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WHY DO POLISH WIVES WHO ARE AWAY NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS?


Debianco 19 | 111  
2 Sep 2007 /  #1
WHEN A POLISH MAN WORKS AWAY FOR MONTHS AT A TIME. MANYHAVE ENGLISH KOCHANAS. WHY DO POLISH WIVES NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS
Ranj 21 | 948  
2 Sep 2007 /  #2
Because then the men couldn't have their English Kochanies
sledz 23 | 2,250  
2 Sep 2007 /  #3
you made it home fast!
Ranj 21 | 948  
2 Sep 2007 /  #4
3 hours.....that is because there was no traffic on the Kennedy Exwy
sledz 23 | 2,250  
2 Sep 2007 /  #5
Krysia just left I took her to the Perogi factory and Wallys supermarket then
we had lunch at Czerowe jalbusko

I had fun at the fest, Thanks for coming it was nice to see you again:)
plk123 8 | 4,149  
2 Sep 2007 /  #6
WHEN A POLSIH MAN WORKS AWAY FOR MONTHS AT A TIME. MANYHAVE ENGLISH KOCHANNAS. WHY DO POLISH WIVES NOT VISIT THEIR HUSBANDS

maybe the wives get action back at home too.
Ranj 21 | 948  
2 Sep 2007 /  #7
Thanks for letting us all crash at your place....i had a great time! Will definitely get Bubba's butt up there when he comes back!
espana 17 | 910  
2 Sep 2007 /  #8
i have two poles friends and their wives visit them a few times a year , but they don't look very happy when their wives are visiting ,,,,,,,,i wonder why?
southern 75 | 7,096  
2 Sep 2007 /  #9
I like polish wives.They are really hot.
aliczka - | 1  
2 Sep 2007 /  #10
why? they have lovers on the side
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #11
so i take it polish wives are quite happy for their husbands to earn the money send it to them. they both have lovers. seems the "ideal" marriage-why get married in the first place !!??? next question what about the english kohananas who are romanced by polish men what happens to them. polish men are good at hiding their marital status and so convincing. they say nie rozimiem alot. know that their english kohannas will never meet their polish wife and vice a versa.
xXlisaXx 8 | 182  
3 Sep 2007 /  #12
polish men are good at hiding their marital status and so convincing. they say nie rozimiem alot.

oh so true lol
Ranj 21 | 948  
3 Sep 2007 /  #13
polish men are good at hiding their marital status and so convincing. they say nie rozimiem alot.

But if the English Kochanie has a gut feeling that the Polish man is being less than honest, than perhaps she should get out of the relationship.

Unfortunately when it comes to love (or lust), people see and believe what they want to see and believe.....they ignore their instincts which later prove to have been correct all along......I speak from experience (not from a Polish guy, but men are men all over the world.....you will find honest ones and not so honest ones everywhere).
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #14
you probably guessed i am seeing a polish guy. after two months he told me he was married!! he cried. i didnt believe him . i was so angry with him . i am confused by his behaviour. we get on so well-not just sex!!!!. he has many photos of us together and some gifts he has taken to poland. i have spoken to his sister and some of his friends. he is very pround of me. he went home for a few days -back soon because of contract work. on his return he still had many things in his case letters photos etc oif him and me and some he left in poland. he has no pictures of his wife. he has taken pictures of his family and friends and videos on his phone which he has given me free access to. he says he loves me 6months on. he is in spain at the moment has been for a month. we miss each other so much. we talk most days. when we are together he gets no phones calls from the "wife" we are together for several days. i am no fool i was married to a liar and a cheat- but this just doesnt add up. if he just wants a kohanna idont fit the bill- any advice please
xXlisaXx 8 | 182  
3 Sep 2007 /  #15
maybe he is married but getting divorced.

men why do we love them so much lol
plk123 8 | 4,149  
3 Sep 2007 /  #16
walk if it's killing you.
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #17
believe me i have tried so has he twice we called it off but we keep getting pulled back. the feelings are so strong. i am capable of going to poland to find out. i dont want to i dont want to hurt him-i dont know what to do. we both cant handle leaving each other. i am in the north-he was moved down to cornwall-for two months i went down as much as i could to see him. longer each time-time inbetween getting shorter-need to be with him-i would follow him to the moon. i know their is some situation he is not telling him about-i just keep telling him how i feel about him -it is killing me-
Ranj 21 | 948  
3 Sep 2007 /  #18
any advice please

Communication.......if that doesn't work and you are still feeling this anguish, I'd say get out......listen to your gut sweety.....more times than not, it's usually right....good luck with whatever you decide....I feel for you, I truly do!
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #19
my gut tells me its love-the feeling are right-the situation problematic-he doesnt know when he is back in england depends on the contract somtimes only gets a fews hours notice. he says he doesnt like spain and wants to come back to england and "make big love with me" he doesnt speak english very well. i want to fly out to see him-but he works 12-15 hours a day and he is shattered and he is uoset if he cant keep me his all. he is proud and feels he is letting me down and worries about money i spend on travel. i miss him so much it would be worth it even for a few hours. i have sent him flowers to his hotel he should get them today-i am a romantic!!
Ranj 21 | 948  
3 Sep 2007 /  #20
my gut tells me its love-the feeling are right-the situation problematic-

It's problematic because HE IS MARRIED....I hate to burst your bubble but he cheated on a spouse to be with you. Even if he were to divorce, what would stop him from doing it to you?

