing the finger, saying they are Polish. I guess they just integrated but they retained their identity because everyone knew they were Polish.

I don't see the same level of integration now. I know of only a small minority that socialise outside of their own community here where I live now. Maybe thats because the world is an easier place to get around now, and rather than view England as their new home, it is only a temporary residence. Personally I think it is a pity, that more don't get involved and that way, most probably their perception of England and English people would change. I think undoubtedly the perception of English people would change if Polish people were more involved in the local community. I don't think that will happen any time soon as there are so many this time round, that its just easier for them to stick to their own.

Just my experience and not aimed at offending anybody.
Ant63   
13 Dec 2012
Life / Is Poland a poor country? [578]

Answer: they can't afford to heat their homes because it costs too much.
I personally feel ashamed to be associated with such a country. Just imagine if Britain felt -25/30 conditions! How many more would die?

You are funny TommyG

When you grow up you will understand that England is one of the richest, most diverse, most tolerant countries in the world.

Do you honestly think I know nothing about Poland? A small dose of reality may or may not come your way one day. Good luck if it does. You will need it in Poland.

I cannot dispute your figures but can you provide some comparative figures for Poland? I know that you cannot because the support organisations that collate this statistical data do not exist in Poland. Don't forget that Age Concern are producing these figures to suit their objectives.
Ant63   
11 Dec 2012
News / PiS wants symmetry for minorites living in Poland [71]

The point the finger everywhere except at home where the problem lies.

Explanation :

Polish law provides remedies for a child that is removed from the territory of Poland without the consent of a parent with parental responsibility. It also provides that anyone acting as an accomplice in the act of removal should be punished. This part of the is compatible with the Hague. Polish Law does not provide a remedy for an abduction or illegal retention within the territory of Poland so it is possible to remove a child from one parent with parental authority by another parent with parental authority. In effect it is not possible to abduct or illegally retain your own child. The lack of law in this are is not compatible with the Hague.

You may or may not be able to see the problem now but I will explain by way of example.

Dad leaves the kids in England with Mum. There relationship is finished. Mum does not want to deprive the children of their father so unwittingly takes them to Poland to see dad. On the date of return Dad retains the kids. In Polish Law he has done nothing wrong. Under International Law he has illegally retained his children.

Sadly in most cases Mum knows nothing about International Law and asking a Polish lawyer what to do is not going to help her. 99.9% know so little they can only be described as dangerous. It is simply not taught. They are mostly limited to Polish law which is not going to help quickly. Under Polish law this could take well over two years to remedy.

What mum must do is start Hague proceedings from England, not Poland. She needs good, accurate advice as something as innocuous as giving her children a jacket could destroy her case. This is a minefield. There is a timetable set for Hague cases and they must be completed within one month. England fails to comply on this and averages 6 weeks. Poland on the other hand will take a minimum of 6 months.

Something the Polish media does not seem to grasp

The Hague convention is designed to help both children and adults. It is a tool to bring everybody involved back to a starting position prior to the abduction or retention. So in the example above the children should be returned to England and the mothers care. Once they are returned then the parents, if they are unable to settle their differences amicably, can use the most suitable court for the best interests of the children. It is the children whom are important, not politics, religion, nationality or parents.

While the Polish media and government ministers are spouting things like "Norway is trying to steal our blond blue eyed children" then it unlikely that the majority of the Polish public are ever going to understand this excellent law. And while Poland uses excuses like "the child does not speak English" when in fact the child is under one years old and does not speak, Poland is not only breaking the law, violating a childs rights, but looking pretty damned stupid in the eyes of the rest of Europe.
Ant63   
10 Dec 2012
Life / Is Poland a poor country? [578]

Yawn... Oh no my gf's ex is Polish, let's bash Poland...

Silly Billy. Improve your level of retention. You are wrong.

I was illustrating my point

No you were not. You were using it so you could have a pop at poor old Hudson.

Wow! Great article. If it's gunna get any colder I might have to close some windows...

