Life / Why are Poles always so miserable? Why do they never smile? [512]


Sad.. I agree with Giles, what are you doing here then?

if you dont care, why do you think we would care to hear your pathetic
rants?

BUH BYEEEEE.

Genealogy / Poland Genealogy Resources [130]

I will email ya in the morning :)

its a bit late, I can check out some other stuff on my ancestry.com :)

sorry, but the pillow is calling me :) LOL zzzzzzzz

worsten.org/malgrandpolio/indeksoj_mpl/en_mpl.htm

for those researching Little Poland.

Life / How Safe Are the Polish Cities? [179]


you need to move to a safer neighborhood. I have lived here all my life , these things
happen in poorer neighborhoods or were its highly populated in bigger cities.
I am sorry to say that, but its true.:)

Genealogy / What are common Polish character traits? [417]


Well, I will try to help out.

My name is patricia.

my Parents are all polish. both deceased, I can tell you from experience, some things
were passed down, some not, but one thing that sticks heavy is the food, always
alot of it, and plenty to feed a army,. and hospitality to family and friends, my
Friends loved coming to my house, they would say, your mom is the best cook and
she would feed everyone. and from what I understand, my sister telling me, our
grandmothers, both sides, both loved to share their meals, and the famous
saying was " come in, have you ate yet?" dont know what that is in polish how to
type it, but that was how both grandmothers were. and there is also another thread
on here that says Polish mothers do overdress their children, its true, we do, I do
but its easier to take clothing off to cool down then to not have enough clothing
to stay warm with once the temp changes and its freezing out.. :)

USA, Canada / CULTURE SHOCK! (of my Polish finance who visited the US) [210]


umm no, it isnt that way, because alot of the time you can have a really good conversation with a stranger who works at a store, and say have a good one, I mean it

when I say it, and I know the other person does, we leave on a great note just because we had talked about something in common. maybe some, but not all.

sad way to look at it really, if I felt that way every time I left the store, I would be
flipping out on people. you really have a bad outlook on life. something needs to
change in your otherwise you wont see the change in the world.

Krysia, welcome back, you were missed. :)

Congradulations again. I wish you both the best.

USA, Canada / CULTURE SHOCK! (of my Polish finance who visited the US) [210]

facts? do you get inside someones head and take it apart??

wow, some really depressed people here.

USA, Canada / CULTURE SHOCK! (of my Polish finance who visited the US) [210]


Ahhhhhhh Words of Wisdom!! thanks Decorator, your open mind is refreshing!
:)

USA, Canada / CULTURE SHOCK! (of my Polish finance who visited the US) [210]

Wow!! overwhelming words of wisdom,, some do have actual good time here :)

Back to topic. I do hope that Krysia's new hubby to be will enjoy it here. take in
a little at a time.. :)

UK, Ireland / Your opinion about cheap and easy Polish Girls in UK? [30]

Kasia :)

That is why I think that this thread is for the birds!!

when someone wants to know opinions on cheap and easy girls it doesnt say
much for the person who posted it in the first place.

# 1 lack of brains.
# 2 lack of brains.
# 3 extreme lack of brains.

how bout we start a thread on all the sleezy cheap men who want sex? who
contract disease? hmmm. yeah, that would be a good thread on a polish site.

sorry folks, this is irritating. I am with Kasia on that. women should be respected
by men as men would want the women to respect them.
if you want to know about cheap and easy, I am sure there is plenty of other sites
you can visit that are more appropriate for the subject.

peace!

Genealogy / I am 1/8 Polish on my mother's side - not Polish enough / Lithuania and Zmudz in Poland's ancestry [110]


Witek, how do you find out info like this?

just curious, did u actually do your family history?

Genealogy / I am 1/8 Polish on my mother's side - not Polish enough / Lithuania and Zmudz in Poland's ancestry [110]


Thats awful.
Sorry Witek.


does it matter what town, which area that certain tribes would settle?
did they stay in same area ( general area)?

Love / Polish stranger wants me to write to him [34]


Why do you want to help him, because you want to be sure the marriage you are
about to commit to might not be what you wanted in the first place?

that is what I am getting out of you, love is something that no one can interfere
with, and being that this simple note made your mind confused tells me that you
are not committed to this soon to be union.

your going astray.. not good sign.

what if he is only wanting to get to know you in one way, maybe that he has
no intentions of anything other then that.. why would you want to know about
a stranger who hands you a note , yes this could be a love story, or could be
disaster..