As for his worrying about the money you spend to travel, that is total rubbish. He would pay your way or at least offer to pay half if he really wants you there. He's full of a lot of excuses, imho.

Please don't take what I'm saying as a way of bashing you.....I have been in your shoes, so to speak, and I don't wish the kind of pain I had to go through on anyone.
Gosiaa 2 | 89  
3 Sep 2007 /  #21
Just do it go see him .
.... hmm .
my advice is just enjoy being in love , go and see
him as much as you can , you only young once and you will only regret what you
haven't done together. In the end who knows maybe he will go back to Poland and
his wife / children maybe not ... maybe you will be together maybe never who knows but at least what you will have is beautiful memories ...
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
3 Sep 2007 /  #22
i am in the north-he was moved down to cornwall-for two months i went down as much as i could to see him. longer each time-time

If you are daft enough to be paying for the ticket. He will be clever enough to keep using you.

Check the threads for how many women pay for tickets and travel. In the threads the number of Polish men doing this is zero.

When this type of thing happens in Poland, and it does, it always ends in nothing.

This opinion might not be what you are looking for, but the facts are in previous posts on other threads.
southern 75 | 7,096  
3 Sep 2007 /  #23
Where is the wife located?I also like natural procedures as described by Gosia.
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #24
i hear what you are all saying and i have thought all this- i have done the do it and enjoy it thing-now i need to move on with or without him-i would like to think it would be with him. i am a giver but i am not going there again-gave too much to the x-husband. i dont want to be the other women i deserve more than that-you are right-if he is cheating on someone in poland-he could be cheating on me in spain-i have asked him about this-maybe he is just using my good nature and taking what he can. i have text him today asking for love , trust and truth and i will see what happens when he gets the flowers. maybe i should just stop the texts and calls and see how long it takes him to contact me

the wife is in gdynia. a farm
Ranj 21 | 948  
3 Sep 2007 /  #25
maybe i should just stop the texts and calls and see how long it takes him to contact me

I think that is a wise decision.....from the sounds of it, it looks as if you are the one making most of the effort here.....let him make some.....if he's truly in love with you, he will do what he can to be with you.

Keep telling yourself you are a lovely woman and you DO DESERVE MORE than being the other woman.....if he's not sincere in his intentions, then I'm sure you will find someone more worthy of your attention. :)
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #26
just to give you more information . i asked him why he had no photos of the wife-he just said no-he initially said he was single and sending money to poland to build his own house-and if it got serious he would maybe like to take me back to poland-this was a biggy-and i said wait and see what happens-now i am at this stage-iasked why the wife doesnt visit him (hence this thread)-he said no passport-i find it hard to believe she could not get a passport-he seems devoted to his 18year old sister and would like her to come to england- he does pay his way-but i know he doesnt have a lot of money and i am more fluid. he insisted on knowing how many previous serious relatioships i have had. and was upset to find out i am ten years older than him-i look younger than i am-age not a problem for me-why for him if i am just a kohanna?
Gosiaa 2 | 89  
3 Sep 2007 /  #27
if you want to hear the more likely truth here its is ...(its my simple inerpretation of your situation so far)
In Poldand age difference is a big thing . most ppl marry within strict 5 years difference and it is more customary that the female is younger. Because for a girl to marry younger

man is like an insult - she will not marry some or be with some gnojek.

Also if he shows photos of you and his wife/ family knows you are older ( no effence just telling maybe how it really is ) they think you are just a kind friend , i do not think they suspect that anything romantic is going on between you two especially if they are from a small town , Polish ppl are Catholic .

He knows a relationship with older women will not work in Poland.

My advice - just enjoy your passion , if you are his lover just be that !do not expect to
get married and stuff cause it will not happen . I was the other woman once it lasted until jelousy got the better of me .... but it is great to be in love !!!
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #28
thanks for your honesty Gossia-all what you say i have thought . i have said to him to finish if my age is a probem to him-he said no- i am in no hurry to marry after 20 years of a bad marrige. i am catholic my dad was polish- i am now beyond protocol-i follow my heart- i believe in love-i maybe romantic-but not stupid. i have told him to go find another kohanna - he says no. i do not look 10 years older than him maybe five. if he stays in england this would not be a problem. i could live anywhere in the world my job allows that-i have let love go before-put my needs second-not gona let go of something this wonderful-i understand his situation and i will not pressurise him my husband forced me agaisnt my better judgement i know what i need from a man personality and qualities and he just about does it for me. it is not a rebound and i have plenty of offers. i know he is in some turmoil AND HE HAS SOME DECISIONS TO MAKE. he is working in england away for the first time amd i thing his work mates are putting pressure on him. i know he has a good heart

love is a happiness thats what i want for him-he make me very happy
Gosiaa 2 | 89  
3 Sep 2007 /  #29
I sincerely wish you the best !!!
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Sep 2007 /  #30
thanks you obviously followed your heart-but reading between the lines i think you think it is doomed what happened to you-the future is impossible to tell when i got married didnt think 20 years later i would be getting divorced

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