Love / I reckon I've met a right plonker here - your thoughts please [44]

Hello, hope everyone is well. Well now... I recently went on a date.. with an English guy though, not a Polish one. And this date, well, it was ok I guess, I had met him in a pub out with friends a week or so beforehand and we exchanged numbers and he seemed nice.. cute and interesting, a little bit different, into similar stuff to me, mountains, photography.. and in the same age range too. About half way through the date this guy tells me that he was a cocaine addict for a few years before he turned 26.. now given that he is now in his late thirties... We had been having a fairly good evening up until that point, but to be honest, when he came out with this piece of information, I felt like getting up and leaving.... an odd thing to confess too on a first date I thought, it was more the fact that he just came out with it and less the fact itself that was more shocking, and to be frank I wanted to get up and leave. But I didn't.. despite the fact that my recent ex had a problem with speed and cannabis and I just didn't want to be around it. So this should be a red flag guys, yeah? Or do I give this chap a chance? I'm not sure if there is a "chemistry" between us anyway, but I wanted to give it chance.. anyway, there's more.. I've been too busy to see him the past week or so due to work commitments and the like, he calls me and asks if we can get together and I think well maybe give him a chance. Then he tells me out of the blue he may be going off to Germany in the next week or so, he had a call that particular morning from his "friend" in Germany, a female friend, to tell him she has had a bad horse riding accident and he wants to fly out to see her. Now then, I do find it a bit strange that he starts going on and on about her and how he's so worried about her and he may just have to fly out there right away. Strikes me as probably a lot more than just a friend. And as the conversation progresses, he then proceeds to tell me a whopping great big lie about bumping into his ex girlfriend, who we had actually bumped into on our first date, funnily enough, and he told me when it had ended, how long they were together etc.. then over the phone he was telling me a completely different story. Now, either his brain is addled due to drug use or he is a compulsive liar.. and yes, my gut instinct tells me he's a liar... but your thoughts please...

Love / My friend and a married man [17]

Not sure if this is the right part of the forum to be posting in, but here goes.. just had a good long chat with a very good friend this evening. Like many of us, she has had her fair share of disappointments in love. She's single at the moment and is fairly happy about this, but is finding herself increasingly attracted to someone she works with, a guy who is married. Now then, this is no one way street. Apparently from the very first day she started in her new job, some 6 months ago, he was very friendly and chatty with her, he works in the same department but they don't actually work together. Occasionally they bump into each other, he very often makes a beeline for her in the morning, or so she puts it, and he takes a great interest in her and her life, she tells me so much more than her ex-boyfriend ever did. And now he has started to flirt with her, sounds like fairly "harmless" stuff.. but now a couple of times he has gently touched her, on the arm or back.. and he has begun to enquire about where she goes for a night out.. and I can see where this is leading.. she is lonely.. he is much younger than her and she finds him extremely attractive.. from the sounds of it he likes her too... but she's asking me for advice on how to stop this from going any further.. any words of wisdom from you guys would be much appreciated. I think it is probably the attention and feeling attractive to someone she is enjoying, but I smell trouble with a capital T...

UK, Ireland / Should Polish immigrants learn English to work in the UK? [77]

Not sure I'm posting in the right section but here goes.. what do you all reckon to this?


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Travel / Baltic coast in September [14]

Hi guys, does anyone know what sort of temperatures I should expect on the Baltic coast in the first week of September? I'm tentatively planning a few days there and wondered if it would still be fairly hot.. also any recommendations of a good resort or place to stay.. I like a reasonable amount of peace and quiet but some nice cafes and restaurants too... cheers :0)))