Highly intelligent reply. You must of spent a second thinking about that one.

Do I bash Poles? I don't think so but I do manage to upset you because you have surmised incorrectly I am Hudsons alter ego. I don't mind though, I'm older and my skin is thicker. For a while I thought you were someone else, but his posts are far more interesting but you have a lot in common.

Really?

Yes Really! And as a Pole you will be aware as it gets colder, more people will freeze in their homes like this poor fellow.

In the village of Grom, near Szczytno, a 50 year-old man was found dead at his home.

A hard fact of life when you are poor in Poland.
Ant63   
10 Dec 2012
Life / Is Poland a poor country? [578]

Neither of you fools know anything about me.

You expose yourself everyday. It will bite you in the ass one day. What's Quatar got to do with this. Maybe this gives an indication of reality to you - it's not even really cold yet.
Ant63   
10 Dec 2012
News / PiS wants symmetry for minorites living in Poland [71]

I will.

budapesttimes.hu/2010/01/23/german-court-allows-language-ban

The important thing to glean from this report is "Supervised Visits" so he cannot be trusted on his own with the children.
Ant63   
10 Dec 2012
News / PiS wants symmetry for minorites living in Poland [71]

divorced Polish parents are banned from speaking Polish to their kids.

Are you the Polish Daily Mail Polonius? Maybe you should read the facts of that case from the courts and not what the parents said.
Ant63   
9 Dec 2012
Law / You do not need to fit winter tyres according to Polish law. [13]

Sort of. But if you're driving on mainly snow and have a car with very skinny tyres, there is simply no need to have winter tyres (the car runs on top of the snow).

Not sure of the physics on that one Harry. The larger the surface area the more likely the tyre is to sit on top of the snow. Take a look at snow tyres on Rally cars they are narrow because they are more likely to cut into the snow.

ABS and snow is an interesting subject to. Forgot to switch it off on my BMW Adventure once. An interesting and expensive experience. They don't bounce like KTM's but they are much stronger than your bones. Ouch! I did ask my insurance company about turning off the ABS on my Subaru STI as you could feel exactly what was going on when you braked on snow, and therefore in my opinion had more control over your destiny on them super low profile, super wide jobbies that they come adorned with. That was considered a vehicle modification and the insurance would be invalid.
Ant63   
3 Dec 2012
News / UN threatens ''Poland's windows of life" [24]

Partly adopted??

I think it is very difficult for someone who is not involved in adoption to understand. Your logic here is faulty but I understand why and its not a criticism. It was on the cards in this situation and in most adoptees situations, that at some point in their lives they would find out. As a teenager when views are formed this can be a trauma that most cannot imagine. Even as an adult when our thoughts are more rational, it can be traumatic. It is a terrible fact to hide and a great burden for some adoptive parents to carry as a secret. Living a lie is wrong.

There are lots of ways to ease this burden. The fact is, it is easy to produce a child, but far more difficult to adopt. In the UK it is a tortuous process that many fail to complete. My adoptive parents broached this with my sister and I at an early age by the use of a book. I still remember vividly this book, which was about a married couple who couldn't have children and the story of how they adopted a baby. Of course it flowered it all up but it introduced an understanding to me and my sister that protected us from playground attacks. Children are viscous in their assaults but we never ever had any problems because we understood, they were ignorant. I cannot say that in my teenage years I didn't have some issues and threw back that I would rather be with my real mother in arguments. I can't imagine the pain I gave my parents saying this and I feel ashamed now that I did this, but this is growing up. A couple of years after my sister and I were adopted, my parents, to their complete surprise conceived two children themselves. My sister and I felt no difference, we were a normal family.

There is no shame in being adopted and no shame in adopting. Leave out religious convictions and its a win win situation for all concerned. I have had a few instances over the years when good friends who knew nothing about my life, and have been trying for years for a child, have been left with only the option of adopting and have said very callous, ill thought out things about adopting someone else's b*****d child. Announcing to them I am adopted had a profound effect on them especially as some knew my parents and provoked long conversations over a period of months. Two of my friends went on to successfully adopt and give in one case four siblings a chance in life. The children's birth mother sees the children monthly.

