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Joined: 23 Dec 2006 / Female ♀ 		Last Post: 22 Nov 2012
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shewolf   
12 Jan 2008
Love / A little bummed out [16]

Well he made it very clear that he doesn't want me to go bc once they meet me they will automaticly think another wedding yay! And he's sooooooo far from the wedding thing that he doesn't want me to be anywhere near albania let alone his extened family anytime soon for that and that only purpose.

That doesn't sound very good. What kind of boyfriend is this? It shouldn't matter what people think. I can see why you're not happy about it.

If it were a cultural thing, I would understand but this sounds different.
shewolf   
12 Jan 2008
Love / A little bummed out [16]

Ohh yes and did I mention that his family back home knows about me and they are the ones who where pushing to meet me bc I helped him turn his life around to a good path and were happy and want me there. Also his family here wanted me to go .

How do you know that his family wanted you there? Did they tell you personally? It sounds like his family has very different ideas about women and how they should behave and he's trying to respect that. Maybe they said something to him recently and he doesn't want to tell you.
shewolf   
7 Jan 2008
Genealogy / BULINDA / BULANDA [3]

have you checked the Family History website? (familysearch.org) Try the name Valentin Bulanda. Also, it helps sometimes if you try Joseph as the first name and Mary for female. Many people are recorded that way and not their middle name.

Have you tried the ellis island website (ellisisland.org)

Even if you don't find your grandparents, you might find distant relatives who share your surname.
shewolf   
5 Jan 2008
Travel / Donkey visits Poland [76]

the other trying to look after me by sneaking me glasses of vodka when the other wasn't looking.

was this your family? Now we know where you get the bad boy behavior from.
shewolf   
5 Jan 2008
Travel / Donkey visits Poland [76]

Donkey passes his cold on to an entire family, drinks all their spirits, eats all their food

bad Donkey.
shewolf   
31 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

Wow thanks for your support, tell you're not in a long-term relationship. Married to 22 years, have very little in common with my husband now. Don't expect you to understand.

Are you getting a divorce from your husband? People (especially the men) aren't going to offer support if they think there's a man waiting at home for you that you vowed to stay with forever. Is your husband okay with you going out with the other man? Is it something that you both agreed to? If it is, that would be a different story.
shewolf   
30 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

So affaid to say It's not so cut and dry. He is basically cheating on her with me which is one thing she asked him not to do, so he can't think much of her if he's willing to carry on our relationship at the same time.

Are you happy with this situation? I think you deserve better.
shewolf   
29 Dec 2007
Love / What is Sexy to men and women in Poland? [101]

OK last try.
Women out there here is your last chance to help the guys out there! what is sexy about men in your eyes?
Polish or British

Men have the potential to induce great pleasure.
The warmth of their bodies.
The strength of their bodies.
The deepness of their voice.
They think different than a woman, more logical.
They handle situations different than a woman, wanting to fix things.
They are a need, not just a want.
all very sexy.
shewolf   
28 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

im beggining to have doubts about giving him a second chance. i want better, its just i dont see better, and i know this sounds really weak and pathetic, but im scared of being single again. i just like having him around. maybe we can be friends that hang out together. i dont know, i know im pathetic and weak. such a big mess.

Blingin,

Now that we know your boyfriend beats you, the advice we gave you before is no longer valid. You're really not pathetic and weak if you can put up with the pain of being mistreated like that. Most of us would not tolerate that. You're fully able to tolerate more than you realize. If you can handle being hurt that way, surely you can handle the pain of starting over without him. You need to take your strength and your ability to endure pain and use it to help yourself by leaving him.
shewolf   
27 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

are you being sarcastic or honest

I'm being very serious. I don't think you should just let go until you're ready. But it's very smart to ask for more from him, better behavior I mean.
shewolf   
27 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

so should i just say were fininshed and wait till he pusues me, or say change, then we can start again. i mean, what do i say?

What do you feel like doing and saying? The problem is, if you don't say and do what you really feel, none of it will be based on truth. He won't know how you really feel, you won't know how he really feels and it won't end well.
shewolf   
27 Dec 2007
Life / Legally changing my Polish name to English one? [55]

Asians change their name all the time. Like for example, Pham to Anne. I've had people mispronounce my last name a few times even though it's common but I've never had to constantly repeat it. It sounds like a hassle. I don't blame anyone for wanting to do it. Underneath it all you'll still be the same person with the other name.
shewolf   
26 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

just because i chose to take him back, i am not the crying vunerable doormat girl i used to be. im now the strong confident independent woman, who still loves and wants to give it another go. he thinks its all roses, its thorns from now on, i have been pricked for a long time, now his turn to bleed (not physically)

I personally think taking him back is not a bad idea if you're not ready to let go. You do need to reach a point where you are absolutely sick of him and you want out and if you're not there right now you'll get there in time.
shewolf   
26 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

How do you know that he wasn't doing the same?
Do you know if he would have ever met the other girl [you]. Or was it part of his game , to pretend ? You should have waited to find out.

Was he really just having fun? Why did he make a real date? The point is, he was turning to another woman and lying about it to Blingin. If it was innocent why didn't he tell Blingin about it?
shewolf   
26 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

Gee....so Blinkin is into entrapment...a typical and underhand technique applied by the inane and insecure....

...but at least it gave her proof since he wasn't big enough to be honest with her. Now she's scared that she got a disease from him. It's not just a game.
shewolf   
26 Dec 2007
Love / IS MY BOYFRIEND CHEATING? I went to Poland with him. [158]

It sounds like Blingin is dealing with too much pain and anger to just walk away. It will only stay inside if she doesn't say anything. These two people have been together for one year. That's a long time. He hasn't officially broken up with her so in a way he's leading her on by acting like they're still together when he's telling someone else that they're not. She definitely does deserve an explanation. I think she should confront him so that they can get it out in the open.
shewolf   
22 Dec 2007
Love / My Polish guy - loves me he loves me not [73]

We have spoken on a few occasions and I decided to put my number in a Christmas card which I gave to him. Next to my number I asked him to call to wish me a merry Christmas.

I think you made it clear to him that you're interested. Maybe he lost your card. Go back and see what he does. If he doesn't say anything about it, then you'll have your answer. If he said you were pretty, maybe he has a girlfriend or is gay.
shewolf   
10 Dec 2007
Life / Spending a few months in Poland [23]

renting a flat ~ 1000 - 2000zł per month

That's 413 - 825 USD according to a website. That's a great price.