Love / Polish stranger wants me to write to him [34]


well, your not in love thats for sure..

why marry because its the right thing to do for whom?? you child? no, you will be
fighting , hating each other, you already show that you are angry with him, and
marry because your parents are strict? are they going to carry the burdens you do?
will they ever know how heavy your heart will feel?

I could tell you have other things going on. just dont let this guy have so much
trust.. be wary, keep composer, and take things slow, dont invite him over
without company, kinda find out why he picked you first.. ask him that in the note.

ask alot of questions. and give the ring back, even if he isnt the man you want,
least you will feel better that you did the right thing by saving /sparing your children
from all the sadness. sometimes its better that way till you find the right person..

ok, got to head out to work,,, keep me posted..and be careful!!

Genealogy / Kolasa surname [6]

where are you Kolasa's from? which town?

sorry , didn't clarify myself very well, I mean from Poland?

I have a Roch Kolasa.. cousin of my great uncles, so I would assume hes married
to their sister, but it could be the other way around and no relation at all, at this
point, I have very little on Kolasa, only immigration record. and census where he is
living with my great uncles and another cousin..

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

ken, I didnt mean for it to sound so harsh, its more of a get you going post.

I know your not alone in being shy, alot of people are shy. but why are your
standards so high that you would be so afraid of someone. or intimidated by
someone?

its funny, my husband, when we met, I thought he was a jerk. he came up
next to me at the bar. I thought to myself, how arrogant and stuck on himself
and didnt know he was doing this to impress me.. anyway, he didnt look at me at
first, I sat there mad as hell, thinking, go away.. but he looked up and smiled
and said hi. and I melted. but I didnt show that, I more or less played the hard to
get.. so even if you think its rejection , it might be just the hard to get, because
not always does a woman want to show she is weak in the knees around a man.

this isnt good for our female state of mind. give in the first time, and its all over with.

so yes, we have to hold back too, what you think is to reserved is just our inner
person holding back the excitement.. the day that I met my husband, i had the girl
meeting in the bathroom with my friends, and they all were asking me what he said
and all I could do was get a hold of myself and go back out and act non chalant so that he didnt get the impression that i was more then excited..

and ken, I bet your better looking then you think, everyone is critical of themselfs
you can always find something wrong, but everyone has imperfections, so dont
be all depressed that your different, cause your not.

like I said, go out, buy that new suit, spend some cash on yourself.
smile at the guy in the mirror..

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I have always put the needs of others before myself, theres nothing wrong with
that, and as Ive said before in another thread, its better to say I have loved
then to never have loved at all. not knowing this feeling or denying it is denying
oneself the chance to feel.. so just because you have a caring nature, doesnt mean
your less of a man, it makes you more a man to show this rather then hide it behind
a masked smile.

Being fed up with life? only because you cant accept rejection? its part of life, if
someone isnt attracted to someone , its part of acceptance. being scared is
a natural feeling, but you have to be able to handle the blow, we all have rejection
the Word No exists in our language and it always will. theres someone for everyone
you have to remember that. and you might get several Nos before you get to the
yes I will have dinner with you tonight. physical attraction and mental attraction
both have to be two sided. you dont want this person going with you just because
they feel sorry for you. bring the man back to the table ken. you dont have to be
rough on the exterior, just hold your head up high and confident. but do some
things for yourself too. maybe take up going to the gym. or find spiritual advisor?

and for god sakes date someone who matches you, not someone you feel is out
of your league, you cant experience love that way, your be fumbling to please and
this isnt love, this is lust.. love is entirely different. its not a fantasy, its real.


we still are together, spite the days when I want to ring his neck.. lol but we do
love each other, not everything is perfect, nor should anyone expect it to be.
marriage is something you have to work at.. even in the toughest times.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


well, what type of person do you feel you are..

outspoken? quiet, people watcher? energetic?

do you like indoors? outdoors? clubs or fine dining? walks on a beach or partys in
the sand?

thats what I meant about finding yourself first. do you want someone like you or
oppsite?

are you avid reader? do you go to librarys ?

all these things you need to find out about yourself first. how can you know what
you want out of life if you cant figure out what you love in your life?

