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Poland's birthrate on the decline [480]
Working women wanted to "have it all"
Of course - since men have it all, then why women wouldn't?
but now resent "having to do it all
Of course - since men aren't "doing it all", then why women should?
the wife is trying to do little or nothing or so poorly in the hope the husband loses his patience and does it himself so then she will never have to?
It's funny how you're accusing women of what men are actually infamously doing. A peculiar case of projecting :)) That is how usually husbands behave, not wives. And it's apparently happening not only in Poland, because such behaviour even got its own name - "weaponized incompetence" :)))
If men earn more and therefore contribute more financially to the relationship then why on earth should they also have to do manual work around the house for free?
Because earning less doesn't equal spending less time at work and being less tired after work. So, sharing duties at home would be not only a humane thing to do, but also a smart thing to do on the part of the husband, because if apart from working the wife has to do everything at home and remember and think about almost everything then she's too tired and stressed out to have sex with the husband. After years of such marriage she may be so tired, burned out and disconnected from her husband that she will divorce him.
So, as you can see, sharing duties at home by the husband and wife together is also in the interest of the husband.
Also, I don't know what it's like in the US, but in Poland husbands often don't earn much more than wives. For example, my father was earning not much more than my mother and for some time she was earning more than him. And yet, she's been always doing much more at home even though my father had a much less tiring job than her and he was spending a lot of time on watching movies on a laptop at work. Even now, when they're retired, she's still doing more at home and she's the one taking care and playing with their granddaughter and taking her to the playground every freaking time. My father is too lazy to even peel an apple for himself - my mother has to do it for him.