There is currently not the same level of support in Poland as we have over here. It will come in time and better education will come with it as well. There will still be some who think differently, and some who let religious convictions get in the way but forget about them, they are dinosaurs.

The truth will always out.
Ant63   
2 Dec 2012
News / UN threatens ''Poland's windows of life" [24]

Now here lies the rub.

I equally wouldn't like to think my mother was a *****.

I am adopted. For me, who my birth parents were, held little interest. For my sister (not by birth) who was also adopted, it was a necessity for her to round off her life.

In the UK we have organisations in place which guide you through this process and a good job they do in most cases. They cover every possible scenario with you, to help you determine if this is the right thing for you to do. For many it is not. Poland unfortunately does not offer the same levels of support but I'm sure they will eventually.

I believe most adopties would want to find out their roots but just knowing a name is enough for some like myself.
Ant63   
2 Dec 2012
News / UN threatens ''Poland's windows of life" [24]

The mother had the choice on many levels as to whether she had the child. The child deserves the choice to know from where it came. Would you like to wonder through life thinking who, why, what.
Ant63   
2 Dec 2012
News / UN threatens ''Poland's windows of life" [24]

The problem in Poland with adoptions is the red tape involved.

I think if you compare the procedure to other European nations you might find the opposite is true. Didn't you have two siblings murdered by their adoptive parents recently.

Read this report it might change your thinking a little: crin.org/docs/CRIN%20OPSC%20Report%20Poland.pdf
Ant63   
30 Nov 2012
UK, Ireland / Are Poles in the UK more prone to Thievery? [37]

Even in such areas people feel quite safe.

I'm sure the English people that live in such places feel safe

Now when you see a crumbling building you feel unsafe...

I lived in a 16th Century house for seven years. It was crumbling too. I felt very safe the walls were nearly 1m thick.

The point I was trying to make is its all a matter of perspective. As a foreigner your senses are more acute. The only thing that really bothered me in Poznan was being constantly asked for cigarettes by well dressed males. Whats that all about?

Sadly it's looking increasingly unlikely that my partner and I can go to Poland again. She will miss it badly when it sinks in she really can't go home. I'll miss the Wodka championships with Tata.
Ant63   
30 Nov 2012
UK, Ireland / Are Poles in the UK more prone to Thievery? [37]

Well, about 9 of 10 people, who lived in both countries say that Poland is safer but I guess you know better, pink creature :)

Ah, could you please make it clear If you agree that Poles are more prone to thievery than English ? Y/N and why. I hope to hear soon from you !

It's a socio economic problem is it not. So if you live in a deprived area, thievery is likely to be more prevalent. As the majority of Poles living in the UK live in an area that will provide low paid factory work that they can do without having a good handle on English, it follows that this area is most likely to host a majority of low income families, benefit dependents and poorly educated people with low moral standards. By default I guess A Pole would feel unsafe in these areas. This area would most likely feel unsafe to an English native who came from the middle classes. I'm guessing these areas exist in Poland to. Parts of Poznan certainly don't engender a feeling of security, thats for sure. Some of the larger villages I have visited are very intimidating with groups of alcoholics hanging around the shops.

Sometimes I'm sure I look through "rose tinted spectacles" when I think of my home country, I'm sure you do too. I've seen too much in Poland and too much poor behavior from Polish people in the UK, to think we are that much different.

In answer to your question, if we are talking about shop lifting, burglary then I would say no. In my experience, the Poles here are very adept at playing the system,a kind of white collar thievery but thats not what this thread is about.

I feel both you and TommyG feel I am anti polish. I am not. I am anti your legal system because I have first hand experience, and understand as any reasonably educated person should, it has no place in a modern world.