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Toxicity of SOME Polish Mothers Towards Their Daughters [36]
The first thing you do is move away from your own parents - the further the better. If there is an ocean somewhere in between them and you, your life and theirs will be nearly perfect. In my case, it was the Atlantic. Never once did I hear "are you sure you want to marry her" or "you are so pale".
The second thing you do is pick a woman who is already at least 500 miles ways from her parents to prevent daily visits. Again, in my case, it was 700 miles.
If they live in the same town or, God forbid, across the street, you are going to be suicidal or divorced very soon. If you like the one you have, move but be prepared for "I hate you" because she will miss them and will blame you for everything including her alcoholism, gambling, and cheating.
Whatever the physical distance, set the limits early and stick to them. If you want a look ahead, watch Everybody Loves Ray re-runs.
Final point: Never, ever take sides with anyone - your own parents included - against your wife. She will remember this act of treason for the rest of her life.
