I'm here to try to show people the Russian perspective
You've shown us the perspective of a Russian imperialist who has no regard for human life, for the independence of other countries and no empathy. If that's the "Russian perspective" then I want a big wall to be built between Russia and Europe, a big, thick and a very high wall so we wouldn't have to deal with you people until you come to your senses (which may be never).
I think being nice is the better approach in this department
Yes, you Russians are good at it. Winning people over in this way and even whole nations and their political leaders. Many pro-Putin Russians were nice to me personally. Russians are very nice people on the personal level. You get an impression that all they want is to be friends, for our nations and countries to be friends. The problems start when you stop talking about books and kittens and scratch that pleasant surface. And underneath that pleasant, friendly surface there's an imperialist Bobko and all the Velunds who think that Ukraine is a fake country, Ukrainians are a fake nation and Nazis and their language is fake and invading and killing your Slavic "brothers" is OK. You get people deprived of empathy, amoral, cynical, hypocritical, cruel, narrow-minded, brainwashed and with no respect for other countries.
I don't mean the anti-Putin, pro-democratic Russian liberals, of course. They're normal, humane people, like us. But judging by the polls they are a small minority in Russia.
but he's a good poster, don't you think so?
I'll put it like this - if some very cultured, elegant, intelligent, educated and well-mannered Nazi officer had a pleasant chat with you about ballet and Russian literature, he would give you some compliments and then he would shoot your sister in the head, because, in his mind, that was in the best interest of his country, would you care more about the fact that he was well-mannered towards you or that he shot your sister in the head? What would be more important for you?
For me Bobko is an executioner. An executioner wearing white gloves who perhaps haven't soiled his hands with blood yet, but mentally - an executioner nevertheless.