The time to visit his family is when YOU are the center of attention, and it is known that you are coming to be checked out as the potential bride. Then they will fete you , and check you out at the same time -- and you can do the same for them.
Your boyfriend probably really loves you, and invited you to the wedding cause he wants to be with you. Then when the date gets closer, and the details come into focus, he probably realised that there could be some problems, and he doesn't want the first time meeting with his parents to go wrong
I see his parents on a daily basis they love me like a daughter and have shown and said that many times , its the other extened family that he's scared of me meeting bc they will think I am the wife to be and that alone that scares him not the whole focus on who I am bc they know of me . Its the marriage thing thats freaking him out . Trust me on this the focus doesnt have to be on me , so I'd be ok with it but . Point blank he did say it was the marrige talk he wants to avoid . and ya ...
I would go. this is 2008.. if you feel comfortable with him, thats really all that matters
and if you dont want people to think anything, ask questions, then see if theres
a place to sleep with the gals.. this way , no ones going to say anything.. and enjoy
your time while your there..
if he came to visit you and your parents, would he sleep in another room away from
go , have fun.. your only young once.. lifes to short. and its better to have loved
then to never have loved at all... :))
oh, forgot the most important, let him cool down.. and just tell him you want to go :)
Well of coarse I wouldn't be sleeping near him thats just wrong if I did we are not married for me to even disrespect my self and his family by being stupid . That I know I would be sleeping with his female cousins for sure.
And yes if he came to poland he would be also be in a seperate room. And if all this went down and it was supposed to it would have been a good time .
think you need to put this in perspective, hon. I don't think this is backing off AT ALL! In fact, what your boyfriend was saying is actually to protect you -- people may look down on you, and he doesn't want that kind of rep to be around the woman he cares about.
Well he made it very clear that he doesn't want me to go bc once they meet me they will automaticly think another wedding yay! And he's sooooooo far from the wedding thing that he doesn't want me to be anywhere near albania let alone his extened family anytime soon for that and that only purpose.