OP Debianco 19 | 111 6 Sep 2007 / #61he is a happy fun loving freedom seeking person-qualities i like in him- and our relationship has been like this but its now got to the stage that its becoming serious or could potentially -dont want to force anything-but i know he is struggling with something-i just want the truththanks for the translation ronek- yeah i know what you mean a bit poetic -but why would it confuse? have you gor any suggestions of maybe waht i should write then? i do appreciate your opininion-i think we are on the same wavelenght-please take that as a compliment!
Ronek 1 | 261 6 Sep 2007 / #62well what you wrote is alright, but you didnt aporach the main problem.You should have asked him straight forward without avoiding the main topic, c'mon, you've been telling us for couple of days now its the main source of all problem so aproach it already ... like "what the hell is this mess with your wife?".you might think that what I wrote might be bold of me and that I get involved like this. it's your life and I feel bad enough already for writing all this and getting involved so I'm leaving the forum for now;)
OP Debianco 19 | 111 6 Sep 2007 / #63ronek please dont feel bad i did invite your opinion and maybe you are right and some straight talk is required its just that he is in spain and i think it is better to ask him these questions face to face-not over the phone or in a text-so maybe i am just tring to avoid this.
Michal - | 1,865 7 Sep 2007 / #64Why not simply find yourself a new boyfriend? There are plenty of them out there! It all seems to be too complicated to me.
OP Debianco 19 | 111 8 Sep 2007 / #65ah but the best things in life are never easy-coures its complicated-true love will overcome-so lets just wait and see
sapphire 22 | 1,241 12 Sep 2007 / #68Now if they got divorced, Polish law states that he might have to give her even half of his pay for about 3 years. And It would be for much longer if he was declared guilty of the divorce.Is this true?
sapphire 22 | 1,241 12 Sep 2007 / #70does this apply even if there are no kids? if he was the guilty party, would she get the house or would it be split between them? My partner says he doesnt want to get divorced cos it will cost him a lot, esp. if he initiates it, now I can see why.
Ronek 1 | 261 12 Sep 2007 / #71the whole situation is very complex and best way for you would be to read polish civil & maritial code. but to put it in few words.If there are no kids it will obviously affect the ammount of cash (and time) the party would have to pay.But if we're talking about a situation when the guilty party was working and the other was sitting at home... then obviously he's gonna pay a lot, since he will be obliged to privde her and support her to the standards she was accustomed (ah I love this term... the most bs law term of them all) because he was the guilty party.
sapphire 22 | 1,241 12 Sep 2007 / #72best way for you would be to read polish civil & maritial code.where can I find this in English?
OP Debianco 19 | 111 12 Sep 2007 / #73guilty party because he left her.committed adultery for example or just didnt want to bewith her.what if the wife left the husband whatif she did something wrong -but doesntwork-maybe has a child whats the situation then?
Ronek 1 | 261 12 Sep 2007 / #74when She is the only guilty party then he wont have to pay a dime to her, although he will obviously pay monthly payment to help her bring up their kid.my hint is: find yourself a decent bloke without complicated maritial situation ;)
OP Debianco 19 | 111 12 Sep 2007 / #75yes thatwould be nice- but i have a complicated marital situation-three kids divorce not settled- he wont agree- eventhough he left-if i was in poland he would have to settle-what i am saying is i have a complex situation as well also you meets omeone-you like each other-in your 30'sand 40's most peolpe have situations- its life you gota understand each others perspective