Ken, you may email me, we shall get you thru this. somehow , some way.
but keep talking about it, what you feel daily is important. did you go get that
spiffy suit yet?

another thing, take a first step towards confidence. post your picture or put it
in your profile so we can know you as you are. were all friends here, so no ones
going to judge , its just a step forward thats all. you dont have to, but I do
encourage it, most of the time people are afraid of what others will think, and we
want to get past that , do it, say I dont care what you think this is me accept it
or kiss my :)

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


southern you watch to much prn..

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I dont know sapphire, sounds like hes all play no work :)))

Orlando bloom is more my style :)))) he can be my Lord any day :) LOLOLOLOLOL

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


all ya have to do is throw some mud on him, and viola!! dirty and sexy.. same time!
lol

orlando in a five o'clock shadow with a pirate outfit on? thats perfect reasons
to buy a bottle of vodka and go hunting for hidden treasures.. lol

ooops with him of course!!

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


hes ok, actually I dont watch much movies at all, but the ones that catch my attention
I concentrate on, johnny depp is talented though :)

southern is the one who watches to much dodgy movies, he thinks he can land a woman by licking his lips and batting his cyborg eye.. lol

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Im sorry, was I doing that? lol

forgive me :) LOL

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Ken, I couldnt be prouder :))))))))

it is one step forward for one kind man :))))

you Accepted her answer, and that was the important thing, you are amazing
and see , you now know that you can.. :))))

Keep that outward charm coming, The next girl that catches your eye, she might
just be the one :)))) lol

(standing ovation for Ken) Yeahyaaaaa!!!

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

southern. hes content, it was more then actually dating her, which is what he accomplished, hes on a road to a better place..

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

southern, right now you make no sense , so what if he asked her if that boss was
her boyfriend they all work kinda close together things do happen like that.
he happened to see them chatting together, he came strait out with what he wanted
to know. if she was single, then he could have went further with it. the whole point
is to bring out the man from the shell. this is what he personally wanted, he feels
better, now he can approach without fear. dont you get it??

it doesnt matter because your so self -soaked in your own little pathetic world
the intelligent man you portray no one wants to listen to because of this.

His Question was done respectfully, if you dont ask you dont get a answer
so he went about it properly, and she talked calmly with him, I see nothing wrong
with it, I dont think ken needs so much advice as you do on how to treat women!!

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


she has a boyfriend of 6 years they went to the uk to work.. what more do you need?
do you think all women lie? if she lied why would he want her anyway then???

if she stumbled on her words when he was talking to her then i would say yeah
she isnt interested. she was willing to make small talk and the conversation went
smoothly. I even have as much trust in ken that he would have been able to sense
that, but the main objective was approach. he didnt know which way it was going to
go and it was more of the fear of the approach then the getting the girl..

my personal opinion you only know call women, so therefore this makes you no
expert on us real down to earth women who dont hang with the playa's who
risk disease and like to think they are the man, but deep down have some issues
they need to deal with.

ken doesnt want to be a sugar daddy, or playa, he wants something real and the
advice your giving him will only send him further into a worse situation..
he has ability to open up and doesnt flaunt how many, or how often or how he
does it.. I am sure that if ken thought he was going the wrong way he would
be asking more advice from you, but the way your sounding is like he should have
just forced himself in there and that wouldnt win someone's heart, it would annoy
them.

not to mention this is the work place, he has to present himself with dignity and
respect towards her, sexual harrassment could have happened if your advice was
followed. I dont think ken would appreciate that..

Yes i get it more so then you, I wouldnt doubt the skeletons in your closet southern
because you obviously are hiding..

two thumbs up for ken, he did wonderful and accomplished something today..

two thumbs down to you southern, for being so cold and selfish.. again self-centered
and only thinking of one thing, thats the impression you give ..

I would bet there is more that agree with that..even some of the guys have
voiced their opinions and I hardly think they are jealous so dont even go that
route!!

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

give me examples and proof.. :)

today ken was proof enough , i just dont think we are on same page.. me and you.
your talking a whole differnt thing then what I am, thus, a very good example of
" out in left field" LOL..

gotcha!

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

some do, and some dont.. and those that do always say, what was I thinking???

lol gotcha again...

Food / Seven Sisters Cake (Polish style cookin) [49]

when you get it email me too :)

or post online, sounds delicious..

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


as i have said southern, this was not his objective. I know you guys mean well
but hes not you, he is his own person, with respect, that stands out.

he wants meaningful, not love emm and run.


Thats it Ken :)))) Keep your thoughts and feelings the way they are today.
I said it before and I will say it again, I am very proud.. there is a nice catch
out there for you.